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 wings on my butt
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 52
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There is no better way to attract men than to stay slim and fit.



I always find these things hilarious. Very very few men out there who are older look good. Most are fat, old, bald farts with leathery wrinkled skin yet they want a hot, tight bodied younger woman. Look at any group of men from any area and you will see most do not look good and they certainly don't look any better then women in their age group.
 stunt groom
Joined: 5/28/2009
Msg: 53
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:12:34 PM

Who made you the determiner of what's age appropriate, when it comes to automobiles? (Or anything else for that matter?) According to my insurance agent, I become more age appropriate for a sports car with each passing moment.


Sometimes I think the greatest crime against women, is to be a happy male over the age of 40. Or at least a man over 40 whose happiness is not under the full control and regulation of a woman of equal or greater age.


I know the females in the 2 neighborhoods I live in hate it that an older woman ( or any woman) isn't in control of my life or my $$$ .. So I'd have to agree.

Lots of misandry out there. It's ok to bash and hate men in the good ol' US. I often say 'I didn't know it was illeagal to be single and happy'.. Or.. ' I'm not married, I'm happy'....If the bashers don't like men dating down to 18 and even younger in Pa. Then change the age limit...
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 54
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:24:16 PM
[I take the examples of Porsche and Corvette (that the previous bitter loser poster used) to be representative of conspicuous consumption vehicles]

Kisses to you too, ChinaShopBull!!!
LOL
Beth
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 55
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 3:28:58 PM
I have no idea and don't really care but you would think they would feel a bit like a child molester. Yes I know that 18 is "legal" but at the same time that does not truly make an 18 year old an adult. If the "legal" age of consent were dropped to 13, would these men want to have sex with a 13 year old too?

When I was 18 I would have been digusted if a 48 year old man had suggested me dating him or having sex with him. He would have been 6 years older than my parents.

Sorry but I don't think the average man of 48 without money will get many 18 year old Girls to date them or have sex with them.
 kawasakiprincess
Joined: 5/13/2007
Msg: 56
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:04:06 PM
i love older men
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:11:40 PM
I think age isn't really an issue if 2 people want the relationship for the right reasons, unfortunately this is rarely the case. I think a lot of men feel better pursuing younger women because frankly women my age and older have nothing but bad things to say about older guys. We could be the best catch ever and they would find something age realated to make negative comments about or make fun of. Who wants to take the chance of being treated like that? Almost all women interested in me have been MUCH older and it was the same when I was younger. A lot of men in here have had the same experience. Women are very arrogant and hypocritical in their attitude towards relationships with drastic age differences. If it's an older woman then it's because she's so active, beautiful, fun, blah blah blah. If it's an older man then all the women say that true attraction isn't possible and the men have to take viagra, are pathetic, have to be rich are child molesters and whatever nasty disgusting venomous filth they can spew out. I rarely read any negative comments made by younger women on this topic. This makes younger women seem more approachable.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 58
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:19:37 PM
Most women won't find a rail-thin man physically attractive. That describes many young males.

But a woman w/ a flat belly, breasts riding high, small butt, nice skin? Many guys find that attractive, and that describes a range of females from teens to 40 yr olds who haven't had children and visit the gym.

also, younger women try to impress or win people over, out of insecurity. Older women, generally speaking, look at a guy and ask, "what do you offer me?" Reproduction probably is more of a concern to women, generally speaking, than to men. By middle age, the fellow may be thinking about what he missed out on, like the dates in high school who just weren't into him. but now he has money, now he's secure enough to actually ask out a pretty girl, or *shudder* he's in an occupation situation where he's got opportunity (in my small town, the local pizzaria was where the high schoolers went to get out of the house, so the popular girls worked there. The bosses, from what I'm told, got chummy w/ these young waitresses, and eventually dating occured. How much the liquor license came into it, who knows).

Is it an ego thing? Sometimes, sure. I have a delivery guy, he was 50 when he met his now-wife who was 18 then. She had a screwed up family and large breasts. He was self employed with his own house. He's "slipped up" and had naked photos of her while showing me photos of something else. Does it do his ego good to have her around? I'd be shocked if it didn't. But, he ditched the other girls he was screwing, and married her, immaturity and irresponsibility and all. He's got prostate cancer, and she'll get whatever he has.

