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 Dee4166
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All I have to say is YUCK!!!! lol
 wolftxusa66
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Posted: 1/23/2015 9:53:19 AM
I missed which page contained the signup sheet. Pick me, pick me!
 basilisk123
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Posted: 1/23/2015 10:49:14 AM
I don't think I could let a woman give me head as a business transaction. That is such a turn off.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
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Posted: 1/23/2015 12:01:32 PM
What you guys and galls fail to see is the value of a casual blowjob with your significant other. You're driving down the road talking about what to pick up for dinner when she unzips you and whammy! Or you are trying some new shirt or something and she gets inside the dressing room and whammy, gets you again. It makes you very weary of being alone in elevators.
 honeycognac
Joined: 11/22/2010
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Posted: 1/23/2015 10:15:02 PM
@InnerGorilla what you're referring to I'd call a spontaneous or impromptu blow job and in a committed relationship I think those are fantastic.
@basilisk I'm glad there are still men like you around.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
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Posted: 1/24/2015 12:09:27 AM
She was paying in kind for the services he gave. I cant imagine a woman enjoying bjs with a man who was not even really attracted to her and there was no pretense at any affection or intimacy but it takes all kinds I guess. My neighbours are happy to do favours for me without any thought of compensation, certainly not sexual and I am happy to reciprocate where I can, but not demean myself on my knees with sexual favours so cold and clinical. WOmen get paid good money for doing just what she does and I hope she thinks it is a fair trade..... ugghh..
 Dee4166
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Posted: 1/24/2015 6:45:12 AM

what you're referring to I'd call a spontaneous or impromptu blow job and in a committed relationship I think those are fantastic.


TOTALLY different animal from prostituting yourself for yardwork....
 nocrapzone
Joined: 1/10/2015
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Posted: 1/24/2015 12:34:27 PM
Hmm, what about casual "salad - tossing "..or casual reaming?
 petula1908
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Posted: 1/28/2015 9:08:04 PM
nyceguy85

There is so much wrong with the statement you made on more than one level. Uggh..
 gtomustang
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Posted: 1/29/2015 12:27:32 PM
I can understand the surprise of a friend confessing something, and thinking, "wow, I'd never do that, I'm surprised you would." Otherwise....its two consenting adults agreeing to a barter. Instead of, say, a bag of home-grown or a case of home-brew or a trade of manual labor for an antique item like you'd see on a TV show on the Discovery Channel, its....well, something you might see on the Playboy Channel :)

If a woman wants a certain sensation in her mouth, I guess it beats taking up smoking :)
 basilisk123
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Posted: 1/29/2015 3:32:04 PM
Yeah, but my feelings is, if she is gonna do it, I want her to want to do it, not as a services rendered payment. As soon as she goes "I'll do this for that, I feel that she doesn't want me. She is just cheap, and doesn't have much self respect.

But, I guess that is one of the reason's I can't get laid...
Co worker suggested I get a prostitute because I have been in a deep funk lately, but the fact that I had to get a prostitute would make me feel worse.
You just can't win sometimes(sigh)
 calguy14
Joined: 8/17/2014
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Posted: 1/30/2015 7:56:44 AM
I think both were doing favors out of the goodness of their hearts.
 south_city
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Posted: 4/7/2015 9:40:06 PM

A friend of mine (single father) used to live next door to a widow who had kids the same age as his and the kids were friends. He would give them rides, mow her lawn, and clear the snow off her driveway. She offered to give him BJ's and since he didn't have a woman in his life, he accepted.


I heard a similar story when I was in college. A man did a woman's homework for her. She would give him BJs in return. I don't know if that was true. But if it was and both people were satisfied with the arrangement, then more power to them.
 Eric_Summit
Joined: 11/3/2009
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Posted: 4/7/2015 10:01:44 PM

Posted by south_city:
"But if it was and both people were satisfied with the arrangement, then more power to them."

What two adults willingly do in the privacy of their own bedrooms is between them. Sheesh.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 4/8/2015 4:35:36 AM
^^ exactly!!

**hmmm....I have a couple ton of dirt that needs spread........
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
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Posted: 4/8/2015 11:00:36 AM
It comes to no surprise that I have no issue with casual blowjobs.

