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 honeyangel1985
Joined: 6/25/2009
Msg: 101
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Op, I'd dump him so fast his head would spin. He is in need of serious counselling for his addiction.
 Meh2k
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 102
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/1/2009 9:53:51 PM

Is everyone who hires a private detective to catch a cheating spouse
messed up in the head too?


Yes

if you don't trust someone why are you still with them? What if he's not cheating, does that person comes clean and admit to spying? I doubt it, but that's the "good" kind of lying right?
 p~s
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 103
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:19:06 PM

but that's the "good" kind of lying right?
 p~s
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 104
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:20:48 PM
LOL! sorry just learning how to use that quote box, I was going to say to that 'it's just leaving out information, which a lot of people do intentionally.
 Blargal
Joined: 11/4/2006
Msg: 105
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:30:02 PM
Every one has their own fantasies that they know they very likely won't be able to ever get in real life, hence the porn to at least help a bit. Porn is one thing but live camera while dating someone I would think as a bad thing but everyone man and woman watches and has at least a little bit of porn of some sort on his or her computer weather in a relationship or not. The only time I actually got mad from something like this was when a friend of mine (female) got on my computer without my permission while I was in the bathroom, started browsing around my files and finds my external hard drive full of anime. She freaks out saying something along the lines of "OMG you watch cartoon porn thats so gross!" I just sighed and clicked on one turning it on showing her it was ANIME not all anime is hentai. In fact that 500gb hard drive is full of just plain anime lol.

Anyway as for the woman in that relationship i'm sorry but in my eyes she is more in the wrong then the man, she put a keylogger and such on his computer. I know for one I wouldn't let her on my computer let alone browse around on it and if I found her on it then next find a keylogger that was from her i'd very likely break up then next step would be pressing charges. She invaded personal space of the guy, I mean how would you like us going around your closet and drawrs moving around all your cloths and personal objects?
 Meh2k
Joined: 12/7/2006
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/2/2009 11:03:38 AM

LOL! sorry just learning how to use that quote box, I was going to say to that 'it's just leaving out information, which a lot of people do intentionally.


How that any different then for example someone who's cheating just leaving out that information?
 p~s
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 107
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:26:44 PM
It isn't, I was being sarcastic.
 actualizing
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 108
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/2/2009 1:30:50 PM
OP really!!! Sexual fantasies, on cam or off, are just that - fantasies. It sounds to me like she has control issues. OYE!!! When people look for a reason why a relationship will not work, they'll find one. I can't believe how judgmental and intolerant some people can be!! OYE!!
 StetheH
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 109
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:33:47 PM
i personally think you should be totally honest with your partner even when alot of the times it will cause trouble lol.

if i want porn i get porn and same with anything even if my partner doesn't like it.

it aint a good relationship if have to hide porn from your partner.

i reccomend making your own, it gets them going then lol
 lovemesomemen
Joined: 7/14/2009
Msg: 110
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:34:32 PM
I think she should end it with him. Installing something on his computer to check up on him? That's just as pathetic as him spending hours online doing porn stuff and denying it.
 whenwillthiswork26
Joined: 11/13/2008
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/2/2009 6:50:40 PM
To clarify this:

aside from the keylogger issue,

the man was spending hours every night having live, interactive cam sex.
I don't know if people realize what this is like but it's mutual masturbation
while watching each other on cam, body fluids squirting away.
He was asked if he did this and lied about it.

He was spending thousands of dollars a month, and was far from rich,
to pay for it. She had wondered at first why he was always many thousands
of dollars in debt on his credit cards. She had been considering marrying him.
 PeggyMc50
Joined: 4/22/2009
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/3/2009 2:14:58 AM
Best advice to her, KICK HIM TO THE CURB, before she gets hurt even worse. My husband was doing the same thing, looking at PORN non stop on the computer, then he just dumped me after 15 years of marrage.
Computers and Internet are great for some pople, but others abuse it,and get adicted to porn, and prefer it over a real relationship,and that is the sad truth.
 p~s
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 113
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:44:18 AM
What the hell is wrong with all of you?
Since when is porn and live cam sex the same thing??????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If it was just porn then maybe some of you defending the guy for it would be o.k but it is NOT JUST PORN!!!!!!
Live!!!!!! Get it???? He's paying some live girl like he would a hooker to sit there LIVE on cam and masturbate while he gets off to it....differnt than porn by a looooooooong shot.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/3/2009 10:22:44 AM

It's legal if she has authorized access to his computer which she did.

Just because something is legal doesn't mean it's right. If it had been my computer, she would have been dumped immediately.
 PirateJohn09
Joined: 1/7/2009
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Posted: 8/3/2009 10:26:35 AM

the man was spending hours every night having live, interactive cam sex.
I don't know if people realize what this is like but it's mutual masturbation
while watching each other on cam, body fluids squirting away.
He was asked if he did this and lied about it.

He was spending thousands of dollars a month, and was far from rich,
to pay for it. She had wondered at first why he was always many thousands
of dollars in debt on his credit cards. She had been considering marrying him.

