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 journey2407
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 90
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I would say it places a heavy value on machismo, and not intimacy. Words also have a different meaning. Like sex doesn't mean what Americans assume it means, kissing, fondling, etc.

I'll try not to be too offended by that generalisation...

Knowing some outback rancher types, I can understand why you may have made that assumption, but it is based on one person. You learned a lot about "his" culture, not necessarily ours (you may have heard his opinion on our culture). It is wrong to assume all Australian men are like that, it simply isn't true.
( there must be some Australian women out there who can back this up!).

The OP just needs to meet a few more Australian men, not be disheartened by the few she has met so far. There are certainly cultural differences, that must be expected surely, but they are not insurmountable by any means. Sure, some Australian men will never be intimate, but I am sure there must be American and English men like that too...
 poipleportboi
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 7/8/2009 8:39:19 AM
This is from an Australian born bloke... dont let my appearence fool ya Im part Filopino and Part Czech but born here in Australia Ive been seeing some of these interesting posts around here. Hear me out Because I can explain some areas.

I have always been single, I have never been on a relationship so thats why im on this site. I have been nightclubbing since I was 18. Yes I might get the occasional phone number and occasionally they turn out to be fake but thats as far I can get. Keep in Mind I live in Adelaide in South Australia. Sydney in New South Wales might be different altogether.

A guy like me in ways is how can describe it "not confident". When I go out night clubbing I NEVER go to a group of Ladies who are hanging with their friends! Reason: If I approach them and talk to them, they will laugh at me and shoot me down leading to being scared, imtimidated and having my confidence dented.

I always try to talk to Ladies if they are by themselves so I can interact with them. Usually most times I ask whether thay are single they turn out to be taken!

Some Aussie men do get nervous speaking to other Ladies espcially attractive ones such as yourself. I would too.

Its weird everytime I go clubbing I have never seen a girl make the 1st move towards a guy. Its always the guy approaching the girl.

You could say im a shy bloke... I guess im not the only one.

To be honest im starting to think whether its even worth going out to the city this Saturday night.

Ah well the search for finding a nice lady continues on... Ive said my bit.

One last thing.... You said you are from Miami? Ive been to the US 3 years ago and let me tell you something... Miami kicks ass!
 journey2407
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/8/2009 8:59:01 PM

Whats the Issue With Men in Australia ..


This thread now seems to consist of Australian men discussing beer....
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 104
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Posted: 7/11/2009 12:53:35 AM
It would seem logical that you are a man before you are 'dubbed' a bloke . I suppose though it would in the long run, and the long run is what counts, that you may well be 'blokey' rather than 'manly' . How you integrate the two hasn't bothered me much ... hang on , yes it has , I like men better than blokes ! Oops , honesty IS the best policy ?
 poipleportboi
Joined: 6/7/2009
Msg: 110
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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:19:45 AM
Dont worry Im not giving you any abuse not all aussie men are perfect. I cant say im perfect either... If you read my post earlier on this topic youd understand.

Some guys such as myself have no dating skills mainly beacause of lack of confidence or something in those realms. asI said ealier read my post 2 pages back and youd understand What part of the problem is.
 007earthangel
Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 114
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Posted: 7/17/2009 3:49:36 PM
Yeah unfortunately i have to agree...there is a large proportion of guys who are just like that...i feel sorry for them...they miss out on alot because what their mates think are more important than their happiness.
 gav951
Joined: 6/20/2009
Msg: 117
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Posted: 7/18/2009 6:14:07 AM
In the wise words of JFK:
"Think NOT what your country can do for you,
but what YOU can do for your country"

Don't look for "what's the issue (wrong) with Men in Australia"

Because you'll find what you're looking for: the faults of Men in Australia (or everywhere else).

Focus on what you CAN control, you're attitude and who YOU choose to be.

When you think and act being the person YOU want to be, you'll attract the person who wants the person who you ARE.

Think of what YOU can give to "Men in Australia" FIRST, NOT what "Men in Australia" can give YOU first.

If you just try to Be the best ME I can be (eg eat less, exercise more), at least you'll be with the best person you are GUARANTEED to be with for all of your life: yourself.

Look inwards, not outwards for your only TRUE "soulmate", then maybe you'll find they were there all the time, but you were just looking in the wrong direction.

In looking for a partner:

Success is getting what you want,
But happiness is wanting what you get.

Do what makes you happy and you may meet the guy that's doing the same thing, so you can do what BOTH makes you happy together.