I care not for the whole "prostitution" aspect that many want to attach to it. I'll do whatever I want, I don't see it as something obscured. We are all prostituting anyway, we come to work for a paycheck right? We didn't just decide to volunteer our time to create a better society or to support the functionality of such. We are all exchanging our time for money or benefits. Someone is benefiting all the time whether we like it or not. You sit in front of a couch consuming energy (which you must pay for), watching a TV you bought (with money), to spike the ratings of the show (from which they make money), you pay for all of the entertainment while someone makes money off of that.

I don't mind arrangements in which we mutually benefit, we already live in that kind of system.

But we're living in times where everything is a picture, a posting, a blogging, so there is no privacy and no one can be trusted to keep anything to themselves.

Last summer, my friend and I planned to go to a dine-in movie. When I was on my way to see her, she told me that she invited her friend and hope I don't mind. I don't like last minute changes of plans, especially when it means we won't be able to talk openly in the present of someone I don't know, but whatever. I said ok as I was already on my way, otherwise I would have cancelled. She then tells me that her friend and her are FWB, I was already uncomfortable. I didn't need to know the nature of their relationship nor that I'd practically be a third wheel to a "date" really. She learned her lesson that day when I told her off and made her drop me off home after I'd travel all the way to bubblef*ck Fleetwood to meet her, just to be a witness to their shenanigans. She hasn't done it ever since.

She could have kept it to herself and they could have played it off as friends, and I wouldn't have minded.
 gtomustang
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Posted: 4/8/2015 11:54:56 AM
silly, overthinking, trivia question: what was it that was bothersome?

knowing a secret that isn't your business and didn't make the situation any more palitable?

being burdened with the secret?

feeling like your friends were using you to heighten the thrill?

already being burdened, and now this was a straw on the camel's back?

like you said, you're not usually disturbed by arrangements that benefit, and here was someone calling a spade a spade. was it the truth that was annoying, or the lack of mutual benefit, or...?

and obviously, you can choose to avoid the question--there'll probably be 50 posts taking this thread in 30 directions by the time I return to see if there's an answer.
 DeepakTolle
Joined: 4/3/2015
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Posted: 4/8/2015 12:06:33 PM

A friend of mine (single father) used to live next door to a widow who had kids the same age as his and the kids were friends. He would give them rides, mow her lawn, and clear the snow off her driveway. She offered to give him BJ's and since he didn't have a woman in his life, he accepted


If I found her attractive I would've preferred having the option to perform on her.

But , of course, if she just HAD to blow me then of course I would allow that also.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
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Posted: 4/8/2015 12:31:56 PM

and obviously, you can choose to avoid the question--there'll probably be 50 posts taking this thread in 30 directions by the time I return to see if there's an answer.


I think this demand the standard deviation of arguments, name calling, catty snipes that we have going on practically any other thread that is active.

Wait.

Let me get some pop corn and a cold one.

Ready.
 BelleAtlantic
Joined: 11/7/2012
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Posted: 4/8/2015 12:42:32 PM

silly, overthinking, trivia question: what was it that was bothersome?

The fact that I wanted to spend time with my friend and we had plans to meet. No third person was involved in our original plans and I was not given sufficient time to decline it.


knowing a secret that isn't your business and didn't make the situation any more palitable?

I don't care about the secret itself, but I don't see a reason why he needed to come along, it made the whole experience uncomfortable, acting all coupled and sh*t. Please spare me the BS, lol.


being burdened with the secret?

No, I don't care what other people choose to do, just don't do it with me there. I didn't sign up for that. Many of my friends are couples and I have no issue hanging out with them, but that's my choice, it wasn't a choice made for me in advance.


feeling like your friends were using you to heighten the thrill?

No, likely he pressured her into being invited as he was likely not doing anything at the time. She probably told him what we had planned, and he decided to tag along. She knew that I'd decline the invitation if she deviated from our plans, so she told me at the last minute, sort of trapping me in the situation.


already being burdened, and now this was a straw on the camel's back?

I'm a very straight forward person, and because she did that to me, I made it as uncomfortable as possible for him. He wanted to pry into my business about me being single and that he has a couple of friends, and I told him I don't date people of his culture and enumerated the reasons why. I spoke to her in English the whole time (while he doesn't speak English), she kept translating to him, I didn't give a damn, I wasn't going to change who I am to accommodate him, he was not part of my plans, so f*ck him, that's what you get for tagging along uninvited.

He was extremely upset and didn't say a word for the rest of the trip, and she profusely apologized for what she did (through text).


like you said, you're not usually disturbed by arrangements that benefit, and here was someone calling a spade a spade. was it the truth that was annoying, or the lack of mutual benefit, or...?

