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 digitalfever
Joined: 2/6/2008
Msg: 34
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?Page 2 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
Uh, I would say before you ditch the condoms you should both get tested. It may be only you and him in the bed; but technically your sleeping with him and all his past partners. It would be best to know what's going on down there before you expose yourself to such a risk.

I'd say look into another form of birth control. One that is less frequent and is more sutible to your currrent relationship/situation.
 no_excuses_please
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 35
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:03:02 AM
Unless he wants to be in court and part w/ a lot of money...he should spring for birth control...if there's a cost issue involved.
I know I would.
Honestly,if that IS even an issue...why be together?
 shadowette
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 36
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:23:11 AM
No, birth control is my responsibility. If I don't want to get pregnant, then I should be accountable enough to make sure it doesn't happen.
 shadowette
Joined: 8/24/2008
Msg: 38
How about this?
Posted: 7/2/2009 10:48:00 AM
Tamzin01, you know, funny thing...my mom got pregnant at 41....so I have a brother thats 20 years younger than me. lol
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 39
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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 11:05:13 AM
I'm not surprised this question comes up. After all, everyone is out for everything they can get, right? So, why not ask other people to pay for everything? You never know, they might go for it. There are a lot of suckers out there, another one born every minute.

My opinion, it's your body, it's your responsibility. You get pregnant, you get to make all the decisions on whether to keep it or not, or whether to try to force a guy to pay for a kid he doesn't want, because you might want it. That said, it's your responsibility. Just like it's mine to make sure I don't catch a disease from you; if I don't choose to use and pay for condoms, it's my own fault, not yours. It's called personal responsibility. We're responsible for ourselves and our own behavior. Something undesirable happens based on one of our decisions, we don't get to blame someone else just because they were with us when it happened.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 40
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:29:39 PM
If you can't afford birth control, you certainly can't afford to get pregnant and just to restate the obvious, guys don't get pregnant. So either stop having sex or don't depend on someone else to keep you from getting pregnant.
 mysteriousromeo
Joined: 9/29/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 7/2/2009 12:36:01 PM
Here's a new concept: how about abstaining from sex until you're married. It won't cost either of you any money.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 42
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 12:49:10 PM
Do you ask him to pay half for your deoderant and shampoo, otherwise you'll just not be nice and clean for him? Do you not brush your teeth unless he pays half for the toothpaste? Seriously, I just don't get this. You're responsible for yourself. You don't want to get pregnant so why make that someone else's financial responsibility? Wow...and I thought it was bad enough with some women expecting men to constantly pay for dates - now there's this!
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 43
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:30:01 PM
Any woman who entertains the idea, or asks a guy she's having sex with to pay for half or her birth control pills will suddenly find herself sitting home alone at night with BOB. (i'm sure a month of batteries can get quite expensive for her)
Hopefully he's got the balls to dump her ass and find another gal who isn't so whiney, petty and thinks she can trap and control a man with her vagina.

Its a different story if they are living together and they share the expenses (we've all picked up someones perscription and not asked to be reimbursed)
If she's just the eye candy, hanging there to sponge off him -let her buy her own damn pills.

The minute a guy starts putting up with that shit -he mentally surrenders his balls.

(if she only knew how many of her fellow sisters were satisfied with having "no strings attached" sex with the men they love and not think of men as her personal ATM.
sex should be for mutual pleasure and and shared intimacy, not as a system of bartering for control, goods and money)

 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 44
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 1:58:21 PM
I can't believe that there are people out there that would even look at pays for birth control??? seriously it's a world gone mad.
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 45
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:09:30 PM
^^^^^^^Yes but in saying that, the choice on whether or not to keep the child remains with the mother..The man has NO say.
 eastendwoman
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 46
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:17:26 PM
If it's an exclusive long term relationship why shouldn't he pay half. But realistically ladies, instead of breaking his chops for paying half of birth control, just get him to spend twice as much as the mall. You're ahead of the game then.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 48
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:40:10 PM
I'm thinking you probably spend more for smokes during a month than it would cost for birth control at $30 to $40 per month. Give up the smokes or give up the sex but stop expecting someone else to pay your way in life just because you choose to share something with them (your body).
 TimelessRomance
Joined: 12/20/2008
Msg: 49
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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:00:23 PM
Vasectomies are outpatient and $700. One of my god children is from a broken condom, and a cousin is from the pill. If ya ask me $700 is a small price to pay.
 chameleonf
Joined: 12/22/2008
Msg: 50
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:12:27 PM
Actually, what marianne said makes even more sense. How about both people take responsibility before the fact instead of after the fact - then there'd be no room for the blame games that get played.
 El_Mariachi
Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 51
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:15:54 PM
Ages ago, a guy I was dating made me this offer. I looked at him like he sprouted extra heads and said NO THANKS. His logic was fine and all, but I didn't see a point in it anyway. Even though I found it to be the strangest offer I'd ever gotten, it was still kind of sweet in a way.
 Alabamamam
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 52
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:26:04 PM
The OP is 19. At that age my parents gave me money for my BC. I was full time in college but dated with sex.
 papa1973
Joined: 6/24/2009
Msg: 53
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:37:36 PM
You have no assurances other than her word that she's on BC.

