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 the SoldierByte
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 176
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Oh My Dear Ms FriendlyFreeSpirit ,
Never once did I ever mean to insinuate
that I meant a "b"...
I am the shy and bashful type...
It was my way of flirting...
I will heed your advise...
I just luvs a woman can put me in my place..
specially if it's at HER place....
Does this mean you like me and will at least "consider" me... .
I promise to behave... honest...
Just think....
the places we could go..
the people we could meet..
the things we could do...
All once I get paroled..............
I'm waiting for your call.....
Please hurry..
xoxo
---SoldierByte---
 AGreenEyedLady4U
Joined: 2/27/2009
Msg: 177
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/19/2009 3:14:35 PM
I want to see a few current pictures...and please post at least a good one of your face and a full body shot. I would also like it if you would do the chemistry assessment. If you put more effort into it, it looks like you are more serious and more open about presenting yourself.
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 178
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What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:02:01 PM

They left because this place is really depressing for intelligent, achieving women. They don't like to hear how much they're disliked just because they are female by bitter men who have issues. They would rather go into the real world and mix with men who actually like women. I miss those women here heaps. It was what got me hooked - the laughs we had here. Now, there is no laughter in the Over 45s. EvenRanRan - who was the one to originally call us "posse" - misses those women (I think!). He knew that if he bit, they'd bite back with humour and intelligence. And that we could banter, but still like each other. This is just become a place where the barriers between real communication are much larger than in real life, imo. This sort of hatred we see from both men and women is usually not so blatant.


^^^Could not have said that one better myself! As a long time member/poster, the chit that goes on in the forums of late isn't worth my effort. I have a much better time dealing/meeting men without the forums. And I know a lot of my gal pals feel much the same.

OT: What is desirable in a man? A genuine interest in me and my likes, kind to folks and animals alike. Employed at whatever, as long as working. Not into being the macho dude, that was for long ago. I just want someone I can share my life with...and that, friends, is most, most difficult to find.
 13karat
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 179
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:14:22 PM
^^^^^ I will second that one, moonchild.
I have been off and on these forums for a long time, under several names.... and if you look at my history, I post in other forums a bit. I used to post in this forum, but it has become so over run by bitter men with issues.... why bother? I have much better things to do .... why waste my energy? Just looking at the last two pages of this thread alone..... naw, not even worth going into - nuff said, the intelligent women who post in these forums know what I am talking about.
 the SoldierByte
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 180
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/19/2009 7:58:30 PM
I just cannot understand most of these guys...
They seem to have no standards or morals what-so-ever...
As for me..??
I have relatively high standards AND morals..
And trust me..
I'll drop em in a minute for any gal that will take me...
So gals.. keep me in mind..
You never can tell when you'll need a lil huggy-bear and kissy-face..
I could be YOUR keeper..
more later..
---SoldierByte---
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 181
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Posted: 6/19/2009 8:01:53 PM
All due respect to you Soldier?
I have yet to read a post from you that is in any way serious, thus, I could never take you serious as a dateable fellow. Humour is a wonderful quality to have, yet it isn't the way to approach life on a constant basis. Sorry hun, tis just my honest opinion on that one>
 the SoldierByte
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 182
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:26:09 PM
EDIT start here........... Forgot about showing up on
profile.. I AM still searching and do not want prospective
mates to get the wrong impression.!@!! end EDIT
Oh Moonchild48,
You know I've always been goo goo eyes for you.
If not for that ocean between us.......
I'd be at your side trying my best to keep you smiling..
(and I don't mean with jokes..)
But heck.. had to be serious my WHOLE life..
I probably don't got much left..
I wanna enjoy and be happy..
Let others now worry and fret..
And as for this "REAL" and tell bout yourself..
If I find the right one..
the both of us will know...
More later..
---SoldierByte---
(see.. no emoticons THIS time.. just for you. .)
 BoudaciaSmile
Joined: 5/18/2009
Msg: 183
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:33:53 PM
I like the Christmas tree when it's down..
I can read better without all the lights in my eyes...

I liked the lightheartedness in this thread.

With the Old Guard gone...it's a good thing, I feel. The world goes on...and sometimes there has to be a fresh outlook.
When I first came on, it was so locked up tight with extreme feminism. If you didn't agree, you were practically ran off the site.
Now...it's more well-rounded. With that, I hope the gender wars cool down a bit.
Things like chivalry, decency, values, morals, and other insights of the male/female puzzle are now being discussed with new verve without the Old Guard running it into the ground. It is like a breath of fresh air.
Ideals are lovely, but when people are trying to figure out their lives, common sense, reality and some solid footing are the necessity.

Now...back on topic....and SB and gadflye can do whatever their thing is...if it makes people laugh and smile...so what. Forums are entertainment and socializing, too.
 HSV kitty
Joined: 2/4/2009
Msg: 184
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:11:29 AM
Ah yes, being able talk about me as though I am a paraih is amusing and "fresh"? Ah but I should not take that persoanally because ... why? I should be used to it? I am. You may be as bemused as you wish at other's expense, but it is still not at all amusing.

