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 PrinceCharmingsCousin
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 176
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^^^^^^
THIS is true. You know the saying of there is no such thing as a bad pizza, and blowjobs are like pizza no such thing as a bad one....ya that's REALLY NOT true.
 Mmmm.Tony
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 177
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 2/11/2010 7:59:16 PM
Bad blow jobs hurt and you are sore as hell the day after, especially if they don't love what they are doing, are methodical, learned it from a porn or are trying too hard. Just don't do it.
 Mikey197005
Joined: 6/2/2008
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Posted: 2/11/2010 8:46:06 PM
Hey Tony I agree.....my biggest pet peeve has got to be when they try and fondle your scrotum too hard......oh man. Or, too much teeth.

I am sure there are many things that turn off women from giving bj's too besides not just wanting too or not liking it. i.e. ( too much hair, smells bad.....etc. )
 remolover
Joined: 3/31/2009
Msg: 179
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 2/12/2010 7:54:27 AM
Can you tell me the way to Blacksburg? Let's start at the second date. Good on you girls for keeping us guys in our place. I love the 69.
 TNsugar74
Joined: 1/17/2010
Msg: 180
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 2/12/2010 10:08:05 AM
Absolutely true....the human body is physiologically/anatomically wired with so many sense receptors that when there is chemistry between 2 people, every single inch of the body is a playground of enjoyment. If there is anyone who doesn't understand that statement....evidently they haven't experienced pure exxxtasy with another human. Now, I understand that there are no 2 bodies who experience the same sensations, but when 2 people are attracted 2 each other & are open to enjoying the physical aspects of intimacy....then the possibilities are absolutely endless.

Now as far as the original subject...different strokes for different folks (pun intended). What turns one person on may not do the trick for another. When done the right way, everything from kissing-foreplay-oral sex-intercourse, any type of stimulation (in my opinion) should be & is a turn on.

We're all grown & should know by now what gets our own juices flowing. If you're open about your sexuality then you should feel comfortable expressing your needs/desires to whomever you're with.

As far as another thread I read a little about regarding BJ's on a second date....who makes the rules about how soon is too soon? If there is enough chemistry between 2 consenting adults, then what's the big deal? Being easy vs. playing hard to get.....c'mon, this isn't rocket science.....if it feels right....JUST DO IT! Who knows if/when you'll get the chance again & you might just be taking the first step on incredible journey like you've never experienced before....I know I've recently met someone from this site & we had unbelievable chemistry....ATOMIC spark to say the least...we both can't wait to see each other again.
 Mmmm.Tony
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 181
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 2/12/2010 2:31:08 PM
I was just reminded about how much men are mocked and derided for their passions, feelings and love of women in most forms of fashion. There is no physical reason for a man to get turned on with a boob in his mouth, an ear, even a tongue other than his passion for love, love making and adoring the opposite sex. All you will hear though, is that he didn't get breast fed as a child or some c0ck a mammy reason like that. That's why it's a joke when he gets his nuts cracked. Men are stereotyped as unfeeling, barbaric and inconsiderate. So to say there is no reason for a woman to get turned on with a penis in her mouth is just to say YOU haven't found a reason yet or it's just not your thing. But there ARE reasons. Men are sensitive to it.

Because a man being hurt, vulnerable and what not is hilarious because, "I thought you were so tough." Men with feelings as a man-child are coined as being gay, if they cry they are a sissy, if your mother dotes on you, you are a mommas boy and constantly abused to the point you avoid your mother and she wonders why you don't love her any more. When it's all the mockery, abuse and assaults you have to deal with for being loved, showing love back and women in general loving you when you are around your 'male friends'.

It's really hard growing up as a man who feels deep, has passions and isn't military militant. You never fit in, are the brunt of so much hostility and out right hatred and have to constantly vie with other men for respect and just plain old being left alone. Usually you are mocked, scorned and derided for feeling and so most either really end up being gay, punked or buck up and become 'one of the fellas' due to the peer pressure. I should know, I grew up as the punching bag on the end of so many fists. First and foremost, my brothers.

