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~OT~ I hate to be the Bad News Fairy here, and I do more than empathize with regard to surgery, but I promise, it's NOT only anal that can cause damage which MAY require surgical repair. I had to have an anal/vaginal fistula repair (rectalvaginal fistula) after vaginal sex in my 20's. I'm a tiny girl, he wasn't a tiny man. I've never had the problem again, so I'd say I'm living proof that anal, if done right, can be safe (and I'm high-risk for a fistula as I've had one previously.) JMO
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 1/11/2010 4:05:54 PM

. Yet I never heard of anyone having loose butthole from either of those. Instead they are more likely to get impacted. People who go in their pants or underwear usually have problems with leaky and lose stools, not from loose buttholes. quote you quoted on.... to understand, you would have to trace my responces, and the quote on one of them, to understand, what I was saying and how it answered a quote on one of my responces, confusing?

I made a responce to how anal wasn't quite the physical thrill I expected.....yes, the erotic/taboo thrill was there, and enjoying how it pleased her......but, because once the anus adjust and relaxes to the C*ck....the tightness isn't there as much....

Someone responded ....that when taking a dump, it enlarges, but goes back, once you are finished.....thus my above responce.....while you are doing anal, you are not finished, so it stays enlarged, till afterwards....

I hope you understand my above responce now.
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 53
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Posted: 1/11/2010 4:12:34 PM
Anal if done right....shouldn't do damage or hurt those who are adept at it.

As for problems with loose bowels, etc.....

There are cases of people to where they had so much constant anal, over long periods of time....and didn't give enough time in between for the anus to return to normal.

They do have a bit of gapping that is only that, and doesn't effect the internals workings of the digestive system...

I first read about this, when doctors noted seeing it....then if you watch porn, now and then you will see
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 1/11/2010 7:00:00 PM

As for problems with loose bowels, etc.....

There are cases of people to where they had so much constant anal, over long periods of time....and didn't give enough time in between for the anus to return to normal.

They do have a bit of gapping that is only that, and doesn't effect the internals workings of the digestive system...

I first read about this, when doctors noted seeing it....then if you watch porn, now and then you will see

I think you mean "gaping." Anyway, judging from what you can see in porn, the ability to "gape" appears to be akin to being able to do the splits - a matter of flexibility and control, and not something that happens all of the time. Oh, I am quite sure it is possible to damage the muscles involved which would then result in problems, just as someone might damage themselves forcing their legs into a split, but that is different than "too much anal."
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 55
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Posted: 1/12/2010 1:02:08 AM

message 130 - nappykat

Have not known that to be the case of anyone I know who has had anal sex.

how many people do you know that have had anal sex? what's the number?

do you ask them in normal conversation "hey, ever had sex up the butt?"

did you write a book and interview people?

sounds like that kind of statement would come from a doctor. R U A DOCTOR?


a Nosey Nancy?

I don’t understand the agitation written all in your post. I don’t begrudge anyone of their experiences, so instead of getting irritated with me, maybe you’d want to share your own. If not, then don’t begrudge me of my experiences (in other words, STFU).

I personally don’t like anal sex, but that does not stop me from trying to understand other people’s experiences with it, even those who are against it. I try to be respectful and I take most messages that someone shares (especially regarding their own lives and intimate experiences) at face value. If someone says they had a negative experience with anal sex, I believe them. I have no reason or interest to convince them otherwise pro or con. I never said to anyone that their experiences doesn’t count, or that they are doing it wrong and should try it another way. Hell these are strangers and they should know more about their bodies than I do; and all bodies do not respond the same to the same stimuli – despite what many of these ‘backyard sexperts’ think they know and claim. All the ‘sexperts’ are doing is sharing experiences of their own.