I tell people I have Herpes on my profile because I care about others, not because I wish to be ridiculed for it. Does that give him then the right to use it against me ? Obviously yes as even the females here are saying YES! Because he made me laugh!

SB is a cyber bully and the Gadflye is laughing his guts out puppeteering you. This thread speaks volumes about what people care about... themselves. So who the hell really cares about what is on the profiles... lie and be thoughtless and thus attract like. Who really gives a damn about what anyone desires, thinks, feels or cares about!! FU soldier byte for not letting me say this to you as I am from another country. I would leave a slap mark for weeks if it were in person.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 185
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 6/20/2009 10:58:54 AM
...Without a doubt, having a good sense of humour is the number one charateristic I look for in a man's profile/ postings. Now that's appealing.

An example:...At a company hosted barbeque/retirement party last night I couldn't help but notice how most of the females in attendance seemed to seek out this one particular gent, myself included...why? Cause he had us all laughing and giggling for most of the evening. He was fun to be around. Like I said many times in the forums, I shun negativity....undesirable.

I respect a man who is respectful of people, and who truly likes, appreciates and respects the differences between a man and a woman. That also is appealing, the fact that he is confident in himself and feels no need to critize or bash anyone.

I desire a man who desires me, who is accepting of me with all my faults, quirks and idiosyncrasies....and I have many. Some who is willing to overlook the fact that I can be very stubborn, opinionated, b1tchy and I am not a very good cook....oh and I despise yard work of any kind. But I do like a nice lawn and flowers... if he was so inclined, that would be desirable haha
BTW..... It would be nice if he lived in my city too.

......yeah I know, good luck with that.


...maeflowers
 not quitting
Joined: 2/25/2008
Msg: 186
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/13/2009 10:32:39 AM
I have written and flirted with men who did not have a photo at all, but what drew me to them was saying things like.

looking for someone to e-mail and then see where it goes from that.

warm, fun loveing , adventurious, open to meet woman for conversation,common interest.

same age, same background, same hobbies, allways get my interest.

Can't stand it when a man will, say, young looking for my age (that's their opinion)

water skying at age 75, travel all around europe, doctorate degree, writes books.

than I know they are really out of my league.

what really bugs me, is when they talk about sports they like. REALLY what woman wants to hear about sports?
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 187
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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:45:25 AM
^^^^^

Can't stand it when a man will, say, young looking for my age (that's their opinion). water skying at age 75, travel all around europe, doctorate degree, writes books.

Right! At that age, they should stick to downhill skiing and reading the books.
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
Msg: 188
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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:27:48 PM
Elle Kaye - Msg 253

Hey, Try! Wanna date, in about a decade or so, to tour Europe and ski the Alps? I love doing stuff I shouldn't.

Sounds good, I don't have anything scheduled for that time.
But what about the bird, is he coming, too?
 sjmermaid
Joined: 9/12/2008
Msg: 189
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Posted: 7/13/2009 6:31:03 PM
I am mostly attracted to the less wordy profiles. Just a list of positive and negative things about yourself, a bit about places you have been and would like to visit, favorite teams, etc. I like to hear that someone is family oriented or not, just be truthful, if the woman is interested, you can fill her in during your dates. I really enjoy funny profiles as well.
Now for what I find is that most of the men's profiles say they want an honest partner, my profile lists all of the things that are important to me in a prospective partner. I also mention that manners are important, no offensive odors, etc... and I have received only a few decent responses. Most of the guys write to me telling me that they think I have alot of nerve to write those things, sorry, I am offended if someone has rotten teeth, no job due to laziness and asked me to "pull their finger"!
Hope this helps.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
Msg: 190
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Posted: 7/14/2009 1:44:32 PM
Desirable in a man's profile would be to see rubber ducks and doggies?

thecatsmeoww
 rustygetsit
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 191
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/15/2009 5:42:39 AM
Likes: A nice photo that shows your eyes (not having a photo is sometimes okay with me if you've got something nice/interesting to say in your profile); honesty, sense of humor, positive comments on life, and you cooking (that's always hot!) LOL

Dislikes: Kilts, lap dogs, dead fish, deer or you up a tree; multiple pictures of crotch rockets; talk of moonlight walks on the beach after you've said you don't travel - so, where's this beach???
Pictures of children/grandchildren - just don't think it's appropriate to put their pics on a dating site for ANYONE to see (THINK ) ... hula skirts when not at a Jimmy Buffett concert ... visible narrow mind (sometimes it shows) ... your elementary school photo ... chances are, you're much better looking now! swimming trunk pics over 10 years old.

Guys, just be yourself, and, if any of the things I said I don't like are your favorite things, please don't be offended - they're just my (personal) opinions ... this is supposed to be tongue-in-cheek ... all is good!
 hearts to stars1953
Joined: 6/6/2009
Msg: 192
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/18/2009 4:07:19 AM
The profile is just the first attempt for someone to try to draw interest. Some have said here that they do not like to see pictures of guys and their fish. You would only get it if you have actually fished yourself, which I have.