Is it my business? No.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 59
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:26:24 PM
cw35: I would say the same things about a 48 year old woman that wanted to date a 18 year old boy. It would seem she would also feel a bit like a child molester.

I don't see anything wrong with anyone dating a younger person, but when one of the people involved is still really a child, it does seem over the edge.

If it were a 28 year old woman and a 58 year old man, I wouldn't see it as a big issue, as both would be full adults.
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 60
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:47:46 PM
msg 140

bcsofnc57


If it were a 28 year old woman and a 58 year old man, I wouldn't see it as a big issue, as both would be full adults.


you must be a future supreme court justice! this is hilarius! you are not a full adult until you're 28.
what are our 18 yr olds going off to war....

if you're 18 or older you can date who the hell you want to. don't worry what buffoons and judgementals think. you can date any race in the world but god forbid you date an older man....shame
 wings on my butt
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 61
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/28/2009 8:11:16 PM

hopefully one has a mind to fall back on....



Well then you are screwed glues and tattooed there Santa. Get out of your mothers basement if you can actually fit out of it by now. Put down the star wars figurines and tell your momma not to bring you any more chocolate chip cookies,cool aid and rice crispy squares. That crap, as you already know full well, will make you enormously fat and is bad for your health.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
Msg: 62
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Posted: 6/29/2009 4:28:34 AM
Muriel: You talk like this "course" you took taught you facts. It sounds like more bitter feminazi propaganda full of stereotypical offensive bulls*it. At best it's just someone's misguided bitter opinions. Women are every bit as sexual, cold and barbaric as men and that's the reality. One type of behavior is not assigned to one gender. That's complete foolishness. I wish some women (and men) could just accept that there doesn't have to be an underlying agenda when two people have a relationship. The way women chase younger men constantly always talking about sex proves that this behavior is not related to gender.
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 6/29/2009 6:09:57 AM
I think you hit the nail on the head, JgirlinSD.
 yna6
Joined: 1/21/2007
Msg: 64
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/29/2009 9:00:16 AM
why should anyone have to justify their dating preferences to anyone? It is really none of their business!
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Posted: 6/29/2009 11:24:06 AM
Muriel: So you can say something (supposedly facts) about men and it's an opinion but if I point out the same in women, I'm angry? Interesting double standard. Saying you took a course that said all these things about men in no way leads me to believe you thought the same about women. You probably should mention that. I'm baffled that you can take a course that fills people's minds with generalizations and falsehoods about men. Is there one about women as well?
 stunt groom
Joined: 5/28/2009
Msg: 66
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:38:16 PM
95 % of women are toe up and used up by age 30.. We've got few choices... but to turn to our chidren's girlfriends..:0)
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 67
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/29/2009 1:38:56 PM
tomic bomb 18 year old boys and girls can date 98 year olds for all I care, but I still would think the older person would feel like a bit of a pervert. An 18 year old dating a 48 year old isn't just older it is close to being grandma or grandpa.

I also think 18 is way to young to be in the military.

While an 18 year is legaly considered an adult and yes they can dete who they want, join the military. For some reason in the US they can't drink until they are 21. Not enough judgement skills perhaps to decide what they can do after drinking? When a person turns the legal age where they live, it does not magicaly turn them into an adult.

As to the age of 28, it wasn't for any reason other than the idea the older the person is the less age difference makes.

I make no difference by gender. Same for a 48 year old woman wanting to date an 18 year old boy.

As to being jealous? Jealous of what? I had my time being young, and now it is their turn. Not to mention that for my age, I think I am in fairly good shape.

Men and women who are 40 plus that wanted to date 18 year old boys and girls just use the fact that they are barely legal to justify their really horrible behaviour. Legal or not it is still wrong, and any decent person would agree to that. I wonder how many of these 40 plus people dating 18 years would want someone that age to date their 18 year old son or daughter.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 68
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/29/2009 2:02:49 PM

While there's no denying women look their best at a younger age, it is rather shallow to exclude older women simply on age.


Sure and men also look better when they are in their 20's but that doesn't mean that I would want to date, marry or have sex with one of them. Legal or not I would feel like a child molester. I have had guys that age approach me, but I call them embryos and send them on their way.


