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Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 9
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The longest, when I was younger, was almost 2 yrs. I was madly in love and when we split I felt like I'd died. Took me almost 2 yrs to get back to where I wanted another woman. I was with Sue for 21 yrs and after she died there was nothing again for almost 2 yrs. The relationship I fell into then was LD and wonky - I was grasping at straws ... neeeeding to feel a body beside me again. Widows/widowers frequently jump back in too fast. I did. Live and learn.

I've never enjoyed sport-fu¬Ęking preferring to be in either a LT committed relationship or as close to that as circumstances permit. To do anything else, to me, cheapens what I had / have when I'm in love so I prefer to wait for that kind of relationship to happen. Being alone doesn't bother me. Orgasms? HA - twice a day from 16 to about 53 then backing off in my old age to once a day.

Some people are capable and comfortable with finding a body - any body - to bump uglies with when they get horny. I may be too emotional when it comes to that aspect of sex/relationships but then I'm the one who gets to look in the mirror in the morning and I want, in my heart, to turn around and walk back into her loving arms and NOT think, "WTF did I do THAT for?" and try and flee before IT wakes up.
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 5/10/2009 5:59:06 PM
When I'm single, I can go years. Once I start getting sexual with someone I am hard pressed to think of when I DON'T want to.
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Joined: 8/22/2008
Msg: 13
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Going Without
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:34:02 PM
Since June 30, 2008... not that I am counting. I have been divorced for over 1 1/2 years. For the first 9 months after the divorce I slept with several different women - probably to feed my own ego. Since then I realized I am not that into being in a relationship. My sex drive is obviously low and while it would be nice to get some once in a while I don't feel like lying to anyone or dating someone I'm not into in order to get some. The crazy thing is that the lack of sex doesn't bother me, but that fact has me concerned.
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 14
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Going Without
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:59:13 PM
11 years for me.sad so sad Im going to go cry now
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 17
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Going Without
Posted: 7/27/2009 3:04:33 AM
Like most other posters- when I am single, I do without (I went 14 years FFS) but now I am 18 months into a great relationship??? I want sex 6 nights out of 7. Cuddles are enough on night 7.. Maybe 3 nights off for my period as long as I get to supply BJ's or hand jobs and get some finger action in return??
Joined: 3/2/2007
Msg: 18
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Posted: 7/27/2009 1:52:22 PM
I went without for over 15 yrs, and also have a high Sex Drive !!! so I only did what cums naturally to a Straight Guy. But inside what I really wanted was, to be with a woman, but it was not happening !!! , no shame in that is there ? nothing I'm ashamed about ! any way.

I found a girl and we had sex at least once a week, but i wanted it a lot more, only to catch up on the times that i had gone with out !!!

Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 7/27/2009 2:28:21 PM
Interesting topic.
In my youth I had a very strong libido, as is quite natural. Going without for two or three days was torturous, so always made sure The supply lines were clear. this was back in the day of the sexual revolution pre-AIDS etc... so thing were very different than present times; as in people sport f---in' like mad. Things didn't change for me until I hit maybe 51-52, that's when I started to notice a change in urgency between sex opportunities. My drive started to quiet noticeably. I'm still in the game at 59 and in a relationship, but if my SO is not around for some reason like I'm away for business, or she's visiting somewhere, I just don't think of it much beyond the abstract. That having been said, an every other day schedule is fine for me now(her too).
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