I held my own in the face of horrendous antagonist, assailants and was always on the end of most men's rage and violent physical outbursts. I got beaten on a daily basis because I was considered soft. Hell, even my mom thought I was gay. I was just a sensitive child. As a man I can look back and see how hard it is for a man to care about anything, because showing the slightest chink could get you beat up by numerous men at one time.

It's a wonder men can be sensitive and like anything. But they do love to ravish a woman even if there is no reason for them to like what ever it is they like. They will even purchase it at the risk of incarceration. So to say there is no reason for a woman to feel, just means that woman DOESN'T feel. Because men aren't suppose to feel, but look at how they can't control those feelings. So much passion and no place to put it. So women charge and the one's who charge know how the wild fires burn in male passion and capitalize off it.

No reason to love putting a penis in their mouths? Unthinkable! But more so, unfeeling.
 ASSMan316
Joined: 2/25/2009
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Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 2/13/2010 8:34:26 PM
Does it really matter? If u like it then great If not then get the **** out of my bed lol
 52404 newbie
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 183
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 2/14/2010 8:38:28 PM
To answer the original OP question:
Based on 49 years of experience it is:
1. To make the man know that she wants him to feel good - and THAT is a turn on for HER.
2. To reciprocate for when I make her feel good by doing what SHE wants - but never with another man involved.
3. Yes for some women it is a power issue - they think that controlling how/when a man comes gives them the ultimate power.
 Elgalawaat
Joined: 11/24/2008
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Posted: 2/14/2010 10:35:15 PM
May be because of the anticipation. With anticipation the brain arouses the entire body. When I text my girl all day about what am I going to do to her in bed I get aroused and she told me she gets aroused too. We are far away we did not touch each other at least yet. I may call it Brain sex to me very exciting.
 Mmmm.Tony
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 185
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 3/3/2010 10:09:42 PM
I'm sorry I don't get this whole, 'Reciprocate.' ideology. If a woman doesn't love to do it, don't do it. Doing it as a 'favor' isn't a favor. Favors aren't debts and I am not in the sexual trading business, nor do I sleep around as a recreation. Maybe then I could see how people demand sexual favors from each other.

If I meet any woman and she sees head as a one way street worthy of some debt of reciprocation to 'do her' in return. Then she didn't get anything out of it and I am with the wrong woman. Love it or leave it alone. I don't do anything I don't love to do and neither should anyone else. Obviously this forum has served a function other than presumed impressions that it was a device for trolling women who are in to this. Because from the looks of it, not many women are even remotely interested in male sexual pleasure without some price attached. The low attendance being what it is and then a lot of the comments from the attendees shows that just the percentage of those that even bothered to show up, have some kind of conditions for 'providing men with pleasure.' which sounds like they get nothing out of it, except turned on from the histrionic exercise of putting males through their paces and seeing them go through it willingly. Not to mention when they are young that is all they want to do anyway and see no reason to care about men at all, they will be there and they will come. They always do.

Guys, just want to get their hands on a woman and don't have any qualms about providing pleasure for free, at any time, any day and any place. They make themselves absolute retards to get a woman. But still, most women abruptly set demands on the situation and read terms into what should be a very natural reaction. A woman should get turned on more than men do since their acclaim is that they are the more sensitive of the sexes. But it doesn't seem to foster any interest in subjects dealing with anything remotely significant to loving men or male sexual satisfaction. It's always, what are they going to get in return.

