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 ramyam
Joined: 6/15/2009
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you said it sista, this is hilarious!!!!!!!!
it doesnt matter what anyone writes male or female
it is all for entertainment, that has been my
conclusion. over 50, seems no one wants relationships
anymore, been there and done that, jus want to play
and relive their youth that they did not have as youths.
being tied down in a union with someone seems like a dirty
deed nowadays. our generation is lost to romance and still
dont know what LOVE is. still about the sex only.
so sad so sad
 emma_2
Joined: 3/6/2009
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Posted: 6/19/2009 8:24:01 PM
Wow...that almost seems like a no brainer! How about honesty?
No really..H O N E S T Y! Come on ya'll it is so obvious when one doesnt know themselves enough to be really real to themselves. DO you really want to walk on the beach (really)? and is it more because you think I would like that or because you want to?) or are you more into go-carts.
Look a little deeper and tell a girl what you would like to/really do in your "spare time". NAW it is not JUST about sex...
Do you want to start doing things different...explore say pottery? Archery? Maybe gardening, small explosives? Maybe that all really sux for you and you want to look at other ideas. Perhaps..knitting, swordsmanship, boxing or making the biggest ever Ripley's World Record snowman?
We all have a job/career and do what we do for a living-to pay the bills-whatever. If you are not looking to do anything different-SAY SO! Maybe you like where you're at and may want to stay in that same gravel road rut you are moving on - or have to- for what ever reason. Try putting on your preofile one thing you always wanted to do..recently or since childhood or top ever all time life goal. ( Besides meeting the ultimate mate)
Maybe there is some room for a difference in your life.
Dunno- just came to mind that we are all here to find a mate or friend or whatever you have on your profile. That is/requires a major life change and all.
Requires a difference in your life.
 the SoldierByte
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 203
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Posted: 6/19/2009 8:26:09 PM
EDIT start here........... Forgot about showing up on
profile.. I AM still searching and do not want prospective
mates to get the wrong impression.!@!! end EDIT
Oh Moonchild48,
You know I've always been goo goo eyes for you.
If not for that ocean between us.......
I'd be at your side trying my best to keep you smiling..
(and I don't mean with jokes..)
But heck.. had to be serious my WHOLE life..
I probably don't got much left..
I wanna enjoy and be happy..
Let others now worry and fret..
And as for this "REAL" and tell bout yourself..
If I find the right one..
the both of us will know...
More later..
---SoldierByte---
(see.. no emoticons THIS time.. just for you. .)
 BoudaciaSmile
Joined: 5/18/2009
Msg: 204
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Posted: 6/19/2009 8:33:53 PM
I like the Christmas tree when it's down..
I can read better without all the lights in my eyes...

I liked the lightheartedness in this thread.

With the Old Guard gone...it's a good thing, I feel. The world goes on...and sometimes there has to be a fresh outlook.
When I first came on, it was so locked up tight with extreme feminism. If you didn't agree, you were practically ran off the site.
Now...it's more well-rounded. With that, I hope the gender wars cool down a bit.
Things like chivalry, decency, values, morals, and other insights of the male/female puzzle are now being discussed with new verve without the Old Guard running it into the ground. It is like a breath of fresh air.
Ideals are lovely, but when people are trying to figure out their lives, common sense, reality and some solid footing are the necessity.

Now...back on topic....and SB and gadflye can do whatever their thing is...if it makes people laugh and smile...so what. Forums are entertainment and socializing, too.
 HSV kitty
Joined: 2/4/2009
Msg: 205
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Posted: 6/20/2009 8:11:29 AM
Ah yes, being able talk about me as though I am a paraih is amusing and "fresh"? Ah but I should not take that persoanally because ... why? I should be used to it? I am. You may be as bemused as you wish at other's expense, but it is still not at all amusing.

I tell people I have Herpes on my profile because I care about others, not because I wish to be ridiculed for it. Does that give him then the right to use it against me ? Obviously yes as even the females here are saying YES! Because he made me laugh!

SB is a cyber bully and the Gadflye is laughing his guts out puppeteering you. This thread speaks volumes about what people care about... themselves. So who the hell really cares about what is on the profiles... lie and be thoughtless and thus attract like. Who really gives a damn about what anyone desires, thinks, feels or cares about!! FU soldier byte for not letting me say this to you as I am from another country. I would leave a slap mark for weeks if it were in person.
 whitefether
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 6/20/2009 8:16:28 AM
I deeply appreciate a man who "really" likes women. It shows through like a beacon in the night. Two examples. One of which was a lover and one who was not.
The one who was not was a fairly young college graduate at work. He was about 28. He was unfailingly gracious and flirtacious to all women. He said he was raised with 5 sisters and just liked women. I saw him hold the door open for a 5 year old girl, just like she was a 20 year old beauty. It flattered her tremendously. I was an old 44 or something, LOL, and he suggested we get naked, paint our bodies with spray paint and run down the beach in the wind. I was SOOOOO tempted. He just loved women, whatever age, size etc. And women loved him for it.
The second was a lover of mine. And about 50 other women (probably) over the years. He was a womanizer. But, he loved women. Flattered them all. 10 to 80! And they all loved him. Just not a good marriage prospect. If he wasn't pursuing, he was being pursued. What a headache. But, wow, what a lover! I am happy for those memories!

