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 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 90
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and, FWB is pretty good relationship...while it lasts


I completely agree.......just threw me off when you stated you let them think all you want is sex. Still confuses me that "friends" aren't honest and upfront with each other....but to each thier own.

If the only thing you do together is sex.....then it's a FB
If you hang out and do other things plus have sex.......it's a FWB
^^IMO^^
 CompuG8r
Joined: 10/4/2010
Msg: 91
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 2/27/2011 8:58:47 AM

I don't sex anyone into relationship, I just choose good sex over bad relationship.


I totally agree. I've been in an fwb before and it was great while it lasted. We knew what we were getting into going in. We both found someone else and moved on but I don't regret a single minute. With me, there was an emotional attachment that I had to work through, but we're still friends. I get the impression from a lot of posts I see that women think men don't feel anything. Trust me, we do.
 twilightzoneX
Joined: 2/21/2011
Msg: 92
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 2/28/2011 4:29:30 PM
I prefer casual sex, no emotions nothing, nada.
Do it, Screw it or lose it.
friends with benefits can get awkward
but i have done both though ;)
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 93
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 2/28/2011 8:34:27 PM
^^^^^^ Lol, you should check out the thread about guys wanting sex before getting to know you....a few people there seem to think women like you have psychological malformities because you Like casual sex.

Preposterous....yet thats what they claim!

As for me.. I love those women!
I'm about to enter a new realm... I mentioned that two of my former FWB's asked to start up again...well I'm gonna give it a try with one of them with the approval of my GF! We'll see how this goes.... my GF seemed to be more excited about this than I am...
 recreator611
Joined: 1/29/2011
Msg: 94
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 3/2/2011 6:06:34 AM
Nothing wrong with that as long as BOTH are clear...thats where the problem lies.....someones heart gets in the way....Good luck!
 EasyPeasy72
Joined: 11/15/2009
Msg: 95
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 10/4/2011 9:15:34 PM
It sounds like you are judging yourself for something that's much more socially acceptable these days. I know, I get to feeling weird about it too. I'd only consider potentially doing it if it's exclusive and I'm not with a guy who's going to have more than one FWB at a time and risk STD's.
 MissBoomerSooner
Joined: 9/23/2010
Msg: 96
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casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/18/2011 2:55:17 AM
Leeann there's nothing wrong with it as long as both feel the same about it.
Since turning 40 my sex drive has increased and I have actually loved casual sex, but after awhile it get's old and I want more. It's a delicate balance that you have to decide whats best for you girl!
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 97
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Posted: 12/19/2011 9:18:27 PM

The way it would REALLY work is that with all the free sex going on ...it would no longer be so novel... people would get over it real fast and concentrate on finding "the one" more... the competition would be for personality match-ups more so than just looks.

I totally agree. If society had it where women weren't conditioned to see/feel on some level that casual sex made them a slut and even men having a bit of a stigma for having too much casual sex -- I don't think there'd be a competition to have "the best sex".

If sex was more casual & laid back, like say, kissing, it would be less of a "hunt" or a carrot-dangling thing, and would be out of the picture as something to chase, which I think, keeps many people from wanting to settling down, because in the back of their mind they think there was always something more they "could have got".
 onceagain57
Joined: 11/25/2011
Msg: 100
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/21/2011 5:31:10 AM
Its not wrong in my opinion...but usually one or the other gets in to deep and someones heart gets crushed....even with an understanding....
 NASH58
Joined: 1/4/2008
Msg: 101
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Posted: 12/21/2011 6:22:03 AM
i think it is very good that a woman wants the same Tom
 Josee_1984
Joined: 7/29/2011
Msg: 102
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/21/2011 11:01:11 AM
absolutely nothing wrong with it
 angler62
Joined: 7/21/2009
Msg: 103
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/21/2011 12:09:30 PM
casual sex shouldb e the same for either and not looked down upon if you are a girl
 cutenperky2
Joined: 8/2/2011
Msg: 104
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/21/2011 12:52:27 PM
It the same level of wrong for a woman or a man there is no difference. If two poeple like it or agree than thats all that matters. I personally find it sleazy and I wouldnt do it ever not my thing . I would reather wait for someome i love and have kept things this way. I think though that with freinds with benfits one person is going to like the other more or start to like the other more and associate feelings or jelousy with things. Some one will end things and hurting the other person. Thats why I dont find this thing desirable. Plus i personally dont know any woman who dont associate sex with love so Its not something i am familiar with in my world.
 jjb1
Joined: 8/29/2010
Msg: 105
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/21/2011 9:40:05 PM
My thought on this topic is, one never knows what kind of std's they are going to pick up, when it just casual sex. good way to catch something you don't want or can't get rid of.. and neither partner knows who the other has been with..