I don't think lots of women find it stimulating to give a blow job. I find it that a lot of women find it stimulating to send men's minds every which way to Sunday and keep them giving them things to make them happy, stimulate them and fill up their life with distractions to keep them entertained and from being bored. So women will trade sex for the more stimulating man who has the bigger collection of wealth to keep her involved. I don't meet a lot of young women who know anything about love. And too many old one's desperate, and lonely and for that trying to prove so badly now that their beauty has faded, that they know what love is all about and are really ready now to show that they do. While the young one's wait their turn to become this self same creature.
 kayliecat
Joined: 12/8/2007
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:19:22 PM
Whoaaaaaa, Tony, where is that rant coming from? one person's post?????

I have read over and over women who say they enjoy giving bjs because it feels good to them, they like their partner's penis, it's a turn on, and they like pleasuring him and makign him feel good.

YES, it is true that some women feel that it's a tit for tat thing. You do me and I"ll do you. Guess what, MEN say the same thing.

Go find the thread on "are bjs required for relationships" (some title like that)....read from all the men who say they won't be providing oral sex to their partner if she doesn't go down on them. YES, lots of men say it.

I agree with you totally, sex is not tit for tat. Sex isn't about do me then I'll do you. Sex is about sharing pleasure, making each other happy, having fun together. There should be no bargaining or payment or exchange. At least, that's how you and I feel. Unfort it is true that there are people out there who don't feel that way. But please realize it is in both genders. And I'd *hope* it's in the minority of people.

I must admit I have yet to date a man who feels that way, at least who expressed it to me. Thank goodness!

I might add...my guy and I? We truly enjoy pleasuring each other. The majority of the time, it's intercourse and oral mixed together and us just lovin' all over each other. Some times, it's mostly for me (like if he knows he can't come, he'll concentrate on maximizing my pleasure) and sometimes it's mostly for him (a bj no intercourse). Those are special times for both of us, but I think we both prefer when we are both getting off and both sharing.

And... you say "women will trade sex for the more stimulating man who has the bigger collection of wealth to keep her involved". Um.... that's "some"...maybe even "a few". Around here, no one has any wealth, and we are all trying hard to get by, not living off each other. I sure as hell have never traded sex for a wealthy man. I"M NO WHORE. Yep, that's what you call that, a whore.

Please please please don't generalize like that!
 ColorsOutsideTheLines
Joined: 8/27/2008
Msg: 187
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:31:24 PM
So not rocket science. What you see, is what you will eventually get.

We all know it is better to give than to receive!!!
 Mmmm.Tony
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 188
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Posted: 3/4/2010 4:29:39 PM
I didn't generalize, I specified. "I don't think lots of women..." isn't a generalization. General would be, " I think women are..." There are percentages in everything; both sides. No generalization was mentioned or intended. But comments about a high percentage were. " I don't meet a lot of young women..." again, is not a generalization but a historical account of meeting a low number, not saying, "I don't meet any young women..." which would indeed, be a generalization. So let's not get off track. I am directly saying, without any need for misinterpretation from anyone, that those and other statements in my post did in no way, make a general statement that would, should or be construed to mean generalizations about women. That is totally a bogus interpretation of words that I said that succinctly say exaggeratedly to the contrary. Contrary to senseless, emotional outburst, a common sense thread is not a 'rant'.
 Mmmm.Tony
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 189
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 3/18/2010 1:45:58 AM
As you can probably tell, male sexuality isn't very a very interesting subject to most women. Neither is male pleasure. Most women don't find it stimulating to give a blow job. They find it stimulating when you spend goo gobs of money on them. Then they will give you anything you want, even fake boobs at the risk of their health. Most, not all, there are rare gems. But most women are just in it for the trade off.

You give a guy who loves boobs a beautiful pair of breast? And he won't care. He will get himself off, he doesn't care, as long as he can kiss and fondle them for hours? Most men are so sensitive compared to the credit they get for being insensitive. They are like children. They just can't say no to a beautiful woman. Most women can take or leave men. They DO get approached fifty ways to sunday by every swinging schlong in town. But look at how men get slaughtered with naked images and half clothed seductive images of women? I mean, a guy can lose his mind watching Tinker Bell bend over a few thousand times and want to find a nymph. Women don't seem to get off doing much for guys out of sexual desire. If they blow you they will want you to do something for them like it didn't mean anything to them. They were just doing it to get you off so you will get them off. Or a lot will do it for your celebrity, or after you get them drunk and have spent money on them. That's what I see a lot of going on in cosmopolitan settings.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2010 8:35:27 AM
still ranting I see, mmmmtony!!

