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 Yankee again
Joined: 1/26/2008
Msg: 32
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9.9 personality helps............LOL
 8soldierfalcon8
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 33
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 1:41:55 PM

On a scale of 1 - 10?

145.2




lol


I giggled
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 34
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 4:18:37 PM

I think most women on here are b.s'ing.

SagMan4u, just curious, why would you say that?
I think its very important to women as well, and just as much as us men.
But they need the emotional connection first, while some men just don't.
But if there's not emotional connection, then it makes sense that there is no Relationship either.

Everything else you say I'm in total agreement with! Good Job!
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 36
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How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 4:28:05 PM
if the sex or if a couple do not have the same sex drive the relationship is no more than at most a friendship, so i would give it a 10, like honesty, compatibility there 10's also
 P.R.Handgrenade69
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 38
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 4:32:53 PM
When men inspire women to 'let go' in bed, when they are really interested in pleasing a woman, they could be having the sex that means just that much to them. Sometimes men are so into their pleasure that they forget that there is another person in the room and that happens to be the person that rides you, is underneath you, with you in the shower, with you in the kitchen......sometimes it isn't the woman that sucks but the man in the bed with her.

On a scale of 1-10, I give it 10. A rose just isn't a rose by any other name......
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 40
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 7:36:14 PM
Alv2.0

I think I'm a food-aholic. If I'm not eating, I'm either thinking of what to cook, or cooking. It's seriously a huge distraction. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

I call people like you 'foodies'. Replace 'food' with 'sex' in your statement, and thats me! A GF of mine loved sex and was quite horny, but her first love was food... and I never understood that. Good food vs orgasm... how can they even compare??

OT - Sex is NOT everything in a relationship, but it most definitely is SOMETHING. If its good it wont make a relationship work, but if its bad it will most likely destroy it. For those of us who are 35+ and have have a variety of past relationships, I think sexual compatibility (whether you want a lot or a little) is very important. We've all had some bad relationships and now know more of that we want out of one. We might not be looking for marriage, probably arent looking to start a family so why would we settle for someone that isnt in tune with us in many (all?) ways - including sex?
 bebe_doll
Joined: 3/20/2008
Msg: 42
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 10:32:22 PM
Like my license plate says... XTREMELY!! LOL.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 43
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 11:08:41 PM
[qoute]Sex is not important at all in a relationship.
You could play hop-scotch together,or bake cookies,sing show-tunes.....
There are so many wonderful things you could do together!
I'd say sex is a 1 on a scale from 1-10 on a scale of romance.

Sex is not important, or helpful, for most in those up-front efforts to establish a relationship, and you probably won't get to the relationship without hopping some scotch, baking snickerdoodles and singing some Streisand, but once you're there, and that relationship is born, then you get this delightful view:



Like my license plate says... XTREMELY!! LOL.


I have tried every path, even cut a few myself, to get to "Extremely" without touching the cookie bases, and the only one, that only works with some special ladies, and not even always with them, is to provide them with an orgasm from a distance. There are a few different ways to do this, but the simplest, if you can do so without offending her, is to send her a toy. You must be at least somewhat connected with her before you do such an outrageous thing, but if you can pull it off, the chances are that she will have at least a fleeting thought of you as show cums- if you can get to that place, in her head, the drawbridge will drop, and you can fairly stroll into her castle, laugh at the crocodiles in her moat, and wave to the archers in her parapets.


 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 45
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How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/23/2009 11:41:15 PM
If the rest of the relationship is harmonious and fun? Sex is a 5. If the rest of the relationship is filled with torment? Sex is a 10. There's got to be some pleasure there to make up for the pain.
 april *
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 48
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 12:30:55 AM
very important.
 katlynne38
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 49
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 12:37:36 AM
Very, very important to me. I want to be in a monogamous relationship with a man who enjoys sex three to four times a week and isn't afraid to try new things. I tend to like to initiate sex and believe that guys like that.
 sailor-
Joined: 3/16/2008
Msg: 50
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How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:03:09 AM
extremely important ..even at my age !!
 livingwithoutyou
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 52
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 9:32:26 AM
What is the relationship if there is no sex?
 Kellirc
Joined: 4/3/2009
Msg: 55
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:16:46 AM
Sex is really important, to me anyways. Ive been seeing this guy for over 2 years, and he has a problem with getting it up. I mean, i can be totally naked, in lingerie or whatever, and he still cant get it up. at first i thought it was me, but then i came to realize that it wasnt me at all. and he wont admit that he has a problem. Thats when i decided to see what else is out there. So far, no such luck!! LOL
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 56
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:30:01 AM
Kellirc: I read with much dismay what you just wrote. Please....do me a favor? Listen just for a second. Is this guy you've been seeing for 2 years a good man? You sound like a great woman yourself. Why don't you give him a fair chance and ask him to see a doctor to find out if the problem is medical or perhaps psychological. From what I"ve been reading and hearing (NO...NOT THE VIAGRA COMMERCIALS!!!!!) there is a lot than can be done in that area. But, you both have to be open and honest and seek out help. Please do it. For your own good. There will be plenty of men around if it doesn't work out for you. There always is. But give Love a chance. After all 2 years says something!!!!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 57
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:36:21 AM
Self-diagnosis, as well as lay diagnosis of a significant other, is fraught with error and peril.