Undesirable:
Bad spellers who cannot spell even the simplest of words.
No picture on profile: Sometimes there is a good reason that you would not post a picture. I usually ask for one when contacting someone who has not posted a picture.

Desirable: Someone in my 50s age group who seems to take each day as a gift and enjoys life as if it is an adventure with new things to be discovered each day. Someone who has a sense of humor and who would have the potential to make me laugh. You can see this in their face and profile. I would be attracted to someone who has some of the same interests as me.
 DaytonDennis
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 193
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Posted: 7/18/2009 4:20:31 AM
singles49 writes:

6. in your profile, dont list undecided for do you want children......by your age you should know


ummm... well, I'm not sure I understand this. I figured that profile question didn't specify "Do you want to father/bear a new child". I took it to mean "Would you still consider a lady/man if they have children who are still living at home" Maybe the question is too ambigious, but I did answer "undecided". Now, at my age do I want to father a new child? Nope. Would I consider marrying a lady who had a teenager at home? Undecided. Let me meet your child... if he sneers at me and gives me a rude hand gesture, the "undecided" becomes a NO. If he shakes my hand and even laughs at my stupid jokes, well... leaning toward the YES. Or am I completely misunderstanding the profile question? If so, I'll bet I'm not alone and if a lady sees "undecided" as a deal breaker, she may be missing out on some nice guys. Am I making any sense here?
 1Lilly of the Valley
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 194
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/23/2009 4:37:06 PM
a profile with not much to go on, does not get any e-mail
profile is your first contact, be real tell it like u like it. Have fun show the real you!
Words are very powerful, If you tell women what u want, it may just bring u what u want! The success of a relationship is how much common interests you have to share and I like to know a man's expectations in a relationship cuts to the finish line of the chase of dating. And may cut down on the women who try to be what u want to just be with someone a pleaser. Have standards with some bend in them, hey if you discribe a dream who's to say SHE WON'T APEER MAYBE MINUS A FEW SMALL DETAILS?she might be closer than u expected heheheheee
 esorb
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 195
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/24/2009 7:23:34 AM
I wish i could hire Suecat51 to write my resume for a post retirement part-time job. Jokes apart, that list of 12 attributes is right on. But except for background and interests I do not personally depend on what is in a profile since i know it is designed to impress me. I want a chance to communicate with a woman who has the minimum attributes of a decent human being. I can find out more from a few exchanges than from a profile. Quite often what she hates about herself may be what is most attractive about her. I don't really think it is possible to truly reflect a personality in a brief profile. All you can get is an insight. Moreover, I have no interest in reading a lengthy biography.
 Missy6713
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 196
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/24/2009 7:35:36 AM
No Caps, hats, dead animals, bare chests.

Do have a close up shot of your face and show some teeth.

Talk about sex. Come on!!!! You are trying to meet someone! This just scares me away.
 Call me Ginny
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 197
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Posted: 7/24/2009 7:45:08 AM
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Desirable;

~ A sense of humor
~ Articulate
~ Realistic

Undesireable:

~ Bitterness
~ Arrogance
~ Sexual inuendos

Ginny

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 Missy6713
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 198
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 7/24/2009 7:54:08 AM
No Caps, hats, dead animals, bare chests.

You need to have a close up shot of your face and show some teeth.

Don't talk about sex. Come on!!!! You are trying to meet someone for the first time! This just scares me away.

Sunsets and candlelit dinners and long walks! I love sunsets, but have never purposely gone to the beach to see one. Candlelit dinners? Do you call that little candle in the restaurant a candlelit dinner? Long walks, I have never had a date say lets go for a long walk. Besides you have to have the right shoes for that, right ladies.

I do like to hear that you know how and DO....treat a lady, like a lady.

It is a turn off for me to see someone 60 wanting to date from 29-45 year olds. Good luck and enjoy the wait.

If you are looking for a woman around your age, you are going to be very limited if you want only Slender, Athletic and Toned. We are in our 50's, there are not too many women over 50 that meet that demand.

Also, tell us your body size correctly. Some guys say average and you can see by the picture you are overweight. But they still want the athletic and toned.
 Iascaireachta_arĂ­s
Joined: 7/28/2011
Msg: 199
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 11/12/2011 7:29:39 PM

Desirable;

~ A sense of humor
~ Articulate
~ Realistic

Undesireable:

~ Bitterness
~ Arrogance
~ Sexual inuendos


It's been awhile...maybe bring this back to the front for some new input. I completely agree with the above...Men should chime in too. What is it that we all think we are "fishing" for at this point in our lives? Someone more sedate and having learned from mistakes OR or willing to still be a bit wild and crazy and make some more?
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 200
What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile?
Posted: 11/12/2011 9:49:28 PM
Well supposing that women are serious about dating site guys in the first place. I would say children still at home is a no no. No vehicle or job... Overweight and short.
The usual things......addictions such as gambling and drinking. But no one ever write the real truth in profiles and we all know that.....

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