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 secretagentman99
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 51
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AND are not shy about picking up the tab when they are really with someone that means something to them.


And I am glad you brought that up. So if the guy means something to them, then they would pick up the tab sometimes, meaning if the guy doesn't mean much to them, they let the guy pay. I guess thats also the reason they continue to see that same guy for numerous times. The guy doesn't mean enough to them for them to want to offer to pay but he means enough to get a free meal.

And to the person who made the comment about affording coffee, we're not talking about coffee. Not sure where most of you live, but do you know how much a dinner for two and then other activities costs these days?

To repeat myself, I have no trouble or second thoughts about paying for a woman that means something to me and I careabout, my focus here is on those that simply use guys for free meals when they have no intent on even liking the guy.

So please don't insult our intelligence here with saying they have all that stuff on credit cards cause someone has to make big payments on those credit cards, and those car payments and the mortgage for that Winter Park/Windermere/Dr Phillips home, which probably is being paid for by the poor ex husband anyway.

Always this contant bickering about equal right for women in the workplace and everywhere else, except when it's inconvinient for the woman to do so.

And lets note, we are aware of deadbeat dads and con men that have vicitmized women, we're not talking about them.
 giants84
Joined: 12/10/2008
Msg: 52
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 12:19:26 AM
I think you should take sites like this not so seriously, i see it as a something to do other then the usual , you know checking out porn sites what else. If i find someone interesting here that i connect with that's a plus, if not then so be it.
 *topchef*
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 53
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 3:36:20 AM

I guess thats also the reason they continue to see that same guy for numerous times.


Who continues to see someone that is meaningless to them?? If you dont float my boat, I am not going to waste my precious time hanging out with you just to get a free meal. Those that dont value their time or have nothing else better to do might do that.... too bad you cant weed out the sucklings and find a woman with integrity and strong values.

As I have said before.....the law of attraction is in play, some guys might want to take a look at what they are putting out there.

Secretagent...you seem convinced a woman like this doesnt exist...so it begs the question....why are you on a dating site?? This goes for all the other cynical men who seems to think every woman is a gold digging, free meal seeking, divorcee in the making, b1tch. Why bother?
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 54
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 4:33:47 AM

Secretagent...you seem convinced a woman like this doesnt exist...so it begs the question....why are you on a dating site?? This goes for all the other cynical men who seems to think every woman is a gold digging, free meal seeking, divorcee in the making, b1tch. Why bother?


Golfgirl I think you're my new hero mama. I wholeheartedly concur with ALL of your posts! And I agree--Secretagent, for every positive comment she makes, you continue to feed off the negative. Don't you realize it's THAT attitude that makes a woman stop and go why should I pick him? There's absolutely nothing to be gained by constantly considering women golddiggers is there? Truly, if you believe all women are that way you're not going to get any woman who is worthwhile.

Women want what they want...the guy who said that--high five man!! Every woman on POF will tell you what she wants and yet some of you will STILL say something negative!!

We want positive, confident men at any and all financial levels. For the men who constantly go on and on about golddiggers, please explain why so many women will and DO date broke ass men????

Come on guys--you've got to stop asking what do women want and worry about what ONE womAn wants. You can't be all things to all women so be yourself and the right woman will be interested.
 buckmaker
Joined: 4/20/2009
Msg: 55
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Posted: 4/24/2009 5:02:01 AM
The age-old question. Women want mant things from one man. Men want the same thing from many women. The reason the women all show us their teets is because they think that is all we want when in reality they have not much else to offer. I can hear the ranting from them now. The reason their profiles all say what they want not what they have to offer us is becuase we have conditioned them to believe all they need do is show up with teets. I think we should stop being so needy and maybe they'd need us and actually respond to our inquiries and persue us once in a while other than because we advertise ourselves as handsome doctors with a Ferrari. That is what they all want.
 secretagentman99
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 56
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 1:28:55 PM

Secretagent...you seem convinced a woman like this doesnt exist...so it begs the question....why are you on a dating site?? This goes for all the other cynical men who seems to think every woman is a gold digging, free meal seeking, divorcee in the making, b1tch. Why bother?