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 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 207
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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:58:54 AM
...Without a doubt, having a good sense of humour is the number one charateristic I look for in a man's profile/ postings. Now that's appealing.

An example:...At a company hosted barbeque/retirement party last night I couldn't help but notice how most of the females in attendance seemed to seek out this one particular gent, myself included...why? Cause he had us all laughing and giggling for most of the evening. He was fun to be around. Like I said many times in the forums, I shun negativity....undesirable.

I respect a man who is respectful of people, and who truly likes, appreciates and respects the differences between a man and a woman. That also is appealing, the fact that he is confident in himself and feels no need to critize or bash anyone.

I desire a man who desires me, who is accepting of me with all my faults, quirks and idiosyncrasies....and I have many. Some who is willing to overlook the fact that I can be very stubborn, opinionated, b1tchy and I am not a very good cook....oh and I despise yard work of any kind. But I do like a nice lawn and flowers... if he was so inclined, that would be desirable haha
BTW..... It would be nice if he lived in my city too.

......yeah I know, good luck with that.


...maeflowers
 not quitting
Joined: 2/25/2008
Msg: 208
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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:32:39 AM
I have written and flirted with men who did not have a photo at all, but what drew me to them was saying things like.

looking for someone to e-mail and then see where it goes from that.

warm, fun loveing , adventurious, open to meet woman for conversation,common interest.

same age, same background, same hobbies, allways get my interest.

Can't stand it when a man will, say, young looking for my age (that's their opinion)

water skying at age 75, travel all around europe, doctorate degree, writes books.

than I know they are really out of my league.

what really bugs me, is when they talk about sports they like. REALLY what woman wants to hear about sports?
 TryAgan
Joined: 4/4/2008
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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:45:25 AM
^^^^^

Can't stand it when a man will, say, young looking for my age (that's their opinion). water skying at age 75, travel all around europe, doctorate degree, writes books.

Right! At that age, they should stick to downhill skiing and reading the books.
 Elle Kaye
Joined: 7/9/2007
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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:21:59 PM
Hey, Try! Wanna date, in about a decade or so, to tour Europe and ski the Alps? I love doing stuff I shouldn't.
 TryAgan
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Posted: 7/13/2009 5:27:48 PM
Elle Kaye - Msg 253

Hey, Try! Wanna date, in about a decade or so, to tour Europe and ski the Alps? I love doing stuff I shouldn't.

Sounds good, I don't have anything scheduled for that time.
But what about the bird, is he coming, too?
 sjmermaid
Joined: 9/12/2008
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Posted: 7/13/2009 6:31:03 PM
I am mostly attracted to the less wordy profiles. Just a list of positive and negative things about yourself, a bit about places you have been and would like to visit, favorite teams, etc. I like to hear that someone is family oriented or not, just be truthful, if the woman is interested, you can fill her in during your dates. I really enjoy funny profiles as well.
Now for what I find is that most of the men's profiles say they want an honest partner, my profile lists all of the things that are important to me in a prospective partner. I also mention that manners are important, no offensive odors, etc... and I have received only a few decent responses. Most of the guys write to me telling me that they think I have alot of nerve to write those things, sorry, I am offended if someone has rotten teeth, no job due to laziness and asked me to "pull their finger"!
Hope this helps.
 Elle Kaye
Joined: 7/9/2007
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Posted: 7/13/2009 8:32:44 PM
No bird. He doesn't ski. Just minimal baggage, a eurail pass and a quarter to flip when we come to a T in the road.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 7/14/2009 1:44:32 PM
Desirable in a man's profile would be to see rubber ducks and doggies?

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 TopFind
Joined: 6/11/2009
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Posted: 7/14/2009 3:02:34 PM
Pictures of ladies kissing pets - undesirable and absolutely disgusting.
I'd rather see them kissing a trophy fish (or a rubber duck as suggested in the post above).
 single49
Joined: 3/29/2006
Msg: 216
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Posted: 7/14/2009 4:32:40 PM
1. a current photo......not something from 20 years ago when you had a full head of hair and teeth.

2. no motorcycle shots....

3. shirt on

4. smile

5. we all want to cuddle, sit by the fire, have a glass of wine...come on...be original

6. in your profile, dont list undecided for do you want children......by your age you should know
 rustygetsit
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 217
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Posted: 7/15/2009 5:42:39 AM
Likes: A nice photo that shows your eyes (not having a photo is sometimes okay with me if you've got something nice/interesting to say in your profile); honesty, sense of humor, positive comments on life, and you cooking (that's always hot!) LOL

Dislikes: Kilts, lap dogs, dead fish, deer or you up a tree; multiple pictures of crotch rockets; talk of moonlight walks on the beach after you've said you don't travel - so, where's this beach???
Pictures of children/grandchildren - just don't think it's appropriate to put their pics on a dating site for ANYONE to see (THINK ) ... hula skirts when not at a Jimmy Buffett concert ... visible narrow mind (sometimes it shows) ... your elementary school photo ... chances are, you're much better looking now! swimming trunk pics over 10 years old.