If a woman/sheila goes to bars to pick up men/guys/blokes, you'll meet guys/blokes/men who go to bars to pick up women/sheila's/roots and then wonder why you only meet guys/blokes/men who only want to pick up women/sheila's/roots.

If you go to sports/clubs/events because you like them and you feel happy, then the guy/bloke/man who ALSO goes there because HE does, will be there as well.

THINK first and get the guy you really want by FIRST being who, and doing what, YOU want.

Best wishes.

Hope this helps :-)
 JimStone60
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 7/25/2009 4:59:36 PM
I so agree with some of the above.

It has been my experience here that few genuine contacts/emails here are ever followed up with a reply, therefore I can only assume that most women (and probably most men too) are chasing a very small segment of the whole group here.

If that is the case it is likely that the men who actually do get a reasonable number of replies are going to play the field or move on to the next opportunity very quickly because the opportunity to do so presents itself.

In short if you want to meet genuine men who do want to stick around a bit longer widen your search a bit more, or rethink some of your assumptions.

Most Australian men are not bad or wierd (I really take umbrage at that term), but you don't contact most australian men you contact those who are most successful in snagging your interest or dressing their profile up.
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 122
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Posted: 7/26/2009 12:35:05 AM
Indeed the fact that this issue , and it is an issue in Australia, can devolve to the level of a play on words and letters is pathetic . Culturally I believe a bloke prefers to be called a bloke .. it's sort of a name you'd give a member of the male club ..... but , a man is a man for all that and' blokieness' is adefinite Australian word for a man who is amember of the club of all man men and no hello sailor about it .
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 124
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Posted: 7/26/2009 1:03:24 AM
Wish I understood what the heck you meant ... ruins the game when one player is either obtuse or dense or maybe trying too hard to be clever . OK message too short . I'm game . Most men don't sit on the fence and that is a good thing , neither do most women and the quality of womenposters here is getting very much on the 'qui vive' . You however seem comfortable sitting on a fence . What , for pity's sake DO you mean and don't tautologise me .
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 128
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Posted: 7/26/2009 4:23:17 PM
They are having little moments of understanding women better .. oh , well .. they are getting less 'blokey' tis true and as I think Ican certainly judge the merit of 'play' , at the same time I regret its necessity to some people . This is serious , we do ,all women want to find a companion of the opposite sex who is of a higher calibre than 'The Marlboro Man' of ads gone by and a woman who has lived her life and thought about it is entitled to a good man . A GOOD PERSON who is a man . And I know a couple and you can actually talk about and joke about 'blokiness' with them . It is true that you must see yourself as worth a good man and hold out till you find one . You can still have fun going out with friends etc. .. and who knows , he may not turn up on a snorting black charger but ... who knows ?
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 135
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Posted: 7/27/2009 3:05:44 PM
Not when they spit in your general English direction . And those glasses must be changed to a sort of rose colour as the green is upsetting an otherwise balanced perspective on men . Sincerely as always yours , nevaagin .
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 138
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Posted: 8/5/2009 2:45:21 PM
Just had another thought ... we haven't really defined exactly what husband material is ? I am racking my brains but can't come up with a definite definition ... apart from the "I Do" bit yawn .. er , what or who or whatever or WTF is a good husband ? Can someone enlighten me in words of 10 or less ?
 nevaagin
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 143
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Posted: 8/5/2009 8:48:27 PM
And speaking for myself , that was the third thought I had had this morning .. and I muddled the threads up .. but , with the rate of divorce as it is .. maybe both threads do sort of belong together .Logically both partners are 'in it' together but from observation it seems that the pub does win over keeping company with the wife .
 dont need one
Joined: 9/15/2008
Msg: 147
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Posted: 8/6/2009 9:33:22 PM

I would like to offer you my friendship and get to know you a little better. Could we meet in 'Horizons' sometime for a drink, sit near the window, chat and watch the sunset?


Hope we get to know the outcome bluebutterfly............ will be interesting to know the answer what with the title of this thread and all.... and of course for research purposes
Heads back to her corner to sit quietly and patiently until part 2 humming to herself.... Love is in the air.......la la la
 dont have one
Joined: 2/1/2008
Msg: 148
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Posted: 8/7/2009 2:07:10 AM
OMG!!!!!
In the old days when I used to write messages, I found it hard enough to write something only one person was going to read. To put it out there for the whole world to see, is either incredibly brave or stupid . If he doesnt post back here in the forums, we hope you copy and paste it back here for all of us to enjoy.

