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 NotElvisJunior
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 88
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danishsweetbread wrote:
Yep but I have experienced debate type e-mails coming back and also insults. That is why I don't usually write back if I am not interested. Maybe that never happens to men but I am sure I am not the only lady who has had that experience I just cited.

Hm, I can say that's never happened to me, but at least at that point, couldn't you then just block emails from that ID?

I know it may sound harsh, and I don't mean it to, but doesn't your reasoning basically amount to justifying some relative rudeness to EVERYONE for the bad actions of a few?
 johninsd
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 89
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 6/20/2009 5:35:36 PM
Why not?

My dad was 47 when he married my mom, age 29 at the time.

I'm 38, and 25 is pretty much my rock-bottom limit, and I usually go for late 20s and up, because younger girls tend to want to party and go clubbing until 2AM, and I'm just so over that. But I'd date a much younger woman if it seemed like she had a good head on her shoulders, and was a woman, not a girl ;)
 NotElvisJunior
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 91
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Posted: 6/20/2009 9:45:45 PM
patria1 wrote:

cause this seems pretty common for males to do, however when a woman does it she's a "cougar" - whatever!

Ah, the joys of cultural expectations. I never understood that myself.

Actually, I wonder if it's women competing with other women. Frankly, I don't know too many guys who'd complain if an older woman went after them, and there was mutual attraction. I *have* heard of cases where younger girls complaining about older women "taking all the cute guys" and giving the so-called "cougar" an attitude over it.

*shrug* - I don't know. In any case, my assumption's still that no guy would ever complain about "cougars"
 danishsweetbread
Joined: 2/25/2007
Msg: 92
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:35:02 PM
One more, must LIKE TO EAT.
I hate it when men act like women and start listing everything they eat and not enjoy their food.

True story...at one company I worked at in the past, a very handsome European guy came in and talked to me and some others about his experience going to the Cheesecake Factory. how he "ordered just a salad there and could not finish his cheesecake". I suddenly got turned off. I am not pro-glutton but geez, c'mon fellow.
 ShadwEagle
Joined: 5/29/2008
Msg: 95
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:36:01 AM

I guess you forgot your big boy pants. What are you bellyaching about? Email the lady.


HAHAHAHAHAH this cracked me up.
 day off pilot
Joined: 12/21/2008
Msg: 96
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 6/23/2009 9:45:38 AM
Yep...go for it...the worse that can happen is no reply at all. She might be tired of all the "boys" pretending to be men...and want something real.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 107
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 7/1/2009 2:56:54 AM
Give her a chance to say no...
(you miss all the shots you don't take)

-However i am curious, when did the world run out of 42 year old women?


 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 112
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/1/2009 12:23:16 PM
That "formula" makes me giggle. That would mean 29 1/2 is OK for me. Uhmmmm NO. That's as silly as me dating someone 60ish. Ewww on both accounts. **shudder**

~OP~ Another redundant thought from me: email those you wish to email. If she doesn't have age restrictions on her profile it's probable she has no age-appropriate theories. JMO
 Eudan
Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 113
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Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/3/2009 7:28:08 AM
'Use the formula. Half the guys age plus 7.
42 /2 +7 = 28
30/2 + 7 =22'

I like this formula... let's make it a law....
Seriously I think age is not a barrier as long as people get along
 StevieCashmere
Joined: 4/22/2009
Msg: 117
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Posted: 9/4/2009 3:08:22 PM
I'm surrounded by long & sucessful relationships with visible age gaps, though those 25 & under ususally are't mature adults that can understand this
~sc~
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 128
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/9/2009 2:26:33 PM
why not?

there's a chance that she might think you have something in common and respond favourably

good luck
 Gotwit
Joined: 8/13/2009
Msg: 129
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:14:37 PM
Who cares, age means nothing unless a person is under the age of 17 in most states. Thats right, in NY 17 is legal age of consent, may not seem moral but it is legal therefore who cares.

Some and I do stress some, younger women like older men. They will certainly get treated better most of the time by an older man. Most men are tools in their 20's and dont yet understand how to treat a woman.

:cool:
 mike 814
Joined: 4/18/2009
Msg: 131
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:48:59 PM
alot of younger girls have daddy issues .that can sometimes pan out in our favor.some are also looking for a sugardaddy.you got the sugar they need?:modhammer:
 krisrisyoung
Joined: 8/5/2011
Msg: 138
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/13/2011 7:43:08 AM
yes i am 31 and dig older men if you have things you both like to do than say hi all she can do is not answer
 Seeking_simplicity_
Joined: 7/9/2010
Msg: 140
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/16/2011 8:48:19 AM
why not most of the women over 35 have let them selves go and so you find the younger ones more attractive....at least in my location they are all twice my size and most are bitter..
 domo30
Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 142
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/20/2011 9:55:12 AM
Whatever the person likes I guess that would be fine. I wouldnt email with an older guy hell I dont even talk to the ones my age but its all about attraction and what he or she likes
 docii
Joined: 7/24/2010
Msg: 144
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/20/2011 3:40:46 PM
You are a grown man and she is a grown lady. Both are capable of making decisions. Age truly is just a number, maybe a little different earlier in years, but I feel that barrier is broken. Good luck. Babe Ruth was the homerun King, struck out over a thousand times, but he always went up to the plate.

Peace!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 145
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 9/22/2011 6:32:06 PM
OP - that is a very ideal age difference actually.


who cares - some women will respond to you because they like older men
some girls will respond to you cuz they think you're hot

some will
some won't

some even will want to experiment on you.

who cares ?

you're a man - if you find a woman attractive - then go for it till you know she isnt' into you.
 That_girl*
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 152
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 10/4/2011 2:51:35 PM
42yr 31yr thats no big deal..

now if at 42yr you start going after 25 an younger or 18yrs old or barely 17yr ya that will raise some red flags for sure!
 kittybiscuit
Joined: 2/11/2007
Msg: 153
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 10/6/2011 8:58:34 PM
Yes, he should email her.

But he should also be aware that she may want children and he should be prepared for that. If he has already had kids and doesn't want any, he needs to be up front about it.
 5150Rivergirl
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 155
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 10/7/2011 11:35:09 AM

Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?


Sure. Why not? Do you have a problem with the age? If so, then don't email her. She may or not reply.
 5150Rivergirl
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 156
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 10/7/2011 11:48:23 AM
At this age, I dont see the age gap as being such a big deal. I used to have this 10 year difference issue. Ughh, Im closer to my 40's now, than my 30's ...but it's like fiiiiiine wine!
 JaneCornwall
Joined: 9/28/2011
Msg: 157
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Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 10/7/2011 2:19:55 PM
Oh gosh, yes of course. How do you know you aren't the man of her dreams. Jane
 tlcme1964
Joined: 8/28/2009
Msg: 159
Should a 42 year old male email a 31 year old lady ?
Posted: 10/8/2011 6:15:03 AM
I've dated & had a few relationships with 30ish year old women started online with an email. After 10 years with a guy hooked on video games a mature man is what some want.
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