Considering that women are master liars and manipulators, that should give you pause right there.

Even if you use a condom she can still use it to make herself conceive.

I use the "soak the boys in hot water" method of having control over my own reproduction, at least until male BC becomes legal in the US.
 WalkingInLondon
Joined: 2/21/2005
Msg: 54
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:41:50 PM
Girls buy the pills, boys buy the condoms, that's just good manners. Of course nowadays most women keep condoms in their bedside tables, just in case. But if you are in a LTR, who cares?Is anyone really that cheap that they worry about such a small expense?
Good Lord!
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
Msg: 55
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/2/2009 3:50:22 PM
Why should he pay any when we can go to a clinic and get it for free? I thought our body was our responsibility. I got the sterlization free even through the clinic and state hospital.
 idahosun
Joined: 4/26/2006
Msg: 56
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Posted: 7/2/2009 3:53:29 PM
What about all the people on here who believe it is the woman's responsibility (and I am moslty among them, if he buys the condoms to prevent stds) contact your congress people and demand that birth control be covered under everyone's insurance. I find it disgusting that viagra is covered but not birth control. How sexist is that - the pill to get it up and impregnate someone is covered by insurance, but the pill or device to stop a woman from becoming pregnant isn't! And, if there are financial difficulties arising, then yes, I think the man should help with the cost of bc, if the relationship is based on equality in other areas, I can see two sides to this issue and as others have suggested, it should be brought up for discussion between the couple. But if it is a "you must pay to play" issue, no, don't agree with that idea at all.
 SueCat51
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 57
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Posted: 7/2/2009 5:02:21 PM
Nope - I don't believe men should have to pay for women's birth control. At the same time, I don't believe that women should pay for the condoms. If you can't spring for $30/month in birth control, then you shouldn't be having sex, period, end of story.
 OSUguy99
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 61
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/3/2009 5:24:44 AM
nope. your the one with the eggs. if your not using rubbers its on you. you should probably be using both. ive never been getting ready to do the deed with a new partner and said im gonna need a 2 dollar condom fee. if its a precaution you take for your body you should pay. when your guy gets older are you gonna chip in on his viagara. 2 things guys money should not go towards in the guy code, 1 pads-tampons 2 birth control pills
 gracengracie
Joined: 2/3/2009
Msg: 62
Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control?
Posted: 7/3/2009 5:35:25 AM
I can not believe this thread have gone this far.

Being a woman....my opinion is that this question would never even arise in my mind.
I use birth control to give MYSELF peace of mind in many aspects....its something I must do if I want to fully enjoy my sexual life.....so...

I am the one getting it for myself.....no one else.

This is an example of double standard with guys.....we want them to pay for the date expenses, but we cant even take care of our basic safety expenses ????

If like OP states relationship is monogamous and LTR, I assume they live together and possibly it gets paid from household bank account...in that case I'd say it falls into the YES category.

Im married and all medications/pharmacy expenses at home are household expenses...this falls into this category, pharmacy expenses.
 catybabe78
Joined: 4/20/2008
Msg: 63
I hope to gawd....
Posted: 7/3/2009 9:58:39 AM
i agree its stupid to fight over stupid shit like that. if he wanted to yes he could but,if he says no then forget it .not worth fighting over. my kids dad wanted more kids ,i sad no and when my last baby was born i got fixed. u dont want a baby yet get the shot .And when he wants to have sex and not help pay so u dont get pregnant easy make him wear a condom . if he dont like it then he dont get any sex.thats what i did to my kids dad before we had our kids. its that easy, plus ur not fight over stuip shit. thats why after i had my last kid i got fixed so there is no fight over who is going to do what. that easy. and if u never want kids pay the money and get fixed. my bestfriend did, her and her old man dont want kids so they both got fixed.
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