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 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 40
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That's just SO WRONG. Personal bodily functions are NOT a couple's activity! Put a lock on that door and/or if you can, get a second 'toidy area' in the basement! The problem then becomes 'Why won't she CLOSE THE DOOR when she's doing HER thing?' I think SHE is the one who needs to compromise on THIS particular issue. I suspect you will have other BOUNDARY issues in the future if you don't figure THIS one out.
 RubyWaxxx
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 41
Leaving The Bathroom Door Open
Posted: 11/19/2010 9:32:59 PM
EWWWWWWWWW!!!!
 Island home
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/19/2010 10:01:52 PM
OP I think she is just getting herself in the right frame of mind for when she has to wipe it for you in your old age

On second though maybe its that she imagines she may require you to perform that service for her
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/20/2010 12:39:05 AM
NO WAY is it ok to leave the door open, or be present when someone is doing #2. (I'm not too picky about #1, and usually leave the door open for that (unless I have company over), but I would certainly respect an SO if he was uncomfortable with that. But I certainly would draw the line at #2. I honestly don't think I would be physically able to go if my SO was in the room with me. Talk about a romance killer.

Familiarity breeds contempt. There IS such a thing as being TOO close to your SO.
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 11/20/2010 8:06:23 AM
You may have issues a round this , but they are nothing compared to her's.
Her obvious lack of boundaries and basic respect is NOT good. She doesn't get to say what's right for you.
Had it been me, I'd have escorted her out by the arm and shut the door after myself and locked it. If she had an issue with that afterwards, I'd have escorted her out of the front door.
 17outdoors
Joined: 11/13/2010
Msg: 45
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Posted: 11/20/2010 9:28:00 AM
I had some boyfriends that would leave the door open when they were taking a leak. But never when they were taking a dump. I wouldn't expect them to leave the door open either.
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 46
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Posted: 11/20/2010 10:00:59 AM
I leave the door open as well sometimes, but I don't expect others to (plus I live on my own) and frankly I wouldn't want to be in the bathroom while they are going for a crap. I also tease men I've dated who don't like to eat with their hands , but it's not something I try to change or make some big deal out of - why would I?! It's so unsubstantial. I don't see how seeing someone on the toilet offers anything to the whole "being open" thing either.

But yeah, allow me to leave the door open (this also depends on where the bathroom is in the house - for example I would close it if my partner had a super clear view of me from the general areas of the house, I mean c'mon) and allow him to close the door.

That said, people do have to realize that you usually have to alter and accept new habits when living with someone new. I've lived with some pretty annoying folks, and it taught me how to be more relaxed about things. One must be flexible.

I'm not embarassed about my body or any of that stuff so these things don't bother me, but I don't want someone hanging out in the bathroom with me the whole time. But if someone makes a request of me, it is a request and why should I not respect that?

As for this whole mystery garbage? Well try living with someone with IBS, colitis etc., there's no place for mystery and being a wuss about that. Look it up. Imagine how those folks must feel with everyone being all disgusted. Just saying.

My grandfather actually "helped" my grandmother "relieve" her constipation. I was there and heard it. I'd like to see some of you do that. That's real love lol. There may come a time when you have to deal with this stuff.
 damassteel
Joined: 7/22/2009
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Posted: 11/20/2010 12:01:55 PM
"My grandfather actually "helped" my grandmother "relieve" her constipation. I was there and heard it. I'd like to see some of you do that. That's real love lol. There may come a time when you have to deal with this stuff."

This falls under a concept known as "ethics of emergencies". It's an extraordinary situation requiring something other than "everyday" ways of handling things; this is NOT what's at issue here!
 Steveo480
Joined: 5/27/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 11/20/2010 12:05:31 PM
Heres what you do... Eat a bunch of develed eegs and beans and drink beer, then the next day go take a dump with her in the bathroom and once the smell gets to her she will never want to be in there with you ever again
 CompletelyDone
Joined: 8/12/2007
Msg: 49
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Posted: 11/21/2010 3:40:27 AM
No you want to keep the sexy sexy..that is NOT sexy.

I bet she likes to play video games in bed ..* rolls eyes*

I have had this discussion with male and female friends..Some think I am being ridiculous but most agree . Somethings should not be shared between lovers.

Staying lovers is the idea..isn't it?

Separate is best but if you have to share shut the dang door and keep it fresh.

Come on who wants to be taking a romantic inducing rose bath with candles waiting to drape yourself in something arousing and have BF or hubby wander in and take a big one?

Bleh...........


Well said PrettyPetunia (msg. 114)!!!

I've often wondered what people are thinking to boot their modesty and sensuality out of their long term relationships in exchange for... what? Proof that we are COMPLETELY NATURELLE and one with the Universe if we indulge our lovers in our every function?? I don't think so folks...