What was annoying is me having to endure their couple-dom when that's not what I signed up for. This is a friend I see about 2-3 times a year, precisely because we both have busy schedules. We know each other since High School and she should have known better. She didn't have the spine to say "no" to him, and to tell me in advance, so she imposed his presence on me. I don't owe him anything, he is nothing of mine, and he learned it that day.


and obviously, you can choose to avoid the question--there'll probably be 50 posts taking this thread in 30 directions by the time I return to see if there's an answer.


I'm not that busy right now, It's Spring Break.
 Axis555
Joined: 3/29/2015
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Posted: 4/11/2015 7:41:45 AM
I don't like the idea that something that isn't supposed to be casual people try to act like it can.
I suppose it may just be me but oh well. Last girl I was dating asked if I wanted to the first time we met, I turned it down.
I just feel it is disrespectful in a way, to expect or even ask to do something that I'd consider more intimate without barely even knowing the person. I'm not a porn star!
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
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Posted: 4/11/2015 8:00:50 AM
axis,
you are not alone.
I have the same concerns.
No matter how erotic or arousing, introducing sex, of any sort, too early into a relationship doesn't seem like the right thing to do. Physical intimacy is too powerful and it has the ability to overwhelm the emotional and rational elements of a newly budding relationship.
Yes, let the flames begin expounding the wisdom of first date sex and how you've been together for decades, et cetera et cetera, et cetera.

TK
 drinkthesunwithmyface
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Posted: 4/11/2015 11:35:50 AM

A friend of mine (single father) used to live next door to a widow who had kids the same age as his and the kids were friends. He would give them rides, mow her lawn, and clear the snow off her driveway. She offered to give him BJ's and since he didn't have a woman in his life, he accepted. She told him that she loved to suck and swallow. I was horrified that it was a hooker-style transaction - he didn't even try to undress her, kiss or fondle her etc. It seemed very cold and selfish to me and he admitted that it was, but that she seemed to genuinely enjoy it. What also offended me was that he told me he was not at all attracted to her. I could never have done such a thing, but eventually I accepted that everyone is different and I had no right to judge. It was their little secret they kept from the neighbourhood and the kids. And it was a release for him. Better than masturbating I guess. But with no connection - shudder.

Whether it's true in this particular case or not, though it seems that it is, what you have to understand is that the woman probably considers it to be a bargain. For some, giving a man head is a very easy thing to do instead of physical chores. This isn't something that I'd ever care for personally, but that's beside the point.

That he wasn't attracted to her, didn't try to do anything else with her, and it was a cold transaction...isn't something that you could be offended by. It's not your place to be offended one way or the other by something like this. No one committed any offense upon you. You weren't involved or affected. But that you don't think that this is how men and women should relate to each other, I'd agree with. That you wouldn't like something like this, I'd agree with also. I personally feel that it's kind of "eeww", but it's not something that I could be offended by.

I don't think I could let a woman give me head as a business transaction. That is such a turn off.

Same here. Big time.

What you guys and galls fail to see is the value of a casual blowjob with your significant other. You're driving down the road talking about what to pick up for dinner when she unzips you and whammy! Or you are trying some new shirt or something and she gets inside the dressing room and whammy, gets you again. It makes you very weary of being alone in elevators.


what you're referring to I'd call a spontaneous or impromptu blow job and in a committed relationship I think those are fantastic.


TOTALLY different animal from prostituting yourself for yardwork....

Yes. Correct. Part of a Relationship, not casual or a business transaction. Different animal.

Yeah, but my feelings is, if she is gonna do it, I want her to want to do it, not as a services rendered payment. As soon as she goes "I'll do this for that, I feel that she doesn't want me. She is just cheap, and doesn't have much self respect.

Again...on the one hand, we don't personally like this as a business transaction. But on the other hand, one can't necessarily consider her cheap or lacking of self respect. She is just viewing sexual activity in a different way.

I care not for the whole "prostitution" aspect that many want to attach to it. I'll do whatever I want, I don't see it as something obscured. We are all prostituting anyway, we come to work for a paycheck right? We didn't just decide to volunteer our time to create a better society or to support the functionality of such. We are all exchanging our time for money or benefits. Someone is benefiting all the time whether we like it or not. You sit in front of a couch consuming energy (which you must pay for), watching a TV you bought (with money), to spike the ratings of the show (from which they make money), you pay for all of the entertainment while someone makes money off of that.

I don't mind arrangements in which we mutually benefit, we already live in that kind of system.

