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 Forums001
Joined: 4/15/2009
Msg: 61
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Geek Goddess I think you should be holding seminars in teaching women today this.
You are a rare gem for sure.
 gtrr43
Joined: 3/1/2010
Msg: 62
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/14/2010 8:48:58 AM
It happens,people make mistakes,If there going on a first date ,it should be dutch anyway.
 readthedamnprofile
Joined: 5/5/2010
Msg: 63
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/14/2010 9:16:56 AM
Just ask him. If he claims he is not having any financial difficulties than he has no excuse for not at least going dutch.

If he sticks you with the bill again, pay your half in front of the serving staff so they know you are not the welcher and walk away leaving him to deal with the consequences of not being able to pay for his half.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 64
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/15/2010 2:11:35 PM
State what your expectations are before going out- that's really all you can do, as well as being prepared to pay in case things like this happen.
I had a guy forget his wallet on a first date. He had already told me he wanted to buy me dinner. I got to the restaurant and he was at the bar drinking water looking a bit mortified. He told me up front and I could tell he was sincere. We simply enjoyed the meal and I paid. He reciprocated a dinner later in the week and I thought that was a nice gesture.

Maybe he was using a debit card. Mine has a daily limit and I found that out the hard way, and no way to call the bank to raise the daily limit until the next day.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 65
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/18/2010 12:18:41 AM
I don't see what the big deal is? So you had to pay for lunch.So what! It's not like he wanted you to buy him a car.You are just looking for an excuse to get rid of him.
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
Msg: 66
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/18/2010 8:26:18 AM

I had the similar situation before. It was not his credit card; it was his debit card got declined. I was VP for banks before, so I know what was going on here. Amazing! I felt more embarrassed than him. After it happened twice in one week, I dumped him. There is no need to waste time on a man who can not manage his finance in any age. It does not matter how good looking he is… Don’t deal anyone who has no integrity


POSSIBLY you are maing assumptionsif it happened only ONCE? OK if twice or more , I can se it.

I've had my debit card declined at a restaurant, sort of embarrassing, (but I had enough cash with me, & paid) then went to a store immediately after and bought $60 worth of stuff & it worked just fine -- I KNEW I had a much more than adequate balance in my account.

the next day I talked to the restaurant guy & he said:" Oh yeah we had a problem with the machine/connection"

these technologies are NOT always 100% reliable.
 fashiongal2
Joined: 9/15/2010
Msg: 67
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/19/2010 9:38:53 PM
First time this happened, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. My credit / debit card has been declined before due to unknown reasons. Some people don't carry much cash on them.
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 68
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his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/21/2010 6:58:42 AM
So your instincts are right, and he admitted that it wasn't embarrassing for him to not be able to even pay his half, and that his last girlfriend would pay for everything. So yah, he's cheap and possibly even dishonest about ever intending to pay. So you were right in suspecting something after going out with him several times, and him never paying. My question now, is why do you keep going out with him? Even if he does bring cash now to be able to cover his half, just his inclination to try and let you pay all the time is a red flag. A guy looking for a sugar mama is not going to be someone who will even wind up being a good friend, nevermind a boyfriend. Sounds sleazy.
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 69
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/21/2010 7:23:06 AM
The fact that the OP has experienced this with this guy multiple times already tells me that he is just doing this nonsense on purpose.


Why cant he even pay for his half?

Seems strange.
 tinainhouston39
Joined: 8/9/2009
Msg: 70
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/21/2010 2:43:57 PM
Hahahah I agree with you! Not sure what the point of talking to him about it is at all. Clearly your thinking evil thoughts about him and typing them for all of us to see...lol What's the point of even pursuing it?? I can see you have little respect now for this man. That's fine I guess...it's your dating life...but don't do HIM a favor by lecturing him and gracing him with your presents. I think he might not hold the same value system as you do and you two are not prob going to go very far. Respect should be on the forefront of every relationship...do him a favor and drop him....he prob isn't going to like how that whole conversation goes if you ever decide to have it with him instead of all of us :) A little food for thought...some people test others to see how selfish/money hungry they are. Since he paid several times before then it would have been a show of grace for you to pick that one up.
 Worbug
Joined: 4/23/2009
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Posted: 9/24/2010 12:16:01 PM
I always carry cash, credit cards are very bad and will never have one (so shoot me). If I invite someone out, then I am responsible for paying in my book. That includes if I ask friends (male or female) out for a night an they tell me they are broke, me and my friends have done this for each other on numerous occasions. as far as inviting a woman to dinner or what have you, my mother would come up out of the grave and get me (LOL) if I did not pick up the tab, dutch is out of the question if I am out with a woman of interest.

OP Obviously money is at the forefront with you. You seem to feel pretty miffed over a $ 30.00 tab, the way you are ranting, one would think you blew a thousand dollars on him. I would suggest if you feel so used, type up a bill and present it to him with the appropriate interest rate (the juice), and once he pays, move on, he is obviously not the "Sugar Daddy" in which you are seeking.

