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 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
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OP: they may as well be.

Obviously they aren't interested in YOU!!!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 480
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/2/2010 5:38:10 AM

You are gullible like crazy if you beleive that. How do you know all the guys who are taken are good guys and that all the fags are good guys. Thats generalizing alot right there.

Fags? Have we returned to 1960 and I missed the time warp? Poor taste, Dude.

Decent guys don't shout about being decent. It's the ones that do that you have to worry about. They're probably trying to convince themselves as well as convincing you.

Those who have to profess it, don't possess it.
~OT~ Not all of them were taken. I'm dating someone who is truly a nice guy.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 482
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/5/2010 11:10:50 AM

Are we talking decent men or decent men we'd actually want to sleep with? Big difference...



When you boil it down to it's essence, that's what's left. That, and the extended version... A decent guy who you actually want to sleep with, who also wants to sleep with you.
 FL CO
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 483
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Posted: 1/5/2010 11:34:58 AM
^^^The problem is that females seem to expect a guy to look like a model, be decent, have lots of money, and be amazing in bed. They seem unwilling to settle for the decent guy with average looks or the one who makes enough to live, but isn't living the high life. They want it all, but bring little to offer themselves. They seem to think that simply having certain parts is enough.. This doesn't apply to all women, but I'd say a good number of them in my age group.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 484
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/5/2010 11:51:28 AM
Could that be in part because some men in the women's past have not cared for women who bring something to the relationship table so to speak besides a body? I know when I was in my 20s, several men told me that if I would dumb myself down a bit I would be a great catch, ( I am not a genius and have been told that I am very easy to talk with when on a date). What it is that the women need to offer that they are not?I am surprised that women your age have such high expectations, but then we do seem to live in a society that prizes good looks, money and sexuality a lot.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 486
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/5/2010 12:22:13 PM
I know lots of women on POF who would take a flying leap of a chance to find the right man for them. Maybe some really have no choice but to date someone who lives nearby due to family or job obligations at this time. Sometimes it seems to be the right person at the wrong time kind of thing. Maybe they are scared of getting hurt. Maybe for the same reasons that some men seek a certain appearance in a woman or require that she be divorced or widowed or whatever their status is, and have childlren because they do, etc. and cannot deviate from these things even though someone might have other rare qualities they deem important for a successful relationship. Their brains are wired a certain way, or they do not know how to change a pattern of behavior, or numerous other things. We are all creatures of habit, and changing habits is difficult for most of us.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 489
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/9/2010 9:35:33 AM
I don't know any women like the ones the previous posters described. I do know a lot of men who will not look at a woman twice unless she is divorced, gorgeous looking to them and has children. If I met a decent average looking man who makes enough to live and is respectful to himself and me I would think I had hit the jackpot.
 FL CO
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 1/9/2010 9:47:22 AM

Yep, you're right. Have you discussed this with your mother, sister, daughter etc., to get their feedback


I guess you you misssed the last line of that about it applying to my age group. It does others as well, but the biggest percentage seems to be in mine. I can think of various reasons for this, but I know that there's those on this forum that re so closed minded that they don't want to hear anything but their own opinion.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 1/9/2010 11:04:06 AM

But now....the main problem seems to be the triviality of 'Distance'..!!
With So many ladies looking for 'Relationships', why is it they won't take the Smallest
chance to find someone that might be _Exactly_ what they're looking for..??

Distance isn't all that trivial. I live in the middle of nowhere, and I can't drive. The ones who are more than willing to drive to me are, to put it politely, cougar bait. Otherwise, I get "Gee, it's too bad you live so far away" from men who are as close as 25 miles. There is one who is planning a visit later in the spring from another state, and I certainly hope he makes it. If nothing else comes of it, at least I will finally have met a real live person.

I used to have a 100 mile restriction on my profile in deference to those who would have to make the trip, but I got rid of that so I could make some friends on line.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 492
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/9/2010 11:10:18 AM
I would consider a relationship with someone who lived more than an hour away, seems as if men act as if 50 miles away is like me saying that I live in Alaska. I think the excuse might have been that long distance phone calls are expensive at one time, although now almost everyone has a cell phone with night and weekend calls for free. Guess everyone wants the perfect person who lives 1 mile away to appear or drop from the sky.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 495
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Posted: 1/10/2010 4:21:00 AM
I have been patient for many years, as I have been dating on and off for 35 years. What makes women seem impatient? We could say the same thing about the men who have their mind made up within 5 seconds after meeting a woman that she is not worth their time.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 1/10/2010 10:34:17 AM

my experience on here is that women are too PICKY!!!

That would be me. Picky. I want warm and still breathing, someone who can come up with something more original that 'u wanna f*ck' in a first contact.

