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 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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FWB...way too much possibility of getting your heart broken & unnecessary b.s. drama casual sex...too much risk of STD, boring and/or unsatisfying sex


Yes, keep lying to yourself about the risks, downsides, and sheer boredom to keep you from trying it. It might even be true - for you (or with you?)!
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 116
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Posted: 12/22/2011 1:02:40 PM

Yes, keep lying to yourself about the risks, downsides, and sheer boredom to keep you from trying it. It might even be true - for you (or with you?)!

ha...I think I do ok for myself when I decide to have sex.

As for lying to myself...I'm 44 years old. I don't just draw conclusions about things that I haven't personally tried. FWB...some can do it without becoming entangled. I can't. I only needed to try that once to know it's not for me. Men are guaranteed at least a passable good time with casual sex. Women...on the other hand...not so much. It might be fun & interesting, but reaching the goal depends on whose orgasm the man is more interested in at the time.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2011 1:07:37 PM
I'm sorry if I sounded confrontational, sc67. It seemed like you were projecting your opinion onto others, but I understand that these choices and experiences are highly individual. It's always great to know what will or won't work for you. I've had very successful, drama-free, healthy, and mutually very satisfying FWB relationships. As always, it depends on the two people involved, so it works well for some, not so well for others.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 118
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Posted: 12/22/2011 3:02:40 PM
Men are guaranteed at least a passable good time with casual sex.

I'm not sure why you would say that. I've had sex that really wasn't much of thrill and it certainly wasn't passable for what even ok sex should be. On the other hand, it beats watching reruns of gilligan's island. Whether it beat self-service might have been a toss up, though.

Women...on the other hand...not so much. It might be fun & interesting, but reaching the goal depends on whose orgasm the man is more interested in at the time.

Personally, I always give 100%. I can't say that about some of the women I've been with, though.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 119
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Posted: 12/22/2011 3:18:47 PM
FWB...way too much possibility of getting your heart broken & unnecessary b.s. drama
casual sex...too much risk of STD, boring and/or unsatisfying sex


Agreed.


My advice...make out like crazy with whoever you like, but don't have sex with them.


Being a c0ck tease isn't cool, so I'm going to disagree with this advice. Don't lead the guy on if you're not prepared to go through with it. Not only is it not very nice, it can be unsafe. A goodnight kiss is plenty.


Take care of your own business when you get home. Problem solved. You get all the touch humans crave & none of the drama associated with casual sex or FWB.


 Emado12
Joined: 3/20/2011
Msg: 120
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Posted: 12/22/2011 9:35:06 PM
can i be one that you are talking?
 Emado12
Joined: 3/20/2011
Msg: 121
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Posted: 12/22/2011 9:35:46 PM
can i be your fun?
 SeaCatcher
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 122
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Posted: 12/23/2011 5:40:00 AM
Go for it, I say. I like sex and enjoy sex with fwbs and casual sex. Who cares what anyone else thinks! I actually don't much enjoy long term relationships, unless there is also a solid friendship, so the kind of sex I have is not something I do in lieu of a long term relationship; it's something I do for the sheer pleasure of it. Great stuff!
 simplevisions
Joined: 1/30/2011
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Posted: 1/8/2012 2:20:58 PM
yes i think its good for women too, but be honest and say it rite from the start,,and if you ever get a flat tire,or your car gets towed,make that call too that what friends are for it a win,win
 musical_turtle
Joined: 3/11/2011
Msg: 124
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Posted: 1/8/2012 2:24:07 PM
Personally, I don't judge other ladies if they want casual sex or FWB...
that's their business and not mine.Plus, I'm not perfect to be condeming people. People have a right to do whatever they'd like as long as it causes no harm to others. However, personally, casual sex and/or FWB is not for me...I haven't tried it, and don't plan to. I'm more conservative in that department, I guess.
 simplevisions
Joined: 1/30/2011
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Posted: 1/8/2012 2:24:18 PM
can you teach the girls from nj ,your rite on the money
 Rkeeper725
Joined: 12/1/2011
Msg: 126
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Posted: 1/10/2012 9:14:20 AM
Thats for that tidbit of nothing
 carelesswhisper00
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 127
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Posted: 1/10/2012 9:20:42 AM
I just received an email from a man from this site who was looking for exactly that. He is married. Wants a little afternoon delight to brighten his day then go home to his family feeling satisfied that he put in a hard days work. I have my settings set correctly on my profile at my discretion but no where does it say that I am interested in a married man much less an afternoon hook up to try to meet a needy mans desires. Some of these men are relentless, at least this one is. Block is on the way!
 BrookfieldGentlemanTom
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 128
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Posted: 1/10/2012 9:39:07 AM
there is a place on your mail settings to not allow married men to write to you but it only applies if they say they're married on their profile :(

i assume most don't
 Moonchild51
Joined: 3/11/2007
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Posted: 1/10/2012 10:01:06 AM
^^^It has been my experience that most married's are quite up front about their marital status and looking for nsa sex/fwb's. Either that or they are looking for 3'somes and groups to brighten up their day. When one counters back they are not interested, these men are almost insulted that there is no interest! I have enough fun on my own with single men. I don't need another woman's man tyvm! *Kit signs off from her soapbox now*!
 mako20
Joined: 9/8/2007
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Posted: 1/10/2012 4:17:25 PM
Ok so what if the guy isnt like that should he be ok with the women doing that????
 lanceb282
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 131
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Posted: 1/10/2012 7:41:02 PM
i totally agree. the issue is that one person always ends up with those feelings and ends up getting hurt
 SeaCatcher
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 132
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Posted: 1/16/2012 3:30:15 AM
write time maintains that with casual sex or friends with benefits "someone always gets hurt." Well, not in my experience. I had a fwb for over ten years and we remain good friends even though we now live on opposite sides of the country. There was never a suggestion, or interest for that matter, for the friendship to develop into anything else but an opportunity for some very nice sex.
 OFT123
Joined: 12/11/2011
Msg: 133
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Posted: 1/16/2012 4:01:32 PM
I don't understand why it has to get complicated if both know what they want out of it and both respect the other. I have had a FWB for 20+ years and we get together several times a year. No problems.
 Missinitall
Joined: 12/21/2010
Msg: 134
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Posted: 1/17/2012 10:28:07 PM
I agree totally! I've noticed though that more & more individuals really have no clue what an intimate encounter, FWB/NSA/fb etc, really is! A FWB type arrangement can be very destructive especially when one person gets a little
"too" attached! I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman wanting her own NSA/FWB/fb, but men tend to get slightly upset when it's not them who is on the receiving end I that arrangement! Truth hurts, but it is what it is! It's hard enough finding someone who is actually ballsy enough to act on their chosen or wanted arrangement!
 j14life
Joined: 1/1/2012
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Posted: 1/18/2012 8:27:30 AM
Its the new age! People are more open to women ejoying ones self and having many experiences. I know I'm comfortable in myself and a lady that gets some can GIVE some!!
 till33
Joined: 3/1/2011
Msg: 136
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Posted: 1/20/2012 1:13:13 AM
I'll donate my body for any of you ladies....
 eteddyg16
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 137
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Posted: 1/24/2012 9:22:40 AM
I don't think there is anything WRONG with it at all!
 Frank_J1958
Joined: 12/16/2011
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Posted: 1/24/2012 9:27:27 AM
I think thats the best way to go becuse its hard to find M/f F for long term.
 gman52
Joined: 10/20/2008
Msg: 139
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Posted: 1/24/2012 9:45:33 AM
there shouldnt be anything wrong with it.
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