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 shattered72
Joined: 5/9/2012
Msg: 157
casual sex or friends with benefitsPage 11 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
I have a friend benefits and don't give a damn what anyone thinks. I have needs just like any man does.
 bigcalm
Joined: 3/14/2012
Msg: 158
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/13/2012 3:35:21 PM
Be selfish and do what your mind and body wants.
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 159
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/27/2012 11:14:36 PM

Why is it so wrong that a woman wants just that causual sex or friend with benefits.. we are all human and i just wonder thats all...

Who is saying it's wrong, or wrong for women?

I know several women who have this arrangement and it suits them just fine.
 BlokeInSydney
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 160
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/27/2012 11:29:27 PM

women are labeled whores if they do that :)

By people like this:

a slut is someone who has casual sex willing to sell their body for their own pleasure. that person has no morals whatsoever.

And this"

Perhaps the question should be if men can imagine their mothers having casual sex or friends with benefits. If they can, I suggest calling and getting on the Jerry Springer Show.

'Nice girls' and women these days decide for themselves what suits them as far as their sexual relationships are concerned, as do men. In a modern secular society they do this without a lot of the imposed external pressures of years gone by, which caused much heartache and misery.

Many of these women are mothers who do have FWB arrangements which are nobody else's business, including their children.
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 161
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/28/2012 12:00:35 AM

mako20
Ok so what if the guy isnt like that should he be ok with the women doing that????


Then don't stick your little head into someone your big head hasn't had the committed relationship talk with. Problem solved.
 Eros_realm
Joined: 5/7/2012
Msg: 162
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/28/2012 1:57:55 PM
all depend on the people involved. Can you keep from falling for each other because if not you will probably lose a good friend. Often ladies and men start telling the innermost feelings usually leads to a relationship. That said I have a few. You just have maintain an awareness and what not to cross.
 Tallyh0e
Joined: 2/8/2012
Msg: 163
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/28/2012 7:30:15 PM
I wanna know why "looking to date but nothing serious" means to most women that we are looking for sex only..
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 164
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 5/28/2012 7:50:03 PM

Perhaps the question should be if men can imagine their mothers having casual sex or friends with benefits. If they can, I suggest calling and getting on the Jerry Springer Show.

Not any more than imagining one's mother begging for more from their dad... or when they lost their virginity in high school or college. Just because it makes one shudder to imagine a situation (like two guys kissing) doesn't mean it's bad, wrong, and shouldn't be done.

Can you keep from falling for each other because if not you will probably lose a good friend.

I don't think there's any fear/problem of BOTH people falling for each other at the same time... it's about one person wanting/expecting more from the other after time rolls on, when the other person doesn't.

There are two types of hurt, when it comes to any boy-girl relationship/situation or even a relationship-relationship (after time rolls on):
(a) Heartbreak, where it's nobody's fault -- one person lost interest and the other still has it
(b) Mistreating the other because you lost interest and you f' things up... games, bsing, hiding info, lying, leading them on, etc -- ie not being a friend -- that IS a "string" attached (which shouldn't be a chore if you value & respect them, ie truly think of them as a real actual friend the whole time).

You just have maintain an awareness and what not to cross.

I agree. Basically, you are what you Do. Labels are just descriptions of what it has aimed to be ... not necessarily what it actually is. If you're sleeping over 3 nights a week, play with their kid, meet the family, help fix her car, etc -- you're dating. You are friends with benefits. But you're also more than just that.

Friends with benefits is someone who's a friend and you sleep together here and there. It can easily bleed into casual dating, because actual one-on-one Friends who keep in close touch AND are sleeping together, start to enter that casual dating zone, and instead of FWB being a statement to not be an actual item of sorts, you then are an item of sorts who may try not to be trying to be serious. That too requires communication.

Basically, ANY boy-girl situation in which there's a line drawn ahead with a sign that says "We do not want to cross this line of intensity/seriousness", will require communication of being on the same page to avoid any false expectations, wrong interpretations, etc. as time passes.
 cocopuffguy2012
Joined: 9/13/2012
Msg: 167
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/8/2012 4:41:53 PM
It's not wrong at all :)
 tennesseeman813
Joined: 11/18/2011
Msg: 168
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/8/2012 6:42:55 PM
I believe women can and should if they want to.
 pericingeyes
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 169
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/8/2012 7:32:22 PM
there is nothing wrong with it in my eyes, but every one has there own persona on what is wrong or right ,if it is not wrong to you then don't loose any sleep over it
 Tthree
Joined: 7/17/2012
Msg: 170
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/8/2012 9:57:24 PM
the truth is that its not wrong for a women to want that at all in fact if women didnt want casual relationships then men would be forced to do without just like the old days, but the reason people say its dirty if your wondering is because a guys private parts arnt every really gonna change if its clean its clean type of thing but for a girl the more partners shes had the more its believed that shell be looser and etc. just dirty
 okherewego99
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 171
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/9/2012 1:55:20 PM
yes now we are making sence
 okherewego99
Joined: 8/12/2012
Msg: 172
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/9/2012 1:57:55 PM
What i mean is as long as everyone knows.This isnt always the case
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