We all get it dude........you want a woman that absolutely loves to give but never wants to recieve.
and any woman that dares to desire the same in return somehow gets relegated
to "golddigger" or "insensitive to men" and various other derogatory statuses in your mind.

The problem is you can't get passed what you want to see the truth.
There are lots of women that take huge pleasure in pleasing their men.
But those same women want a man that takes huge pleasure in pleasing them right back.
You called this a trade-off......
When the rest of the world calls this mutual pleasure.....or in other words.....good sex


If they blow you they will want you to do something for them like it didn't mean anything to them

That is just downright immature and selfish thinking.

Dude, what you need is a prostitute that speacializes in giving oral sex.
Your not looking for an equal partner to share pleasure with.
Your expectations for a woman to give....give........give......and give more just because she likes giving are so far out there they are turning you into an angry man.
It might be time for you to re-evaluate your thinking....because it's obviously not working for you.
 venndiagram
Joined: 10/29/2009
Msg: 191
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Posted: 3/18/2010 10:12:13 AM
"As you can probably tell, male sexuality isn't very a very interesting subject to most women. Neither is male pleasure. Most women don't find it stimulating to give a blow job. They find it stimulating when you spend goo gobs of money on them. Then they will give you anything you want, even fake boobs at the risk of their health. Most, not all, there are rare gems. But most women are just in it for the trade off. "


You must be meeting the wrong women, is all I can say.
 wcis4u
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 192
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Posted: 3/18/2010 11:42:56 AM
mmmm.tony has a point. Show me a woman who will give a blow job and not ask for something in return and I will supply the pedestal for her to stand on.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 3/18/2010 12:08:32 PM
With a real loving couple.....one never has to ask for anything in return.
It is natural to give and recieve because both parties involved love to give pleasure to their partner.

It is when a person is only expecting to recieve without ever reciprocating that pleasure that it becomes a selfish act/lover.

There are numerous women that love to give their man head to completion for no other reason than to bring him immense pleasure.
But those women do expect, at some point, for their partner to return that pleasure.

When a man absolutely refuses to give a woman oral.......he diminishes her desire
to keep on pleasing him.
 ANGLICO-USMC
Joined: 1/25/2009
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Posted: 3/18/2010 12:56:38 PM
i think it affects a girl psychologically, knowing that sucking a guy off turns him on and she is the cause of it. Personally I absolutely love the physical sensation when a guy is laying down naked and I am kneeling, sucking his hard****and feeling it growing bigger as I put the whole thing in my mouth, I love to get it a bit wet by licking it also. Its so warm and good, and I get so turned on I always end up trying to deep throat and I'll swallow it all for sure. I love to hear him gasp and moan.wow!


O_O

HOLY SHIT!

I havent checked your profile yet, please tell me you live in florida...

*edit*
God damn it.
 BentonHarbor
Joined: 3/2/2010
Msg: 195
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Posted: 3/18/2010 1:45:42 PM
there is no physical reason for a woman to be aroused by giving a blowjob, any more than if she had a big sausage in her mouth.


I wonder if women who think this far out of date, selfish and essentially clueless about sexuality believe attitudes like this isn't what keeps them forever alone, without any sort of companionship or someone interested in them sexually? Even without saying it the obvious answer would be SOME women get SOMETHNIG from it otherwise the practice would have died out years ago---perhaps about the same time normal every day women become all those "strong, independent...." types too? Gosh this opening had me slightly disappointed but only for a moment---I knew the smarter, more in touch with themselves women would eventually prevail! Thank goodness not everyone is so uptight........