Guys, just be yourself, and, if any of the things I said I don't like are your favorite things, please don't be offended - they're just my (personal) opinions ... this is supposed to be tongue-in-cheek ... all is good!
 HeartOfKate4
Joined: 5/25/2009
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Posted: 7/15/2009 6:34:08 PM
Of course everyone is different in who they are and what turns them off (or on). Personally I hate it when the photo is of a man without his shirt on or sitting on the bed. At least for the older than 50 men. There are always exceptions. The word Harley screams midlife crisis to me. Obviously many enjoy that. I did the Harley thing in my 20's. I'm no Miss Twiggy so I would look funny on the back of a Harley anyway. Post a good photo or two if you are able to. Have a friend take it, don't take it yourself. Proofread your profile as I should do this, but I'm not going to. I have not taken any of my own advice but I have my reasons. I do really enjoy reading the profiles. Keep posting over 50's!
 hearts to stars1953
Joined: 6/6/2009
Msg: 219
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Posted: 7/18/2009 4:07:19 AM
The profile is just the first attempt for someone to try to draw interest. Some have said here that they do not like to see pictures of guys and their fish. You would only get it if you have actually fished yourself, which I have.

Undesirable:
Bad spellers who cannot spell even the simplest of words.
No picture on profile: Sometimes there is a good reason that you would not post a picture. I usually ask for one when contacting someone who has not posted a picture.

Desirable: Someone in my 50s age group who seems to take each day as a gift and enjoys life as if it is an adventure with new things to be discovered each day. Someone who has a sense of humor and who would have the potential to make me laugh. You can see this in their face and profile. I would be attracted to someone who has some of the same interests as me.
 DaytonDennis
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 7/18/2009 4:20:31 AM
singles49 writes:

6. in your profile, dont list undecided for do you want children......by your age you should know


ummm... well, I'm not sure I understand this. I figured that profile question didn't specify "Do you want to father/bear a new child". I took it to mean "Would you still consider a lady/man if they have children who are still living at home" Maybe the question is too ambigious, but I did answer "undecided". Now, at my age do I want to father a new child? Nope. Would I consider marrying a lady who had a teenager at home? Undecided. Let me meet your child... if he sneers at me and gives me a rude hand gesture, the "undecided" becomes a NO. If he shakes my hand and even laughs at my stupid jokes, well... leaning toward the YES. Or am I completely misunderstanding the profile question? If so, I'll bet I'm not alone and if a lady sees "undecided" as a deal breaker, she may be missing out on some nice guys. Am I making any sense here?
 BergundTal
Joined: 4/10/2009
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Posted: 7/18/2009 5:16:29 PM
Your good Molly, hit the nail right on the head. ........
 1Lilly of the Valley
Joined: 11/2/2006
Msg: 222
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Posted: 7/23/2009 4:37:06 PM
a profile with not much to go on, does not get any e-mail
profile is your first contact, be real tell it like u like it. Have fun show the real you!
Words are very powerful, If you tell women what u want, it may just bring u what u want! The success of a relationship is how much common interests you have to share and I like to know a man's expectations in a relationship cuts to the finish line of the chase of dating. And may cut down on the women who try to be what u want to just be with someone a pleaser. Have standards with some bend in them, hey if you discribe a dream who's to say SHE WON'T APEER MAYBE MINUS A FEW SMALL DETAILS?she might be closer than u expected heheheheee
 esorb
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 223
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Posted: 7/24/2009 7:23:34 AM
I wish i could hire Suecat51 to write my resume for a post retirement part-time job. Jokes apart, that list of 12 attributes is right on. But except for background and interests I do not personally depend on what is in a profile since i know it is designed to impress me. I want a chance to communicate with a woman who has the minimum attributes of a decent human being. I can find out more from a few exchanges than from a profile. Quite often what she hates about herself may be what is most attractive about her. I don't really think it is possible to truly reflect a personality in a brief profile. All you can get is an insight. Moreover, I have no interest in reading a lengthy biography.
 Missy6713
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 224
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Posted: 7/24/2009 7:35:36 AM
No Caps, hats, dead animals, bare chests.

Do have a close up shot of your face and show some teeth.

Talk about sex. Come on!!!! You are trying to meet someone! This just scares me away.
 Call me Ginny
Joined: 12/28/2008
Msg: 225
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Posted: 7/24/2009 7:45:08 AM
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Desirable;

~ A sense of humor
~ Articulate
~ Realistic

Undesireable:

~ Bitterness
~ Arrogance
~ Sexual inuendos

Ginny

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