Those why try to convince you that oral sex is OK, safe, and fun (even if that was their experience) – probably do it so they don’t feel like a ‘supafreak’ because they like it, love it, want it, and have little to no problem with it. That’s why this thread is here – because anal sex is kind of a social taboo and it usually isn’t a thing a lot people will admit to in ‘polite’ company. So like seeks like. Those that like it seek others who like it – and then will try to convince you to like it too. So take what you read, see, and hear with a grain of salt and be comfortable within yourself and don’t worry about it. It took me a while to realize that I don’t have to like or do something just because others like it or because everyone seems to be doing it. And yet at the same time – I try to respect what grown consenting adults do and live and let live. That last one is a little harder because some things I still think are a little f*cked up, downright gross, or just plain disturbing.

As for your question, I quantified my own limited experiences in the subject by saying ‘the people I know’ which in and of itself is very limited, no matter if the people I know number in 2, 50, or 800. And yes, believe it or not most of the people I know are open and comfortable enough to share with me what some of their sexual experiences are.

Most of girlfriends (I would say ‘all’ but there's always exceptions so dam the superlatives) have experimented with anal sex (for some of them, their introduction wasn’t entirely voluntary). A few still do it and like it. Some will do if they feel ‘pressured’ and the time feels right, but really don’t’ like it. Others, like me – don’t like it at all and refuse it.

Several guys I know have experimented with it.
One tried it during his active days as a drug addict.
Another was in jail. Now he likes poking women in the ass, says he likes it more than the vag or even oral – but that he will never get poked again.
Another admitted to ‘fooling around as a teen.’
Most of the others have been gay and one was bi.

Now these people do admit that a lot of their experiences with anal sex was less than optimal, but they haven’t had any long-lasting effects from it and a many continue to actively engage in it.

Now you may be thinking ‘well if they did have any long-term effects, they would never tell you.’ While that may be true, I can concur with what they have said with my own experiences. The bad anal sexual experience I’ve already described for me, I wasn’t even a preteen yet. A child really. My bum is fine, thank you very much. That is why I believe them when they say they haven't had any lasting effects from the anal sex.

But that doesn’t mean I think anal sex can’t tear you up inside with some serious acute and long term effects. I believe it can, but I was wondering and imagining how. Again, I am NOT here to convince anyone either way about anal sex. I don’t care if you do it or not or like it or not.

AllAmericanAmanda, thank you for sharing your experience. I would not discount what you have said at all nor would I try to convince you to do something that has left a lasting effect or illwill upon you. Be comfortable in your sex, your choices, and yourself.
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 56
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Posted: 1/12/2010 2:31:34 AM
Someone asked why is it different for gay men than women.......Straight here.....but who says it is?

Probably they have to go thru the same learning process just like anyone else....there is initial pain I'm sure....

Women have another place to have intercourse, gays don't, and with them, surely its not taboo.....

So without other options or taboo's...its likely they will try till they are successful.

Kaleycat, other than the prostate gland, men and women are not much different there, if at all.

I know one thing, when putting my finger in there with women, it goes in much easier than when they do that respect, it should be easier for women to have
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/12/2010 3:15:48 AM

Actually a lot of gay guys don't like anal (or only do it sometimes).
That's what's a read in a column by Savage Dan - a gay sex columnist. He said that about 25% of gay men engage in anal sex. Surprised the hell out of me. I thought that figure would be closer to 90% or more. I guess the number of lesbians who do oral must be a lot less than I figured too.

Since I pretty much thought these two types of sexual orientations were limited in what they could actually do with each other, I figure anal sex for gays and oral sex for lesbians would be much higher.
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 58
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Posted: 1/12/2010 3:25:14 AM
It seems there are women who like it, and ones who don't.....many think its because of the mental block some have with it being taboo, or just how they view what the butt is for, and etc.

Then some feel, its because it was never done right on the woman, there was too much pain.

So maybe a good question might be are there women who have nothing against the idea of anal sex, who successfully did it without any more than the initial pain, after that didn't have pain...

That don't like it....

