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 3e
Joined: 10/3/2007
Msg: 26
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Don't contact her. Know that you have worth and do not sell yourself out by trying to be apart of something that is nothing. She does not want to be with you. The reasons are unimportant. Brush your shoulders off and move on. Be easy buddy it may happen again. Oh well, some day you'll find the right one and won't that be great.
 Gloria212
Joined: 4/30/2009
Msg: 27
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 5/4/2009 3:36:42 PM
She probably is confused herself, like so many of us are. Still, it wasn't a very nice way to treat you, you need to rethink if she was ever really worth it. Friends don't treat friends like that.
 steve3382
Joined: 4/28/2009
Msg: 28
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 5/4/2009 7:32:57 PM
email her back and thank her, then call her mother and ask her out.
 missinjykidd
Joined: 3/4/2009
Msg: 29
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 5/5/2009 1:30:52 PM
Wow, that's so heartless : ( I feel for u. Hope ur feeling better about everything. Actually I hope you've let it stop troubling you. It's not nice to ignore people for a reason like that ... the cold shoulder / silent treatment is weak ... it's actually considered a form of emotional / mental abuse.
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 30
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Posted: 5/5/2009 4:43:02 PM
I'm guessing somebody in her family said something to her that made her feel uncomfortable. She apologized in an email for the way she handled it and she's talking to me again. If she ever does this to me again, it will be the last time and I'm not gonna dwell on it anymore.

-Mike-
 Ettien
Joined: 3/17/2009
Msg: 31
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 5/5/2009 4:57:36 PM
^ Good luck, Mike. Be careful. Maybe you guys will be able to move on from this and look back some day and laugh. I'm not sure I like the future outcome but let's just hope for the best. Realistically though, she doesn't seem like she knows what she wants and is probably liable to hurt you again.



the cold shoulder / silent treatment is weak ... it's actually considered a form of emotional / mental abuse.


I think it shows real immaturity on a person's part mostly. It's a form of trying to hurt the other person. While I do think there are times where giving someone the silent treatment is understandable, it seems in Mike's case he at least deserved an explanation/conversation as to why "he went wrong" (in her eyes).

She's obviously still maturing. Those girls who are still young and unsure of what they want are dangerous. Watch out bro. And good luck.
 Toronto Blue
Joined: 9/13/2008
Msg: 32
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 5/8/2009 10:40:14 AM
Sometimes, people have different levels of investment in a relationship. Maybe you thought you were better friends than she did, maybe she thought that the answer she gave you was sufficient. Even when you consider someone a friend or girlfriend, they may have completely different ways of viewing a situation than you do.
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 5/8/2009 11:31:40 PM
We are back together (currently). We went to a bar tonight. It was karaoke night. She sang. I didn't want to scare everyone out of the bar....lol... so I just watched. I just got back home. (after dropping her off). I'm about to turn in for the night. I'm tired. It's been a long day today.

-Mike-
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 34
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 5/9/2009 11:56:10 AM
nothing you can do; i mean she wont talk to you and doesn't want you around anymore; something happened that you are not telling us in this post; it's very obvious.

no one asks you to meet her family then 2 days later blows you off; it could be she met someone and doesnt' want to look like an idiot for bringing you and being with someone so soon, or it's she's dating someone and she doesn't want you around.

I'd move on; not much you can do if someone wont talk to you
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/20/2009 8:47:53 PM
UPDATE: I took her out for her birthday a couple of nights ago and bought her dinner... Just tonight, she sends me an email saying she doesn't want to see me anymore with no reason. I'm gonna be really hurt for a long time but I'm done. I'm not playing her games anymore.

-Mike-
 oldmaid72
Joined: 7/27/2008
Msg: 36
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 7/20/2009 9:45:47 PM
Oh that blows. What a witch. She sounds like one of those fair weather friends. When things are good she sticks around but as soon as someone better comes along she's out of there. Sorry you went through this.
 Cuteylicious
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 37
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 7/20/2009 10:05:05 PM
It sounds like this girl has borderline personality disorder.

Unless you can live with that, let her be somebody else's problem.
 justbunky
Joined: 4/3/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/21/2009 8:51:50 AM
OP, I'm glad you got your answer. But I wonder if you were moving just a little too slowly. Did she want more than friendship? It seems like it, if she invited you to meet her family. And since this is causing you pain, maybe you wanted more than friendship, too? IMO, it can be a little frustrating when a guy shows no romantic or sexual interest, if that's the woman's agenda. We have girlfriends to hang out with! I've dealt with that before, and lost interest pretty quickly. You may even come across as gay if you are too passive for too long. (Forgive me if you are, and really did just want a friend.) That little spark - will he or won't he hold my hand? Kiss me? etc - is what keeps our interest piqued. No physical chemistry - Zzzzzzzzz. Next time, be a little bolder! Let your feelings show! You seem like a nice guy and a real gentleman...but sadly, sometimes it's the bad boys who come out ahead.
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/21/2009 4:14:07 PM
Here is a copy of the email I got from her that was sent around 9:30 last night.





