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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 151
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womaninprogress,
perhaps consigliori says it more eloquently than I, lol:

Seeing how many gruesome ways there are for a person to die just doesn’t give me a hard-on. Getting your jollies by watching people being tortured is not a characteristic I want in a mate. I prefer compassion, empathy, humanity.

It's only eloquent to the person's personal experience (or I hope it is).

1. The first and second sentence assumes that is the reason for watching a horror movie. If a person dated someone who watched horror movies for that reason - and they would have to be that type of person when not watching a movie or it holds no water - is personal to that person and that situation. Assuming everyone who watches horror does it for those reasons is projecting. And again - if you don't watch them, and you don't prefer those who do - all you have to go on is what you think people are watching it for. Since you don't know - why speculate? Why not just say you don't want to date people who watch horror period and then back that up by doing just that? The rest is hot air.

2. Anyone who's human is part of humanity. I know many people who like horror who can also (wow, huh?) be compassionate. I know, worthy of scientific study, but I've seen it personally. Empathy is misplaced in a place where no one is actually suffering typically - especially when they get paid for the movies they star in. To think people who watch movies can't tell real life from fiction would mean that anyone who is a fan of and frequently watches anything that's not real (Avatar, for example) carries that over into other aspects of life. In that case, anything else that's fictional is also on the table - so you can't really single out horror.
 pretzelman60
Joined: 9/27/2011
Msg: 152
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/18/2011 6:47:22 PM
I think a bigger red flag is when all SHE wants to watch are chick flix. Last one I saw was Bridges of Madison County. god, I hate chick flix! Give me Freddie, Saw, an Rob Zombie anyday! Women be damned! Give me horror, isn't that what a relationship with a woman is anyway? Horror? Just kidding(kinda)

JMO
 a_lynne13
Joined: 5/15/2011
Msg: 153
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/19/2011 8:05:41 PM
Horror movies are fun to watch....and if a guy thinks impressing me with a chick flick will do it..think again...I like my horror and action movies..I'll sit through an occasional drama or chick flick with my daughters but eh...not my style. But and there is a but to the horror flick movie for me though.....I hate slasher movies...give me a good vampire, zombie, or werewolf movie and I'm your gal! Any action film is good...I have admittedly watched vampire diaries on t.v. coz it's fun and my girls like it...and the Twilight series only for the young wolves *shakes head coz I feel like a damn ped drooling over young hard bodies* And please don't get me going on the sparkly vamps....I so can't stand them...I've only grown up with vamps being sexy, deadly, and lethal. or vicious like 30 days of night...now that was thoroughly fun to watch! For me girls are truly silly if they act all scared and shite about spilled blood and gore....The more blood and gore the better the storyline...maybe but most are cheezy to watch.
 MissLeslieD
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 154
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/20/2011 2:39:09 AM
I live on horror flicks. It's a red flag for me if a guy DOESN'T watch them.

A movie choice is just that, a movie choice. It's not a red flag, and if it is for a women, then you're with the wrong woman.
 Ailliss
Joined: 3/16/2010
Msg: 155
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 11/20/2011 10:49:47 PM

horror movies = red flag?


Yes, definitely.
I could never be with a man who considers this entertainment.

Watching the gruesome dismembering of a human or sadistic torture of another is not entertainment. I can see some teenagers liking this tripe but adults? No way.


My point is, given a choice between a lifetime partner who is into watching people suffer (real or not) and a lifetime partner who would rather find her thrills elsewhere, I’ll take the latter.

+1
 Tiina
Joined: 6/23/2005
Msg: 156
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Posted: 12/23/2011 9:50:14 AM
To me horror movies are not a red flag. I don't watch horror movies myself, but I like horror novels. I do like SF films. The only sort of films which would be a red flag to me would be hardcore porn movies. I wouldn't go near a man who watched these.
 dmzvisitor
Joined: 3/25/2011
Msg: 157
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 12/23/2011 10:53:22 AM
It would be a pretty superficial red flag, suggesting you should have a "red flag" for that type of woman!

I used to hate horror movies, but now I tend to think they are hilarious b/c they are so ridiculous. I didn't watch SAW, didn't like the concept. But Final Destination, or "Carrie" type ones where people keep doing stupid things that lead to getting killed? Hilarious. I won't go out of my way to watch one, but if I come across one, I won't be offended.

A big red flag would be *any* time a person (male or female) tries to persuade or "force" another adult into doing something s/he KNOWS they do not like--watching blood & guts movies, for example. If someone guilt trips you or ridicules you b/c you don't like something--bad sign. If they tie you up and tape your eyes open to force you to watch? REALLY bad sign. You are in the horror movie, not just watching it.
 Womac911
Joined: 8/15/2009
Msg: 158
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Posted: 12/23/2011 11:05:39 AM
I like horror movies, but mostly for the technical aspect of the F/X make-up and trying how to figure out how it was done. I used to do quite a bit of it myself as a hobby.
 Rrredd
Joined: 11/14/2011
Msg: 159
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 12/23/2011 11:09:41 AM
I've loved horror movies since I was little so I don't consider liking horror movies to be a red flag. In fact, it's nice when someone likes horror movies as I don't have any friends that will watch them with me. hahaha
 lacalli
Joined: 11/27/2011
Msg: 160
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 12/23/2011 11:16:44 AM

A lot of women I know can't sit through horror movies, mostly for the blood but also many don't like feeling scared. I am talking space alien, insane killer, creature, huge shark/dog/gorilla on the loose,zombies, witches, vampire stuff.

Ladies, do you equate that to a red flag in a date or boyfriend? I don't mean he lives it, just that he likes scary movies.
Guys, ever lose a girlfriend or potential girlfriend over it?

