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 MWI
Joined: 9/13/2009
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All you have to do is look at the ratio of women to men replying in this thread to see that ratio is untrue.

Dating sites favour women because the ads for the sites target men.

Here's one of the ads that I always see when I login to POF:
http://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/imgad?id=CLjnp77m9ubZXhCsAhj6ATIIL0j4A9RfEPM
(Note that's a jpeg image, not the ad itself)
"Join Vancouer's only Dating site with 80% women, Established Men, sugar dating dating"
That ad makes me mad. There is another version of it that says 4:1 ratio. I wonder how they get women onto the site? Show ads on womens sites about guys willing to buy them Louis Vuittons?

Most of the third party advertisements on POF are these like this.

Dating sites however don't work very well for shy males (for for anyone who is too shy to even put a photo up,) since the assumption is that males will message women, and women will only respond to those they want to. They only work well for those with high self-esteem. If females want to find a nice guy, they need to message guys proactively as well, otherwise they may only be contacted by guys that they find are too aggressive.

Just my opinion.
 PiggyT
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 10/3/2009 3:56:27 PM
^^^ You mean all I have to do is put a picture up???? But I think my snout is too big and my tail is too small...
 MWI
Joined: 9/13/2009
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Posted: 10/3/2009 7:25:36 PM

^^^ You mean all I have to do is put a picture up???? But I think my snout is too big and my tail is too small...


Ah but such is the case why people use the online sites and not the ads in the newspaper. It's so much easier for one to dismiss someone based on appearances with a social networking/dating/community site. A pictures worth a thousand words.

Someone looking for a friend may have less interest in a photo. Virtually every forum I've ever visited has a "real photo" thread somewhere of what the members actually look like. In some cases it strokes their ego's, and in other cases it dismisses people as potential dating material, even if the site was never a dating site to begin with.
 Moanie
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 10/3/2009 7:51:04 PM
^^^^ I think MWI makes some great points....

Personally I think everyone worries about the same things, snouts, tails, fangs...
There are many women who feel the same as the men....they don't post their pics because they feel they will be rejected based on their looks.....

And that is a shame, because I think when you post your picture, you give the women the confidence to post theirs too.

Cripes I read these profiles and think, OH NO, most of the men spend all their time at the gym! Why would anyone like that be interested in me? And for those that don't post their pics, you run the risk of being thought evasive, as though you have something to hide

I doubt the stats are that different on here from the rest of the population, except for those over 60, when the stats probably increase slightly for females.
 MWI
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Posted: 10/4/2009 12:57:10 AM

Cripes I read these profiles and think, OH NO, most of the men spend all their time at the gym! Why would anyone like that be interested in me? And for those that don't post their pics, you run the risk of being thought evasive, as though you have something to hide


Haha, yeah.

The matching algorithm for POF seems to keep matching "extreme athlete" women for me and I'm like "How?", Nothing wrong with that either. I just don't see how I'd be a match for them.
 MWI
Joined: 9/13/2009
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Posted: 10/4/2009 8:27:23 PM

Any chance you've been viewing profiles of "extreme athletes" ?


There's your answer


Of course, because that is what POF was showing me :) The first time I saw the "Your matches" most of them were like "I like to goto the gym, do the grouse grind, Yoga and I'm looking for an activity partner who can keep up with me, etc"

I would like to try new things, but I don't really see myself being able to keep up with them.


MWI is my new hero, although i think he should change his do like section to do want.


Aw thanks. It's not "Do Want" because that is pretty much a bunch of AND/OR. The profile was so much longer but I felt that maybe I was just saying too much.

On the other hand, there isn't a whole lot of deal breakers, I may seem not picky, but I find it's actually ones personality that I'm more likely to not like than what they look like. The only thing a profile says about ones personality is how honest they are.
 FunnyAndSweet48
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 10/5/2009 3:38:26 PM

ohhh and I will say this .....Victoria is very white

A few people have said that Victoria is the 'Satanist capital of BC'. Apparently that's where their headquarters is. I wonder if this has any bearing to why Victoria is very white. Maybe the Satanists are sacrificing all the ethnic people.
 Mon Cherie
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 46
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Posted: 10/5/2009 10:08:42 PM
I don't know about Vancouver. I wonder what the ratio is in Kelowna? Anyone know?
 MWI
Joined: 9/13/2009
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Posted: 10/5/2009 11:04:34 PM
It never dawned on me how white Victoria was until I moved to Vancouver. Maybe it was because I grew up somewhere that was far more white.

