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 larissan04
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 236
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someone said that older women are looking for younger men... um, i have always preferred older men myself, and find younger men a major turn off... but anything more then 15 years is a bit awkward...imo...

when older women date/marry younger men, it comes with a whole different set of problems. just look at what happened to poor demi moore? of course ashton was going to mess around and leave. he is a young guy. he hasn't had kids yet. she can't have kids. what was she thinking? now that this still gorgeous woman is starting to show a bit of her age (oh no! god forbid a woman have a wrinkle!) her 30 yr old hubby gets a wandering eye. honestly, what was she thinking?

as far as older men preferring younger women... well, that's just the way it is. men are very visual. sure, it's not exactly fair, but it is nature. our society also reinforces this narrative. hollywood often pairs a very young actress with a much older leading man in the movies. i could go on and on, but y'all get the point. many older men have also spent their 20s, 30s, and 40s playing around, and realize at about 52 that they suddenly want to have kids. of course, they could marry a woman in her late 30s and knock out a couple kids, but they want the 22 year old. many men can get the 22 year old (usually, she ends up leaving the guy when she gets around 28 to 32, but that is a different story).
 02hdf150
Joined: 10/21/2011
Msg: 237
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 11/25/2011 11:46:27 AM
My dating window is 5 years younger and 5 years older. Anyone younger than that, I feel I wouldn't have much in common with. and the same for women older than the 5 year window. I know there are exceptions to the rule but that's my preference.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 238
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 11/25/2011 7:36:42 PM
win1heart
maybe beceacuse older women

-dont dress in miniskirt etc.

-dont behave the same crazy, easygoing, energetic
and in general "behave" as society expects them

than they talk to men about maturity blablabla

they want to catch a man with intellect, instead of acting cude etc.

they dont read Cosmopolitan any more,
dont speak about Rihanna, Lady Gaga and other trendy stuff

they can be nice women but

they come out as boring....



exscuse me but after reading that i just had a knee jerk reaction wanna kick somebody in thier leg!

i call BULL S HIT ive seen women into thier 50's 60's an even 70's out an about dressed to the T an got more flirt an game then some women in thier 20's tight pants short skirts dancing partying an just having a good time so i know that what you say is a lie there are some women in thier 40's an 50's that would make me look like an old granma..

are you out to live in your second teenage hood because your still stuck there in your mind..
 JCinVicBC
Joined: 6/17/2011
Msg: 239
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Posted: 11/26/2011 6:11:16 AM

take for example music.

go to a rave party, or techno, electro, hardcore etc.
the crowd is usually younger than for
latin, country, rock or metal.

so, if a man prefers the newest music genres,
chances are he will meet a girl that is younger than him.


Yep. There are sometimes a few people at raves on the older side, but they're pretty rare. I've got a friend who is in his late 60s and is into electronic music. A few friends in their late 30s and into their 40s who are into it, but they're mostly fairly well-known DJs, and it's their career. I see very few women at that age who are into it these days, unless they were into it in their teens or 20s, and stuck with it all this time, like me. It's a huge part of my life, and it would be difficult to have a relationship with someone who isn't into it.

Whereas...well, country I can't stand, so I can't comment on it. But you go to a rock concert, it's gonna be full of people my parents' age. Metal, too, was basically at its peak in the late 70s to late 80s, and most of the crowd is probably gonna range from my age to about 15 years older. I actually was into it in elementary school and high school though...but was never into "metal chicks" except Doro Pesch. And just not really into it much any more.
 virVerus
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 240
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 11/26/2011 1:26:25 PM
I think many of the reasons why we choose the kind of people we do is unconscious. Women may like tall men because they perceive them as being a good protector, a leader, etc. A man may want to have children and a woman between the ages of 18 and 35 are likely to be the best choices. We might not think about these things consciously, but they're usually lurking around in the subconscious.