Ah yes, but of course. When you encounter a man that has the balls to stand up to the BS that goes on we are asked why are we here.

Who continues to see a guy that is meanigless to them? You tell me. Seems to be happening all the time.

Laws of attraction in play. Yes once again we here that term. So many of you constantly pointing out how it must be what we are writing in our messages that is th ereason guys dont get responses, but riddle me this Batman, when you see your messages comeing up as "unread deleted" then how can it be what we wrote when obviously its not even being read? It's basically the shallow looks thing, period.
 ArMAnDo777
Joined: 11/25/2008
Msg: 57
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 1:40:51 PM
Since it's free ,they can pick and choose and can wait forever for their proverbial prince charming. But on other dating sites due to the fact that they have to pay, they might be persuaded to move faster .
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 58
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 2:33:26 PM
For myself I do want a man that is intelligent, has common sense, is honest and loyal. I need one that is wise enough to know that if he hurts me physically or emotionally my pain will keep me from wanting to make love to him. I'm not looking for perfection, but a man that I can give myself and my love to. One that I can try to match happiness for happiness.

Now what I see in the forums are a lot of men and women attacking each other because they want acceptance for who they are right now. Yet neither is willing to compromise. Those are the people doomed to be disappointed.
 Feather Sandwich
Joined: 11/1/2008
Msg: 59
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 7:15:12 PM

Nope! You are absolutely incorrect!!! I and many men have TRIED to be "all things to all women" if that is what you are saying. In other words, we have been edgy, we have been nice, have pushed the envelope, have expressed the "I don't give a dang" attitude,
the I am strong and indenpendant, well I can think for myself, blah, blah, blah. Didn't make ANY difference...........does not matter. Spin the wheel or roll the dice to see which "attitude" a male will use/try. The end results are always the same---NO DATE!!


Maybe if you stopped trying on personalities like the rest of us try on shoes, maybe if you'd just be yourself, you'd meet the woman who really wants you.
 MoparGuy69
Joined: 8/21/2005
Msg: 60
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Posted: 4/24/2009 7:52:27 PM
I think women are looking once again for Looks, attitude, and a good talker. I have gone out and been nice, positive, and assertive. Where did it get me? No where! I have heard this so many times.....Your a lot of fun to hang with, but i'm not attracted to you. My reply is there is more to someone then a pretty face. Some of these people need to take a look in the mirror..
 secretagentman99
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 61
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Posted: 4/24/2009 8:42:16 PM
Hang in there dude. It's frustrating, we all know. Especially when you have 50-something year old hags giving you a hard time as they are not attracted to you. There are some mighty sexy women in their 50's but some can be scary yet still act as if they are Gods gift.
 secretagentman99
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 62
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/24/2009 8:47:26 PM

For myself I do want a man that is intelligent, has common sense, is honest and loyal. I need one that is wise enough to know that if he hurts me physically or emotionally my pain will keep me from wanting to make love to him. I'm not looking for perfection, but a man that I can give myself and my love to. One that I can try to match happiness for happiness.


Whats ironic about this is that so many women make this exact claim, and also add that they are not like the rest of the women, yet the bottom line is they still wont even acknowledge a guy like you describe unless he looks hot in his pictures.

And the part about the guys that hurt you? That would explain why so many women go back to their abusive ex's time after time.