And that Victoria rumor is because of the book "Michelle Remembers" , google it if you want to know more.
 Mobiledj
Joined: 6/14/2007
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Posted: 10/26/2009 11:07:56 AM
If there are 5 women to every guy in Vancouver someone has taken my share

Re: the comment on people in BC being more fit is because we get better weather out here than ab. If you look at the world as a whole any place that has hot weather people are generally fitter and thinner. For example you look at the spanish in South America and the people of Florida compared to those in inlands southern states. Now thinking about it maybe places that have a lot of beaches make the difference.
 scottmcfish
Joined: 8/20/2009
Msg: 55
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Posted: 10/29/2009 10:09:45 AM
Holy Nachos! 5w-1m at singles events?! Where are these events taking place? Seriously though, does this MMA place host singles hikes with ratios like that?... Thats incredible... That's fan-freaking-tastic!

And Mrs. Worse Then Ever... The venom of your posts! The remorselessness of your writing! The scorching heat of your words! The fire in your eyes! Oh! The confidence in your posture. Oh my... I don't think I've been this smitten while at the same time had a palpable fear for my self esteem.

Cupid have mercy.
 scottmcfish
Joined: 8/20/2009
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Posted: 10/29/2009 11:55:26 AM
Aaak, you typos! Is it too late to edit? I did indeed mean Ms. A Freudian slip of a hopeful future perhaps? Alas, I can not say.
 WesternWildRose
Joined: 9/15/2008
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Posted: 10/29/2009 12:00:33 PM
mmmmm....Fresh Meat has arrived......let the Cougars in to feed.

be very careful what you wish for McFish.....very careful....and yes, be afraid ...be very afraid.

With so little fresh meat about it's just a feeding frenzy at times....they are not looking for 'The One' though luv.... it's all about feeding the libido.
 silibus
Joined: 4/8/2008
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Posted: 10/30/2009 11:00:30 PM
And as well, Vancouver has the earliest spring every year in the whole counrty which seems to last until late in the summer and tends to work against men who are sincerely looking for more than just sex but a lasting relationship. I now understand why so many in the GVA have a problem differentiating love from lust. Sex, by the way is a commodity that can be bought, especially in Vancouver. Love on the other hand needs to be intentionally nurtured and few have the patience to go through the whole dance from first glance to first kiss. If you do not have the patience to spend Enough time in courtship but rush straight to the mattress you may never experience Love. And That Is a Grand Loss. Love cannot be bought anywhere on this planet. Not even in Vamvouver. Sorry.
 Ticketoride
Joined: 6/3/2004
Msg: 63
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Posted: 11/3/2009 11:20:16 PM
5 to 1 ratio of women to men in Vancouver

No wonder I find myself replacing 5 broken Basement Windows every Year ...
 Ed Bear
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Posted: 11/8/2009 3:18:29 AM
Dance meets draw more women than men because men just don't seem to want to dance after high school. The breakfast meet I attended had 2 women present and over 20 men; the ride meet had one woman and six men; only four men actually went on the ride.

Most large cities have very even gender balance - even 3 or 4 percent has significant social effects. Many suspect that Vancouver has a slight male excess because it's a favoured lifestyle location for gay men.

On PoF, we hear lots of allegations of female numbers but women get many, many more contacts and responses than men. If one looks through photos in the ratings section, one gets fifty to sixty men for each woman... are men that much more prone to posting lots of photos? Are women refusing to be rated? In the Approvals Ratings, which are not self-selected, I see as many as 100 men to one woman - but all the gross nudes and pubes they try to post probably mean they have to repost very often. :)

Ed Bear
 MWI
Joined: 9/13/2009
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Posted: 11/9/2009 1:20:52 AM

On PoF, we hear lots of allegations of female numbers but women get many, many more contacts and responses than men.