One cannot help but wonder if a man had started this thread about a girl that asked him out and he had to pay because her card was declined. Oh my, dare I ponder what the threads would read. LOL


At the end of the day, you are not happy, you have no respect for this man. The seed is already in your brain that he is a cheap, a mooch, deadbeat, etc..... There is but one choice for you and that is to move on. As far as he goes, he could be no luckier than to be rid of you and your self serving ways.


Note to Self: Do not drink water in fromt of women. FOFLMAO
 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 72
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/25/2010 8:19:57 AM

This happened only once


OP wow! so you had to pay 30 bucks ( prob half of it was your share anyway).... All this fuss ..hmm. What a cheap woman you're.... Many people don't carry cash but check cards. These cards decline for many reasons other than "insufficient funds"

I hope he never calls you, you never see him again and get stuck with 15 dolla hole .... Jeezuz krist
 ncdamsel
Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 73
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/29/2010 8:25:08 PM
I say ditch him, find some one else, it is not worth all the worry with this guy
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 74
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/29/2010 11:38:45 PM

I got stuck paying for a $30+ lunch


the f..king gaul?

how dare such a thing happen...

i mean everyone these days truly wants a free ride...just for us gracing them with our mere presence...



this is classic.
 Greyfeld
Joined: 1/11/2007
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Posted: 9/30/2010 12:49:48 PM

Why is he even socializing if he truly has no money at all?


This statement pretty much told me everything I need to know about you and your way of life.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 76
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 9/30/2010 1:13:22 PM

As to the rest of it. Cards are turned downed for a number of reasons, it doesn't always mean they don't have money. It can be just a fluke in the system. I have ran cards, had them turned down, ran them again, and had them go through with no problem

Sure, but when paying with a credit card and being in a position where having it turned down would be a problem, one should have enough cash on hand to cover such an emergency.

As to you paying. I find your attitude amazing. You are all freaked out that you had to pay, but if he had paid for all of it, that would have been fine

That's a different question and I also am put off by her attitude. Had I been in a situation where someone was supposed to be paying for my meal and her credit card was turned down, I'd most likely try to cover it without making her feel any more embarrassed than she already was. I think what she did after that would let me know whether or not I was being conned.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 77
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/1/2010 10:43:29 PM
pirate - that is too freakin funny...

i personally like the ones that like to "hold out" for a while, yet expect a free ride.

quid pro quo I always say...

 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 78
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/2/2010 7:45:29 AM

(techgirl27) Ive asked him if he could contribute toward the tip those times, and he said he doesnt have any cash on him each time.


I'd do the same, even if I had Franklins falling out my bum. Make up your OWN mind about what you will and won't put up with; don't agonize about it over 7 pages, and argue against each and every counter-point with "Oh, yeah? Well, lemme tell you SOMETHING ELSE about how cheap he is!"

Dr. ES

(weird: when I went to reply, the system identified you as "bassgirl747"...)
 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 79
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/4/2010 2:45:26 PM
You say he ordered water and you had the Surf and Turf? Maybe he didn't count on that!

Actually, that's shear genius! Any guy that's ever paid for a meal, wondering what the value (for him) was in that wasted expenditure, would do well to always carry an expired card and little money!

Something maybe most women never experience. Getting credit card printouts a month later detailing pricy meals and venues of which you can't even remember who you were with! Not hard earned money well spent!
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 80
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/4/2010 4:11:34 PM

(that handy man) Actually, that's shear genius! Any guy that's ever paid for a meal, wondering what the value (for him) was in that wasted expenditure, would do well to always carry an expired card and little money!


I agree: that's GENIUS!

Dr. ES...
 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 81
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/4/2010 6:33:31 PM
^^^I guess then, every one will pretty much have dish pan hands before the night is out!
 sunbeach95
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 82
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/5/2010 8:17:55 AM
First time this happened, I would give him the benefit of the doubt. My credit / debit card has been declined before due to unknown reasons. Some people don't carry much cash on them.


Agreed. If that was your only complaint about a date, then I would go on at least another date with him. I wouldn't assume that he was cheap or was looking for a free meal because of 1 incident. Perhaps he would pay for next date and this time bring money with him in case his credit card was declined again.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 83
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Posted: 10/5/2010 1:02:17 PM
If you are dating you should be taking turns paying anyway.My gosh wake up and smell 2010!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 84
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/5/2010 7:13:22 PM

Why is he even socializing if he truly has no money at all?


This statement pretty much told me everything I need to know about you and your way of life.


dude....swooooooshhhhh......nothing but net...



Me personally would get rid of as you dont need someone that sees you as a big fat purse, you want soemone to see you as the real person you are..



the truest definition of Irony I've ever seen in my life...thanks britt
 MsStackhouse
Joined: 5/20/2009
Msg: 85
his credit card declined when he went to pay?
Posted: 10/18/2010 5:02:29 AM
I didn't read all the posts here, but wanted to add that this just happened to me Saturday night...I ended up paying for most of dinner and all the cab fare. I never leave the house without enough cash to cover myself, so I was OK...and for as long as I can remember I usually check my bank balance before I go out as well...just in case, you know?

needless to say, it was a very early night...
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