I think it serves as a truly unnecessary and rather unpleasant reminder that our maker parked our recreational area a little too close to the sewage plant!! I don't know about you but that is NOT the image I want to have on my way into the bedroom... particularly if he's just done everything in front of me.... UGH!!!

REMEMBER... WHAT HAS BEEN SEEN, CANNOT BE UNSEEN!!!
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
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Posted: 11/21/2010 11:44:09 AM
Dropping a Deuce is definitely a very private moment. As said by numerous post boundries are boundries. We all know what humans have to do, doesn't mean we have to witness all things. You very rarely her a woman fart, but we know they do.

I always remember a funny comment a friend made years ago, he said "You know the honeymoon is over when you are standing there shaving and your wife comes in a takes a sh1t".

As for me, I prefer my privacy, but not to the extreme, when nature calls, you go were ever you are at.

During the first Gulf War, they had built these out houses in the rear, 4 seaters with the seats so close your legs would touch, and ony wood half way up, thet screen the rest, and those were the nice ones.

Definitely not for the shy or timid. LOL
 daynadaze
Joined: 2/11/2008
Msg: 51
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Posted: 11/21/2010 1:12:47 PM
I wish I hadn't chosen to read this thread while eating my lunch so I'm skipping the reading and just saying, why would you want to share this experience. Leave it open or closed according to your personal feelings but to demand to share the shyte, WTF??? I would not be dating someone who didn't get the concept of when I shut the door, don't enter.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 52
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Posted: 11/21/2010 8:18:49 PM
msg.135:
This is one of the best feed back on this thread. I wouldn't ask advice or make this bathroom experienced as a debate. I will tell the person that I need to use the bathroom in private if he doesn't get it ,I will escort him out side the bathroom and lock the door. Couples sleep together ,shared their bodies, to each other, but they are entitled to some privacy, their toilet business,mails , ect.. those are the few matters that I know..
I don't share with a my late husband , when I use the bathroom, putting makeup on or changing clothes . These are very private moment for me.. I let him zip up my back zipper and that is all.

I guessed the OP"s girlfriend enjoy smelling an encrement scent..
 06mc69
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 53
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Posted: 11/22/2010 12:35:04 AM
I for one respect privacy!! I would enjoy my own privacy in the bathroom!! Whether it's using the toilet or showering!
 thetrick123
Joined: 7/16/2010
Msg: 54
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Posted: 12/11/2010 8:53:27 AM
She is being waaaay over the line with this, taking a quick pee is one thing, but if your not (and I don't blame you) into having a BM in front of your G/F then you really need to explain to her that "sometimes" we all need a little privacy!!! Being a couple does not necessairly mean you have to share everything...NOT THAT anyhow! Maybe in time you'll get use to the idea, I know I never would. Peeing is one thing, I can do that in front of just about anyone..if I have too. Does she want you in the bathroom to watch her change her Easyglide tampons and take douche every month? I bet you'll enjoy that as well.... Somethings should be kept private, BM's and Tampon, and douches are but a few of them. Tell her your just not comfortable with this, maybe later on after you and she get use to each other you'll think differently. Probably not, but ya never know.
 licoricecat_1
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 55
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Posted: 12/11/2010 11:38:12 AM
When you move in with someone---you begin to see how they really live. Respect is something that is important and so are boundaries. Some couples feel comfortable leaving the door open and others don't. Respect eachothers boundaries and don't sweat the small stuff. Boundaries need to be followed on both sides and it is a matter of adjusting to eachothers quirks. When something is intolerable----it's time to move on because you are not compatible. Give a little on both sides. Communication is key.
 ManeRider
Joined: 5/22/2005
Msg: 56
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Posted: 12/11/2010 7:29:04 PM
I actually think it's cute to watch a girl peeing on the toilet. Do I want to netertain her taking a dump? Probably not....but...

I think the OP is what's called a "Shy Pee-er". I don't like peeing next to guys, and will avoid that, but it doesn't bother me to be peeing next to a girl. So, to a degree, I think the girl has a point in not being so challenged about being in the same bathroom together. It's what separates that relationship (with the opposite sex) from all others. AND, a lot of master bathrooms are, by design, very open; ie; transparent glass shower walls instead of opaque, toilet rooms with half walls and no doors, etc. Some people simply believe in a much more open bathroom environment. Try going to Europe. There are coed bathroom in public places. Imagine using the potty or washing your hands next to women or men you've never met. But, in some ways, it's a much more freeing environment.
 Janet_Always
Joined: 12/7/2010
Msg: 57
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Posted: 12/11/2010 8:50:05 PM
everyone is different with privacy issues and I don't believe there's a right or wrong... just find a compatible and you'll be fine.
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