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 horny bi couple
Joined: 4/24/2009
Msg: 26
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ya I read that 2. my buddy is an engineer, he got skiped 2 grades in school and tested at 162 on an Iq test they gave him in the 5th grade and he is all kinds of screwd up when it comes 2 sex.(just sarcasm). I got an iQ test as well when i was younger 2 determine why I was so devloped when it came to everything else but I could barley read or wright. I tested at 130 witch is alot higher than average but not extrodanary and Im a bit of a weirdo but not as much as my friend. it would also explain the kinky Liberian
 SD123
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 27
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 4:01:19 AM
She is uninformed. I have found that most of the women who do not like anal sex feel that it is painful or uncomfortable. If it is done "CORRECTLY" there is no pain and it feels amazing. You need to relax and work at it. You just cannot go for the goal line from the 50 yard line. You have to work at it. If it is done too quickly and the woman is not relaxed or into it then it will be a bad experience.
As for the medical problems such as ruptures and such I think that is a problem of going at it too soon or the penetrating object is too big. The anus does stretch but as I said earlier you have to take the time to get it relaxed.
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 28
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 4:02:08 AM
I got an iQ test as well when i was younger 2 determine why I was so devloped when it came to everything else but I could barley read or wright. it would also explain the kinky Liberian

That is FUNNY!
I do it for the sheer pleasure.Orgasms are twice as intense,as long as you are with
someone you trust and someone who cares enough to not hurt you...it's all good. Kept me from getting pregnant ! lol

'No woman really enjoys anal sex?'
Who gave her the 'finger on the pulse' of all women?
Pretty presumptuous of her to assume she knows all.
I think it's just her way of rationalizing not enjoying it.
No one ever said,everyone likes it or HAS to do it.
And I don't have,nor ever had a single anal malady because of it.
I must be Genius.

i cant imagine a women who really likes anal play unless she enjoys the feeling of pleasing her man -and his tiny dick.why play in the shithouse when there is a snack bar right next door...


Ummm...NO.It's not just for HIM....and why limit yourself or your partner?
'Shithouse' vs 'Snack bar'? LOL....How about BOTH?
Nah....that would be way too GROSS! hahahahaha
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 29
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 5:33:07 AM
I think your friend better do more research into her own gender! While its not for everyone, I believe that most women with an open mind and a VERY caring and careful lover will enjoy anal play and sex. Her 3 explanations are ludicrous.

a) Forget porn; everyone knows its not real. But how many women are in porn vs women in the world? And how many regular men date those women? A very scant few.
b) While a good lover always wants to please their partner, I doubt many would be so desparate as to do do something they really hated or something that hurt them.
c) I highly doubt that any woman who HASNT done it would say she likes it - they usually say the opposite without trying it!

There's also good reason for women to enjoy it - the anus has the 2nd highest concentration of nerve endings (the clit is #1). Through anal penetration the G spot can be stimulated, and I've read about an 'A-spot' that women also enjoy. I've initiated a few women into anal sex and while they didnt immediately explode in orgasm, they really did enjoy it enough to make it a regular part of our sex life.
 goodkindacrazy
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 30
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No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 6:22:07 AM
I used to be one of those women that found anal sex to be very painful and could not understand how any woman could find pleasure in it. Years later a different partner made a convert out of me. The preparation before hand made all the difference in the world.
 MikeM1968
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 31
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 6:48:16 AM
Closer2U - is it possible to put you into my favorites TWICE? LOL

I guess it's 50 / 50 - although I seem to have only known the "not into it" - "it's too painful" 50%

Some women are like "hell no!!" and I don't even go there - I've been with some who were willing, but inexperienced (I suppose) and they said it hurt too much so I stopped. I mean, as much as I enjoy it, I also don't want it to be painful for her, I can't stand to see a woman trying to please me to the point of hurting herself and "pretending / trying to pretend" it doesn't hurt. I mean - a little "pleasurable pain" is a turn on, but not when it's "pain - pain". That just turns me off too. Instead of me thinking about pleasing her / pleasure - I'm thinking "medical emergency".

I am curious though, since I've yet to be with anyone that enjoys it, how does a woman orgasm so much better from anal? I'm reading lots of women saying that the orgasms are so much better and I'm curious what's up with that? Any women care to chime-in on why it's so much better or what makes it better?

Mike
 daydreamer57
Joined: 4/12/2009
Msg: 32
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 6:54:44 AM
Well...beg to differ....porn stars get paid big money for such things and I have talked to woman that say they like the act....and a couple say they climax to it....and they were far from trying to entice me....cause I dont really dig the idea of sticking my member up a womans pooop shoooot....lol.
 druminky
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 33
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 6:58:21 AM
Thanks again for all of the replies....my friend said she would read this thread, but when I told her that a few more women were "pro" than "con" on the subject, she told me simply that the "majority of women still don't like it, and they probably just didn't want to post to that thread - or even read it."
So I don't know if she will read this, but I sure have learned a thing or two - it sounds like women who are into anal sex are not in the same category as women who like to be beaten with a bullwhip. Sounds like there are far more that enjoy penetration, and don't equate it with intense pain.
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 34
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 6:59:11 AM
I am curious though, since I've yet to be with anyone that enjoys it, how does a woman orgasm so much better from anal? I'm reading lots of women saying that the orgasms are so much better and I'm curious what's up with that? Any women care to chime-in on why it's so much better or what makes it better?


