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 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 44
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call me tater- I went back and reread what I posted and it does seem like I was specifically talking to you.
I apologize, that was not my intention.
My point was that raising a grandchild ALWAYS comes with a difficult set of circumstances.
It's usually due to some type of addiction.
I'm not sure how my grandmother coped, raising two babies, being 68 when it started and having a daughter that lived in a bottle.
It didn't mean that YOU don't have a clue, specifically, I was just saying until you are in a situation you don't know how it feels or why people do what they do. (and I DO stand by that)
Grand parents raising grandchildren are never dealing with just ONE issue, that is what I was trying to say, I just did a bad job of saying it.
 DimpledAndDorky
Joined: 6/29/2015
Msg: 45
Grandparents raising grandchildren....
Posted: 6/21/2016 4:54:32 PM
I am 48, single, and raising my 4-year old granddaughter. I have custody, and we are a package deal. It's been an issue for me because older men don't want to start over like I had to. I think it should be a topic, too. I'm in a support group because I was all alone in my insanity until I met others like me. They have been a great support for so many things.
 DawnLuvs2Dance
Joined: 1/17/2016
Msg: 47
Grandparents raising grandchildren....
Posted: 9/1/2016 12:51:39 PM
At 61 I am raising my 15 yr old granddaughter. She's a cool kid and we both enjoy a lot of the same activities - triathlon, running and volunteering. She has lived with me full time since she was 10. I do not see it as a hardship or an issue. I have no photos of her on my profile but am up front about the situation and have a brief sentence about it in my profile. I have never had anyone say they would not date me because of her. And if they pass me over for that reason, it is their loss.

I don't date a lot by choice. I take care of her but I also take care of me. I make time for myself just like I would if I was a much younger single mother. Most of my friends are younger and raising teenagers. They don't see me as different then them.

I have a good life, it would be nice to share it with someone, but I'm not going to whine because I am single and raising a teenager.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 7/1/2016
Msg: 49
Grandparents raising grandchildren....
Posted: 11/17/2016 1:11:10 PM
In most cases, the parents are unable to care for their kids.
You would not take care of your grandchild if your son had issues
that made it impossible for him to do so?

Gads...you called the child it.

You're despicable.
 ebolakitty
Joined: 3/19/2016
Msg: 50
Grandparents raising grandchildren....
Posted: 11/18/2016 3:25:18 AM
What it comes down to is that everyone that finds themselves in that situation has a choice to make. Choose the kid and forget about a social life or choose the social life and abandon the kid. Both have their challenges and rewards. If you pick the kid, make the most of it and you likely won't be a swinger but you may be very satisfied just the same.
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
Msg: 51
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Grandparents raising grandchildren....
Posted: 11/18/2016 9:25:34 PM
Once your little granddaughter grows up and is in school you will have more spare time to date. I dont see that it would be a problem.
Men in their forties are often having kids after all.
 NYCKOSI
Joined: 4/24/2015
Msg: 52
Grandparents raising grandchildren....
Posted: 12/2/2016 8:45:47 AM
I did not read every single post here but according to the first post:

there are many reasons why grandparents raise grand kids. One is that both father and mother are working to be able to provide a better future for their kids which is total fine. Another could be either one of the parents has passed away or either one of the parents encounter a medical problem.

If the parents do not want to raise their kids cause they just don't want to, cause they are lazy, druggies or just hate their kids with no legitimated reason that is not an excuse. They should be stripped from their right.

If you bring a life into the world and are capable of take care of it, take care of it. If you know ahead of time you are not capable to take care of a child, don't have it.

Medical issues
job loss
death
etc,,, all these can happen to anyone after bringing a child into the world.

Laziness, stupidity, drugs. hatred not an excuse
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