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 8soldierfalcon8
Joined: 2/16/2009
Msg: 33
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It just blows my mind how many people are saying that this guy is selfish.

How is it selfish if he doesn't like it? Wouldn't it make HER selfish to force him into doing someting he doesn't like?

I feel like I am taking crazy pills!
 HazelRose
Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 34
69 only
Posted: 7/20/2009 4:29:49 AM
If she does not like what is going on with her bf, then it is time for a change of heart. No sense feeling hurt and embarassed.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 35
69 only
Posted: 7/21/2009 4:19:48 PM
I don't even think I've ever done a 69 believe it or not. It's just too efficient. Like why can't you take turns doing oral sex on each other? It has to be at the same time? I'd rather focus on the pleasure of receiving it and not have to worry about giving it at the same time.
 jamesb75
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/21/2009 4:35:02 PM
Why is it men dont like to give oral or even know how to. I love to give oral and very good at it. I guess thats why the woman wants to return the favor and do it 69 alot.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 37
69 only
Posted: 7/14/2010 11:14:48 AM
That's an elaborate calamity (lol). He sounds rather selfish. But he's probably got a familiarity with himself. What I'm saying is he probably knows what gets him aroused the best. Hopefully he does enjoy doing oral on you, but it does not get him overly aroused. For me, theres a difference between sexual enjoyment and arousal. So in yours and his case, he probably gets best aroused by a good bj.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/14/2010 11:43:10 AM
I agree with him being selfish. Either live with it, ask him to change, or find someone else. Personally, I love devouring any woman I am with, and they always return the favor, or 69, or whatever. Not one person holding out. I would never stay with someone who only went down on me if we were doing 69.
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 39
69 only
Posted: 7/15/2010 9:16:10 AM
I don't know why I can't be around women that have your complaint. But it's a lot of work when you are performing oral sex on someone. You don't give him head because it excites you, but it excites you to see that he is getting off to it. For most men I think its the same, we want you to get excited and will go through the work ritual to get you there. My only request is when I'm doing it talk dirty and grab the back of my head and force me on it. Let me rest for about 5 seconds and force it on me again. Your boyfriend may not like that at all, so get rid of him.
 thetennisgal
Joined: 7/12/2010
Msg: 40
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Posted: 7/15/2010 10:45:45 AM
Too efficient? What? Geez, we can't have that now.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/15/2010 12:30:22 PM
Ha. Easy. Stop putting out. It's a rational response.

"I don't want to do this unless we're on equal grounds, and equally invested". It's what I'd do.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/15/2010 1:45:13 PM

get a new boyfriend.


Lol. So radical. Totally.

OP, if you're bf is close to your age (22), you might want to pre-qualify any "Next!". At 22, a guy is hard pressed to recognize that he's not the only person in the room, much less the rest of the friggin world. You can orally examine him, without fellating him, to see whether he has realized that the world is just brimming with humans, and each deserves the same measure of recognition, and respect, as he he affords himself. If that sense of others is not easily discernible, go to some other age bracket. (No, I'm not sellin' anything here.lol)
 eattoplease
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 43
69 only
Posted: 7/15/2010 6:21:13 PM
Hmmmm..wouldnt think anyone of your age group would have any hang-ups....69s alright but do like oral if shes watching.....seeing her reactions also....very erotic!
 pandusvenator
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/15/2010 7:21:46 PM
Can he really grow out of it if he's already 24?


Probably not. I think you really have to like giving pleasure and always improving or reading everything you can. I did. But then the thought or idea of it was stimulating in my mind long before I ever had sex. Because of this I also get all I could ever want regardless of who I am with. Make sense? It would be a deal breaker for me if after a reasonble period of time if there was no improvement. The is also the art of her living it in her mind first...if you can get her to have fantasies about it then it will all come to pass....maybe it would be the same for a guy but I don't know....
Try getting really excited and letting him know how good he makes you feel. But if he wont go there to start with then you might be up $hit creek without a paddle.
 anthony8821
Joined: 7/7/2011
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/17/2011 10:44:41 PM
sadns my heart i am the type to go down and not stop until the job is almost done now 69 is best think since the pancake was invented yadig
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 46
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Posted: 8/18/2011 7:52:10 PM
Either convince him that he should appreciate one of the Best things in life about having a woman...or find one that Does..!!
Personally, I'd like a 3:1 ratio...
(I like Giving pleasure much more than receiving ...a majority of the time!)
...or whatever 'even-trade' arrangement she prefers..
 sitonmyface62
Joined: 4/30/2011
Msg: 47
69 only
Posted: 8/18/2011 7:57:42 PM
hell i'll go down on any woman and not ask anything in return
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 48
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Posted: 8/18/2011 8:14:15 PM
.....hence...your 'name'....
Nice camoflage..!!
 iwillcheatonyou
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 49
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Posted: 8/18/2011 11:05:40 PM
There's some girls I just refuse to eat out...
 Pomose
Joined: 5/21/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 10/5/2011 12:55:57 AM
Hey Op I'm not going to suggest anything different than the feed back you already got, and I agree with them. Not to be rude but it sounds like you have some co-dependancy issues too." What's rewarded is repeated" as long as he knows he'll keep getting his way without making you happy it's going to keep happening, or in this case not happening. So leave or live with it.
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
Msg: 51
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Posted: 10/5/2011 5:25:10 PM
Selfish
AND
a Tease..!!
Any guy that won't let his lady just lie back and E n j o y
(One of the finest ways to show a Lady affection, IMHO)..
is a selfish Schmuck..!!
Boot him..!!
There are guys out there that'd KILL for the chance to pleasure a Lady at her desire..!!
 Pyroguy6971
Joined: 9/26/2011
Msg: 52
69 only
Posted: 10/5/2011 6:38:56 PM
Find another guy who truley enjoys pleasing his girl and loves to eat **** or stop giving him head until he has satisfied you.
 optimismfirst
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 53
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Posted: 4/15/2012 2:01:02 PM
haha so many things can go wrong with 69ing
 optimismfirst
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 54
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Posted: 4/15/2012 8:04:25 PM
dont fart during 69
 Marriedguy26
Joined: 12/16/2011
Msg: 55
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Posted: 4/15/2012 9:48:23 PM
That's too bad! Ihe doesn't kow what he's missing! I personally love to orally please a woman......It's hot and at that given moment, I don't think there is a time during sex that you are not completely in control and the woman (if you are doing correctly) is loving her life at that given moment!
 Blanketthenegitive
Joined: 12/20/2012
Msg: 56
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Posted: 8/17/2013 1:49:48 PM
Sorry to hear it OP. I use going down on a girl to get her hot for what's going to follow! Often I enjoy going down on a woman in itself. I love the sighs, and whimpers she makes, it gets me hot. 69 however I enjoy even more, cause she's making me feel good so I in turn put my focus back into pleasing her. It's a perfect circle of energy.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 57
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Posted: 1/31/2014 8:33:23 AM
Sounds like hes a taker....stupid I must say......one way street.....Never done that and if any have gone without,but always has the woman been satisfied thats been with me....
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