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 Sweet Sensations
Joined: 6/1/2009
Msg: 76
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^^^^That's so true ... I would respect anyone that is trying to rebuild their life on their own. It proves there is potential for growth and drive for self sufficiency.
Joined: 5/21/2008
Msg: 77
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Posted: 7/6/2009 1:18:41 PM
Well. the gas and electric company think it's pretty important, and my mortgage holder thinks it's REALLY important LOL.
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 78
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:38:30 AM

as long as she have enough money to keep hot water in her house, clean clothes, a bottle of shampoo and body's all good !

What about rent, electric, water,phone,car payment, food ??? It cost money to live ,so me say that money is important.

If a woman laying down on the street nekkid and farther on her side there is some cash 25,000.00 , I bet those men who said that money is not important will grab the cash and run instead of having sex with that woman... Sheesh, these hypocrite men!!!!!!!!!
Joined: 11/7/2008
Msg: 79
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Posted: 7/7/2009 8:47:56 AM
Speaking as a single mom who has supported herself, her kids and nearly every dead-beat loser I'd ever dated...the financial security of anyone I date has to be secure!!! I'm not willing to get into debt yet again because some jerk is too lazy to get a job!
Joined: 4/2/2008
Msg: 80
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:27:32 PM
After a certain age a man or woman should be somewhat financially responsible. Not necessarly rich,just handle money responsibly. But if one is not sincerely trying to get back on track,that can be a red flag for the future. It's not falling down financially it's getting back up.
Joined: 1/1/2009
Msg: 81
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:43:33 PM
''what do you do?'

I had no idea that that questions is being perceived as being so loaded. I've asked it many times, but not because I'm trying to find out their financial situation, but because most people spend +40 hours per week doing their job and the choice of business says a lot about them. It also can create some very interesting food for conversation, possibly some common ground or experiences. I want to know whether they're doing something that they really love, possibly a dream that they realized, or whether it's just a job that pays the bill and that they hate. Something they fell into and then realized they liked it? Something they want to continue doing or do they have a dream that is in a different direction and that would rather follow?

To me it's a basic question to find about the other person
Joined: 2/28/2005
Msg: 82
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Posted: 7/7/2009 12:58:53 PM
^^^I agree. I think a man is defined by what he does. I've told female friends of mine that the first things they should know about a guy are what he does, and what his long and short term goals are. If the guy can't answer, that should be the last date.
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 83
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:15:18 PM
How important is money? As important as people make it, or not.
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 84
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:19:41 PM
Hmmmm....I've been a financial planner for the past 22 years.....and now I'm thinking of turning into mr. mom....some things are more important than position or title.
Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 85
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:28:35 PM
I would wait and see if going through a very rough time financially is a pattern for them or if really is a rough time financially. Going through a rough time time financially is understandable its when they show a pattern of going through "a very rough time financially" That would raise a red flag for me. Times are tough and there are all too many freeloaders walking around looking for a hand out these days.
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 86
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:33:35 PM
It's not important that she's financially loaded, just that she's financially responsible, doesn't go on idiotic spending sprees using credit cards, and have other debt-related liabilities, which will become my liabilities.

But, these days, jobs are scarce, people are in dire straits, so I'm willing to offer a free place to stay (if we've hit it off in the sex and emotional department) or help out in some way if she's going through a rough time. Just doling out money tho is a big no-no.
Joined: 7/15/2006
Msg: 87
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:36:14 PM
Well I was married to a man who was totally irresponsible with money, so I would weigh his financial record in my decision date him exclusively. Sorry, but, I've been burned really bad and it is a serious subject.
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 88
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:40:26 PM
The money I make is important to me. Beyond that, I could care less unless someone else threatens to cost me money.
Joined: 1/3/2009
Msg: 89
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Posted: 7/7/2009 1:42:18 PM
Hookers find it to be a top priority.
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 7/8/2009 7:20:02 AM
Money is REALLY,REALLY,REALLY important.....I went to renew my mortgage and guess what...they would only accept money. Went to the grocery store...and here we go again...they wanted money!! Needed gas for my guessed it MONEY!! In May I went to New York for a week, says money isn't important is living in la la land!!!
Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 91
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Posted: 7/8/2009 7:42:28 AM
actually his integrity is important to me.. if he can't ah.. cough up... and says he is paying his way, my way .. later .. he better do it with .. interest and enthusiasm.. or money will breakah your lil leggah..
Money is nowhere near as important as brains.. brains make money... money is just the offshoot of great brains.. and skills is the .. gold mine of sexy.. oh yah... evolved people don't need money .. they can make it .. with or without money.. some will get this others don't.. if you don't you will need ... some good lipstick and a toned body and money.. cause yo'noodle can't go past schnoodle.. don't worry depth is only six inches beyond a nose job....
Joined: 8/4/2007
Msg: 92
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Posted: 7/8/2009 9:37:34 AM
When I met my deceased fiancee - he was sleeping on a friends couch, had no job, no car - and when he moved in he had a trash bag full of clothes. He pointed that out to me 6 months later and asked why on earth I'd given him the time of day...I laughed and laughed and said - it hadn't even occurred to me...