So why do women become so aroused giving blowjobs?



It's a known fact endorphins are released when MOST women make physical contact with another human---something as plain and seemingly nothing special like a hug brings about a good feeling that is measurable and has been, over and over. Science doesn't need to tell them that though----they've know it for years and years. What seems to be a missing clue to this OP is the mouth, lips and tongue ARE highly sensitive areas very subject to excitation from kissing etc etc. Making out isn't something we do to pass time dammit---we do it because it's unbelieveably great feeling! Our sex organs do NOT become excited by accident---its WHY kissing has developed over the years.

Probably most women here have already said the very touch and feel of their lovers penis in their mouth, how they can manipulate not only their lips and tongue further enhancing the foreplay, it also exciting them. The mental aspects aside of "control" or providing pleasure to their lovers is one thing----that oral sex on a man is physically stimulating for the women too is just part of it all.

Yes knowing you're sharing something they might desire and appreciate more than words can say is a powerful reason too but hardly the only one. Its a completely UNselfish act which might escape someone with the attitude such as shown by this OP---again that being alone thing comes to mind. Sure feeling powerful with the most physically vulnerable part of a man in your mouth, teeth so close to being almost "dangerous" is incerdibily sensual as well but again it goes right back to how damn great it feels, how it can and does produce an orgasm in the giver far more often than the cluess could ever imagine.

Same question could be asked why a hand job for the man or manual stimulation for the women is stimulation----short answer is because it feels so damn good!!

I'll repeat that women with such a poor knowledge or outlook on sexuality probably remain single, lonely and frustrated forever---probably have been the better part of their lives as well too. Sad for them, sadder for the guys who've endured such poor attitudes about sharing, giving to one another.

Is this really 2010 (2009 when this was first posted) or 1900?
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 196
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 3/18/2010 1:53:29 PM
MMM I even get hot eating sausage if a man is watching what I can do with it~
Nothin' like a good appetite for passion among other things.......
As I said many times before it is a control thing~ and a huge turn on.
 ANGLICO-USMC
Joined: 1/25/2009
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Posted: 3/18/2010 1:54:01 PM
Oral sex never works one way for me. Besides my first few times it has never gotten me off.

I wont get off just eating out either

a 69? ZOMG INTENSE. once you mix the more physically inclined pleasure of receiving with the more mentally inclined pleasure of giving, all forms of sex are equally pleasurable (to me at least.)

as far as giving without receiving, i halfway agree with tony. I would do something that dosent give me pleasure for a woman, like biting or whatnot, but I wouldnt do anything that gives me negative pleasure expecting pleasure in return, Like I wouldnt let a woman puke or expel waste in my mouth or on me at all, when I bleed my boner goes away so none of that bloodletting stuff. I wont eat a girl out on her period. neutral things that neither please nor displease me, however, sure.
 HuluAddicted
Joined: 12/16/2009
Msg: 198
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 3/18/2010 9:53:46 PM

Show me a woman who will give a blow job and not ask for something in return and I will supply the pedestal for her to stand on.



I've never asked/wanted anything in return for giving a guy head.
 cuban delite
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 199
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Posted: 3/18/2010 10:11:25 PM
Wheres my pedestal.....

.<<<<<.gets off on giving pleasure
 Cat*Eyes
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Posted: 3/19/2010 3:33:59 AM
Most of you Forum people all know I am "THE ANTI ORAL" person. I am very proud of this fact.
I am Vegetarian and have been all my life since when I was a little kid, so I would NEVER have a sausage, or any meat in my mouth, but that is not the reason, I am anti oral.
I read this thread, because I still can NOT understand how any woman would or could find this activity "stimulating. ." I read these "oral" threads trying to get understanding as to why would any sane person do this and actually like this. I still do not understand. I do understand different strokes for different folks.
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