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Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 26
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wellll what you can do is not give him head anymore cause i hardly get it from my gf but i love to eat her
Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/19/2009 1:43:52 PM
Sounds like he's looking for an excuse to sniff away at your barnhole. The ol' sixty nine does position the male's nose precariously above the dame's chocolatey rosebud. Yeah, I bet he's just a shit-sniffer and doesn't want to admit it.
 stunt groom
Joined: 5/28/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 7/19/2009 2:23:29 PM

The only time by bf will go down on me is if I agree to a 69. He gets head a lot without having to go down on me. Very rarily will he return the favour. He says it's because I don't ask but when I did ask refused and offered 69. I offered to do that after he went down on me first so he opted to stop fooling around. I felt super embarrassed and kind of hurt. I know that I'm clean and hygenic and groomed. He said he enjoyed it after he did it last time. I don't get it. Sometimes it's nice ti recieve without having to do all the work. What do I do about this, or do I just come to terms with the fact that he's not going to eat me out unless I'm giving him head at the same time?

He doesn't like to do it. Your oral gives him that extra umph he needs to get beyond his disdain for it.. I'm not so inclined... I straight up like to eat ****...But her junk has to be balanced.
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 29
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Posted: 7/19/2009 2:27:25 PM
OP, don't take your advice from weird, chronically single people.

He's not selfish. He doesn't like it. It's a preference thing. He has spared your feelings thus far (in his mind) by not being blunt with you.

Just like some girls don't like receiving, some don't like giving.

Same with men.

If you have to have it to be happy, you all are sexually incompatible.

It's that simple.
Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 7/19/2009 4:57:21 PM

The man is a hypocrit. Oral sex IS sex too. ( I do not care what Bill Clinton said, and you were not old enough when he said it to remember it) He is willing to have you suck him off with the lame excuse that he is waiting until marriage? Go talk to the priest and find out if this is a new rule in the church, blow jobs are just fine, genital sex is not until after marriage.

This man has issues. Now you are not just dealing with someone who is selfish but you are dealing with a selfish hypocrit. Bad combination. If he does choose to marry YOU, then you will be dealing with an INEXPERIENCED selfish hypocrit on your wedding night. I am a big believer in monogamy, and faithfulness, and "til death do us part" in marriage. I can not imagine the sexual nightmare this could turn in to.

This man is using his moral high road to deny you pleasure, but being highly selective in how he bends his values so he gets his orgasm, and denies you yours. What is wrong with this picture? At the very least he should be stimulating you with his hands. It makes me wonder if he has no clue what to do to give you pleasure. I do not ever advocate using sex to manipulate or control a partner, as in only putting out if they jump through your hoops. This BOY ( and I call him a boy because no real man would play this kind of game) would demand SEX from you without giving in return. He is treating you like a prostitute, and even worse, he is not paying you!

So this prize of a boy can be described as:
treats you like a whore

I think you deserve so much more.

Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/19/2009 4:58:13 PM


Never put anything with sugar inside you! Bacteria grows fast when you add sugar! May smell sweet for the act, but the next day you will stink!

There are lotions availabe that purposely do not have sugar added, to be safe for a womans vagina. Candy is not safe!

I was going to say the same thing, but I see you covered this.
 You want the truth...
Joined: 5/4/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 7/19/2009 7:30:08 PM
Personally I like giving more than receiving. I can eat a peach for hours, lol.
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/20/2009 4:13:43 AM
It just blows my mind how many people are saying that this guy is selfish.

How is it selfish if he doesn't like it? Wouldn't it make HER selfish to force him into doing someting he doesn't like?