To all those who have said women dont message, read it and weep

Kudos to you Bluebutterfly48 Keep the Faith
 Alteredstates
Joined: 8/18/2009
Msg: 151
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Posted: 8/24/2009 11:12:33 PM
Well said HP ,

Too many theories , just sounds like a lot of confused people,

I like to think dating is quite black and white

You meet someone you like, you date, if it works good if it doesnt thats good too and move on, too much thought on the matter will only add confusion.

What humours me is that everyones an expert on dating sites on how to date,
but theyre still here, i have to plead stupidity on the opposite sex, its less embarrassing
 WithJustaLittleLuck
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 153
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Posted: 11/26/2009 1:25:37 AM

most aussies men are socially retarded...aussie men need to get some deportment


Yes it is true, the important things to remember is that all Australian men are exactly identical, they are all named Bruce, they are all ill mannered, inarticulate, ill read, short tempered, beer swilling sports mad misogynists, who chew with their mouths open and clean their ears with their car keys.

As John said “you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
 Natasah
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 154
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Posted: 11/26/2009 5:02:50 AM
So I've got to get rid of the books, the wine collection, do anti-meditation, change name and, I'm sorry but I've forgotten is it a unfinishing school of unrefinement or just a rough school of hard knocks I have to attend?
 Leatheryman
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 162
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Posted: 11/28/2009 1:09:46 PM
On a culturaly related side topic with this issue; Apparently 40% of men in Australia wear their undies 2 days in a row as well. Of course that percentile would increase greatly if the Einstien (at Bonds underwear, which I will never buy EVER again) behind that survey realised that probably only about 40% of blokes wear jocks in the first place! She'd be a candidate for the Nobel Peace Prize that one...
 Leatheryman
Joined: 5/11/2009
Msg: 164
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Posted: 11/30/2009 10:39:40 AM

they rely on women for Soooo much of the hard yacker in life and hardly ever criticise their own actions .


Oh you mean cooking and cleaning? Yes..I suppose we do. Have done for millennia actually. Me personally though, as far as hard yakka goes, I'm pretty sure I'm supporting about 3 families on welfare and I'm a single guy who lives by myself...
 rustic36
Joined: 12/31/2008
Msg: 166
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Posted: 12/2/2009 4:25:33 AM
Well, if your going to try and find a decent bloke in a night club in the middle of the night, what do you expect?

The city is full of retards after midnight and before.. What do you expect, they are all**** with hard -ons hoping to get laid so they can brag to their mates..

I laugh every time I see people making "wild" generalisations about people after meeting only a few. If you have met over half the male population and they all act the same, then, maybe you can say what you want about "most" men.. But, when your only talking about a very very small minority and only one state of Australia, then, you have no leg to stand on..

Its funny hey? Women go out to bars to find a "decent" bloke and then get all uptight when all they find are drunken wankers and then claim that all men are like that.. Maybe its your technique?

There are plenty of decent blokes in Australia, you just have to know where to find us ;)
 tarvold
Joined: 10/4/2008
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Posted: 12/2/2009 2:18:35 PM

The city is full of retards after midnight and before.. What do you expect, they are all**** with hard -ons hoping to get laid so they can brag to their mates..

Hey.... er... Men will run around with hard-ons trying to get laid irrespective of location and intelligence. That's not a generalization, it's a fact - it's just what we're programmed to do.
 Markinfreo
Joined: 2/22/2006
Msg: 171
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Posted: 12/4/2009 3:22:07 AM
Most Australian men are fairly boring. They have a limited amount of subjects that they can talk about. But its a cultural thing and you can say the same about Australian women..

I had a Canadian friend who said that Australians overseas were far more outgoing but when they get back to their backyard, they socialise with their friends and never go outside the square...

btw...love the idea of setting up a thread for self promotion...good move
 Marmalade70
Joined: 10/12/2009
Msg: 172
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Posted: 12/4/2009 5:22:03 AM
[/Well, if your going to try and find a decent bloke in a night club in the middle of the night, what do you expect?]
[/The city is full of retards after midnight and before.. What do you expect, they are all**** with hard -ons hoping to get laid so they can brag to their mates..
[/I laugh every time I see people making "wild" generalisations about people after meeting only a few. ]

I everytime someone has a go at females heading to nightclubs for a good night out.

Don't just restrict it to the retards who are at the clubs. Males would still run around the city like retards with hard-ons no matter if they are drunk or sober or if it is 10am. They just run around with hard-ons all the time .... so what is the big deal, that's what men are for.
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