Ive been seeing this guy for over 2 years, and he has a problem with getting it up. I mean, i can be totally naked, in lingerie or whatever, and he still cant get it up. at first i thought it was me, but then i came to realize that it wasnt me at all. and he wont admit that he has a problem. Thats when i decided to see what else is out there. So far, no such luck!! LOL


Lingerie, or whatever adds little, really, to my response; the right woman, in a burlap sack, may have me at the point of orgasm with a gesture, not even a touch, or a wink, or a whisper; the wrong woman, in the most expensive original designer ensemble, or even nude, will elicit little more than a yawn, a quick glance at the clock on the wall, and a probably fictitious reason why I need to be elsewhere, and I'm already late.
And in the course of human events, the right woman last month is not necessarily gonna do the trick today.

Sure, if he's just not into you enough to raise his joint, by all means, look elsewhere, but don't leap to justify your behavior by his underwhelming response to you. You may meet it in the next guy as well.
 mydoggie
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 59
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:15:32 AM
Its important but I don't know if its a deal breaker. There are too many other aspects in a relationship that I don't know if it would even be the most important one.
 GoodmanGreg
Joined: 11/24/2007
Msg: 60
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:16:10 AM

It's not a relationship....It's merely something to pass the time.

Thats one thing I'll agree with you on.
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 62
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:25:48 AM
I think it is very important to connect intimately with someone you have feelings for it brings people closer and is nourishing emotionally providing it is in a relationship that is built on integrity, respect and sincere feelings.
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 64
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 2:11:14 PM
It's important, but there need to be other areas you click in. If the relationship is too much about sex, and nothing else, it tends to burn out eventually. You need to truly care about each other, not just each other's genitalia.
 outofthedesert
Joined: 6/3/2008
Msg: 66
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 4:41:27 PM
Sex is only 10% of a relationship but if it isn't there or it isn't satisfactory, then it becomes 90% of the problem.

I personally hope to find a man who agrees that sex will be a very healthy part of our relationship.
 cdeluca0331
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 68
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:48:57 PM
Mirabelle13

I couldn't agree with you more....thank you..
 saxon1234
Joined: 6/23/2007
Msg: 70
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:14:35 PM
Sex is extremely important to me,there is no scale, kissing is # 2 and cuddling is a close #3. I was in love with an evangelical lady in Santa Clarita who we had sex for the 1st 9 months then she decided after meeting with her Bible girlfriends to be "pure". When she broke up with me 2 years ago I told her even with sex or no sex I hung in there rather then walk away from my hearts desire. It hurt all the same but even more so because the "cat was out of the bag" and I believed that we were doing GODs will and leading to marriage. We went out for almost 2 years. I believe if I am in a monogamous relationship leading to marriage at my age its between me the other Christian woman and GOD to judge. When girlfriend # 2 lied to me saying she loved me all the while having sex with another person I ended the relationship. Sex is a gift from GOD and I respect it, when we decide to have sex only with each other then that's our decision, if your under 20, 30 or 40 then you should wait to have sex in marriage for having children, if you are over 40 and 50, 60, and so forth then its between 2 adults Christians and GOD. That does not mean to engage in casual sex and drop the other person in a month and move on to another lover, but a deep and fulfilling love that GOD intended. I reserve my love for the one the Lord is sending and I will know by her kiss. I want a full time committed monogamous Christian relationship living GODs word and following Christs example. If anyone wants to get on a high holy horse then they are casting stones when they themselve live in glass houses.
 Ssongbird
Joined: 3/19/2009
Msg: 71
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:41:20 PM
This might be one of the strangest answers but: I can take it or leave it. For example I could be in a fabulous relationship with a guy with such problems that Viagra couldn't even help and be fine, but if you're gonna get me all worked up it better be good.
 koitree
Joined: 1/21/2009
Msg: 72
How Important is Sex in a Relationship????
Posted: 5/25/2009 12:33:56 AM
VERY important --- !! You can be best buddies with someone you don't have sex with, and you can be in love with someone you don't have sex with, but if you're a healthy adult, you're going to want sex, and if your partner doesn't want sex or doesn't want it as much as you do...that's a problem. Vice versa, too.
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