I generally try to be non-abrasive, since it's tasteless to be a jerk, but does anyone else get the feeling bosoxfaninwa is bragging or something along those lines? One post basically says 'hey, I'm a single mom and have men lining up to date me, so why are other mom's whining?' and another seems to say 'well, if she's a mom and can't find a decent guy, she must just be a loser regardless'.
I don't view what you've written as being abrasive at all.
However, I'm not bragging.
I look at these single mothers' words and their outlook on men and their lives, and I can just see why they have problems dating. I never said anyone was a loser, in general. I'm not even talking to single moms when I'm discussing the issue of dating. I'm talking to men that have either had poor experiences dating single mothers, or the ones they know leave a lot to be desired, because there are plenty of women they would probably enjoy dating and the child may not even be an issue. I don't think any viewpoint that limits your ability to meet someone that you would enjoy spending time with is a good thing to have.
I don't think that by expressing that I consider myself to be an incredible woman with a lot to offer, and that men notice that, is bragging. If you feel like you don't have that going for you, that's too bad. You should either reassess yourself and make some changes or start telling yourself you have a lot to offer.
And I certainly don't think it has anything to do with the fact that I'm not horribly unattractive. Plenty of very attractive single mothers on these boards have expressed their inability to "find a good man".
And realistically speaking, people make excuses all of the time as to why they have trouble finding love. People also make up reasons that have been deemed acceptable and non-arguable for not being into someone, myself included.