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Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 30
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single mom and the sex talk.....Page 3 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
If its masturbation your talking about.. you dont need to have a talk with him. Thats just not something a mom needs to talk to her son about. That will definetly not make him comfortable. Just let that go. When he starts talking about girlfriends, have the std and safe sex talk. Thats all you need to do
Joined: 9/4/2006
Msg: 31
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Posted: 6/29/2009 10:15:12 PM
sorry futureshock,I speed read and misread what you said.

I like what someone else wrote on keeping them very active with things to do to keep their mind busy. another thing is to put them in some type of activity where they teach on morals/values such as church, boy scouts/girl scouts so they are in a positive environment and encourage them to feel acceptance and belonging, which may help some teens to wait on sex.
Joined: 5/23/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 7/1/2009 12:37:25 AM
i just had this come up with my bestfriend son but he was orderring porn off the t.v. i sat him down told him all bouys and men do this but i told him how to be grown up about it and clean up after himself u now respict and explained porn is not what sex is about and gave him a playboy and how too keep it put up and not to be showing his friends and he does a really good job about it and there has been no more porn
Joined: 8/14/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 7/1/2009 10:38:35 AM
Maybe adoption could have been a mentally difficult thing to do, but there is nothing physical involved in it. Your ideas about abortion are also way off. It is much, much more dangerous to carry a pregnancy t term and deliver a child, for a woman at any age but more so for a young teen, than it is to have a first trimester abortion. Do you really think your mother would have been pushing you to have an abortion if there were any risks associated with it? I don't. She sounds like she loves you more than anything and only wanted the best for you.

futureshock you are missing LSS145's point. When her mother gave her "the talk," she said she would support her when she became sexually active, to get birth control to protect against pregnancy and disease. Then when she did become sexually active, her mother went back on her word. You're focusing on what happened after that, but that switch from support to denial is a huge betrayal.

If teenagers can't rely on their parents to help protect them from pregnancy and disease in the first place, I can see why the teenagers would not be interested in their parents' opinions and preferences after the fact. Even if the parents love them, and even though teenagers are notoriously capricious.

I don't want my kids having sex in high school either, but if they are going to be sexually active, I'd rather they were using birth control than getting pregnant.
Joined: 8/11/2008
Msg: 50
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Posted: 7/1/2009 5:47:38 PM
Hey prurire, that Weeds clip is a good idea. So good, in fact, that it's already been suggested, with a link even.

/wondering why people can't be bothered to read the freaking thread before posting/
Joined: 2/9/2009
Msg: 51
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single mom and the sex talk.....
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:20:09 AM
I wonder Mr. Patient and any other men out there...did your dads talk to you about this when you were growing up?

In regards to masturbation, no. Every boy can figure out how to that by themselves. Gawd the horror of my mother/father talking to me about it!!! I dont even want to think about it.

As far as the sex/babies/safe sex talk... yes I had that talk when I was 12

Masturbation isnt something you have to worry about.. what harm could become of a boy masturbating?? something in the eye maybe LOL
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