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 Loose_end
Joined: 9/12/2006
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why you get no replyPage 6 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)

getting a message saying hi babes/sweetie etc, you can tell a mile off when someone has emailed other people exactly the same rubbish or is looking to talk to anyone


I do this! I used to think it was a really cool thing to do......now i know its not cool, not even a little bit (sad smiley)


Then starts threads on why all women are ****es because they don't reply to the mail that gets sent.


I agree, i would never start a thread like that! Well...........there was that one time (not at band camp)


I used to reply to all my messages but the problem with that is those you really dont fancy take it as an invitation and then you cant get them to go away!


Doesn't telling them to go away help though? Now I'm scared to keep up with my current correspondence in case they secretly want me to go away


The ones i ignore are the "youre sexy" or "hi where r u from"


Hello sexy........So where are you from?


If i dont reply i get called ignorant


Ok, maybe i'll answer this last one seriously

I prefer not to get a reply if she isn't interested. I think i've said this somewhere before, maybe even on this here thread.......But i've thought about the chances of my possibly repeating myself...And i conclude i don't care enough

 oggers
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Posted: 8/7/2009 8:37:54 AM
haha .. I gave up trying to get replies a long time ago - mainly here for the forums now
( you guys .. doh ! )



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 ~Hams~
Joined: 9/18/2008
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:31:49 AM
Or Hi ow ru? lik 2 get 2 kw u.


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I'm sorry about that.....My hands were hurting due to me arthritis and I couldn't type any more.
 Graffiti_Poet
Joined: 1/2/2011
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Posted: 6/17/2012 2:45:01 AM
There are several reasons why some men in here are not very good at this internet dating malarky with the main one being that they are not very good at dating full stop. If you were to ask most of them just how many women they had spoken too on any particular day, and I mean spoken to other than to ask for 10 Woodbines and a copy of the Daily Mail that is, spoken too and flirted with, then the answer will almost certainly be nil. If it wasn't then they wouldn't be in here bemoaning the fact that the same lack of dating skills that fails them in the real world fails them in cyber world too. It is interesting, for me at least, to read the various, and inevitably wrong, corrigenda of reasons for their lack of success. Rather than accept and then address the real problem which lies within they put forward any number of theories that the girls are ignorant, or up themselves, or kidding themselves that they want a nice guy but don't, or are here just to be flattered by the attention etc. etc. etc. What utter rubbish and bunkum. The fault is entirely down to men and their inability to empathise, poor people skills and most importantly, their unwillingness to LISTEN. There are almost as many threads and comments about this paricular subject as there are stars in the sky and I have resigned myself to accepting that they will contine to appear with monotonous regularity until the day I die and have to leave here.

In reality 99.9% of girls on here, when they log on, experience a fantasy rush in their minds that "Today my Prince will come". It may only last a fraction of a second or it might last the whole time she is logged on, who knows, but however long it lasts she will be as receptive to romance in those moments as she probably has been all day. As the POF pages load up the chances are she will be hoping she will begin reading the first chapter of a Mills & Boon story in which she is the heroine and the Tall, dark & handsome or Short fat and ugly guy she needs to play lead male role will have his application waiting in her inbox.

Given the girls frame of mind when she logs on, the minimum response rate from messages, even if you fall into the ugly old man category as I do, the minimum rate you should expect should be 50%. Anyone failing to acheive that would do well look inwards for the reasons and more importantly, learn to listen to the 139,000 women who have very kindly posted good advice in the forums telling them where they are going wrong.

I'd love at this point to be able to write that all their troubles were over and that I have a "100% guaranteed or your money back", piece of advice for all the guys struggling to get across the dating line and into the kissing queue. Sadly the unwillingness of men to listen extends to men as well as girls and my expectations of changing the Internet Dating world forever with my advice remains low.

However, being the persistant good egg that I am, I will never-the-less still offer forward the two best pieces of dating advice I know and fingers crossed someone gets it.

Piece of advice number one is to promise themselves that today, 17th June 2012, they will speak to, and gently flirt with, two women that they do not know out there in the real world. These women don't have to be girls they fancy or want to date but any two women will do. Do this for a day after day for about two weeks and hey ho you will be moved 'permanantly' across the dating line forever. Even after two weeks your ability to flirt will become inutative and natural and girls, including the ones you fancy, will readily respond to your approaches both in real life and here in the crazy world of Internet Dating.

My second bit of advice would be go back to that previous "why can't I get a girlfriend" thread we had in here recently and do the poetry thing I mentioned in there.

