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 earthboundangel67
Joined: 9/2/2011
Msg: 76
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I enjoy horror movies ...although not all. I find it disappointing if the person I am seeing dosent. Who can I hold on to & cuddle up to if they dont ....but not a red flag for me. Different strokes for different folks! So they cant blame me if my eyes glaze over at the undending sports channels...imo. But, at least I will make an effort!
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 77
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 9:40:05 AM

Absolutely. Anyone who thinks that highly predictable and wildly unrealistic slash and gore films are good entertainment needs an adjustment. Go read a book.

My house looks like a library, soon I'll need a room just for my books, and I still love a good horror flick, so I'm not sure what I should do about your advice. Of course 1/4 of my books are horror books, but anyway - in my case you can't say reading and watching horror movies are mutually exclusive. Nice try though.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 78
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 9:49:20 AM
A question for the horror movie fans: If horror movie scripts were written and made portraying babies, children and animals being tortured, mutilated and murdered, would you be a big fan of that? If that doesn't true you on, why would adult characters in the movies be OK to see in the same situations?
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 79
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 9:54:42 AM
For crying out loud. Comedies are fictional....romance movies are fictional..action flicks not based on true stories are fictional. Horror movies are fictional. ^^The question above (maleman) is so nitpicky it isn't even funny.^^
 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 80
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 9:55:56 AM
I assume that those who enjoy horror flicks are so shut down emotionally, that viewing raw terror, blood and guts is what it takes for them to "feel" and hence be entertained.

When a movie gets too violent i walk out of the theatre. It's frikken disturbing. If thats what it takes to float yer boat you are the walking dead. Get in touch with your feelings, stop shutting them down so much that it takes watching a monster literally cutting the heart out of an innocent victim to get your attention.
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 81
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Posted: 11/17/2011 1:43:04 PM

I assume that those who enjoy horror flicks are so shut down emotionally

You assume incorrectly.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 82
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 2:01:24 PM

A question for the horror movie fans: If horror movie scripts were written and made portraying babies, children and animals being tortured, mutilated and murdered, would you be a big fan of that? If that doesn't true you on, why would adult characters in the movies be OK to see in the same situations?

The point of horror is to watch that stuff in a safe context - where children, animals and don't forget the elderly aren't usually victims. Most horror fans watch movies that mirror themselves, thus the male and female adult characters. They are usually portrayed in a way when killed that they're doing things that put them at risk also - i.e. drinking, sex, bothering with strangers, etc.

If you're not a fan - fine. Don't worry about it.

I assume that those who enjoy horror flicks are so shut down emotionally, that viewing raw terror, blood and guts is what it takes for them to "feel" and hence be entertained.

When a movie gets too violent i walk out of the theatre. It's frikken disturbing. If thats what it takes to float yer boat you are the walking dead. Get in touch with your feelings, stop shutting them down so much that it takes watching a monster literally cutting the heart out of an innocent victim to get your attention.

Wow, this really bothers you. It's almost personal. Did something happen to make you connect the two in such a way?
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 2:04:45 PM

Wow, this really bothers you. It's almost personal. Did something happen to make you connect the two in such a way?


There is a word for this... what is it called.... Oh yeah, "Projection."
I would assume that would be one of those bloody rag, I mean, red flag things.
 minpinz
Joined: 10/24/2011
Msg: 84
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:13:07 PM
I love horror movies, maybe something is wrong with me? lol
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 85
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:17:05 PM
To me, horror movies are pretty much the same as porn. In both cases a story line is pretty much non-existent and nobody goes to see either one for the wonderful plot line. They are both strictly in business for visual effects. Nothing else. Since they're pretty much the same mind set, how many women who like horror movies enjoy seeing porn as well?
 Fleuron
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 86
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:31:48 PM
No red flag for me.

I like classic horror and psychological stuff, like “Session 9”…scared the heck out of me.
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 87
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:43:53 PM
Maleman999:


Since they're pretty much the same mind set, how many women who like horror movies enjoy seeing porn as well?


Umn..me.
 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 88
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:58:54 PM

The point of horror is to watch that stuff in a safe context - where children, animals and don't forget the elderly aren't usually victims.


Really?