So - I guess money is not important at ALL to me.
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 93
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Posted: 7/8/2009 1:10:51 PM
It's not totally important, it's only second to air.
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 94
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Posted: 7/8/2009 1:43:53 PM

What does my head in is when the first question out of a womans mouth is 'what do you do?' ie i'll only date you if you have a good job & will take care of me.

Really? You equate 'What do you do?' with 'I'll only date you if you have a good job & will take care of me.' ? That is so cynical! Did it ever occur to you that when you first meet someone, general questions like 'What do you do?' are a primary way of starting conversation? Sheesh!
As for how important money is - I'd have to say, as with all things, it's relevant. My ex was unemployed for 2 years and expected me to not only pay all the bills, but support his 'habits' as well. He was content to watch our family sink further and further into debt - debt that was in MY name! That got old real quick!
My current SO lives a cash existance. He is self-admittedly not good with money, so he limits himself to what he makes. It works for him, and doesn't impact my finances whatsoever, so it's fine by me. I already have all the debt and credit I'll ever want or need, so 'scores' aren't important.
Joined: 6/1/2007
Msg: 95
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Posted: 7/8/2009 1:44:45 PM
Without reading any replies ...

Money is most everything to most everyone here on POF. Everyone denies it, but that is the reality. Accept it.

Some have it and some don't. If it bothers you or worries you just date people with the exact income and assets as you do.

Me I would never date a man who isn't totally filthy rich ... millions and millions just to spend on me. Why not if I dated a man who had a nicle more than me then all the men say I am a gold digger, if I date a man who has a nicle less than me then the gals say I am supporting that loser.

So I will take the safe road and date only the filthy rich then everyone can say I am a gold digger as I sail in his big old boat drinking margaritas.

Joined: 4/10/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 7/8/2009 1:50:20 PM
We are in an economic slump and a lot of people lost their jobs. If you are courting someone and that person just happened to lose their job and are trying to make it out of that 'hole', I don't think that that should be a deciding factor in how important money is to you that you would have to dump them. If you knew that someone you dated couldn't afford to put a gallon of milk in their refridgerator, would you turn your back on them because all of a sudden they are in need? If the person you cared about were injured and was unable to work, would you turn your back on them?

Some people don't think about this until they find themselves in that situation, then it is another story.
Joined: 6/30/2009
Msg: 97
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:09:32 PM

Money is very important, a bad credit score is a major turn off

Hey longlocks40 - women like you are why men ask for prenuptuals - as long as the bills are paid, you have a roof over your head and the kids are fed I think people have the basics covered.
Can you say superficial? I can - it is longlocks40.
Joined: 7/22/2007
Msg: 98
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:19:27 PM
well, one good thing about the downturn in the economy, is that it is a great equalizer.
HelI, we've all been hit by it. I'm more interested in how a person handles it.
Y'know.....most people I know who were rollin in dough a couple of years ago , are now rollin their own.

I think adversity builds character....I really do. It's the spirit and soul of a person that matters most to me. The attitude I hold during these times is to act...'as if'. As if, things are going to come around. They always , we're in a dip...big deal. I ain't jumpin' outtof any five story window because of it. Just roll with it , baby.
Besides,.... Most people who are attached to money, and things, bore the shIt outta me.
Then again, I'm a pretty simple guy by nature.

So, your question is....if you 'definitely ' see a future there, would it 'bother' me if someone went through a rough financial time. Why no. I would never judge a human by their profit and loss statement.

Survivors and downsizers freaking RULE!

Joined: 6/15/2009
Msg: 99
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Posted: 7/10/2009 8:23:07 PM
I am weird this way. I hate money.
 Vacation time!!
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 100
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Posted: 7/12/2009 12:48:41 PM
Longlocks 40, While I agree with your post, you sound like you have a skewed image of what a relationship should be. Sounds like a relationship with you would be pure bliss...... $%$#$$%%^%^$ Sorry just threw up a little in my mouth..
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