No shiny armor wanted, I know who would end up keeping it that way, and it wouldn't be him.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 1/13/2010 5:23:52 PM

I dated a girl that actually said that I'm too damn awesome to date cause she would hate to lose that friendship.

and you took that statement at face value? it was the no-cost bone she threw your ego after saying 'no pvssy for you.'
 helpimstuck
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 503
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Posted: 1/13/2010 10:45:46 PM
well i am still here..
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:34:47 AM
It's all about what each woman defines as a 'decent guy'. Usually, it has a catch attached, income/job/physical/status requirements. I'm a decent guy in all the previous ways, but have a trait that >99% of women find repulsive in a mate. So, that 99% wouldn't think me 'decent'. Like beauty, it's all in the eye, and mind, of the beholder.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 506
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/14/2010 8:12:13 AM
For men who are saying women are too picky - it seems that those men are also referring to women they have approached that weren't interested. It's never a matter of viewing it from a distance.

Most women are only looking for a few things. ARE they picky because some men don't fit those few things? Probably only to those men I'm guessing.

A guy's not into me? I shrug and move on - people like who they like. Who cares? The trick is to live life and go with a match if you find one - life is way more miserable if you screen everyone of the opposite sex hoping for a match. Whatever will be will be.

Burned by American Women,
Fishing overseas only.
Still not gay, still not married.

This fascinates me. I never understood this concept. How can you seriously fish overseas unless you are living overseas (unless you just haven't changed your profile location)? I think if you want to do that, it's cool - but if you're looking to bring someone from overseas back here you've never met or you barely know, you're just creating another eventual American Woman - except you get to watch her change into one - I guess that's part of the fun? Seems like a lot of trouble and expense to go through, but I guess to each their own.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 508
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:05:29 PM
^^^Well I admire that, Valencia. Forgive me but there are so many people who go on and on about finding a woman overseas and don't like the women here, but expect never to leave the US. I find that somewhat unrealistic, and for the most part just whining (perhaps hoping someone will beg them to stay or feel bad about it).

IMO, a person who's serious wouldn't consider something like that seriously unless they planned to move out of the US to accomplish it.

Good luck to you, Valencia. I can tell you've got a decent head on your shoulders.

 Gogetter1956
Joined: 1/9/2010
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:48:25 PM

The men who come out to the dating events are usually there for one reason and one reason only - to meet women. The women come out for varying reasons. Many women on here keep telling men to ease up on the whole "needing" or "seeking out so much" a partner. Women "need" (this is not a subject to be discussed) men less now than in my parents day. Heck, some men AND women have children without a partner.


I think this is interesting enough to discuss. If men have always needed women even when we were the main "bread winners", now that women have been able to pay their own way, why should that change the "need" factor for women?

So it really is all about money? That is so sick I can't believe it's true, but I have noticed it is, more than enough.
 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 513
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Posted: 1/17/2010 6:04:27 PM
Lol, I'm just an average guy looking for an average girl. Nothing special, nor gay.
 anrec
Joined: 1/30/2010
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Posted: 2/5/2010 7:45:07 PM
In Eastern Europe women on average are better educated and tend to spend a lot of efforts looking after themselves - it's cultural. As well as statistically they prevail, and are interested in Westerners. This whole thing is really a supply/demand matter, just as market. And by far not all of them are gold-diggers and green-card hunters, and just like any other women also want a descent life partner.

For men, bringing her is only the beginning of building a successful relationship. It becomes his responsibility to make sure she can find her place here - including education and career. For those men who fail to realize and live up to this responsibility this marriage naturally fails. For those though who do, these marriages are in most cases successful.
 Timmahh88
Joined: 2/8/2012
Msg: 518
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Posted: 3/4/2012 3:35:18 AM
What about me then? I'm definitely not ugly, I have a full time job, I'm in good physical shape and kick ass if needed.

Only thing that's really wrong with me is I have hearing aids, never the less women don't pay too much attention to me.
 OutdoorsyBCguy
Joined: 3/20/2012
Msg: 519
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Posted: 4/13/2012 11:30:53 PM
Always find it humorous when women complain there are no good men "David Bekham eh? how many of you ladies look like Posh spice???" Have lurked the freakish ladies profiles on POF for a while now, my standards are far more modest than yours. Must not be mentally ill, must not be morbidlly obese, must not be a drug addict, must have at least some life ambition (not a welfare mommy). Yup still single...
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 520
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:36:52 AM
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?



You left off at least one more possible category... Taken, gay, or as woefully unimpressed by available options as you are.

 Sportsfreak89
Joined: 12/28/2010
Msg: 521
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:43:45 PM
No it's not true coolchick085. I'm here but the problem sometimes is that some women think that a "decent guy" is one that does only what is in fairy tales and in Bruno Mars songs. And well, that just isn't the case.

Neither sex is perfect and if they think they're are going to find that spoiler that makes them happy they will end up being single longer than I will.
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 522
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Posted: 4/17/2012 4:49:00 PM
<<<< Not taken or gay.
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