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Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 2
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Personally I think its fine to ask. Plus he has a g/f who actually WANTS to go down on him!! Offer to do the washing bit personally... he will probably jump at the chance... I won't ley my guy do downtown unless I am just out of the shower so I'm kind of in agreement anyway. I prefer him clean too, though I don't need him to shower immediately before, just to have had one in the last say 3 or 4 hours. Good luck!!
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 8
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Is this Bad to Ask?
Posted: 4/18/2009 8:09:46 PM
he ll do it .clean isnt a bad
Joined: 12/30/2008
Msg: 11
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Is this Bad to Ask?
Posted: 4/18/2009 9:07:52 PM
My ex husband used to do that to me. You notice I say he's my ex.
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 12
Is this Bad to Ask?
Posted: 4/18/2009 9:32:40 PM
lets put it this way; if you are not comfortable enough communicating this to him, then there are bigger problems than "going down on him".

A healthy relationship should never have poor communication. You should be able to discuss anything without someone getting upset or losing it. Not good.
Joined: 2/8/2009
Msg: 17
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Posted: 4/18/2009 9:55:37 PM
I think its fine to ask. It made me wonder the first few times - but when it happened with a few different girls I realized, 'hmm - there's a trend and its not going to be fixed up with a squirt of fabreeze'. Its not like you're forcing him to go through a detox shower; shaved and cleaned up are normal now, particularly as girls seemed to have developed a sense that they can exercise their curiosity and investigate in short safaris - and us guys can't know what sort of pong we're radiating from our nethers.
That's not to say that natural hair and natural smell have anything wrong. That can be fantasmagorical.
Joined: 12/7/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 4/19/2009 12:49:42 AM
If cleanliness is close to Godliness, and Blow Jobs are close to Heaven............ Ask him if he wants the religious experience of you worshiping his penis. Honestly such a little task to get such great pleasure should be no big deal.............
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 22
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Posted: 4/19/2009 6:26:16 AM
Have a bath or shower to start the ball rolling, then its not some demand based on his hygiene. Plus, its fun.
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 23
Is this Bad to Ask?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:49:01 AM
I have OCD, nothing wrong with asking someone to clean up!
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 4/21/2009 9:46:08 PM
If you don't not want to offend him yet want to go down on him that evening, then spice it up a bit. He does not have to know you are a clean freak unless you want to tell him this. Which I would do. If you want to be discreet then just say, lets go hop in the shower and soap each other up. This way you are starting some foreplay yet cleaning his CO*CK at the same time and then you can move your dripping selves to the bedroom....heheh I got all the answers, just ask....

I would however have my man know how I am after 2 years. He would of already known I was a freak about it and before sex washed his dick and nut sack before hand, yet that is just me but I am not as picky as you are. It would be better if you were completely honest and had this discussion with him.. I wonder how good you smell there?? Do you wash right before every time??? What if he has the same feelings and is not telling you??? Better get that straightened out there!!!!!

Janice Marie

"All opinions by Janice Marie are with said emotional issues that come along with the few bottles of medication taken for mental issues!! The Dr. requires her to get out at least once a day before she is restrained to her quarters! Please do not hold Janice responsible for any decisions you actually make!!!!!............. !!!!!!!
Joined: 10/21/2006
Msg: 38
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Posted: 4/22/2009 12:44:08 AM
For many a shower before sex is only the polite as well as the courteous thing to do. Who the hell enjoys "Rotch Crotch even if it's served upon a "clean plate".

If it's a first date...hit the shower and then the Hot Tub. You may shower separately before Hot Tubing but it's a good bet you won't be showering alone afterwards!
Joined: 2/21/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 4/22/2009 9:19:46 AM
not bad to ask. it would not bother me. the "let's take a shower" thing is awesome. and fun way to get your way.

normal guys aren't all worried about how they smell after a hard day of work; hell many joke about whose ass stinks the most.... and they especially arent 'worried' about it once sex is in the air. its easy to forget things when ya got "getting some" on yer mind.

so bring up the shower and hold yerself out as the carrot and watch that horse run!
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 44
Is this Bad to Ask?
Posted: 4/22/2009 9:42:26 AM
Here the problem I have with this notion. A BJ to me is all about the spontaneity. If you have ask and take a shower, brush your teeth, do your nails, and so on, it kills it completely.

So my advice.

Don't offer the BJ, offer the shower.
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