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 FrozenAssets
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 26
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By the look of your profile, you aren't looking for anyone over the age of 54, so why bother with what we think?
 the SoldierByte
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 27
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/4/2009 6:24:00 PM
And I really thought they liked me...!!!


a few of the ladies on the forums,
including myself have actually emailed other lady posters and told them to look up your profile, just to laugh at the level of arrogance and ridiculousness of it. Just being honest.


Oh my my my...
Ms Desert WildFlower...
I been here a while...
And honestly...
I had no idea.........
The youngest woman (first wife) I was ever married to was seven years (7) older then me..
The oldest woman (third wife) was sixteen years older..!! After being married
she confessed that she had lied (I was lead to believe she was only 14 years difference.
She stated she was afriad I'd not like/stay with her if I knew how much older..)
My point.... we males NOT the only ones to "stretch" the truth..
As for me...
I try NEVER to lie unless I have to in order to make someone believe
something that is not true...
Other then that...
I'm a real keeper....
I just can't find anyone to convince...
More later...
Time for my meds...
(if I don't take em on times.. it gets spooky when ever the
carpet starts to tell me that
the aliens will be here in the morning to pick me up...
---SoldierByte---
 FriendlyFreeSpirit
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 28
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 3:11:39 AM

seeing that you asked...................
I see that you took out the lines about most your exes being models, and that many of them were referred to as Barbies. This is good. Those particular sentences (for me) put you on the top of the list for having the absolutely most arrogant, self absorbed, superficial, letcherous profile on all of POF for all of time. I do give you however that you are from OC and that is kind of a niche for arrogant obnoxious sexist self serving pigs, and considered acceptable in that market. To be honest, once in a while I would pull up your particular profile, just for sh*ts and giggles after a night of being out, and meeting one of your fellow good ole boys from your club.
Ther other issue that you will only consider dating women 12 to 31 years younger than yourself also kind of puts you in this same category as a looking for a trophy arm candy jerk guy. Again, consider the region, pretty normal.
So , if you do have all of these physical demands, I sure hope that you can meet a similar standard to that, being an average of 20 years older than who you prefer.
More typically, guys that I have met in this age range, with those requirements, I refer to as the pregnant Tommy Bahama boyz, Having to tilt the steering wheel in their Porche all the way up, in order to fit his steak and martini filled distended abdomen under it. Oooooooo, baby, that`s hot! Maybe they have a few bucks but that certainly doesn`t make them attractive in my book.
: At 66, you are cutting off at 54. Why do you ask what over 50 women want? I doubt if you want them. Having probs getting the hot 30 year olds in your stabile? Well, in closing, you are who you are. I think you should put the Barbie and model remark back in there so women know what they would be getting into if they accepted a date from you. Be Real. If you want to be a Hugh Hefner, go for it. I`m sure if you spend enough you`ll get a few takers, especially in Southern California. Women here have seemed to develop a pretty strong stomach for arrogant horney old viagara dogs.
There is sure enough of them around.
You asked. Best wishes finding that trophy to dangle.
Edit: FYI------a few of the ladies on the forums, including myself have actually emailed other lady posters and told them to look up your profile, just to laugh at the level of arrogance and ridiculousness of it. Just being honest.

Do you get the feeling desert wildflower's been waiting a lonngggg time to to say this?
 FriendlyFreeSpirit
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 29
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 3:59:06 AM
I have to say, Gaddflye's outrageous posts lost their annoyance value a while ago. To me, they reached an apex when he was leaving his Danube cruise, filled with large-busted blonde women aged 30-45 who were lusting after him, together with the old 50 and 60-year-old desparado b1tches on heat, to post here and boast about it. Remember? It was when he posted they were having a "rack war" over him that he became a bit of a legend, I think..lol..
Unlike Desert, I'm not surrounded by his "type". So, for me, he's quite a rare and amusing specimen. It could be worse, we could be married to him...
 strawberi50
Joined: 6/18/2008
Msg: 30
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 4:21:46 AM
Desirable: Honesty...Not a list of do's and don'ts...or fabrications...Have you ever met someone that you thought was not "all that" but the more you talked to them the better they became....etc...Honesty about yourself without the list. I think we get the idea when you look but don't respond....Honesty.

Undesirable: Bed shots, partially naked shots, more than one person in pic shots, shots with other women ( unless you want to be known as a player then by all means keep it ) etc... Now don't get me wrong...I like the male phy. like any other woman, but like some men, I prefer to discover it on my own...!
 mis~fit
Joined: 1/28/2009
Msg: 31
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 4:52:58 AM
What do women over 50 look for in a man's profile?


seriously???

some word .... some hint ..... that you are able to still "rise up"....... to the "occasion" ...

buwaaahaaahaaa!!!