BTW, I don't mean he forces it on her to watch, just that he does it at home when alone.
(That statement by itself does not sound good!)

So you're kind of saying that only serial killers watch horror movies? The remake of Cape Fear was the scariest movie I've ever seen. I was literally frozen in my seat, my guy friend was too I think. But fantasy stuff doesn't really scare me. I don't watch much of it but no, it's not a red flag.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 161
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 12/23/2011 11:40:50 PM
readyornot57- I love scary movies and lot's of women do. Find one who does-problem solved.
 DomG79
Joined: 3/12/2011
Msg: 162
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Posted: 12/24/2011 12:26:54 AM
Most girls I know like horror movies more than I do. They are perfect for dating, when you make them feel safe.
 Maddtis
Joined: 4/10/2010
Msg: 163
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Posted: 12/24/2011 4:54:35 PM
Yeah I think Ive scared off a few off, we were friends for a while and they came over and seen my dvd collection. Pretty much a wall of shelves with nothing but 150+ horror movies from around the world from the 80s to today. But I think I scare them off cause Im the quiet type and those always the ones that go on a killing spree.

I can't help it if thats the only type of movies I can enjoy and watch many times over. Jokes get dull, fighting scenes get boring, but gore is forever. When people on the internet say "that movie where 54 school girls jump in front of a subway train", without having to think I know off the top of head that its Suicide Club.
 Maddtis
Joined: 4/10/2010
Msg: 164
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 12/24/2011 5:40:43 PM
Yeah, if watching (usually) beautiful young girls being made to suffer, raped, tortured, and murdered is what you enjoy; I just don't think we're gonna have much in common...at all, ever... Horrifying...


You would be shocked how many times people have said that and then they notice Im the complete opposite of what the movies and music I love and the lyrics I write would suggest.

Im not sure what my ex girlfriends where looking for or what they saw in me but Im just being my real self.
 astrosky
Joined: 2/6/2005
Msg: 165
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Posted: 1/1/2012 11:30:01 AM
I love horror movies and books. Just keep looking until you find a woman that likes it - there are plenty of us out there.
 keyman11
Joined: 8/31/2006
Msg: 166
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Posted: 1/1/2012 11:52:32 AM
find a girl who loves horror movies....there are plenty man. you don't have to sit trough the romance-documentary stuff all you're life loll, just find someone with similar tastes.
 MaximumPower
Joined: 4/5/2012
Msg: 167
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Posted: 7/13/2012 4:55:55 PM
It is a fun/no fun flag. If she is willing to watch just one horror flick with you then she's fun. If she refuses to watch one then you gotta toss her to the curb.
 raxarsr
Joined: 7/10/2008
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Posted: 7/13/2012 5:06:29 PM
plain and simple......as long as girls get scared and hang tightly onto the guy........guys are gonna keep takeing girls to horror movies
 NDTfan
Joined: 6/5/2012
Msg: 169
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Posted: 7/13/2012 5:19:31 PM
*blank stare*

This is an issue? My horror movie collection takes up 3 shelves, and I have 3 "rom coms" total... 50 First Dates, the 40 Year Old Virgin and Wedding Crashers ******. It wouldn't be a red flag but if he DIDN'T like horror I wouldn't be dating him.


***** I don't think those should count against me though.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 170
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 7/13/2012 6:03:55 PM

*blank stare*
This is an issue? My horror movie collection takes up 3 shelves, and I have 3 "rom coms" total... 50 First Dates, the 40 Year Old Virgin and Wedding Crashers ******. It wouldn't be a red flag but if he DIDN'T like horror I wouldn't be dating him.
***** I don't think those should count against me though.



*Blank Stare*

Just 3 shelves? ....you need to step up your game NDT.
 PhotoGirl870
Joined: 6/14/2012
Msg: 171
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 7/13/2012 11:05:02 PM
Horror films = MY FAVORITE!!

There is a French horror film called Martyrs that is insanely amazing! Best horror film I've seen in a while. I love Asian horror films as well. "I Saw the Devil" is amazing as well. Give me a guy that loves horror films as much as I do and we may be a match made in heaven..... Well, given that we have other things in common. lol
 NDTfan
Joined: 6/5/2012
Msg: 172
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 7/14/2012 6:44:38 AM

Just 3 shelves? ....you need to step up your game NDT.


But.... but... what if they're HUGE shelves?
(alright, they're not)

Would you believe that someone broke in and stole, like, half of my horror movies just before I posted this?

*shifty eyes*
 Happy Dude 63
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 173
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 7/14/2012 7:34:14 AM
yesterday was Friday the 13th...so my son and I were going to go to the movies to see a scary movie. But no good scary movies out. We turned to net flix.
I am not a fan of the rip em up flesh movies. Just not my thing. Give me 'What Lies Beneath'
or I see dead people..wait that wasnt the name?? 6th Sense! Give me a story line and scare that crap out of me.
Favorite scary movie line of ALL time....?

"The call is coming from in the house"!!!
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 174
horror movies = red flag?
Posted: 7/14/2012 7:40:34 AM


But.... but... what if they're HUGE shelves?
(alright, they're not)

Would you believe that someone broke in and stole, like, half of my horror movies just before I posted this?

*shifty eyes*


*eyes rolling slightly, slowly glazing over with lips in a tight smirk*


Yeah i totally can believe it, lol.
 creepypuddingface
Joined: 5/14/2012
Msg: 175
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Posted: 7/15/2012 7:35:19 PM
As a woman who loves horror movies, i've actually encountered a LOT of men who DON'T like them. It's so weird.
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