I'll be honest and say I've only had one contact the entire time. I haven't contacted anyone first yet. But in terms of people "looking" (from the "people who viewed you"), usually a few of those each time I login. I'd say women likely can just wait for the right person to contact them, or find someone. Guys on the other hand may only have the option of "find someone."

I know I need to get more photos. I have no idea what women believe is eye catching.
 A_Little_Romance
Joined: 5/31/2008
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Posted: 3/13/2010 4:46:09 PM
I find the whole idea of a ratio is really quite misleading. It really does not matter how many single women or single men there are if people are incompatible. Some say 5 to 1 of w-to-m, some say 10 to 1, some say it's the other way around. What makes dating challenging is over-selectiveness, being too choosy. Certainly, we all want someone special; that's the whole point of devoting yourself to that one, because they are special. But if we go month after month, year after year, and still have not formed a match, then we need to stop looking at things like ratios and start looking at something much more indicative of the reality... we're just too picky. Go for someone who is special, yes, of course. But be realistic as well. You don't find someone who is special right from the start; you build something special over time, and after you have done so, then the one you are with becomes that special someone you have been looking for. A couple doesn't really meet as people who already are special to each other; a couple develops into people who become special to each other over time. So instead of asking ourselves, "Is this person someone special to me?", maybe we should be asking ourselves, "Can this person become someone special to me?"
 VeganCat
Joined: 11/11/2009
Msg: 71
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Posted: 3/13/2010 7:07:29 PM

Mountain Lion is so much sexier



You crack me up!!!!!!!!!
 ClassC
Joined: 4/20/2007
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Posted: 3/14/2010 12:57:00 PM
Ahhh...WT...well said...
last night's Mosquito Creek had the Ladies present and accounted for in larger numbers initially...then the fellas started to 'dribble in', and the odds switched...no, the ratios switched...Was it the hockey score 4 to 1 for the hometeam...or what???
I've had my two dates this week...
good luck...
 ClassC
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Posted: 4/26/2010 11:25:38 AM
bring on your willingness, and dance 'em all...we'll love ya for trying!!!
 nonfriction
Joined: 10/31/2008
Msg: 79
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Posted: 6/14/2011 5:25:23 PM
I've always felt that there are far more men posting online then women. An easy way to check this, which I've often done, is to compare the number of posts on craigslist in the personals which is the simplest free online deal available. Not even a profile to fill.. First, count on ANY given day the number of posts in the personals section of women seeking men, then look at the reciprocal count of men to women. My mas o menos long term conclusion, back when I used to check craigslist, was 8 to 1, that was 8 MEN posts for every ONE woman's post. These days, it seems even more sparse. I noticed that there are even fewer women's posts on there by a considerable margin. I surmise that it's because craigslist has become a sewage of spam.
 Ed Bear
Joined: 5/19/2007
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Posted: 7/22/2011 9:01:09 AM
Men live longer than women, but more female babies are killed.

There's no way any society would exits with a 10% excess of either gender. The unattached get angry. Mining camps, certain remote villages, sure, but not large cities or countries, or the whole world.

C'mon, people, don't bother posting these silly "stats" without footnotes. They have no foundation in reality.
ED BEAR
 honestyfirst101
Joined: 5/28/2011
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Posted: 8/6/2011 11:03:32 AM
No surprise that women outnumber men at any dance event, they like it more than us.
Interesting posts! I conclude that i should finally get my butt to a POF dance event, and get there early before those late-arriving-confident-lady-killers, also cuz I get up at 04:30 weekdays.
Ironic that women love confident men yet frequently don't seem to give ANY answer to messages, even thoughtful ones, which hurts our confidence, which means less messages, less everything!
Maybe a few dances, a few drinks, a few laughs, is all I/we should expect, anything else is a bonus.
After the first move (care to dance?), let the women make the next move or two.
Tell us who/what you want and we will all be happier!!
 re-cycling
Joined: 4/2/2012
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Posted: 12/29/2017 3:45:42 PM
It's 10 to 1 now, man.
Women just don't learn, the more they walk all over men, the less men want to have anything to do with them.
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