I think guys compromise a whole lot than given credit for. Women that only respond to guys with hot pics is not what I call compromising.
 Clifford54
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 4/25/2009 5:29:03 AM
I to am dissapointed! Did'nt God build a brige to Hawaii because somebody asked him this same question? I think the answer is the same for both genders! If some lady would ask him the same question we could have 2 bridges!
You cant pick your familey but you can pick your friends! When cupid sticks that arrow into you all your wants and dont wants go down the tube! If somebody is intersted in somebody its great but if your not than just be honest!
 MsYesterday
Joined: 10/30/2008
Msg: 64
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Posted: 4/25/2009 5:57:55 AM
I quess I am one othe the odd ones .I do not care about your boat ,house or the money ion the bank.I am only asking that you can support yourself and we can enjoy simple thing in life like going to a movie or out to dinner and have that not take your finances into bankrupty. At this age I am not willing to support a grown man financially-I am so burned out even hear about someone's money problems-trust me I had them and got out of them by working 2 fulltime jobs,nobody gave me anything!
I am just looking forward to finding a man who can take care of himself and the greatest bonus would be for him to open the doors and all tose little things that would make me fall in love faster.................this is the old school......
 burleygirl1970
Joined: 4/17/2009
Msg: 65
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:40:44 AM
all i have to say is that
it would be nice if you would respond to our emails
even if your not interested
maybe you should give people a chance
there more to us then the pic we put on here
but most of you want the barbie dolls
you dont even look past that and try to get to now us
you all say you want a nice loving woman
well when there right in front of you and you dont
even try to get to now us it your loss
i guess
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 66
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Posted: 4/25/2009 9:53:23 AM
Not a woman, but I think women are looking for...IT ALL.
 aliveone1
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 67
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Posted: 4/25/2009 10:19:58 AM
I think what you actually are in need of is a profile review.

I'm sure you are a fine guy, but here's my impression: I would lose the part about not having expectations too high because then you're always let down, blah, blah....That combined with I don't know how many times you reiterate take it slow, friends first...see where it goes, blah, blah, blah....

(I'm paraphrasing of course...) It's good to be cautious, but it kind of kills the romance a little and makes you sound perhaps overly critical of others. I could be alone in thinking this...? ... But, I might feel like I was preparing for a preliminary interview when I was getting ready to meet you.

Spice it up a little here. You want the girl to feel special that you saw something in her profile that you liked, and that you are captivated by her, not that you expect that she will let you down. Also, if you're expectations aren't too high as you say, and you e-mailed her, should she be insulted? lol.
 secretagentman99
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 68
What are women really looking for?
Posted: 4/25/2009 10:53:18 AM

Point 1 - you either are attracted to people or you aren't. So even the most hideous of women will be attracted to some people and not others. Of course it may not do her any good if the ones she's attracted to aren't attracted to her. But that won't affect the attraction being there.


Yes, you are right on her being attracted to certan people, but then you have to be relaistic and take a look in the mirror and realize you're not likely going to get what you want. And the issue was not them not liking certain guys, but the fact that they look as they do yet they feel the need to insult perfectly good guys in the process byt saying they are inadequate for them.