I'm not defending what he did, but two wrongs don't make a right. If your trust for your partner is so lacking that you feel the need to snoop on them, then the relationship is already over even if you find out they have been spending the whole time looking at pictures of fuzzy bunnies and teddy bears. A relationship is over the moment trust is gone.
 Wyatt Earp1
Joined: 7/15/2009
Msg: 116
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:44:04 PM
icsvortex on 6/16/2009 832 PM

Subject: When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Message: I would dump her for installing a keylogger in my computer. She might as well have gotten access to bank account details and the like while he was surfing the internet.

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Ditto. While he does have an addiction which she doesn't like, she invaded his privacy.
She is a control freak which will become more severe. I'd dump HER in a nano second.

"Every woman is a private detective waiting to happen"
 AKWriter
Joined: 8/1/2009
Msg: 117
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:10:10 AM

If it was just porn then maybe some of you defending the guy for it would be o.k but it is NOT JUST PORN!!!!!!
Live!!!!!! Get it???? He's paying some live girl like he would a hooker to sit there LIVE on cam and masturbate while he gets off to it....differnt than porn by a looooooooong shot.

This is a great point -it doesn't justify her installing a keylogger onto his computer, but it DOES justify her dumping him.

The underlying point doesn't seem to be porn (which wasn't happening), the underlying point was that he was lying and that he was spending thousands of dollars on this shit.

Personally, it sounds to me as though they're both screwed up -I can't imagine paying for phonesex or porn (esp not porn -we have the internet, that shit's FREE), but if someone I was with was spending thousands of my dollars on anything behind my back -they're fvcking GONE! Doesn't matter what it is, to be honest!
 AKWriter
Joined: 8/1/2009
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Posted: 8/5/2009 12:11:45 AM
Likewise for anyone who puts any malware on my computer.
 douglas.wilson1526
Joined: 1/11/2009
Msg: 119
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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/5/2009 1:16:43 AM
This is funny, ok so first of all maybe the guy is embarrassed about being caught, Christ I would be. Second if she is so disgusted with his porn "perversions" then she should leave him, if she is just pissed because he is doing this with someone else and not her then tell her to go buy some sexy cloths and have a good time.

This is really an open and closed case,

Here is step by step instructions on how to solve this problem

1. Take each person and send them to a different room.

2. Ask question listed below to appropriate person

3. After asking question bring both parties into one room and give results of the "quiz"
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Dear Mr. "pervert" do you forgive Ms. Keylogger for putting a keylogger on your computer and not telling you?

____NO ____YES

Dear Ms. Keylogger do you forgive Mr. "Pervert" for watching "porn" and lying about it?

____NO ____YES

If both parties selected YES then get in that bed and have a great time
If both parties selected NO then say bye and get on with your lives
If one party selected YES and the other selected NO then again say bye and get on with your lives.

See easy as one, two, three.
 moniquesc
Joined: 6/11/2007
Msg: 120
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:56:20 AM

She felt she needed to know before she became further involved with him.
People have a right to find out what is going on with their significant other
when that person is hiding something.


I totally agree. If he is lying then she needs to cut him loose. It's not what he is doing that is the problem IMO, but the lies. If he will lie about this then what else will he lie about?
 mcwr
Joined: 3/24/2009
Msg: 121
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:25:34 PM

She was able to tell he had some fantasies he was acting out with cam strippers, one of which was a fantasy that he is the stripper's "son", a little kid, and she-the cam stripper- pretends to be the mother, strips nude and wiggles around and masturbates in front of him, and he does the same with the stripper on cam.


Maybe he was sexually abused by his mother. In any case, they need to sit down and have a talk about it, so that everything is in the open. But, yeah, if a girl were doing a "live" cam thing, I would dump her.
 Ima_goofball
Joined: 8/2/2009
Msg: 122
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 8/7/2009 8:32:08 AM
Oh she needs to lace up her tennies and RUN!!!!!!!!!!!

I was with a guy like that, geeeeeeeeeeeeze! He was totally addicted to the fantasy. It's not a real good ego boost when your man would rather watch a cam whore and play slap the salami than pay you any attention and forget about the intimacy of the relationship, he's so used to pleasuring himself to the fantasy that a real woman will never be able to measure up.

I got to the point that I didn't care anymore and I even paid for him a subscription to paltalk so he'd leave me alone! Then I left!!
 Lorraine1965
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 123
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 1/4/2010 11:17:14 AM
hey my EX did the same,but instead of paying for it he had willing cam whores for free,always listen to ur gut feeling,its always right !!
 Lorraine1965
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 124
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 1/4/2010 11:18:01 AM
hey my EX did the same,but instead of paying for it he had willing cam whores for free,always listen to ur gut feeling,its always right !!
 Lorraine1965
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 125
When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do?
Posted: 1/4/2010 11:24:21 AM
hey my EX did the same,but instead of paying for it he had willing cam whores for free,always listen to ur gut feeling,its always right !!
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