ENOUGH! of the over-done walks & talks, ALREADY! ... sooooo tired of hearing it.



 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 32
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 5:54:49 AM
First a photo
Then I head right to the age range he has listed. The reason for that is I do not wish to read any further if his age range tells me he is looking for anything that walks. Also let's me know if he wants to date someone as young as some of his children maybe????

If he passes the above 2 things I like to read about his hobbies and interests.

thecatsmeoww
 *~*ChardyGirl*~*
Joined: 6/29/2007
Msg: 33
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 6:17:58 AM
We like to see men who are NOT delusional in thinking they're entitled to a woman 20+ years younger than them,who's slim,gorgeous,bla bla bla........(yawn)

Kudos to Phoebe,Desert,Ffs,and Ms.Moonie........funny that we all think so similarly about certain Topics.......

 Gaddflye
Joined: 9/10/2008
Msg: 34
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 6:48:41 AM
Thank you to those of you who have supplied serious and thoughtful posts. I appreciate them very much.

Judging from many of the posts so far as well as in other over 45 threads very few women over 50 appear to be happy with their lives, like men and positive and upbeat in their outlook on life. Indeed many are seething and hostile and want to tell the world. Wow! It is so very sad. So many are down on men from past hurts, changes in body chemistry or whatever. I see some of this in the real world but not nearly to the extent it turns up in these forums. I do know some women over 50 who are happy and enjoy being around men. Most in their forties I know are. The 47 year old I am seeing tonight is a very happy person and a lot of fun to be around.

Is it OK to put "I want a woman of cheerful disposition, happy and content with herself and her life who likes and enjoys men." in a man's profile? That is certainly very, very important to me.
 RockDrummer_2010
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 35
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 7:43:23 AM
Excuse me if I misinterpreted, but did 'ol boy just tell all of you that you're sad, lonely, angry, hostile, & basically got no life? (after asking for your help)

This could reflect why his profile is still the way it is, since your meaningless bantering seemed of no importance to him...ya think?

Ya'll can still DO ME, if you like - I don't have all the sexist, looking for young girls & bragging on myself in mine...so I Ain't Skeered - well, maybe a little skeered...lol
 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 36
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 8:40:52 AM
Gadd,

Excuse me, but just because there are several women here that find your profile
arrogant, obnoxious, entitled and distasteful, has nothing to do with our happiness level. It has more to do with the vibes you are putting out. You ARE a turn off to a whole lot of women when you write things like that.

So I guess in your mind, anyone who finds you not all of that, or does find your communication style annoying, must be wrong and have issues. Did it ever occur to you that maybe you have an issue? Just maybe? I doubt it.

I have been reading your posts for several months. As far as I am concerned, the c*cky, self ingratiating way you post is just ridiculous, and I would feel very sorry for any woman who would have to even sit through 5 minutes of listening to such self absorbed drivvel. I have met people like that in real life and I am gone.

I am sure there are women out there that view you as being confidant and living life with gusto to the fullest. I am not one of them. Silicon bimbos are often impressed easily, so you best stick to those, who can adore and admire the superior being that you are.

As far as my happiness level, don`t worry hun, it`s handled, and I got what I need right now. My happiness or lack of it has nothing to do with your over the top crappy attitude.

Rockdrummer,
You are fine, more than fine. Women only go on the attack mode when they run into something like the OP.
 FriendlyFreeSpirit
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 37
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 2:48:45 PM
I can see how us laughing at the old goat makes us look like total b1tches to new posters. But this man's posts have left no doubt in my mind as to how much he despises women.
For months, we've been treated here to post after post from Gaddflye about how women over 50 are too old, too ugly, too worn-out, too disgusting. He has never tried to hide his repugnance and in fact has practically spat in our virtual faces.
So when this old man asks us what is "undesirable" about his profile, who can be blamed for pointing out the obvious? What's undesirable about your profile is your sexist, belittling attitude. You don't like us? Whatever. But don't expect some women to thank you for insulting them.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 38
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 3:18:11 PM
Friendly said:I can see how us laughing at the old goat makes us look like total b1tches to new posters.

Friendly not at all you in fact gave me a few good chuckles.. I have to wonder what this man was thinking when he asked a group of women over 50 what they find desirable or undesirable in a man's profile?