Point 2 - Why would you care if a "50-something year old hag" is attracted to you? If you don't find her attractive her opinion of you can't be of any importantce
I dont care if she or if a beauty is attracted to me. I care about her insulting me or any of the other guys she has insulted. And some guys are willing to get to know women that are not as attractive cause they figure they must have better personalities, but they don't.
 Refinedsillyguy
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 69
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Posted: 4/25/2009 2:14:17 PM
Involve yourself in things you enjoy, activites, sports, clubs, hobbies. And you will find girls that would interest you.
figure out what you want, and you will find girls that already know what they want. Don't chase after girls that don't know what they want, if they like you. They will let you know early.
 MaviMavi
Joined: 1/24/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 4/28/2009 4:41:57 PM
Girls want:
* Someone who can profess, provide (and not necessarily financially), and protect.
* Someone who knows what he wants.
* Someone who says I am going and goes.
* Someone to be there for them even if they don't give a cuke about their conversation or their depression.....LOL
 blueyesrsmiling
Joined: 6/25/2008
Msg: 71
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Posted: 4/29/2009 7:29:02 PM
What do I want?
Someone that can carry a conversation beyond their Exes and the lack of sex that they had with them...........
Someone that isn't secretly married.....hence no picture and they want to text you all the time.......duh
Someone that can carry on a conversation beyond the best game on game boy
Someone that has read more than a cereal box
Someone that doesn't use the word sex in every sentence
Someone that doesn't tell me how sensual they are.......guys this is a no brainer it is the kiss of death.
Someone that can look into my eyes and speak to me instead of talking to my chest
Someone that really has a job.......and not living in a travel trailer telling me what fun it would be if I moved in
Someone that is hgt and weight proportionate and not fibbing by 60lbs....I did notice
Actually we want the same things men want in a partner.....
At my age decent looking and well cared for is a plus.......along with someone that can talk to you and look into your eyes without turning totally around in a chair because they are lying.......yes I notice those things also.
Its simple us human beings make meeting and getting to know each other harder.
Our ego's get in the way and we step all over them.
I don't take it as a personal attack if someone doesn't like me........but as if I am not the right one for them. I let go and move on.
Both sexes have so much bitterness and disdain for each other that your missing the point.......human beings need to connect .......doesn't mean it will always work but sooner or later with enough trying we should get there.......never give up
Just another Ole Hag...........
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 72
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Posted: 4/30/2009 4:42:31 AM
So, basically if you find someone you are truly attracted too then be patient.Put her on your favorites list. See if she deletes you. If she doesn't, she is interested. JMO

You have to kidding. You're trying to tell someone to beg for your attention while you decide if you're attracted to him? If I want abuse, I can get it without having to go to that much effort.


This includes spelling, grammar, sentence structure,

That's why it's much better to have been setenteced to a federal minimum security facility than a supermax.


Are men trying to find a trophy to brag about or are men trying to find a lady with many good qualities? Can someone asnwer me?

You mean I have to choose one or the other?

 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 5/1/2009 11:58:28 AM
I only know (or care) what *this* woman wants. And ya, it's a nice guy. But a *real* nice guy -- not these dudes who show up on the nice guy threads claiming that ALL all women want is gold plated sausages, etc. The faux nice guys are NOT nice: they're passive aggressive, and pretty boring to boot. They blame the so-called objects of their desires for their failure, which is evidently a good deal easier than looking in the mirror. Your average, healthy, sane female can smell them a mile away. So no, they're not gonna have much luck.

 31/2%
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 74
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Posted: 5/1/2009 2:51:28 PM
You seem an intelligent, attractive young man. But one lady said it best with her list. Sometimes we just don' t make the list. Keep trying. And answer me one: do you guys really think women like huge sausages? Have only heard less than 5 women in my life say they preferred well endowed men. Most women seem to be quite comfortable with the normal man-size. I think guys would be more secure if they knew most women want: Respect (Aretha said it best), your attention, affection (not to be equated with sex, at first), to be seen and treated as a woman but not as inferior. At least that is what I want and what I have heard from my friends all my life. We are no more complex than you are. You guys just want to believe we are so you can blame the female when things don't work out. (sometimes we are to blame, sometimes you are) And as for date-paying, I have paid as many times as I have been the recipient of. Not on the first date, generally the man demands to pay though I always leave the tip, but on subsequent dates, I at least offer and have treated men who have become my friends. Good luck, you will find the right girl, you have a lot of charisma.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 75
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Posted: 5/1/2009 5:16:41 PM
wtf!!!!!!!!! ~~ my guy sent a short three paragraph letter, in which he: managed a joke which made me laugh, suggested an item which seemed to be missing from my interests list, said I might find him eccentric, and hoped we could get to know each other better via email. He didn't have a picture up, but his profile indicated that he had some. I answered in pretty short form! (Guys that can make me laugh are pretty rare. . . .) And there began a tale of. . . .

Yeah, writing a whole three paragraph, personal, funny letter does seem to be beyond the capacity of the self proclaimed "nice guys."

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