Now I will stop the psychobabble and let someone else post!
 1960maleoneowner
Joined: 12/3/2011
Msg: 241
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/9/2011 4:43:19 PM
yah!! i was gonna post something similar to this...the oldest woman i have ever been with is 44 and that was this year..i do find the "old" looking reason, though mean sounding, to be true for me also...i have also found that there is a bitterness amongst most i meet that are near my age...there is also a certain energy in a younger person in general male or female that most of us don't have..a vibrancy..i still have that cawz i'm like a 10 year emotionally, but most of us don't have that as we age for one reason or another.
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 242
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/10/2011 6:56:58 AM
I have aged well (I'm 39 and twice this week have been mistaken for 24-26). Only a very low percentage of women that I know have aged well. So I look for younger women. Plus I'm pretty immature for my age, so older women who want stability ($) and ambition ($) aren't going to be looking at a guy who's happy at an easy job making $20,000 a year.
 john_in_bh
Joined: 12/25/2004
Msg: 243
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/10/2011 12:22:32 PM
Having looked at perhaps ten thousand profiles over the years of women of various ages, I have noticed that for the most part girls that are under 30 have NO age restrictions while over 30 does. I am curious to comments on this observation. (I know it's not the exact topic, but in the same area).
 pasmal
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 244
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/10/2011 1:16:43 PM
20s women might date older, maybe several decades if the guy is attractive, as he is still in his "prime", because their peers are usually immature and appallingly goofy, perhaps cheap or broke.
The 20s are a time to separate from the parents and the guy can be a subtle or not paternal figure. He may give her a lot of power and adoration, spoil her.
The 20s person doesn't have a lot of perspective on the future, when they may not like the age gap.
30s women may find they have to put age limits because some would never go 10 or 20 yrs older, as the men near their age have grown up more.
 john_in_bh
Joined: 12/25/2004
Msg: 245
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/10/2011 1:48:29 PM
That's a pretty good explanation..thanks.
 SeaCatcher
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 246
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/10/2011 4:30:07 PM
Eenk says [Men in my age range are in their physical prime. Women in my age range have been in steep decline for several years.]

Oh yeah? Most men my age (58) are on the rapid decline: pot bellies (which revolt me), erection problems, and the like. Guys younger than me are the go, as far as I'm concerned. My current lover, a lovely fit man, is 4 years younger. He, by the way, is the exception in his age group. Most men I've met on pof have ranged in age from 44 to 70 and only this current man can keep up with me. One other fellow, 46 yr old, was sexually ravenous and good at it, until he did his back in and couldn't cope with anything more than me riding him (which was fantastic anyway). He was overweight and in poor physical health before he injured his back. So, your comment doesn't mesh with my experience. I am fit, strong, healthy, and not in decline, as you put it.
 TexasNightOwl
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 247
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/21/2011 1:48:27 AM
For me, I don't find many women my age and older sexually attractive. I am not going to pay to be with someone I am not attracted to. I would rather spend time with friends.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 248
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/21/2011 9:03:55 AM

For me, I don't find many women my age and older sexually attractive. I am not going to pay to be with someone I am not attracted to.

You're paying? You mean paying for her dinner or drinks or whatever? Or do you mean something else altogether?

There are exceptions, but I think most people are better suited to people close to their own age. I was at a party this weekend & met a man who is 45, but prefers to date very young women. He's smart, funny, good looking, fit, super successful. He also freely admitted these women stand him up at least 70% of the time. I suggested he date grown women who don't play silly games or blow off nice men to hang at a bar/club with their friends. Any bets on whether or not he takes my advice???
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 249
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/21/2011 10:02:01 AM
The words fit, good looking and super successful translate to "I can still get 21 year old hotties so why bother with someone my own age until I have to."
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 250
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/21/2011 12:24:31 PM

For me, I don't find many women my age and older sexually attractive. I am not going to pay to be with someone I am not attracted to. I would rather spend time with friends.


Dude, I'm with you--I NEVER pay for a male escort unless I find him attractive.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 251
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/21/2011 1:48:22 PM

The words fit, good looking and super successful translate to "I can still get 21 year old hotties so why bother with someone my own age until I have to."

It depends on how he feels about being stood up TWICE in one weekend by different girls. One was for his office party & the other was the party where I met him. I offered to set him up w/ one of my friends, but oh...not interested...she is only 4 years younger than he is....
 ezlivin313
Joined: 10/6/2006
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Posted: 12/21/2011 4:16:51 PM
Lets face it... its all about mutual attraction. Picture and words or words and picture. Then it goes on to the next level of meeting.
It dont even have to be here in pof. It can be a conversation at a bus stop, car wash, church or where ever. People attract for reasons of their own. Sometimes it cus opposites attract. Older meets younger, younger meets older.. man/woman, woman/man who cares as long as theres compatability and respect. If theres nothing genuine about the relationship and what it means then end it with a handshake and a hug. No hard feelings and guess what??? You may have a friend for life..... peace
 NJGuyDC
Joined: 2/25/2010
Msg: 253
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Posted: 12/22/2011 1:59:35 PM
I agree that is why I seek out ladies who are 39-42 to still hold onto the dream of being a biological dad. Otherwise what do I care if the lady is older. Or a lady who has a kid who needs love and guidance young enough to feel like I am making a difference in that child's life.
 MyScreennameRox
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 254
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Posted: 12/22/2011 5:16:29 PM
I'm 39, I don't like dating gals my age because in almost every instance, they have kids.