He opens the door to a group he dissed? Now how intelligent is that I ask?

thecatsmeoww
 Lambro59
Joined: 3/19/2009
Msg: 39
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 3:57:51 PM
Interesting, a lot of the things women say they don't want to see in a mans profile is the same things I see in women's profiles. I just wrote an honest self assessment, some women will like it, some won't, no matter what you put in your profile. That's life
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 40
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What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 4:34:41 PM
the sad part is that writing is a skill like any other. some have it, some don't. there are scads of smart, terrific catches out there, male and female, who come off as dull because writing is not part of their skill set. kudos to the site for making suggestions on what to write, but i really don't care who your favorite bands are. i wanna know the things that are most important to you and what you really feel.

strip away the personalities and bad blood in this thread, and you find the op is asking a legitimate question about writing.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 41
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 5:07:53 PM
Want to thank all you ladies who insist on a photo; it *really* assisted my fella in finding me, lol!

On topic: I always really appreciated a guy who could get enough of his world view down on "paper" so that I had an idea with whom I was dealing. Didn't matter so much whether he was appealing to me, or the reverse -- simply gives everyone all the way around the opportunity to make an informed choice, early.

 lbiker
Joined: 4/24/2008
Msg: 42
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 5:13:46 PM
Gaddflye

Why do you ask a question, setting yourself up for positive information, and you get nasty and negative. Haven't you commented several times how females "group" opinions for 1 man onto all men. Isn't that what you just did?

Where is your picture? I looked at your profile, it doesn't really tell me much about you. Other than your fantasy russian faced, oriental bodied, female servant. What about you? To be so specific, show us what you have to offer. Isn't that fair? My concept of a good lookin man is any or all of 300. (The movie, Spartans) Oh, that leads me to another question, what happened to you guys,,you used to look sooooooo good..Is it age, just like the female population???? Ohhhh you get wrinkles, loose skin, droops instead of smooth????? So where is the pictures?
All of us have ideas, fantasies, dreams, but unless we look that good ourselves, why do we expect others to? And at out age, how many times are you going to have a face lift, body repair, to get that look???
Me I would rather be real, just me, wrinkles and all. And some male, that looked at all of me, not just my size, face, and that other fake crap.
OH yeah,,size 7. FYI!!!!!
So best of luck to you and your fantasy. Don't ask the ladies for help, if you can't take the honesty.

LBiker
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 43
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 5:21:50 PM
Just read the thread, yikes! Mr Flye may not be "all that" but he IS at least a "bag of chips," so give credit where credit is due, eh?

 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 44
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 6:06:14 PM
I do have to comment, in Mr. Gaddflye`s defense, that I feel he is only a lost sheep following blindly the accepted attitude of older single males in upscale Southern California communities.

Spending much of my time in a similar setting in So Cal, I run into these Mr. Flyes on a regular basis. He is only a product of a superificial box mentality , sexist, materialistic,
and shallow to a fault. If he has either been born into this culture or has adopted it , I have to tell you, it is accepted in his home town.
The good ole country club boys trade women the same way they would trade a car or a
piece of real estate. Women are considered an "object" for pleasure, and not much other thought is put into it. The women, in turn accept this philosophy, as long as there is enough financial value in it for them to tolerate this ego driven dance of power, property and sex. It is "normal" here. As long as the next designer purse can be procured, maybe if she is lucky, a car or a great island getaway, many women are willing to sell themselves out to the highest bidder, be it wrinked, nasty a$$ sagging old man ,that could well be her grandfather. This is also considered normal here.

I have seen scenarios and values accepted here that would make most normal folk from other regions cringe. Speaking to one of these fine gentlemen one evening, he mentioned to me "well, you are going to pay for it one way or another, so you may as well buy what you can afford. Prostitute, girlfriend, it`s all the same to me."

So you see, these men have no souls or feeling. They only have ego and needs to be met. Good food, prestigious golf membership, great car, and hot babe. They really wouldn`t understand the concept of actually interacting with a woman like a human being. They are living breathing Barbie dolls-------in Gadd`s own words, considered no more than expensive toys to be played with. This mindset is what the profile reveals.
 bicoastal49
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 45
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 6:09:59 PM
Interesting thread. Brings this to mind:

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (from the Mayo Clinic website):

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. They believe that they're superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.

Criteria for narcissistic personality disorder to be diagnosed include:

* Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
* Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power or beauty
* Believing that you are special and can associate only with equally special people
* Requiring constant admiration
* Having a sense of entitlement
* Taking advantage of others
* Inability to recognize needs and feelings of others
* Being envious of others
* Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner
 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 46
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/5/2009 6:27:01 PM
Also.................

