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 parrothead 13
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unfortunately you are often quite right. The feeling "less than" in the bedroom is a common affliction usually related to performance issues. Personally I like anyone who is confident in herself sexually or otherwise. Confidence to me is sexy and its also a desirable trait. Too bad lots of guys (and gals) fall into that trap of being afraid of confidence. Of course some folks are "overconfident" and thats irritating.
 Call me Ginny
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 77
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 1:54:38 PM

Sensuous is more about feelings. Sexy is about attitude. I prefer men who are compatible with me, regardless of age, as long as they're over 45. ......................... Some here got it. Some didn't.

Tru gold....True.

I haven't found men my age; since I'm 56, I guess I qualify as "older" too, to be intimidated by me. Certainly not from the quantity of responses I get.
Not a boast...I think most women on here get a lot. I've heard the ratio of men to women on POF is about 80/20.

Maybe the yongsters are, which is a good thing as far as I'm concerned. I do get the occasional proposition from an under 45 year old, (my cutoff age also; don't want to date anyone who could be my son....I mean I don't think I left any around, but as the guys say, that Ii know of....... ) but I just politely decline.
 Dancing_4_You
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 2:48:04 PM
well, he's a bit less than four years younger. no, neither of us find the other intimidating. go for it, it's worth it! sigh.......had almost forgotten. confidentially (!) a lot of the experience is new to me and to him. maybe we both now have time on our hands and on our side. was certainly not "expected". appreciated? went to bed last night, saying out loud "thank you G-d". he smiled "with" me. i felt HP was shining down on the two of us.

you ask what is "sexy" . to him and to me, i think intense, ongoing sensuality and lots of understanding and checking in with each other to make sure it's a safe place. has to include a developing friendship to make sure you know the person and not make him or her into an illusion. i suppose there is some natural ability or some skill mixed in with the intent of the souls involved. intelligence, honesty, compassion, strength of commitment, gentlessness, innate power shared on behalf of another person when needed, are all some of the key ingredients assisting my ability to relate in this way.
 Levi501s
Joined: 6/26/2007
Msg: 79
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 6:58:22 PM
I just can't leave it alone.

This is sexy:


Point well taken. Your opinion is welcome. And I understand your view.




Most men in general are intimidated by strong, independent women...


Anyone (male or female) who is strong and independent will gain other's respect -- not intimidation.

The term strong and independent is often misused for those that are bossy and bitter.


This not so much:


Most men in general are intimidated by strong, independent women...who in most situations are older and sexy...these women are SELF CONFIDENT and maybe the men don't have any confidence!!


~~~~~


Everyone, so far, has ignored the part in my first comment that says "the ability to enjoy making love no matter what your limitations may be".


I'll give it a shot.

The only "limitation" I have is another (female, just to be clear) participant. Granted I'm a bit picky, but time has shown the prudence of my deliberation.

However, I attempt to surmount those limitations, despite a lacking participant (Oh, no you dint!)



just a few joking thoughts
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 80
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 8:55:34 PM

The only "limitation" I have is another (female, just to be clear) participant. Granted I'm a bit picky, but time has shown the prudence of my deliberation.

However, I attempt to surmount those limitations, despite a lacking participant (Oh, no you dint!)


...Oh the thoughts....I am so tempted * where's my halo....did anyone see my halo*


...maeflowers
 caddboy
Joined: 6/28/2008
Msg: 81
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/3/2009 10:37:44 PM

...Oh the thoughts....I am so tempted * where's my halo....did anyone see my halo*


Don't you remember sending it to the cleaners.

Intimidated...... of course I am, especially by redheaded, green eyed beauties.
 LdyofIndy
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 82
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/4/2009 5:40:29 AM
Malestrome;
Just for clarification, for this thread:

Men under 45 are not even on my radar.

Men 45 to 59 are younger men.

Men over 60 are in my age category.

To those men in their 40's and 50's who are saying they have no limitations, I certainly hope not!

To the one who said I don't know men, you are wrong.

I don't shave and never have. Although there's nothing wrong with it. I've never had hairy legs. It's genetic. I color my hair, yes. I don't wear make-up except for eyebrow pencil and lip balm. I would never have posted this thread if I were a woman who was as unattractive as you seem to paint all women. When I take my regular morning walks, I still get flirted with by men of all ages. I have no body modifications and my body is still firm and in great shape, not just for my age, but for any age, because I have worked on having an attractive, active "old"age since I was 40.

All women are repulsive to you, so why even post in this thread? It was not about men your age, except in that they are the ones I date and who usually approach me. There are younger men who prefer older women and if it were only about sex, it certainly wouldn't last for years, as my relationships usually do. I am single by choice, not from lack of chances to re -marry. You say I don't know men, but I was married for many, many years and have children, grandchildren and one great grandchild . You on the other hand, know absolutely nothing about women.

You obviously have a problem with all women. Are you gay? Nothing wrong with being gay, if women are not your cup of tea. Good luck to you and I wish you love from whatever gender you prefer.

Levi; Thanks for the laughs! I like when you said, "No you dint". Cracked me up.
 Call me Ginny
Joined: 12/28/2008
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Posted: 6/4/2009 9:11:54 AM
Well said, Malestrome.
Any other reasonable female in here knows that I never, nor IMPLIED ALL women do this...........


Would that you were "older"

 LdyofIndy
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 84
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Posted: 6/4/2009 9:46:16 AM
Malestrome; You are confused. Am I capable of speaking english literature?? I'm sure that's not what you meant to say. Decent women wouldn't even have me? What on earth are you talking about and have you even read what this thread is about??

Read before you post. You implied that you have never married because women are beneath you. You named a sect? Is this your idea of speaking proper english? I didn't see you naming any sect? Religious sect? If you are speaking of some sort of sect, what has that got to do with the questions I presented?

I have no idea what you are saying. Sorry! But I respect your right to spout gibberish.
 Janet4ever
Joined: 4/14/2008
Msg: 85
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Posted: 6/4/2009 10:18:10 AM
I said:

The term strong and independent is often misused for those that are bossy and bitter.

You repeated it as:

Strong independent women are bossy and bitter. (I have no idea how that ties in with the subject)

You do have a way of turning things into what it is you want to see.

Perhaps now you may see more clearly how this does indeed "tie in with your subject".
 funky_phantom
Joined: 4/30/2009
Msg: 86
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Posted: 6/4/2009 10:28:07 AM

Malestrome; You are confused. Am I capable of speaking english literature?? I'm sure that's not what you meant to say. Decent women wouldn't even have me? What on earth are you talking about and have you even read what this thread is about??


Ummm..is ANYBODY capable of "speaking English literature?"
 eschec mat
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 87
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/4/2009 10:53:05 AM
Ummm..is ANYBODY capable of "speaking English literature?"
I competed in speaking competitions with English literature, does that count

I do find it ironic that a married woman looking for a man came to your (Malestrome's) defense.

Malestrome I have read your posts and you have had multiple reasons for never being close to a woman to marry one. Being a nice/good guy was one such post I remember. I do think you may be intimidated by women period because of being raised with so many. I don't get paid for this, so I know I could be wrong.

