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 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 10
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OP, it ain't just women in your age group dressing up like this and displaying their wares.

My guy friend (he's 50 years old) is constantly emailing me links to POF profiles of women in the 50-60 year old age group. Whenever I get one of these links, I brace myself because I know it's not going to be pretty - and I know my buddy is sitting in front of his computer cracking up, waiting for my reaction. In these profiles, the women are wearing lingerie and posing on beds or wearing leather corsets and they're holding riding crops, etc. etc.

It's truly one of the most frightening things I've ever seen and usually requires much brain bleach after viewing. Much as I hate to admit it, the 'skin show' isn't just for the younger set here on POF.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 11
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How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:14:05 AM

I'm thinking that she may be easy. Especially if she already has a kid

If she already has a kid......
thats a bit harsh isnt it
i have four girls all to one father to whom i was married to for 13 years so i dont know what having a child has to do with sexy photos........

I'm not a man.. but I can wager a guess. It's something I've suspected for years actually. It's not terribly flattering actually.

OP.. just be yourself. You don't need racy photos to attract a partner.. unless you WANT the kind of partner who's easily attracted, or distracted, by the next pretty thing. I've been here 3 yrs... met a lot of people.. am in a relationship, but not with someone I met here. My profile does not have racy pictures.. and I get about 10 new contacts a month still. How much attention do you want???
 leadpipe1958
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 12
How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:35:37 AM
The picture is your first impression.I like the pic all though the sluty ones are a turn off. The one out of focus make me scratch my head "Why would you not put your best pic".
I laugh at the pictures of pregnant woman in a wedding dress or with the grand childern in the first pic are a turn off.Put the grand kids in the other pictures imop.
I know I need to get some better pictures on my profile. I took a quick pic to get in.I did not know POF was such a great site.
 Leeanne
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 13
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How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:51:06 AM
Who gives a crap how other women present themselves?!?! Present yourself as you wish others to view you! I have never had any problem attracting a man based on the one and only way I know how and that is with honesty and being completely myself!
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 14
How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 7:47:40 AM
What a woman is wearing does not affect my decision to read a profile. (I've contacted women without photos.) What she's wearing would only affect what I would write in a message if her profile was too lame to be of any use. In other words, if the only interesting thing about her was her provocative photos, guess what interests I'd feel we had in common. On the other hand, if I could tell there was no physical attraction from looking at her photos, it wouldn't matter too much what she wrote in her profile regardles of how she was dressed.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
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How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 11:02:05 AM
I have been on this site for a week now and I am having a hard time.

Wow, a whole week?

Women are Sellers in the Romance Game. Men are the Buyers. So you, as a woman, have gotta have something to sell which men want to buy. And, yes, it is a competitive market place.

It has nothing to do with "class", though you're right that few women have the imagination to come up with anything other than their cleavage, their tattoos, or whatever else they've deluded themselves into thinking makes them "special".

Oh, and BTW, welcome to the human race, though you're only a provisional member until you've been around here at least a year or so. Have you considered targeted direct mail advertising in the meantime?
 mcbobly
Joined: 8/28/2005
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How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 2:32:08 PM
Like others have said, just being yourself helps, and being true to yourself adn waht you want and do not want, not having such lofty standards that most men don't measure up, and putting yourself out there for some to discover. You're a pretty attracitve women and I think here soon enough you'll be attracting guys. Granted not all will be what you're looking for, but you will come across quite a few you're really interested in. Good luck OP.
 miska1
Joined: 9/16/2008
Msg: 17
How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:36:12 PM
the Op wroe.....I don't think one needs to pose in skimpy underwear to get a guys attention. I generally pass by the girls who are overly provocative - too obvious. However, I prefer full length pictures to mere headshots and why not state a few sexual preferences in your profile ie. I like sex to be a total mind/body/spiritual experience? Focus on the positive rather than the negative in what you are looking for sexually or otherwise


My question with this is, who the hell doesn't like total mind blowing, body lifting, spiritual sex? Why state the obviouse?Very few that I have talked to said..............I hate hot sex it's just to messy and inconvenient ok none have ever said that

Someone else wrote............Women are Sellers in the Romance Game. Men are the Buyers. So you, as a woman, have gotta have something to sell which men want to buy. And, yes, it is a competitive market place.

I so need to take marketing classes, or get tips from a sales man. I couldn't sell ice in hell .lol.

It has nothing to do with "class", though you're right that few women have the imagination to come up with anything other than their cleavage, their tattoos, or whatever

I liked what he then wrote about this^^^^^But he is right it is about puttign your best out there for someones eye to catchit. And what you put out there will attract what you want..............hopefully
 Viperess
Joined: 4/22/2009
Msg: 18
How does a woman keep her class but attract a man on a dating site.
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:41:21 PM
My preference is to always keep it classy be it in public or online. I do not think a woman has to show all of her 'assets' to attract a man. Online, I think it is how she presents herself via photographs and what she compiles in her profile that can be sexy yet NOT sleazy.
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