I feel like I am taking crazy pills!
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/20/2009 4:29:49 AM
If she does not like what is going on with her bf, then it is time for a change of heart. No sense feeling hurt and embarassed.
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 7/21/2009 4:19:48 PM
I don't even think I've ever done a 69 believe it or not. It's just too efficient. Like why can't you take turns doing oral sex on each other? It has to be at the same time? I'd rather focus on the pleasure of receiving it and not have to worry about giving it at the same time.
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/21/2009 4:35:02 PM
Why is it men dont like to give oral or even know how to. I love to give oral and very good at it. I guess thats why the woman wants to return the favor and do it 69 alot.
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 7/14/2010 11:14:48 AM
That's an elaborate calamity (lol). He sounds rather selfish. But he's probably got a familiarity with himself. What I'm saying is he probably knows what gets him aroused the best. Hopefully he does enjoy doing oral on you, but it does not get him overly aroused. For me, theres a difference between sexual enjoyment and arousal. So in yours and his case, he probably gets best aroused by a good bj.
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/14/2010 11:43:10 AM
I agree with him being selfish. Either live with it, ask him to change, or find someone else. Personally, I love devouring any woman I am with, and they always return the favor, or 69, or whatever. Not one person holding out. I would never stay with someone who only went down on me if we were doing 69.
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/15/2010 9:16:10 AM
I don't know why I can't be around women that have your complaint. But it's a lot of work when you are performing oral sex on someone. You don't give him head because it excites you, but it excites you to see that he is getting off to it. For most men I think its the same, we want you to get excited and will go through the work ritual to get you there. My only request is when I'm doing it talk dirty and grab the back of my head and force me on it. Let me rest for about 5 seconds and force it on me again. Your boyfriend may not like that at all, so get rid of him.
Joined: 7/12/2010
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/15/2010 10:45:45 AM
Too efficient? What? Geez, we can't have that now.
Joined: 11/6/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/15/2010 12:30:22 PM
Ha. Easy. Stop putting out. It's a rational response.

"I don't want to do this unless we're on equal grounds, and equally invested". It's what I'd do.
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/15/2010 1:45:13 PM

get a new boyfriend.

Lol. So radical. Totally.

OP, if you're bf is close to your age (22), you might want to pre-qualify any "Next!". At 22, a guy is hard pressed to recognize that he's not the only person in the room, much less the rest of the friggin world. You can orally examine him, without fellating him, to see whether he has realized that the world is just brimming with humans, and each deserves the same measure of recognition, and respect, as he he affords himself. If that sense of others is not easily discernible, go to some other age bracket. (No, I'm not sellin' anything
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 43
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Posted: 7/15/2010 6:21:13 PM
Hmmmm..wouldnt think anyone of your age group would have any hang-ups....69s alright but do like oral if shes watching.....seeing her reactions also....very erotic!
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/15/2010 7:21:46 PM
Can he really grow out of it if he's already 24?

Probably not. I think you really have to like giving pleasure and always improving or reading everything you can. I did. But then the thought or idea of it was stimulating in my mind long before I ever had sex. Because of this I also get all I could ever want regardless of who I am with. Make sense? It would be a deal breaker for me if after a reasonble period of time if there was no improvement. The is also the art of her living it in her mind first...if you can get her to have fantasies about it then it will all come to pass....maybe it would be the same for a guy but I don't know....
Try getting really excited and letting him know how good he makes you feel. But if he wont go there to start with then you might be up $hit creek without a paddle.
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/17/2011 10:44:41 PM
sadns my heart i am the type to go down and not stop until the job is almost done now 69 is best think since the pancake was invented yadig
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/18/2011 7:52:10 PM
Either convince him that he should appreciate one of the Best things in life about having a woman...or find one that Does..!!
Personally, I'd like a 3:1 ratio...
(I like Giving pleasure much more than receiving ...a majority of the time!)
...or whatever 'even-trade' arrangement she prefers..
Joined: 4/30/2011
Msg: 47
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Posted: 8/18/2011 7:57:42 PM
hell i'll go down on any woman and not ask anything in return
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/18/2011 8:14:15 PM
.....hence...your 'name'....
Nice camoflage..!!
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 49
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Posted: 8/18/2011 11:05:40 PM
There's some girls I just refuse to eat out...
Joined: 5/21/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 10/5/2011 12:55:57 AM
Hey Op I'm not going to suggest anything different than the feed back you already got, and I agree with them. Not to be rude but it sounds like you have some co-dependancy issues too." What's rewarded is repeated" as long as he knows he'll keep getting his way without making you happy it's going to keep happening, or in this case not happening. So leave or live with it.
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