Beyond pure physical attraction, I did just hear about a study which revealed that women are happiest at the age of 28ish. While men are certainly not immune to growing more unhappy with age, I do think that women experience greater pressure and anxiety due to their biological clocks ticking down shortly after that age. Not to mention the environmental pressure society place on childless women leaving their fertile years. It's no wonder women have such a short "window" of happiness.

Me, I am at my happiest now. My biological clock has exploded and is gone(oh happy days are here!!!) and my "baby" is 21.



When I was younger I was very unsure of myself, found it hard to talk to people, especially males. I can now talk to anyone without fear of what they think. Yes at 52 I am far happier with who I am and in general than when I was in my 20's. Not to mention I have more energy now than I did then. I was so lazy at that age!!!



In general to the idea of is an 18 year old an adult. The site below tells what people think about that topic.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-12-12-emerging-adults_N.htm
 cooldude
Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 69
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/29/2009 2:45:20 PM
Its really funny how we define a womans age by the age of the men she goes out with. 18 year old female with 18 year old male she is a woman. But now a 18 year old female with 35 or older male is now a child?

I find this hilarious. So now the 35 year old man is a child molester and the 18 year old man is not?!? People are hung up on age a little too much.
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 70
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:00:34 PM

Maybe their maturity levels are about at the same levels?



Considering that that could as easily be a compliment to her as an insult to him, I'll agree. Especially knowing that immaturity in the 30's, 40's and older, is not the exclusive purview of males, and that some teenagers can be quite mature... Though inexperienced. I pass on women in their 20's fairly often, because I would feel wrong for going there... But that doesn't mean my way is the way for others.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 71
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/30/2009 8:44:00 PM

Its really funny how we define a womans age by the age of the men she goes out with. 18 year old female with 18 year old male she is a woman. But now a 18 year old female with 35 or older male is now a child?

I find this hilarious. So now the 35 year old man is a child molester and the 18 year old man is not?!? People are hung up on age a little too much.


Perhaps that's how some see it, but I would see it as an 18 year old girl dating an 18 year old boy. The only thing I see hilarious about what you wrote is the notion of an 18 year old man or an 18 year old woman. They aren't exactly still children, but they aren't exactly adults.

Not to mention the example the op gave was a 48 year old male with an 18 year old female.

Thirty years age difference is huge. At 52 there is no way I would date a 22 year old or an 82 year old.
 cooldude
Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 72
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 6/30/2009 11:48:03 PM

Perhaps that's how some see it, but I would see it as an 18 year old girl dating an 18 year old boy. The only thing I see hilarious about what you wrote is the notion of an 18 year old man or an 18 year old woman. They aren't exactly still children, but they aren't exactly adults.


Its hilarious in that you seem to be stonewalling. Not really giving an answer. 18 y/o is not a child anymore.
 freetime2bme
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 7/1/2009 6:03:20 AM
I see the comments a lot here on this thread that people 20 or more years apart don't have anything in common and I don't think that is all ways true. I am a 49 year old single dad, kids live with me full time and my youngest child is 8. Now I find I have more in common with most 29 year old women then most 49 year old women, not only because of the kids, but because of the type of activities I do. When I get a message from some one with grand children my kids age, I think what will we have in common. That said I do not box my self in by age. Since my divorce I have dated women ranging in age from 19 to 52 and they all had some things in common. All were fit, all loved the outdoors and all were fun to be on a date with, but the fit, loves the out doors and fun to be on a date with thing seems to be much harder to find in women over 40. It is still there in some, but far from being common. The other issue is I am not looking for long term, happy being single for ever. Finding a fun fit single women over 40 not looking for long term is also hard to do. Why box oneself in, if I can have a good date with some one 20 or some one 50 why not?
 sungoddness
Joined: 6/30/2008
Msg: 74
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 7/1/2009 6:25:47 AM
well any woman who alouds herself to be involved with a much older man doesnt have much brains and thinks with her ****
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
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Posted: 7/1/2009 10:55:34 AM
Wow! This is simply amazing!

I think I counted more female losers on this thread, than male losers!
 TOMic bomb
Joined: 10/5/2008
Msg: 76
She is barely legal, He is 48
Posted: 7/3/2009 8:03:02 PM
if dating outside of your race is ok, if same sex dating is ok, then dating outside of your age bracket is also ok. there should be NO debate about this.
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