Hey, I'm not saying this can't be, but it might make a good question....silence the doubters, or those who think that is the only way she wouldn't like it.
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 59
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Posted: 1/12/2010 3:41:51 AM
^^^^^ Please do not think that every woman who doesn't like anal sex it is because she experienced pain from the experience. There are PLENTY of women who have tried anal sex more than once and have not had any pain - and still don't like it.

What the hell is it with you people that are convinced - yet again - that everyone (every woman at least) should like anal sex and if they don't - then it wasn't done right or something is wrong with their head?

Imbeciles. You haven't yet learned from other threads that not everything will apply to everybody and that different strokes for different folks?

Do all men like fingers up their asses?
Do all women like cumshots?
Do all men like like their tips of their penises squeezed tight right before they shoot their load?
Can all women cum from oral, anal, and vaginal sex?
Can all men be 'bendy' and put their legs over their shoulders while their d!cks out?

If your answer is no, then leave it that.

If you like it, like it.
If you find one that likes it, then love her.
If you like it and she doesn't - then leave her. Or love her. Or talk her into it.
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 60
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Posted: 1/17/2010 11:22:42 PM
Kayliekat: Ahmed, a major difference is that gay "bottom" men have a wonderful pleasure place called their prostate gland which is just inside the anus...
Yes indeedy...! (uh, I'm straight and I have a prostate... just sayin')

Man, there are some absolutely hilarious posts on here. Soi-disant "experts" who know everything about the medical aspects of anal because their mother once drove by a doctor's office.

My first anal experience with a woman was at age 18, and since then, I have had many, many more assplay experiences with quite a few women. I have only had two women (that I recall) say that the penetration was painful, and I immediately desisted. One of them I knew was mentally hung up about it because of a barium enema at a young age. Scarred her for life. The other one just didn't dig it, I reckon. Several of them preferred anal.

IMO, the key is trust. Trust that I know what I'm doing (I think I do, after all these years) and that it will be pleasurable for her. My preference is for my partner to clean herself out first, to avoid any messy embarassments. Then I like to start with a little finger play, with her lying on her back, and propped up by pillows so she can see me. I use plenty of lube and usually a latex glove, to minimize the possibility of abrasions. I take my time and observe her reactions. Some women relaxed very quickly; others took more time. Three fingers is not that hard to achieve. A few times, with a couple special ladies, I've gone farther. Sometimes we never got around to intercourse, as I encouraged her to masturbate at the same time, and she'd already gotten her Ya-yas, so to speak.

I don't want to have an LTR with a woman who doesn't whole-heartedly enjoy assplay.
Joined: 1/19/2006
Msg: 61
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Posted: 1/23/2010 5:30:17 PM
where does this statistic come from that many women enjoy anal sex? I think it made up by men. Some women: maybe, but it doesn't mean many.
Joined: 11/2/2009
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Posted: 1/24/2010 7:29:05 PM
anal sex is great when you can get the lady to relax enough or over worked up to try it..

many girls i have been with have liked anal sex and some have tried it and not liked it..
i think its something thats got to be more wanted than than anything else..
if she cant relax if shes trying it the first couple of times, then its no good to keep going or trying to keep pushing it.. if for someone who does enjoy anal sex, then it also becomes part of foreplay as well for sex..
Joined: 7/19/2008
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Posted: 1/24/2010 7:31:40 PM
If it's done the right way, I Love it.!
Joined: 1/19/2006
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Posted: 2/8/2010 6:16:15 PM
1/3 is still a minotirty (hard to believe still, seems too high, but whatever). I think men instead of concentrating on anal sex should concentrate on actually brining a woman to orgazm. that number is maybe the same or lower.
Joined: 1/31/2010
Msg: 65
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Posted: 2/8/2010 8:01:29 PM
No, this woman does not.
Joined: 12/16/2009
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Posted: 2/10/2010 10:52:30 AM

Do women really like anal?