Mike,
I know that you are in bed and all, but I just wanted to email you to tell you goodnight and all and that I dont wish to see you anymore , I would just like to be with my friends on the weekends.

Denise
 Cuteylicious
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 40
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 7/21/2009 5:11:44 PM

Mike,
I know that you are in bed and all, but I just wanted to email you to tell you goodnight and all and that I dont wish to see you anymore , I would just like to be with my friends on the weekends.

Denise


Stay tuned for the next episode!


Mike, do yourself a favor and resist having anything to do with this person. She has a problem and you don't have the solution.

You will find one with a good head screwed between her shoulders, you just gonna have to wait. Cheers!
 jarbarian2
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 41
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 7/21/2009 7:02:46 PM
The reason you are upset is your confidence comes from your perception of how OTHER people feel about you.

Want to stop it? Go read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" (Glover). You need to be a confident, secure guy and the book will show you how.
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
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Posted: 11/7/2009 4:27:55 PM
Just out of the blue, she started talking to me again. I asked her why she dumped me again but she is just dodging the question and saying that she wants to be friends with me again and forget about the past... so I just told her to **** off and that I am not interested in any of her games.

-Mike-
 **~renegadeoutlaw~**
Joined: 4/23/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/7/2009 4:59:23 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^ Good for you, Mike!^^^^^^^^^^^^^

You don't deserve that crap. You deserve good people who will truly be friends with you. And if something comes of it down the road, so be it.....if not, friends is always good.

So now, you block all her emails and hopefully she doesn't have your number.

NO Contact! You go!
 Thaddal
Joined: 10/23/2009
Msg: 44
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:21:27 PM
She has a steady boyfriend...be respectful and dont contact her....anymore...even if she contacts you eventually...dont respond to her....if you do...you are telling her that you are at her beck and call....have a little Pride...and..there is no need for you to understand why she doesnt want to speak to you....
Now...go to a bar you havent been to before that serves food...and...relax...eat and drink...and sit at the bar...and enjoy yourself....you will meet some new friends...
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:29:12 PM


She has a steady boyfriend...be respectful and dont contact her....anymore...

lol. people need to start reading the entire thread before replying.
 whenwillthiswork26
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/7/2009 6:16:08 PM
Sorry to hear about her sick behavior Mike. She must have some serious psychological problems to do that to a friend. And to never even give you an
explanation is cruel.
You are so sweet in the way you treated her! It sounds like you two are opposites:
you are good and she is bad. I would love to have a nice friend like you.
 SeekAdventure25
Joined: 7/12/2009
Msg: 47
Girl doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
Posted: 11/9/2009 1:28:36 AM
It's amazing how the human psyche works. If you know someone long enough, and share enough experiences, you leave an amazing impression behind. Not contacting that person and having zero communication pretty much makes their heart grow fonder for you. It's totally backwards, but true. At the same time, it's a total mind fvck and drama roller coaster.

Way to go Mike!
 only_a_man
Joined: 6/19/2009
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Posted: 11/11/2009 7:38:38 AM
Life is full of curses and blessings. In many cases we overlook the good things about our lives because we are wrapped up the emotion of the present situation. In your case, the curse is having been hurt by this person, and her making you feel worthless.... everyone needs companionship. Your blessing is that when you find that companion, it will not be someone like this girl.

Resist any temptation to be in contact with her. You cannot teach yourself how to be self confident, but you CAN act self-confident and your confidence will come when people respect you based on your actions. She has not been respecting you. Show her you are a man, and you won't be her stooge anymore. You'll feel better, and she will respect you along with all of us.
 Mike324
Joined: 12/14/2008
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Posted: 11/11/2009 12:25:22 PM
I am feeling 1000x better now. All that steam that's been building up inside me has been let go after that final email I sent her. Thanks all! I've blocked her email address and downloaded an application on my cell phone to block her phone #.

-Mike-
 Applette
Joined: 4/13/2007
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Posted: 11/11/2009 2:44:53 PM
It never fails to amaze me how people can treat others so badly and think it is fine. Do parents not teach their children manners. These people who generate no common sense when it comes to treating people with respect and courtesy need a course in how to behave properly in a society that should expect, even demand mutual respect and understanding of feelings. I dislike people who mindlessly go through life do whatever without considering the consequences of their actions. What would it of taken for that silly mindless girl child to explain why it would be best not to have further contact. Would it of been so freaking hard. Look at it this way if your can .... it is her problem not yours ..... sleep knowing that there is nothing in the world that you did to deserve such bad behaviour.

Good luck my dear!!!!
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