Hope that helped... GP
 Richard_of_York
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Posted: 6/17/2012 4:29:08 AM
I can't decide how many of the posts in this thread are intended to be taken seriously and how many are deliberate satire of bad posts.

It's hard to 'listen' to a non-response though ;)
 DAFT_DOG
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Posted: 6/17/2012 8:42:30 AM
^^^^ a real gentleman would be more than happy to help you with your lady bits, so that your happy to take your coat of roxy ! hahahaha :O)
 DAFT_DOG
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Posted: 6/17/2012 10:59:40 AM
^^^^ If we dont die of old age first hahahaha :O)
 Knight_Time_Noodle
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:11:34 AM
"I think its because I come off as an unfunny jerkoff, still, I do love this site and and although out of the ten girls I have actually messaged only two have replied i'll never give up ;) otherwise what's the other alternative? bloody Craigslist?!"

Count yourself lucky. A 20% success rate is one that many would kill for.

It all comes to down to this:-

If you are a woman and a man/men do not find you physically attractive you are out of luck.

If you are a man you need to be tall/dark/rich handsome otherwise you won't even get a reply.

End of.
 Knight_Time_Noodle
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 6/17/2012 11:43:41 AM
Er yes it is end of.

People bleat on about such things as personality counting for infinitely more than looks, money etc, but the fact is they don't and of those who say otherwise only a tiny, tiny fraction actually mean it. The rest are just those that fall into these "shallow" types and are trying to portray themselves as anything but.

You may fall into that tiny group that I mentioned, but without knowing about this person you have decided to meet, he may well be better looking than you make out, rich/well off or in a position of responsibility/power, however if not then I commend you on not being part of the "norm".

Like I said the fact is if you happen to be a short, not well off, not particularly handsome guy (which is me to a tee) then you do not have a snowball in hells chance of getting anywhere, regardless of how many people tell you that you are "one in a million" and how many people are out there that falsely claim they are looking for a "Nice, genuine, honest" man.

If you had trouble in the real world when it comes to dating, you will find that online dating will only confirm what you already know to be true i.e. if you fit in with what is seen as "attractive" or "datable" you'll get lucky on or off line, if you fall outside of these groups then you would be wise to save yourself a lot of trouble/pain and not bother. Yes you might get lucky, but then again you might also win the lottery and you shouldn't pin your hopes on that either.

@ msg 136 :- You are tall and moderately good looking. That is enough. Trying being short and 'ugly'. Different story.
 Graffiti_Poet
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Posted: 6/19/2012 10:10:55 AM
And ignore the poetry thing.. please please please please please.


Methinks the lady doth protest too much !!!.......



Not all of us think "Mills and Boon".. some of us think Red Dragon when we log on...


Not having much of clue who or what Red Dragon is I took it upon myself to do some research. Well not so much research but I Googled it and clicked on the first thing that came up. Now whilst I can accept that we are all different in this cracy crazy world we call Internet Dating, I stand by my claim of 99.9% of girls logging on to this website do so in the hope of getting a 'fix' of anticipation, or at the very least an immediate fantasy rush, as opposed to thinking about the horrific murder most horrid and untimely death at the hands of a cannibal mass murderer that confronted me in the Red Dragon movie that my search came up with. Maybe Fred Wests wife, Mira Hindley or Lizzy Borden might prefer Red Dragon but on the whole, Mills & Boon wins hands down for most, ha ha ha.

#137

If your supposition that looks are paramount is true Knight Time Noodle then how do you explain my, and others in here, success at getting responses?. Even the most cursory clance at our two photographs should be enought to tell anyone that I have been beaten about the head with the ugly stick just as hard and just as often as you have but I manage to get at least a 50% success rate at getting replies, most from girls many would quickly say were 'out of my league' and I get as many girls writing first messages to me as I send messages to them.

The importance of looks in a man diminishes rapidly with age when it comes to dating.

Girls are very lucky in that as they move from one phase of their lives to another they accomplish the amazing feat of being even more beautiful each time than they were before. We men on the other hand just get uglier and uglier. Girls know and understand this and make appropriate allowance for it when searching for a new beau. Just look clean, tidy, have a nice smile and show interest in them. The importance of your looks, or any perceived lack of them, will soon fade away to nowt..........
 Graffiti_Poet
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Posted: 6/20/2012 1:46:12 AM
Hmm.. the Red Dragon comment was more regarding the main character.. but never mind, the comparison was obviously lost on your gentle poet soul. No I don't protest too much.. really, I would run a mile from someone sending poems (and most women I know would too).


