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 urinemyway
Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 20
Really doubting this site.Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)

Ignore the 5000 lb. elephant in the room.

The steaming pile of turds will always draw attention away from the elephant.

Sam, you may have better luck introducing yourself to women you encounter at school, at events, or on the street. It's much harder to convey your personality through a personal ad. If you decide to go this route, have a good friend help you re-write your profile and maybe even draft a good opening letter. Not so much a form letter but to get some good starting points on how to make it appeal to the women you write.
 brown_eyed_woman
Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 21
Really doubting this site.
Posted: 5/5/2009 7:12:17 AM
OP, you need new pics.

One is so blurry it looks stolen. That alone will scare women off.

I see from your previous postings, you are in a wheelchair. Why is that not clearly identified on your profile? I know a man locally who actually shows many pics of himself enjoying life from his chair. His headline said 'rolling along for good times'. I actually met him for a coffee, because his profile was so upbeat and upfront. He used what he was given in any way imaginable. You seem to be hiding this on your profile.

Have a good mate spend the day with you out and about, snapping good quality pics of you. At the end of the day you will find at least one that captures your 'essense'. The ones on here currently do not. In fact if you have a few friends, spend a few different days doing this. Get pics of you living large outside, inside, at home, at school. Show the world you have a full life.

Online is 99% a visual medium. Work with what mother nature gave you. Many will click 'next', but a few will be intrigued if you are upfront about your life on your profile.

You can write the most lyrical note here, but if they dont feel anything from looking at your pics, you are a goner.

The notes should just indicate interest, ask a question..keep it short n sweet. "Hi, I am on POF hoping to meet some new, cool people. I liked what you have to say about ______ and wondered if you'd be open to chatting with me?" .

Many people just get 'read/deleted'. I do too sometimes. Dont take it personally.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 22
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Really doubting this site.
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:55:09 AM
First e-mails should stand out a bit. Most of the women you're writing to generally will receive a ton of e-mails, so if yours doesn't stand out, you probably won't get a reply. Here's an example of one I used to use a fair bit on match.com and I met a few people from there:

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I read your profile and I thought you'd be fun to get to know. I see you're interested in (pick something that shows you actually read her profile)

I'm willing to bet that you've gotten about 650 emails so far from guys saying stuff like:

"Hi, I'm Brad and I like long walks at the beach while holding hands, cuddling and furry animals."

If that's what you're used to then this email will be quite refreshing for ya.

Anyway, we're both on here to meet new and interesting people, so I think it would be foolish if we didn't speak at least one time! Worst-case scenario -- you might make a cool friend. So send me an e-mail and we can go from there.

John
 Courtnee.Malakian
Joined: 8/17/2008
Msg: 23
Really doubting this site.
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:32:39 PM
well im not doubting it. im only interested in one guy on this site. i message him and only him. but i continue to get over 100 messages a day from other guys that im not interested in. since december, i have gotten well over 50,000 messages. many guys get mad and send me mean messages when i dont reply. yay what a great way to get a woman e_e
 thatnickguy
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 24
Really doubting this site.
Posted: 5/7/2009 8:58:37 PM
It's very simple.

All you write in the e-mail is this:

"You're like a full plate of 'have mercy' with a side order of 'good gawd!'"

Guaranteed success!

Note: The above advice does not actually gurantee a 100% success rate. If you do not get a response 50% of the time (even if it's just a court order), then contact us and we'll offer you a full refund! :p
 WhyGiveUpNowFishies
Joined: 1/14/2016
Msg: 25
Then try this forum
Posted: 1/18/2016 1:34:37 AM
Thank you VolkanoKing!

It is about time we had an alternative forum that does not have so much censorship.

Mind you, it is going to take awhile to populate it.

Come on over and join the fun everyone.
Nice features to this forum!

Plenty of Frogs Too
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 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 26
Then try this forum
Posted: 1/18/2016 4:22:31 PM

Msg 23:
since december, i have gotten well over 50,000 messages. many guys get mad and send me mean messages when i dont reply.


Do you mean since last month? Are you a famous porn star or a Kardashian?
(Oops. She's flown the coop.)
 Bunz34
Joined: 11/19/2014
Msg: 33
Really doubting this site.
Posted: 1/29/2016 11:23:22 PM
Bro, I feel you. Usually I just say hello, or comment in something I like from their profile. I at least get a response. I have a ton of mutual matches but the conversations always seem forced with the other party simply showing no signs of interest. Move on and keep looking
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