Just for that comment Mike...I'll try and explain it to you from my perspective.
(At the risk of being reamed....without any KY...and winding up with FORUM FISSURES...LOL)
Between the intensity of nerve endings in an anus...added to the intensity of clit stimulation created by my own fingers...,and the feeling that it's a little "taboo" to like it up the A$$, and the sense of surrender to a man who controls your pain/pleasure threshold..and the TRUST factor..and VIOLA...

IN- TENSE!

Not to mention...the crazy pulsating effect my orgasm has on a man's c*ck when he is deep inside me...OK...NOW....I need to get off! lol

Hope that helps....
Got the visual now?

 m7arpeggio
Joined: 4/3/2007
Msg: 35
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 7:17:10 AM
I've never found a woman that enjoyed anal sex to the point of allowing me regular anal intercourse. I have noticed many women who enjoy anal digital stimulation as I give her oral pleasure. I've also noticed that often her orgasm is stronger if I have stimulated her anus as well as her clit and her g-spot (both hands and the tongue). This trifecta can often lead to an intense response. OK - gotta go be alone for a while now.
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 36
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 7:17:12 AM

Really ... the amount of MEN who seemed to be concerned that women should like anal sex is rather worrying. It used to be such a taboo (and illegal) practise - and had homosexual undertones ... no doubt vehemently denied but suspicious nontheless.


AS IF homosexual sex is in anyway WRONG.
Or anal sex is "reserved" for Gays!
I must be a GAY MAN then! lol
Welcome to the 'LIGHT' AGE!
Sh*t....people were more EVOLVED in the DARK AGES!
Illegal? Homosexual?Rather Worrying?
BLAH BLAH BLAH!

I had a friend, I had no idea whether she ENJOYED anal sex, but I do know that her husband did, because she told me they did it, virtually every time they slept together.


THAT...was HER first and second first mistake!

1)Never do ANYTHING because someone ELSE expects you to do if you aren't into it!
2)...It's not something ANYone should do ALL the time...jeez...it's nice to change it up now and again!

Funny how I keep finding myself defending anal sex...for BOTH SEXES!
You'd think it was some NEW TABOO that just HIT the market or something!

RELAX.....it's just another type of sexual act.
 jaqi
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 37
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No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 10:45:05 AM

Oh ... and I forgot to mention about the mess, the smell, the 'dare I say it' lack of romance. Lights out please!!


what are you talking about? If the woman has prepared herself there isn't a smell or mess and get those lights on unless there is a nice bright moon shining in through the window!


It's amazing what some women will do for love ... and I believe this is what this thread is about.


Women who really like anal do it for their own pleasure... there isn't pain unless she hasn't prepared herself properly, is not relaxed about it or is just plain inexperienced.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 38
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:09:59 AM
Alas, what a bunch of crock. Some women like it, some hate it, some love it.

I knew a woman that her favorite thing was for me to fvck her vaginally from behind and stick my finger deep in her a ss and feel my penis through there. It gave her some incredible orgasms. Then another woman preferred to be butt fvcked over vaginal.

My gf now is too tight there and doesn't like it. So everything is relative.
 sweetsexyandavailable
Joined: 4/25/2009
Msg: 39
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 11:14:11 AM
As a man, you really have to know which nerve endings to stimulate down in that area because if you dont it can be downright extremely painful. It has to be done with someone who is sesnsitive to to your needs and is experienced enough to know which nerve endings to stimutulate, but you can definately have one with the right partner who knows what he is doing, and based on personal experience , not too many men know what their doing in that area and just prefer to ram it in without thinking first and once you've done that, the women is less likely to want to try it again because all she is going to remember is the pain and believe me it is painful if not done right.
 jaqi
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 40
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No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 12:04:38 PM

not too many men know what their doing in that area and just prefer to ram it in without thinking first and once you've done that, the women is less likely to want to try it again because all she is going to remember is the pain and believe me it is painful if not done right.


sweetsexyandavailable ...... yes I agree with you there, it all comes down to communication doesn't it?
 emlamNsea
Joined: 4/19/2009
Msg: 41
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Posted: 5/1/2009 12:17:03 PM

It gets some getting used to initially, but eventually with a little clitoral play, the orgasms from this penetration are beyond description.



Aiiiyyyeeee!!!!! My eyes are burning!!!!! (j/k)
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 42
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 12:35:07 PM

It's amazing what some women will do for love.

LMAO!It's even more amazing how people judge others!Feeling superior YET?
Keep working on it...you'll get there!

Don't make assumptions...it makes an A$$ out of U and ME!
 13karat
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 43
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:10:12 PM


Her argument sounded pretty compelling, and I found myself at a loss for words. So....any thoughts on the subject?