I disagree. I don't think that we all do what we do just so we'll get our end of the benefits. It may be necessary to do or give in order to get, so that our world will go 'round, but the intentions of many of us might be more than just getting our end of things.

Also, I think that this is mis-using the term "prostitution". I don't think that it's useful to use "prostitution" for any and all symbiotic transactions. It's ok to not have a problem with giving head as a business transaction, but I think that mis-defining this term is from an attempt to legitimize sex as a business transaction, and that just might not be necessary. "Prostitution" should be reserved for, and is intended to refer to, more specific kinds of activity...

- Something like, say, if I were famous and I used my name to promote and endorse a product which I didn't really know much about or didn't really feel was as good as I say that it is in the commercials that I star in for it.

- If I give a service or product at a greatly lowered price out of desperation, or do something that I don't like or agree with personally out of desperation.

- And when sex is involved as a soley physical biological service in return for something else unrelated. Some of us embrace an instinct that sex is, or should be, part of a bigger mutual Relationship instead. For us, this just seems like some kind of sacrilege. Or dishonesty. Demeaning or disrespecting what sex should be.
 Dee4166
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Posted: 4/11/2015 12:20:04 PM
pros·ti·tu·tion
?präst?'t(y)o?oSH(?)n/
noun
noun: prostitution

the practice or occupation of engaging in sexual activity with someone for payment.
synonyms: the sex trade, the sex industry, whoring, streetwalking, sex tourism; More
informalthe oldest profession, hooking, hustling;
datedwhoredom;
archaicharlotry
"they claim that the casino industry only encourages prostitution in the area"
the unworthy or corrupt use of one's talents for the sake of personal or financial gain.

I really LOVE words....

I also appreciate when they are used as intended, that's why we have words....

Casual blowjobs are one thing, if that turns you on....

If you're exchanging sex for money or goods, then that is called prostitution, and again, if that's what a woman wants to do....More power to her, I, personally, believe that it should be legalized...
But let's call a spade a spade, because that IS what it is....

Another point is...whatever happened to doing something for someone just to be NICE????
My sister is a single Mom in her mid-fifties and her neighbour, who is a married man, will clear her driveway in the winter, when he does his own, he has also cut down several of her trees for her because he knows that she is a single Mom who is on her own, etc.

He has never ONCE asked for or even hinted at ANY kind of payment....although she did invite him and his wife over several times for a BBQ as a return kindness....

More disturbing is when I discovered that there's a new 'trend' if you will, where young girls are doing this in order to get guys to date them, buy them stuff etc.

They believe that it's 'no big deal', as it's not REALLY sex...and look at it as a way to NOT be considered a 'slut'....Unfortunately, they often still ARE considered to be so, and worse...they are treating themselves and both of their bodies as objects to be used for personal gain....Tit for tat....so to speak....

In it's best incarnation sex should be what others have said...a sharing of pleasure between consenting adults for the purpose of mutual pleasure and to express a certain feeling, ie. love, lust, playfulness, etc. within the context of a mutually respectful relationship...It can also be a sacred thing, and is one of the few connections between human beings, unlike most other animals, that is used in order to cement a bond between people and not just for procreation...

I'm ALL for casual sex, if that's your thing, and have had some pretty wonderful encounters myself, but despite the lack of a committed relationship, there was still a mutual desire to pleasure each other and enjoy each other on a level playing field...All was open and honest, we were both clear about what was happening and most importantly, there was a mutual respect....and NO objectification. Both of us were more than the sum of our body parts...

If this woman feels that she is getting something for her efforts and hey, maybe it does turn her on, too, it still appears to me to be an objectification on both sides....Her mouth and his penis are the 'objects' in question....

As long as money and/or goods and/or services are exchanged as a result ...then it is what it is....I'm thinking that having no problem with the action, should be more important than the terminology that is used to describe it....jmo
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Posted: 4/11/2015 3:19:41 PM
Dee4166
I think that the mature person is more likely to offer their services and neighbourliness without a sexual agenda. Especially a married man living in close quarters. I have had the same experience with my male neighbour and we do little favours for each other because we want to.

Some females feel that their sexuality is their only real value and use it to get what they want in life. Whilst a man will buy, a woman will sell and as long as everyone knows the deal, then fair enough. Whether it is "sexploitation" ?????in some case, probably.
A casual blow job in the carpark for a dinner and a night out with a virtual stranger, I have heard it happens but hopefully both parties enjoy the experience.
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