I also think that women, and I don't say all women, dress, wear makeup, etc. to please themselves. I know I do. Perhaps it is a bit of a mask to the world, but to the right man, he sees beyond it and doesn't use it as an excuse not to get to know me. To me it sounds like these things intimidate you, give you an excuse not to get to know someone. Label them as wanting you to buy their affection.

Maybe it is just me, but I try to be as happy with myself as possible. I try to enjoy everyone's diversity. And as I am human, I do get intimidated by certain people. We can only be the best we can and accept our flaws and improve on those we can.
 Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 88
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/4/2009 12:04:54 PM
Levi, I alway appreciate your insight into things.

Op, I dont think older men are intimidated at all, I just think they don't think the fluff is worth the effort. They are at a point in their life where *other things have more meaning that some mindless competition with a woman about sex.

I have the upmost respect for men my age, they arent the same boys of yesterday, they have matured and have vast life experiences to draw on. They have worked hard and played hard and have a different mindset that most women. Most have lived with a woman for years where they were always in the *wrong cause they didnt have the exact same take on something as what their women did, most would give in and let the woman have her way to make her happy.

Now they find themselves alone and well alone is better than being with the wrong person...so when they see a woman who is protraying herself as strong willed, confident and sexy they just think...to much effort for the fluff....they want someone who will allow them to be WHO they are now...who will want them for what they bring to the relationship not someone who they have to constantly feed the ego of.

Im not saying all men are like this but the ones I would be attracted to are. Now given that there are more women than men, and some women are very eagar to do anything to have a shot at a man ...well I think alot of men are just bored with the different antics of most women....sure they would love to find someone who is still sane, happy, energetic and FUN. But they would prefer to be alone than have someone else come into their lifes and tell them how wrong they are or how they should change.
 LdyofIndy
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 89
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/4/2009 1:02:56 PM
Hey! You're the one who used the term english literature incorrectly. Now it's someone else who has a substandard education? You know what? You have issues that cannot even be addressed in this forum. And then you do overkill by posting words and meanings to convince yourself that we need a lesson in english. Good turn around tactic, but doesn't change the fact that you have used several words incorrectly.
Have fun convincing yourself that you are a superior person.

Would be nice if we could get back on topic. Wow!
 eschec mat
Joined: 3/3/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 6/4/2009 1:05:24 PM
Malestrome English lesson, look up irony. I did not bash her. I pointed out the irony in the person you claim has your back. Obviously my statement was pretty dead on. Sorry I intimidated you I was trying to help you to look at yourself so that perhaps you won't judge and will perhaps be more open to having a true relationship with a woman, unless someone else is correct that your sexual preference really is for men?
 TheNightowl001
Joined: 6/29/2008
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Posted: 6/4/2009 2:18:52 PM

....sure they would love to find someone who is still sane, happy, energetic and FUN. But they would prefer to be alone than have someone else come into their lifes and tell them how wrong they are or how they should change.
That was a bullseye, as far as I'm concerned, Sapphire. If I'd wanted to listen to another 20 years of "You shouldn't...," "You need to..., " "You'd better...," "How come you can't...?" I'd have stayed with my ex.
 HDspringer09
Joined: 3/2/2009
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Posted: 6/4/2009 4:53:58 PM
Never mind us old farts being intimidated by sexy women...how about intelligent, educated women?

Speak english lit? Well, according to my education (which may fall short of some others here) literature is the collection of written word, not the spoken word, and not a language to be spoken. The word "English" is always capitalized.

"Picky, picky" some may say. But, the only way to have an intelligent conversation or debate is to use our language correctly, to eliminate any misunderstandings.

Showing your lack of grammatical skills shows so much more! For example, a short attention span ( fell asleep in fourth grade a lot, huh?)....a lack of attention to important details (hmmm.....capital here? who cares??).... and most importantly on this site, a lack of communication skills! After all, we are here to communicate with those we might wish to pursue, aren't we? And if we can not express ourselves in the language of the land, what kind of person might we attract?

Okay, after my diatribe on correct grammar, I need to relate it to the topic...and yes, there is a way to do that.

Men are often intimidated by "older sexy women", but not necessarily by their physical sexuality. A woman that is my age can intimidate by not only her "sexual attractiveness", but also by her intelligence, confidence, accomplishments, or status in society.

I'm just an ol' hillbilly redneck, living in a shack in the woods. Am I intimidated by a woman (older or younger) who has a corporate job, a fantastic condo, and travels the world? Of course I am, to some extent. That is all part of their sexuality. A confident woman exudes "sexy", whether she is a corporate executive, or a maid, whether she is a slim 120 pounds, or a fully packed 300.

Do they make me feel like I am not a man? No....they just make me feel that I am not THE man for them.
 2 if by sea
Joined: 12/21/2008
Msg: 93
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Posted: 6/4/2009 9:30:33 PM
