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Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 193
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?Page 10 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
To end ALL speculation about what is and isn't AUTHORIZED ACCESS read the following links. The first is the FEDERAL guidelines the second provides links for each State in the union. I'd think twice if you were planning to play private detective.

"Unauthorized access" entails approaching, trespassing within, communicating with, storing data in, retrieving data from, or otherwise intercepting and changing computer resources without consent. These laws relate to either or both, or any other actions that interfere with computers, systems, programs or networks.

the old argument that what she did is justified because she found something doesn't cut it. Thats akin to saying Just because someone points an unloaded gun at you that they shouldn't be punished. The punishment is the same. She broke the law period.

While he may have have a problem with porn and some fantasy/Mommy issues that is no excuse for breaking the law. He didn't break any laws. She did.

They both have issues they need to deal with. Total and epic fail on both parts.

as OP is from Califona i assume the incident took place there. Here is what the law says.
SECTION 484-502.9

(10) "Computer contaminant" means any set of computer instructions
that are designed to modify, damage, destroy, record, or transmit
information within a computer, computer system, or computer network
without the intent or permission of the owner of the information.
They include, but are not limited to, a group of computer
instructions commonly called viruses or worms, that are
self-replicating or self-propagating and are designed to contaminate
other computer programs or computer data, consume computer resources,
modify, destroy, record, or transmit data, or in some other fashion
usurp the normal operation of the computer, computer system, or
computer network.
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 195
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 10/26/2010 3:20:21 PM

"She may not even like what she's doing but it pays the bill...don't be so quick to judge?!"

(forumfishie) If she doesn't "like" it this is a free country, unless she has a gun pointing at her, I can think about another 1000 jobs she could be doing instead ...

Don't be coy. You realize that, in this economy, that is a foolish statement of mammoth prop0rtions.

Even with an economy that's just purring, that's a specious argument.

He got caught, good job on her part.

I agree that it's a good thing that they found out their incompatibility at this stage. He's a porn addict, and she's a sneak who's not above breaking the law to get her way.

Dr. ES...

(it never ceases to amaze me what passes for considered argument around here... funny, though)
Joined: 10/9/2010
Msg: 196
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 11/11/2010 9:34:52 PM
keylogger? If it is wrong for him to be sneaking around on her, then is it ok for her to be sneaking around on him? I don't think so. I think she should have found a better way of going about this.
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 198
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 11/12/2010 12:53:55 PM

You are missing a key point in all this. What he was doing was legal, what she did was not. I'm not saying that he wasn't being an idiot for not being honest with her. Her act of installing a key logger on his computer without his explicit permission crossed a huge line. That gives her access to all his private information like banking, passwords and other personal information.

If the roles were reversed for you and you had a significant other who suspected you for something and decided to use the exact same methods. Would you be okay with it? I doubt it.

In all honesty, she did not have any trust in the guy in the first place and that should have been more than enough reason to leave him.
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