Did you just reply to a line of poetry?, and after you made such a fuss about sayin' you wouldn't too... (Dancing Banana carrying a big placard saying GOTCHA on it icon thingy, lol)
 Richard_of_York
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Posted: 6/20/2012 4:13:18 PM
Euros are on for another week or so, and then it's Wimbledon for two weeks, and shortly after that the Olympics ... plus you have test and one day cricket all through the summer. That's a long time to knock it on the head ;)
 Richard_of_York
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Posted: 6/21/2012 10:35:23 AM

do you get 45 minutes each way and a pie at half-time?

Can't say I've ever been offered a half time pie, indeed!
 UkSammie
Joined: 11/6/2008
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Posted: 6/22/2012 3:36:00 PM
If i feel that the msg is a copy and paste msg i wont answer it, i like people to msg me asking questuions bout my profile
 safaa30
Joined: 3/1/2012
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:51:33 AM
Him : Hi, hows things?
Me : What things? Whose things? Which things? Where are these things?
 *rem*
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Posted: 6/25/2012 2:56:53 PM

Him : Hi, hows things?
Me : What things? Whose things? Which things? Where are these things?




Your things. Your things. Your things. How should I know, they're your things thats why i asked!


No wonder a lot of us don't bother any more.
 cwltom
Joined: 5/16/2010
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Posted: 7/8/2012 2:43:29 PM
Perhaps we need a "Replies to x% of messages" on our profiles (counting down from 100% of course, since that doesn't embarrass us ones who don't get opening messages). That'll shake things up.

After reading the rest of the thread, an accompanying "Thank you, but I'm not interested." auto reply button would also be handy.
 DAFT_DOG
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:39:29 PM
^^^^ do what everyone else has done, give up n join the forums hahahaha :O)
 Ebony_Guy
Joined: 5/5/2007
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Posted: 8/6/2012 5:21:34 PM
When I first signed up to POF,
I thought a message I would try,
to start a conversation,
plus a simple way of saying hi.

I spent time to read her profile,
and something caught my eye,
we had some things in common,
so I will not tell a lie.

I asked about her hobbies,
and to countries she did fly,
I careful wrote my message,
and waited her reply.

Days past by and then a week,
still no answers that I seek,
No response in the next month,
she only clicked delete.

So I tried some other profiles,
and wrote a little more,
a couple of individual greetings,
but my messages they'll ignore.

Then one day I changed my photo,
that's when my hopes did die,
the only message I got from women,
were hello or just saying hi.

So now I mainly read the forums,
and the message button I don't press,
as genuine as I am in meeting the one,
so far I'm genuinely unimpressed!.
 drewcornwall
Joined: 5/31/2010
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Posted: 8/6/2012 5:44:00 PM
I just think POF is way too serious, we are just too honest.

May be it needs a good lick up the rear end, and turn into another porn site.

Plenty of Forking! perhaps.

Flood it with t it s n c oc k pix... then see how many pm`s u get..
 gemini_lady_uk
Joined: 7/16/2008
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Posted: 8/7/2012 4:52:08 AM
I have done something I very rarely do - I blocked someone on PoF.
Message 1 - Hi how are you, would you like to chat - I replied and said, thanks for message but I am not interested, good luck in your search.
Message 2 - basically saying thanks for the reply.

That should have been it surely!!! Nope, every week for the past 4 weeks, he messaged again, which I ignored - So finally today, after yet another message, I replied and told him I was blocking him and the reason why. I do wish people would remember who they have already sent messages to. No doubt he will be amongst those complaining that he doesn't get replies lol
 drewcornwall
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Posted: 8/7/2012 11:22:52 AM
^^^^ i like that idea ^^^^shall we chaps,? got to be fun!


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 try1more
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Posted: 9/7/2012 10:31:54 AM
"What makes you delete and what makes you answer?"

delete a first message! are you mad?
print and frame!
so come on girls before the frame i bought goes out of fashion, the printer has long since been out of warranty :-)

this is the net you dont "know" who or what you are messaging unless they reply, even then it's only a maybe until or unless you meet, which still leaves a long way to go before you can say you know them.

so, you get no reply! hell i usually buy a lottery ticket on saturday, i dont run round shouting why dont i win!
toss it in the bin and try next week!

just like you chose the wrong numbers on the lottery, you chose the wrong profile to message innit.
 DAFT_DOG
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Posted: 9/7/2012 1:58:55 PM
i`m tall and ugly ! hahahaha :O)
 popcultureloverguy88
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Posted: 9/7/2012 4:16:05 PM
i'm ugly, bad-looking, too short
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