Wow, this really bothers you. It's almost personal. Did something happen to make you connect the two in such a way?


Sensitivity. I don't believe any of my friends like horror, nor have any of my previous partners. Apparently i flow with a more sensitive artistic crowd. Positive creative people prefer to have images of beauty to flash in their mind when they are in a quiet and peaceful space.

I'm sure you've heard the old saying: Garbage in, garbage out.
 StraylightRunn
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 89
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 4:04:49 PM

I assume that those who enjoy horror flicks are so shut down emotionally, that viewing raw terror, blood and guts is what it takes for them to "feel" and hence be entertained.=


I'm a little late on this thread holy god. If it were real I might agree with you. If people really lost their lives in the taping of Evil Dead do to demonic possession and/or dismemberment I would agree.

Being able to separate gratuitous violence from real horrific violence isn't a lack of emotional depth it's recognizing on an emotional level that it's not to be taken seriously It's like when a 2 yr old says he knows more than me. I don't freak out cause the 2 yr old said that. I don't take him seriously. Why would I feel the realism in something fake?
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 11/17/2011 4:15:53 PM

Positive creative people prefer to have images of beauty to flash in their mind when they are in a quiet and peaceful space


Talk about fantasy land. That is a truly evolved 'suspension of disbelief' you have there.

Darwin may come asking for you at some point in the future. Now that could be a good movie
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 91
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 4:16:42 PM

To me, horror movies are pretty much the same as porn. In both cases a story line is pretty much non-existent and nobody goes to see either one for the wonderful plot line. They are both strictly in business for visual effects. Nothing else. Since they're pretty much the same mind set, how many women who like horror movies enjoy seeing porn as well?

Yep, sure do. I won't tell you what kind of porn either. LOL

Sensitivity. I don't believe any of my friends like horror, nor have any of my previous partners. Apparently i flow with a more sensitive artistic crowd. Positive creative people prefer to have images of beauty to flash in their mind when they are in a quiet and peaceful space.

OK, so I'll assume you know your sensitivity biases you to things most people more to the center don't find as overwhelming. People who are less sensitive aren't inhuman - they are just...um...less sensitive.

I'm sure you've heard the old saying: Garbage in, garbage out.

I'm sure YOU'VE heard the phrases: "Live and let live", or "to each their own".

You not liking something doesn't make it wrong for anyone but you. You liking something doesn't make it right for anyone but you.
 lotustemple
Joined: 10/23/2011
Msg: 92
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 9:58:52 PM
I'm sure YOU'VE heard the phrases: "Live and let live", or "to each their own".

You not liking something doesn't make it wrong for anyone but you. You liking something doesn't make it right.


How did you go from sensitivity to right/wrong? I still maintain that those who prefer horror movies want to "feel" because they are "lacking" in sensitivity. And have not yet grasped the concept of garbage in, garbage out. There's hope for everyone. Besides don't most adults out grow horror flicks? Guess the lateral progression is porn as another poster mentioned.

The western world is very caught up in appearances, and to maintain them one learns denial as a way of life. Denial is very common and it desensitizes. I'd like to believe everyone is an artist and sensitive to the pain of others down deep inside themselves. But until they recognize that reality, many seem to enjoy watching excrucitating pain, brutality and torment inflicted upon others. How do you justify that?
 Dominic74
Joined: 2/21/2006
Msg: 93
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/17/2011 11:03:41 PM
I LOVE horror. I love the movies and, especially, the books. I'm a huge Stephen King fan and I'm recently getting into Dean Koontz. Great horror flicks include: The Shining, Event Horizon, The Sixth Sense, Pet Sematary, The Omen, Halloween (the originals), Nightmare on Elm Street (original), Texas Chainsaw Massacre (both were good), Jaws, The Fly, Alien and Aliens, and Poltergeist I and II. Bring on the scare!!
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 94
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/18/2011 4:07:49 AM

How did you go from sensitivity to right/wrong? I still maintain that those who prefer horror movies want to "feel" because they are "lacking" in sensitivity. And have not yet grasped the concept of garbage in, garbage out. There's hope for everyone. Besides don't most adults out grow horror flicks? Guess the lateral progression is porn as another poster mentioned.