I would say leave the sex for a meaningful relationship, one does not have to get sex the first time they meet someone face to face... sorry but that is playing a dangerious game. Come on people use your common sense where's your morals at?
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
Msg: 106
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Posted: 12/22/2011 6:38:17 AM
Hmm..my thoughts on this? With protection? It scratches the itch. Maybe not the thing for most but for those not looking for emotional committment, not a bad thing.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 107
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/22/2011 7:21:25 AM
Casual sex. It leads to a lower chance of drama later on.
 kenny1970
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 108
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/22/2011 9:09:30 AM
People have needs so nothing wrong with that
 Icu469
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 109
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Posted: 12/22/2011 10:27:37 AM
Sex is the way of life. Friends with benefits is most times the best way to go..
 EROSLOGIC
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 110
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Posted: 12/22/2011 10:38:00 AM
ITS SIMPLE , damd if we do or dont leeann. if a man does that. he,s a pig, jerk. thinks with his dk. cant keep it in his pants. dog, snake in the grass. when a woman does it, she puts on a virtuos act, damsel in distress. all men have done her wrong, and omg, never use the whore word. ect ect ect. its always a double std. its ok. if a man or woman. is bad. with us. but a soon as you like the sex, or person and another pops up. even tho your playin the field. acting like the opposite gender is just a frend, crap. the lies cop outs and cover up,s insult. your so called freind ??? one way or another, men and women get jelous. like kids spoiled, with a box of toys. and wen mommy or daddy sez share, they pitch a fit. somethin very messed up. when a so called proud woman, defensive about her honor ect. but wants to be passed around, like a hankerchief. 4 men to blow their nose in and be passed on. and wanna pretend, thats a frend. or even a human being. i love wild no limits sex raw passion. but i also love intimacy, and the feeling im with someone. i can trust. someone safe. and why is it so oldfashioned and bad, to share your most prized possesion your body soul and empathy, oneness, rather than divided apathy ? its alot selfish, and cold and shallow. to advertise, hey im your ho. if youll make me one dude. and whats worse. what happens if i man actually likes an cares bout you ? or you him. after meeting in the gutter ? or at that point, do you discard. a good, and satisfying lover a to z. and run to the pig pen of life and throw yourselves to the pigs, break a heart. destroy esteems worths, not to mention, the bad freaks, dangers diseases ect, youl find, bad and good men at that point, will see you as dirty, you wont get alot of kisses, oral. and they wont wanna be seen with you. not to mention the grape vine, dont trust the smiles greetings and seemingly. positive attentions you get. the dogs arent following you. but 4 one thing. yeah your speacial. think of it this way, you becum like a guilible, nieve, sucker. cheaper than a prostitute much safer than gettin busted 4 that. and just another bimbo. on the block. and damages done collateral. one hell of a price. to be free ? LOL. NOT TO MENTION, THE DOZENS OF DISEASES. you dont even know you have, for years to cum. all that for wat, an orgasm or two. cuz you cant keep your legs closed ? try porn or prostition. at least, youll get your fixes. and men will know wat their getting into.
 EROSLOGIC
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 111
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Posted: 12/22/2011 10:49:42 AM
P.S. GOTTA LOVE THE JOKERS ON THIS, its all good baby ! ask them bout the time. their main squeeze. porked. their best frend or some player. and deflated their overrated macho ego,s.. must be good also for their mom, sisters, daughters and grandma ? to ? yeah. b.s. runs deep, i can see. one of these guys. telling their daughters. its ok to be a ho ! and smileing, at the line of guys waiting to pork her. and how bout you ladies, you gonna tell your daughters and sons. its ok. to be promicuis. and that these are frends ? you people are bout as dum as a brick, and hypocrits from hell. face it its all good, till smacks you in the face.
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 112
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/22/2011 11:30:28 AM
ok...I'm gonna give my expert opinion on this!

FWB...way too much possibility of getting your heart broken & unnecessary b.s. drama
casual sex...too much risk of STD, boring and/or unsatisfying sex

My advice...make out like crazy with whoever you like, but don't have sex with them. Take care of your own business when you get home. Problem solved. You get all the touch humans crave & none of the drama associated with casual sex or FWB.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 12/22/2011 12:24:49 PM

SC67:

My advice...make out like crazy with whoever you like, but don't have sex with them. Take care of your own business when you get home. Problem solved. You get all the touch humans crave & none of the drama associated with casual sex or FWB.


Damn, you sound like a fun date! Is your mailbox full now? If you were a little closer, and I were a little younger, I would be hand crafting a message for you right now.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 114
casual sex or friends with benefits
Posted: 12/22/2011 12:29:20 PM

My advice...make out like crazy with whoever you like, but don't have sex with them.

I'm not sure if that actually helps much. My personal experience is that making out leads to sex.
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