While I like kids, I don't want someone else's. I also don't want to take second place to her kids. Most gals place their kids as their top priority (the way it SHOULD be, I expect and respect that but that means I enter the equation starting at second fiddle with no hope of advancement, ever. Also when I DID date gals with kids, I cannot even begin to count the number of times I've had to alter/cancel plans repeatedly because something came up with their kid(s).

I tend to get demonized for holding this point of view but oh well, I am definitely NOT sorry.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 255
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/22/2011 7:20:26 PM
@ NJGuyDC you need to let that dream go!! for real..your 46yr not saying it wont ever happen but really dont wait till 50 an be like ok im ready naw doesnt really work like that..

an @MyScreennameRox 39yrs guess what im 31 am open to dating men up to 42 43yrs but even alot of men younger then that seem to have multiple kids with multiple women an dont want to commit or be a real father to any of them or be a man to the woman..
so if they can't commit to the women they had kids with or even take care of them i know they wont be able to do s hit for me..and i dont even have children an have never been married an yes i look at that as well even if im not a single divorced parent..


but do you see me saying o no i can't be with somebody older then myself NOPE!!
 ericcg82
Joined: 11/4/2011
Msg: 256
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/23/2011 7:17:31 AM
Its the same reason when men are younger woman wont date anyone younger then them, I found this to be quite apparent throughout late teens early twenty...But I will also say one of the reason men want younger women is because the impression is an older woman will want to get married, have kids, etc.. a lot sooner then a younger woman who isnt even thinking about that yet..
 john_in_bh
Joined: 12/25/2004
Msg: 257
Men who refuse to date women thier own age an older.why?
Posted: 12/23/2011 7:52:43 AM

But I will also say one of the reason men want younger women is because the impression is an older woman will want to get married, have kids, etc.. a lot sooner then a younger woman who isnt even thinking about that yet..


That's a great point and true. Then, once the woman has kids she divorces her husband and comes on POF as a single mom.
 ilovehistory
Joined: 8/12/2009
Msg: 258
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Posted: 12/24/2011 11:14:15 AM
I have a friend who is a 60 yr old woman (I'm 36). I met her when we were both art students at Indiana University in the late 1990s. Even though she's quite a bit older than me (same age as my mom, actually), she is one of the hottest women I know. It isn't just her looks, though she is pretty and has a nice body, its that she is extremely intelligent. Very, Very few women are as smart and as intellectual as that. Most people in general are idiots. I'd marry my old friend. Someone like that is what I want, no matter what her age.

I know I'm strange though. Most men go for looks only, and an old woman doesn't look as good as a young one, no matter how pretty she is. I want someone I can talk to who isn't bored by someone like me and who won't bore me. Most women bore me, and I bore them.
 neck romancer
Joined: 9/7/2006
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Posted: 12/26/2011 5:31:33 PM
I have found a few women in their 50 and 60 very attractive. They were of course very fit. But no mistaking they were older than my mother, which I still find weird. They to felt weird that I was around the same age as their children.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 260
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Posted: 10/7/2012 4:22:55 PM
@ Tamed_Lioness oh i figured it wasnt directed at me..an yes i agree with you about what you said he should do post a pic so older an younger women can have their own opinion of if they think he is still young hot s hit..

as for his comment i beg to differ ive seen some older women who are still beautiful an living life,,even heard an read of the complaints from the older ladies about those men in the older age range some complain about men in their age group who look or act too old for them or they complain of them having trouble of keeping it up or even getting it up..

meanwhile ive seen some men in thier mid 30's to early 40s look to be pushing 50yrs old bad hair looking like spiders having a meeting,lossing hair in the wrong places,,extreme beer belly all the while talking s hit about women whos stomach doesnt even stick out no where near as far as theirs,bad pasty skin or clamy looking,yellowing eyes added with wrinkles everywhere makes you wonder what happened or if they are lying to shave off years on their age thinking nobody will notice or be able to tell..
let alone Some men in their mid 50's early 60's look as if they should already be put in a rest home..
we all know nobody looks like they did just like in high school unless it is a person who just got out of high school then yes but 20 30 years ago NOOOOO no ya dont..

so it all cant be just the women..
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