Well said, HD, and spot on, it’s an English term, said by the English, in England, yeah, I’ve been there. Don’t count us out; I don’t need anybody to by me a car, or a house, or jewelry, put money in my IRA. Got all that, what we want is someone to hang out with, make breakfast for on Sunday morning, go to the movies with, share ourselves with, our experiences with and have some fun. Sex is good too! When all is said and done, the majority of older women don’t need you to do anything for us, except appreciate us for who we are and what we have to offer. Maybe that’s the problem, men need to be needed, and as we get older, we don’t need you, but still want you.

Now on to the other matter: Or what’s the matter with Maelstrome?
MAELSTROM (correct spelling)
1: a powerful often violent whirlpool sucking in objects within a given radius
2: something resembling a maelstrom in turbulence

You have some serious issues with women, and if therapy is something you recommend to others perhaps you should seek some. You’re an arrogant Richard,
(Everybody, think about it…what is the nickname for Richard? No its not Rick or Rich, it starts with a “D”).

Maybe you don’t have good experiences with women because we can inherently sense that you don’t think much of us as a whole, or maybe that’s exactly how you think of us,… as a hole.
I'm just saying...
 LdyofIndy
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 94
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/5/2009 3:52:15 AM
You make some good points. Maybe they are intimidated by sexy younger women. I can only speak for myself, from my view point. That happens to be from my experiences as a woman in her 60's. There are always insecure people, both men and women, who will be intimidated by the opposite sex, period.

HD, very interesting comments. It was definitely not smart on my part to follow suit by failing to capitalize English. Maybe I was intimidated by his imagined intelligence.
I stand corrected. Thanks for pointing that out!
 HDspringer09
Joined: 3/2/2009
Msg: 95
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Posted: 6/5/2009 6:43:01 AM
This same topic seems to be running in another thread, about being attracted to people our own age. The same people are expressing the same views in both threads!
Miss Alana, in my opinion, you are wrong in this thread, and in the other, also, with this statement...


<div class="quote">Most older men get stuck in time and are only attracted to much younger women. But, many of the young women don't want older men, therefore most old men don't date at all

If older men like me don't date at all, it's not because they are rejected by younger women...it's because they are rejected by younger AND older women, who prefer younger guys!

Look at the profiles! The majority of women who specify an age range for men they might be willing to hear from, generally go from ten to fifteen years younger, to only a couple of years older. I have looked at many profiles of very attractive women my age (62) only to be stopped short by the "45 - 60" age specs. And to quote one..."I don't want a grandpa!"
 LdyofIndy
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:12:21 AM
Actually there are three recent threads running on the topic of age. One was started 5/19, the other (this one) 0n 5/30 and one on 6/4. Must be a popular concern.

I don't agree with what Alana is saying in all cases. That's not the sense I've gotten from men in my experiences. Again, I think we post from our own experiences. In my original post, I didn't imply that older men are going for much younger women. That was brought up by another poster. I agree that it's true in some cases.

In all fairness, some younger women prefer older men.

Again I will say that sometimes older women have no choice but to go for the younger men or remain dateless , therefore with no hope of a new relationship.

So, it's a vicious circle. Women accusing men of wanting younger. Men accusing women of wanting younger. And never the twain shall meet.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 97
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:24:20 AM
TruGold said:
Again I will say that sometimes older women have no choice but to go for the younger men or remain dateless , therefore with no hope of a new relationship.

Indeed there seems to be a whole lot of younger men early 40's wanting to date you than people your own age. So you just pass on dating them. I can't say that hope ever dies though?

thecatmeoww
 LdyofIndy
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 98
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:34:06 AM
Malestrome, in all fairness, you started that trend in this thread by your statement about others having a "substandard education." So naturally, we expect perfection from you in that area. It was you who cast the first stone. You know what they say about people who live in glass houses.

I still have no idea of what you were trying to say with your "english literature" remark.
To me, that was the biggest gaff. You refuse to even own up to that one.


Thecatsmeoww: I'm perfectly happy dating younger men, but not that young. I get my share of offers from men in their late 40's and 50's, so I can't complain. I'm very picky, regardless of the age of the man. Many other factors apply.
 breath~
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 99
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/5/2009 7:34:42 AM

Just give me an "older man" who is relaxed in who he is.. and wants to relax alongside me.

The 'sexy' part will show through our eyes.. and then seen by him and seen by me.

p.s.
I think it's a bit pitiful that some people come to the forums and spend a great deal of their posts going on and on about how they think other people need therapy.


 caddboy
Joined: 6/28/2008
Msg: 100
Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women?
Posted: 6/5/2009 8:58:13 AM

Maybe they are intimidated by sexy younger women.


I'm not so sure about this. When I was in Cabo a couple of weeks ago there were a lot of men my age that must have been travelling with their daughters. haha
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