I mean how much does a man really care a bout a woman`s mind , spirit, soul or opinion when he is looking for an arm ornament and some casual sex? I mean really, isn`t it a whole lot less complicated to just procure a simple minded young babe, where all you have to do is foot the bill and shell over a few bucks, in order to see that blank doe eyed expression of admiration for the financial generosity? So much easier than actually trying to have a conversation or trying to make some kind of emotional connection. Who would want that anyways, just a pain in the kneck that could get in the way of your daily golf game.

That is what the golf and drinkin` buddies at the club are for, ya know male bonding, and bragging about who has the youngest, hottest sn*tch of the week. A relationship with a woman? Meh----that`s for wussies and losers. Real men just pick up hot babes.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 47
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What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/6/2009 1:50:50 AM
As an impartial observer, I understood that OP asked in a very polite way a perfectly legitimate question. For some reason, his innocent post stirred a hornet’s nest.

FFS:
Your reference to another, unrelated post by OP about his Danube cruise reminds me of my ex who would unexpectedly bring out a totally unrelated ten-year old quarrel to the table. And being a river man myself, I have a feeling that his cruise took place on Rhine rather than Danube. From my experience, the Rhine River cruise is way more interesting than the Danube cruise, but they both don’t hold candle to a sail over the Great Barrier Reef. You really don't have to feel cheated out of that cruise. If you ever come to Ontario in a hospitable season, you must try the Thousand Islands or even 30,000 Islands cruises. Much nicer than that Danube float.

Phoebe:
You are lucky to put up with just men’s profiles. I would bet that in terms of “romantic walks on the beach, under a star-lit sky and cuddling in front of a fireplace with a glass of wine” these clichés in women’s profiles outnumber men profiles by at least of factor of ten. Not to forget a fascination with thunderstorms and walking in the rain.

For more examples, pls, refer to my dissertation (page 1, msg #10) in “What do men in their 50's look for in a woman's profile?”. This post alone resulted in many more friendly emails in my inbox than all my feeble efforts in sending out any introductory emails on my part. So, it must have hit some nerves out there.

Regrettably, great many female posters seem to get irritated about OP’s cheerful, polite, but unrelated posts where he describes his escapades with much younger companions. For every one of his posts on this subject there are at least 100 similar posts by women in various other threads who report enthusiastically about being approached by younger men. The only difference between OP’s and the other posts is that he describes his companions as great-looking ex-models whereas the other posters leave the physical appearance of their younger suitors to our own imagination.

To an uninitiated person, OP seems to be a much happier person than “several other women who find his profile arrogant, obnoxious, entitled and distasteful”. I don’t recall him attacking any posters or their profiles.

It’s unlikely that OP would get romantically involved with any of the ladies who attacked his innocent post, and I might be presumptuous in assuming that they are trying to get on his favorite list. So let’s just stay on the topic, and hear more insightful information, like from Sapphireeyes, halley888 and Epona65808.
 FrozenAssets
Joined: 11/25/2007
Msg: 48
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/6/2009 10:03:29 AM
Well, well, well... isn't Mr Gaddflye a nasty little troll?

Let's take a look at what the definition of what a gadfly is:

1: any of various flies, as a stable fly, that bits or annoys domestic animals.

2. a person (as in OP) who persistently annoys or provokes other with criticism, schemes, ideas, demands, etc.

Both definitions seems to fit nicely that of OP, don't you think?


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 RockDrummer_2010
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 49
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/6/2009 11:03:11 AM
desert wildflower - Now I see why this guy is getting under your skin....waayyyyyy under...lol

TryAgan - post #10 is absolutely hilarious, can I copy/paste...lol. You managed to hit on every blah blah blah thing that I soooo hate reading over & over & over again...and that is getting your Inbox flooded, huh? Sheesh, I need to work on my kiss-a$$ a bit!

FriendlyFreeSpirit and lbiker - and to believe he would pass on girls like you? You are totally adorable! I would soooo hit that.....uuuhhh, I mean love to make your acquaintance.

Gaddflye - is your penile area starting to shriveled yet? If I had that many girls telling me what a pr*ck I am, 'ol boy would be wrinkling up so bad...I couldn't even find him with a mirror
 desert wildflower
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 50
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/6/2009 2:15:31 PM
Well, if he is intentionally being a trolling pr*ck in order to seek reaction, I got to tell you , he plays it well, because I have met so many men that do act and communicate this way. If it is all just a mind game, he does very well playing the ultimate of a-holes. Kudos Mr. Gadd.
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