I meant right wrong in the sense that you are trying to tell us why others enjoy horror movies. If you don't that's fine. The context of "garbage in garbage out" implies you think doing so is wrong. "There's hope for everyone" implies that for those people it's hopeless. You didn't say "wrong" but your words imply it. Just realize that some like things you don't and let it go without lowering them and therefore raising yourself in implication.

The western world is very caught up in appearances, and to maintain them one learns denial as a way of life. Denial is very common and it desensitizes. I'd like to believe everyone is an artist and sensitive to the pain of others down deep inside themselves. But until they recognize that reality, many seem to enjoy watching excrucitating pain, brutality and torment inflicted upon others. How do you justify that?

I don't. I don't knock it either as it's fictional - heck I'd like to ask why people watch romantic comedies or romance movies (talk about denial) and give a bunch of reasons why from my point of view - but the truth is I just don't dig those movies, so they aren't for me. Making others wrong because of that isn't my style. So long as no one drags me to one I don't assume I know why they are into those type movies. It's a simple matter of everyone likes something different. Beyond that we have a lot of nerve to try and lecture everyone on why that is...when we have no clue, because we don't do what they do.
 ripley65
Joined: 8/22/2011
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Posted: 11/18/2011 4:45:29 AM
Not a red flag for me at all!! Probably 99% of my dvd collection is horror! LOL Bring 'em on...the gorier the better!!
 funinsun32
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 96
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Posted: 11/18/2011 6:30:03 AM
Nope.... I personally love horror, suspense, and action movies!! I would rather go watch Night of the Living Dead or Die Hard 30 than Sleepless in Seattle!!
 Aries_328
Joined: 10/16/2011
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Posted: 11/18/2011 7:41:18 AM
You know what was a really good horror movie, "Eat, Love, Pray"

It was brutal. This lovely woman marries this guy then decides that she is bored and doesn't have feelings for him and leaves. Just brutal.

Good movie but total horror story. Very realistic.
 Aries_328
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Posted: 11/18/2011 10:20:52 AM

Saving Private Ryan, Casino, the Godfather, etc. But in movies like Saw, Hostel, Freddy and Jason


Compassion, empathy, humanity is how you live your life and not a reflection of the movies you watch. Nor is it the games that you play. Nor the books that you read. Nor is it any external popular culture medium. None of these things have any ability to control the person you are or how you react with others. The same goes for wanting to 'feel' joy, harmony, enlightenment, and oneness.

I totally understand where you are coming from and I do not like seeing horror movies that involve kids. Last house on the left (modern version) was disturbing from the realism that was brought to it and the real pain it symbolizes. But it wasn’t real. The movie ends and all the actors were safe and happy and laughing. Your acceptance of ‘Saving Private Ryan’ falls into this same sense. It felt real though and that was very hard for some people to cope with.

Suspension of disbelief is a really wonderful thing that we as humans are capable of. The exploration of things that are so far beyond our ability to experience or to ever want to experience is a gift.

One of my early memories of being ‘scared’ was when I was young. A few friends and I were exploring a house that was being moved and was on stilts but had been there for most of the year. We gained access through the floor in one of the bedrooms where an access point was created. It was after midnight, dark, and creepy. After a few minutes of exploring we started hearing noises and found that someone else was coming in. We hid in a closet. All of us were freaked out and it was the funniest thing ever. We were hiding in a closet in pitch black and had to cover out mouths because we were laughing. That’s the trigger point of horror movies. That is why they can be fun. It’s not being drowned in blood from dismembered extremities… its feeling that bit of fright and knowing that you are safe.
 gingerchick30
Joined: 11/5/2011
Msg: 99
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Posted: 11/18/2011 10:26:54 AM
I like horror movies, just watched one this afternoon


Stay away folks, stay away!!!



I don't really place any importance on the type of movie someone likes. I like horror movies, but I also went to see the midnight showing of Breaking Dawn last night, so I also like romance/dramas. I also like comedies and documentaries. It's all a matter of preference
 StraylightRunn
Joined: 11/1/2011
Msg: 100
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Posted: 11/18/2011 10:49:59 AM
And you're Ginger. Back scratches, biting, hair pulling (I'm safe) sound almost automatic now.
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