Your friend needs to get out and talk to more women. She's either hearing only that which bolsters her own opinion or she's not someone other women trust with their honest opinion on the topic. JMO

Exactly
I know a few women that are very vocal about what they do or don't like sexually... and aren't shy about voicing their opinions when in a session of "women talk".... and I have seen time and again, the women who have a strong contrary point of view... say nothing. WHY? ... it is like having a bully in the room.... we have grown up and realize that arguing with them just feeds their need to be the center of attention.

OT - your friend is very wrong.... it is like nothing else when you orgasm from anal.
 druminky
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 44
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:18:19 PM
okay, she told me she read this thread over lunch....was tempted to join the site just to voice her opinions, but elected not to. The only thing she told me (while laughing) was that she had plenty of female friends and that they all dislike anal sex (she was sure to point out anal play was cool with some of her friends, but none liked penetration). But she believes the women on here who claim they enjoy anal sex and said something like, "There are people who are into pain and humiliation, so sure, i believe they like it." I tried to explain to her that there were women who were NOT into pain and humiliation that liked it, and she shook her head and then her phone rang. Oh well...I tried!

I wonder how she knows that "all of her friends" dislike anal sex? Hmmm...they must be close friends.

I sure have learned a thing or two reading all of this - thanks a bunch! Nice to know I'm not a sadistic weirdo!
 Closer2U
Joined: 2/19/2009
Msg: 45
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:29:17 PM

But she believes the women on here who claim they enjoy anal sex and said something like, "There are people who are into pain and humiliation, so sure, i believe they like it." I tried to explain to her that there were women who were NOT into pain and humiliation that liked it.


Tell her to bend over....I have some pain and humilation for her! lol
Really.....all normal conditioned responses to her fear of being out of control...don't push it buddy! She might SNAP!


I sure have learned a thing or two reading all of this - thanks a bunch! Nice to know I'm not a sadistic weirdo!


Is that what you were worried about....I could have told you you weren't.....awhile back. Read my "What makes a FREAK" post.....and pass it on to her.

She obviously is adamantly against it and trying to make other woman look bad so she looks good....all the POWER to her.

Control FREAKS...tend to draw lines closer to the 'VIRGIN' side of things than some of us.To each thier own HANG UPS!
 Uncle Fist
Joined: 12/18/2006
Msg: 46
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:38:30 PM
OP, did you tell your friend that people who assume everyone likes and dislikes the same things and claim to know what other people enjoy are either:

a) full of crap
b) completely delusional
c) upset that for whatever reason they are unable to enjoy something someone else can

Kind of sounds to me like since she doesn't enjoy it, she's looking to perpetuate the notion that no woman does. Perhaps so no one will ask her to do it? Just a thought.




Oh ... and I forgot to mention about the mess, the smell, the 'dare I say it' lack of romance. Lights out please!!


Are you speaking from experience, or are you just pulling this out of your ass? Pardon the pun.

The reason I ask is because most of your posts in this thread are coming across as being misinformed at best.
 eschec mat
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 47
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:43:17 PM
Geez, why is it wrong for her and her friends not to enjoy it? They probably have tight pussies and enjoy that form of sex. It probably sends them to the moon and back having regular penis vaginal intercourse. So why in the world do they even need to take a chance at causing themselves pain or problems for the rest of their lives? Crap does happen and one chance in hell is too many. Perhaps they have tried and said, to hell with getting crap on your**** it is gross. I like for it to go in the hole it is meant to go in where the actual nerves are that cause the orgasms. Yeah, the only nerves that can cause a reaction in the bung hole are really high up the poop shoot. I do wish people that aren't into it for whatever reasons would say hey everyone, not everyone likes anal! Not every man enjoys blow jobs, not every woman enjoys oral, every one is different. It doesn't make them wrong or you wrong. Some people have bigger butt holes and bigger vaginas, and it works better for them, some don't. Some can't relax and are disgusted by the thought. There are just so many thoughts about this and only the few that are really into seem to post here.

And yes, been there done that and can tell you horror stories about older people in hospitals.
 druminky
Joined: 4/9/2008
Msg: 48
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:56:09 PM
Yes....nothing wrong at all for her not to enjoy it! But she seemed to be really trying to convince me that "no woman really likes anal sex." It was like it was a secret I wasn't in on...."Don't you know? We all hate anal sex. It's just something we tolerate for men." Or something like that...it was her implicit meaning. That's why I kind of wondered if only a handful of women enjoyed this, or perhaps more.
 pleasuretogive
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 49
No woman really enjoys anal sex
Posted: 5/1/2009 1:56:38 PM
Jaqi said
Women who really like anal do it for their own pleasure... there isn't pain unless she hasn't prepared herself properly, is not relaxed about it or is just plain inexperienced.


Okay Jaqi, you care to enlighten us on how to properly prepare the female so she will find pleasure in it?
 jaqi
Joined: 2/2/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 5/1/2009 2:05:18 PM

Okay Jaqi, you care to enlighten us on how to properly prepare the female so she will find pleasure in it?


OMG if I was to tell you that on here it would probably open up a whole new thread and heaven forbid what pretaporter would think of me then
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