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 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 492
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I would consider a relationship with someone who lived more than an hour away, seems as if men act as if 50 miles away is like me saying that I live in Alaska. I think the excuse might have been that long distance phone calls are expensive at one time, although now almost everyone has a cell phone with night and weekend calls for free. Guess everyone wants the perfect person who lives 1 mile away to appear or drop from the sky.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 495
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/10/2010 4:21:00 AM
I have been patient for many years, as I have been dating on and off for 35 years. What makes women seem impatient? We could say the same thing about the men who have their mind made up within 5 seconds after meeting a woman that she is not worth their time.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 501
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Posted: 1/10/2010 10:34:17 AM

my experience on here is that women are too PICKY!!!

That would be me. Picky. I want warm and still breathing, someone who can come up with something more original that 'u wanna f*ck' in a first contact.

No shiny armor wanted, I know who would end up keeping it that way, and it wouldn't be him.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 502
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Posted: 1/13/2010 5:23:52 PM

I dated a girl that actually said that I'm too damn awesome to date cause she would hate to lose that friendship.

and you took that statement at face value? it was the no-cost bone she threw your ego after saying 'no pvssy for you.'
 helpimstuck
Joined: 7/14/2006
Msg: 503
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/13/2010 10:45:46 PM
well i am still here..
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 504
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/14/2010 12:17:50 AM
Burned by American Women,
Fishing overseas only.
Still not gay, still not married.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 505
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:34:47 AM
It's all about what each woman defines as a 'decent guy'. Usually, it has a catch attached, income/job/physical/status requirements. I'm a decent guy in all the previous ways, but have a trait that >99% of women find repulsive in a mate. So, that 99% wouldn't think me 'decent'. Like beauty, it's all in the eye, and mind, of the beholder.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 506
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/14/2010 8:12:13 AM
For men who are saying women are too picky - it seems that those men are also referring to women they have approached that weren't interested. It's never a matter of viewing it from a distance.

Most women are only looking for a few things. ARE they picky because some men don't fit those few things? Probably only to those men I'm guessing.

A guy's not into me? I shrug and move on - people like who they like. Who cares? The trick is to live life and go with a match if you find one - life is way more miserable if you screen everyone of the opposite sex hoping for a match. Whatever will be will be.

Burned by American Women,
Fishing overseas only.
Still not gay, still not married.

This fascinates me. I never understood this concept. How can you seriously fish overseas unless you are living overseas (unless you just haven't changed your profile location)? I think if you want to do that, it's cool - but if you're looking to bring someone from overseas back here you've never met or you barely know, you're just creating another eventual American Woman - except you get to watch her change into one - I guess that's part of the fun? Seems like a lot of trouble and expense to go through, but I guess to each their own.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 507
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/14/2010 11:53:45 AM
I spent my undergrad learning the language, and 20 years in the military translating it, and travelling and meeting the people from there. The only thing keeping me here is the house, which I foolishly bought as an investment (damn housing bubble) As soon as it sells. I am overseas. Not coming back. Twenty years roaming around, I dont seem to fit in here anyways. If you dont come back, the marry for green card is out of the equation. And I am not moving there for one girl, I am moving there for the experience and lifestyle. If I meet a girl there, great. If not, then I am no worse than here, but at least I get to travel again.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 508
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:05:29 PM
^^^Well I admire that, Valencia. Forgive me but there are so many people who go on and on about finding a woman overseas and don't like the women here, but expect never to leave the US. I find that somewhat unrealistic, and for the most part just whining (perhaps hoping someone will beg them to stay or feel bad about it).

IMO, a person who's serious wouldn't consider something like that seriously unless they planned to move out of the US to accomplish it.

Good luck to you, Valencia. I can tell you've got a decent head on your shoulders.

 Gogetter1956
Joined: 1/9/2010
Msg: 509
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:48:25 PM

The men who come out to the dating events are usually there for one reason and one reason only - to meet women. The women come out for varying reasons. Many women on here keep telling men to ease up on the whole "needing" or "seeking out so much" a partner. Women "need" (this is not a subject to be discussed) men less now than in my parents day. Heck, some men AND women have children without a partner.


I think this is interesting enough to discuss. If men have always needed women even when we were the main "bread winners", now that women have been able to pay their own way, why should that change the "need" factor for women?

So it really is all about money? That is so sick I can't believe it's true, but I have noticed it is, more than enough.
 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 513
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 1/17/2010 6:04:27 PM
Lol, I'm just an average guy looking for an average girl. Nothing special, nor gay.
 anrec
Joined: 1/30/2010
Msg: 516
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Posted: 2/5/2010 7:45:07 PM
In Eastern Europe women on average are better educated and tend to spend a lot of efforts looking after themselves - it's cultural. As well as statistically they prevail, and are interested in Westerners. This whole thing is really a supply/demand matter, just as market. And by far not all of them are gold-diggers and green-card hunters, and just like any other women also want a descent life partner.

For men, bringing her is only the beginning of building a successful relationship. It becomes his responsibility to make sure she can find her place here - including education and career. For those men who fail to realize and live up to this responsibility this marriage naturally fails. For those though who do, these marriages are in most cases successful.
 Timmahh88
Joined: 2/8/2012
Msg: 518
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 3/4/2012 3:35:18 AM
What about me then? I'm definitely not ugly, I have a full time job, I'm in good physical shape and kick ass if needed.

Only thing that's really wrong with me is I have hearing aids, never the less women don't pay too much attention to me.
 OutdoorsyBCguy
Joined: 3/20/2012
Msg: 519
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Posted: 4/13/2012 11:30:53 PM
Always find it humorous when women complain there are no good men "David Bekham eh? how many of you ladies look like Posh spice???" Have lurked the freakish ladies profiles on POF for a while now, my standards are far more modest than yours. Must not be mentally ill, must not be morbidlly obese, must not be a drug addict, must have at least some life ambition (not a welfare mommy). Yup still single...
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 520
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:36:52 AM
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?



You left off at least one more possible category... Taken, gay, or as woefully unimpressed by available options as you are.

 Sportsfreak89
Joined: 12/28/2010
Msg: 521
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 4/17/2012 3:43:45 PM
No it's not true coolchick085. I'm here but the problem sometimes is that some women think that a "decent guy" is one that does only what is in fairy tales and in Bruno Mars songs. And well, that just isn't the case.

Neither sex is perfect and if they think they're are going to find that spoiler that makes them happy they will end up being single longer than I will.
 Bladesmith81801
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 522
Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay?
Posted: 4/17/2012 4:49:00 PM
<<<< Not taken or gay.
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