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 StarreGazer
Joined: 2/21/2007
Msg: 24
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Msg: 25 -- Damn what ever happened to "Discretion"? If a chick wanted
to jump my bones and wanted discretion then her wish is my command. Or
was this a trick question.


"Discretion"? What is that? Any time I see a man and woman together I
automatically presume they have slept together at LEAST once and think
nothing of it. The discretion is more on my part than theirs, in SPITE
of my presumption, which remains private as well. The opinion is MINE
alone and has no intent of bias toward them.
 TampaRays
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 26
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:37:25 PM
Hey, it's sometime like riding a moped, it's fun but you never want anybody to see you riding it.
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 27
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 5/28/2009 3:42:05 PM
In many cases, a man doesn't want to date or be seen with unattractive woman. But he would will have sex with an unattractive woman because of the following reasons.

1. He was drunk
2. He was horny
3. A woman aggressively went him and she was "easy".
4. He was desperate / has low esteeem and felt he couldn't do any better

In other cases, a man could be attracted to a woman. But is concerned about what other people might think. This could happen when there is large age difference, interracial relationship, one person is significantly overweight etc.
 LivinLovinAndLaughin
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 31
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:12:10 AM
This is a topic in which I've become aware, PERSONALLY. Sex isn't something I give away freely, and when it is given, there is a reason. Attraction! And the "attraction" includes, liking what I see, wanting to get to know more about the person, because what I see already, I like. I guess I'm not up to date on WHY, it doesn't go both ways.
Are some men really so shallow that this is ALL they are looking for?
 LivinLovinAndLaughin
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 35
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 8/9/2009 10:03:36 AM
Above poster.... I fully understand some looking ONLY for sexual encounter, etc. BUT... as for POF... It plainly asks you to state what you're looking for. This being the case, why would one looking for the sexual encounter approach someone who is looking for a LTR, and vice-versa. Do some think this "let me see if I can get her in the sack and move on?" A conquest? I also know some ladies who do this as well. So don't think I'm picking on the men here.

I'm just saying if it say's they're looking for a LTR. Assume it to be so.
Just like, if it says they're looking for an intimate encounter we KNOW this is the ONLY thing they are looking for. So why even bother with them if you're not looking for the same? Just as if you don't want someone who is a BBW, yet you seek them out. You don't want a drug user, but you still chat. If I've ever learned one thing in my dating experiences is MOST will state what they want. If a guy says, I'm NOT looking for a relationship. This is what they mean. Yet, I hear women say, Ohhhhh... I can change that. Why would you want to do that? They told you from the start the truth. But then they cry and say "I don't know what I've done" HAH.. silly!

I guess I'm just old school who say's what she means, and expects the same of others.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 36
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 8/9/2009 10:46:20 AM

This pretains to men and women. Why do some think that a person is good enough for sex but not good enough to take out in public? I have come across men and woman who think this way. I don't have sex with anyone that I would not be caught dead in public with. If you are ashamed to be seen in public with them, why would you have sex with them?


Never bumped into this quandary, OP. Just the opposite, actually, as I've always looked for ways to have some sort of sex with her in public. Sometimes, THAT's a problem, but only because of her inhibitions. lol
 ready_red25078
Joined: 7/23/2009
Msg: 37
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:32:20 PM
you don't have to have me on your arm, but you can't be ashamed to see seen with me, odds are your gonna be seen with me in public or by peeps either one of use know before you get to screw my brains out
 LivinLovinAndLaughin
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 39
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 8/10/2009 1:36:15 PM
^^^^^OUCH!

My thoughts on that is TOTALLY RIDICULOUS. If someone has a problem with MOST of the things discussed here, why would any PERSON waste their time being involved with an a$$ like that?

Sorry goofius... I apologize for all those. As apparantly they know not what they do!
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 42
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Good enough only for sex
Posted: 6/1/2010 5:22:18 AM
It's a selfish thing. If someone just wants sex, but doesn't want to be seen "in public" with that sex partner, they are just into the sex thing for themselves. Think about it for a second. They don't give a crap about the person, they just want their body or their services. Not a lot of respect present is there?

I know a person like this. I detest this in him very much. He doesn't have much self respect, or respect for others, for that matter. Karma is going to bite him big time. Not surprising, his circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller..duhhh.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 44
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 6/1/2010 9:00:32 AM
I am too good to be involved with group who would accept me as a member...cant remember who said this but it will come to me ... nope never been ashamed to be seen with anyone have had people in my life who thought they were better than me or others ..those people usually end up lower than most ...KARMA ...got to love it
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 45
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 6/1/2010 5:22:17 PM
Well, maybe these people your talking about are only looking for a 1 night stand and nothing more. But you are wondering why would they have sex with someone that would be considered less than attractive by most. Theres only 2 possibilities I can think of, and it could be both. There both rather desperate and affection starved. Or the one may feel sympathy for the less than attractive one to the point they moreless have sex with them only to please them. I once heard the person who feels the sympathy and does the deed refered to as a "good sexual semaritan" .
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 46
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 7/8/2010 7:23:46 AM
This has always been one of my pet peeves ... when I was a teen .. I was criticized for dating girls that were not in the social click ..not the most pretty girls ..its just the way I was ... well I later became friends with one of the jocks ..the popular guys ..the guys who were suppose to be fvcking the cheerleaders and the popular girls .. and fixed him up with my girl friends sister ... he didnt even know how to fvck ... he had an American Pie moment and lost it as soon as he touched it .. I just found that the other girls were more interesting than the popular drama queens ...
 Alekhinejr
Joined: 12/4/2009
Msg: 47
Good enough only for sex
Posted: 7/11/2010 1:21:35 AM
I wouldn't have sex with someone who I didn't like....and if I like them I would be seen in public with them....so I would guess that those people didn't like the people they screwed... :)
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