Not this one. It hurts. If a guy I'm dating wants anal, I won't be dating him any longer.
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 67
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Posted: 2/11/2010 6:22:09 AM
Yes, they edit porn.
A typical porn scene takes about two hours of footage just for the 15 minutes you see on the DVD or tape. When you consider the uncomfortable positions these people perform sex acts in, it's easy to understand why so many porn performers have such well developed quads and muscular legs, male and female alike.

Often these days you will see the guy aproach the girl and in the blink of an eye, he's got a condom on, which was not there during the oral scenes and he's going for the MOI (moment of insertion). You don't see the preparations or the foreplay just the 'hard hammerin' action'. LOL...

They also usually edit out the scenes where the girl is lubing up or the guy is lubing up, which is a pity as I think those prep scenes are pretty sexy.....
Far more sexy than the mistaken concept that you can just ram it in there and start bangin' away.
Even chicks who are into butt lovin' usually can't accomodate that.

I recently saw some interesting porn outakes with Flower Tucci. Prior to her scene she lubed up good and even used a glass toy to stretch out and get ready.
My ex used to love the preparations for anal sex almost as much as the anal sex too, as I think the prepping (lubing up, preparing her with my fingers, etc...) excited her and gave her more anticipation.
Porn is a strange industry. I often wonder at the camera people and diectors and if they have a clue as to what the audience really likes.
80s and 90s porn was pretty bad in that you would have an attractive couple copulating and the camera dude would be filming their elbows or knees or whatever. Many would miss the MOI so they could get a shot of the dude grunting like a forest animal.
I know it can't be easy to find a good cameraman willing to work in those unusual conditions, but come on, where do they find those people? When an attractive couple are going at it, i want to see them. Not a close up of the coffee table with a reading light....
 Healing Handz
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 68
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Posted: 2/13/2010 10:18:41 AM

Message from kiev95 : where does this statistic come from that many women enjoy anal sex? I think it made up by men. Some women: maybe, but it doesn't mean many.

Hello Kiev95. Sorry but the statistic is true, it has blown my mind knowing how many women not only do anal but enjoy it. here is the thing. women tell men they like it without hesitation but these same women have said they wont admit that to female friends and other women. and the simillar theme as to why is they think the other women and friends would think differently of them.

I would say 75% of the women I have asked has said yes they either enjoy it or have it regularly but like it the same as much as vaginal sex. and that number is mind blowing. but it just goes to show, not all is as it seems :)
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 69
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Posted: 6/10/2011 3:37:59 PM
Everyone's different. A friend of mine readily admits it's the only way she can cum, yet I know for me, that I will come every single time, multiple times during regular intercourse, but have NEVER cum from anal. While not unpleasant, it just doesn't do it that much for me.
Joined: 10/17/2009
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Posted: 6/10/2011 7:22:49 PM
As with everything, some do and some don't. If it is done properly, with lubricant, when the women is excited enough it can work. But for the very well endowed man it could be difficult to find a partner it does not hurt.
Joined: 4/2/2010
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/11/2011 10:19:00 AM
Yeah I know I'm totally turned off by that, it's an exit only door.
Joined: 3/14/2011
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Posted: 6/11/2011 3:35:31 PM
I think I might have to agree with the exit only thing.
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 73
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Posted: 6/11/2011 5:19:21 PM
During intercourse wet your finger and insert it into her anus to see how she reacts. If it arouses her go ahead and suggest it. But like the ladies have written do your research beforehand so you know how to do it without causing pain.
Joined: 5/17/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 6/13/2011 7:14:21 AM
My experience- 4 out of 5 women really enjoyed it, some even asked for it. Taking it slow, sliding in a little at a time is key.
Joined: 4/19/2006
Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/16/2011 2:05:42 AM
To be honest I love anal sex but very few women will do it with me and the ones who do are in pain. I go very slow and use a lot of lube but it doesn't seem to make any difference.
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