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 GREATEST LOVER
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 26
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op..........its nothing your doing wrong. you have what i call "killer ****" that means your stuff is sooo good, a guy can't prevent cumming after seconds or a few minutes. the only way to prevent this from happening because i can imagine how frustrated you are, is to have him take it out repeatedly when he's about to cum and start over again.
i've had a few women with that "killer ****" they're perfect for quickies in public...lol don't worry op, its not a bad thing, its actually good because you know you have some good ass ****.
 jinglehimmer_smith
Joined: 12/4/2008
Msg: 27
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/27/2009 2:26:02 PM
http://www.esquire.com/women/sex/average-sex-time-0709

according to this site, surveys taken state the average sexual expierence last from 3-7 minutes. And that very few people have sex (constant penetration) more than 12 min.

Sounds like you take to long, not the other way around.

You should ask what you can do to cum faster!!!
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
Msg: 28
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What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/27/2009 2:47:19 PM
Make him jack off more and have sex more often!
 sleepsafe
Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 29
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/27/2009 3:42:00 PM
MORE SEX, lots more. I didn't see anywhere in your post how long you and Mr Fast Gun have been doing the deed. If I have gone a long time without intercourse, I'm quicker than when I am in a relationship. Especially in new relationships people can get really excited. He is asking you not to move because he knows he is close to cumming, so he is really trying to put the brakes on it and make it last longer. You also didn't say what your age, or his was. How about a hand job or blow job early in the encounter to get his first orgasm out of the way. Generally speaking most guys are gonna last a lot longer the second time around, and hey, YOU can get him excited and hard for round 2 can't you.
 Blakkardaberry
Joined: 2/7/2009
Msg: 30
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What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/27/2009 3:59:52 PM
Have him play gooney baseball in his head . Thats when you hit the imaginary ball lets say a tripple than run the bases backwards in his mind. To become aroused only takes a physical component to climax usually has to do with being there mentally as well as physically if he can distract himself during the act it will mitigate the arousal level and allow some lenthening of the act.
Then again as a guy I do put a lot of respect in the theory that practice practice practice is the best way to become better at anything. Just don't make it a job or it may backfire in your face literally anyway.
 alcwkat
Joined: 10/27/2008
Msg: 31
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What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/27/2009 4:37:29 PM
The ESO program's been around many years - ALWAYS works if followed. Regular Kegels, keep clit centered & don't neglect Gspot. And LOTS of communication!
 totoman
Joined: 12/12/2008
Msg: 32
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/29/2009 3:20:50 AM
No unfortunately nature was not kind to men early on. If you have a college kid, chances are he is going to be premature and it will take some experience/practice to learn endurance. Still even if he fires a round early, there is NO reason why he can't pick up where he left off. At that age, think of the first one as a warm up. But if he does not want to do this for you or do other things to you that will give you pleasure, drop this clown especially if he is showing disregard for you desires/needs. Otherwise, work with him and tell him the things you like that can offset this problem.
 jonjon87
Joined: 10/25/2008
Msg: 33
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Posted: 7/29/2009 3:41:12 AM
lol, how to make him last longer. Im sure their are thing out there this help this situation. However, i am sure it all has to do with the guy. I could last for hours and be fine. some guys last a few mins. i didnt even know two min men existed. i feel sorry for girls who have this problem. maybe you should try some four play. but that might make him cum faster. who knows. i would just switch partners lol.
 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 34
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/29/2009 4:56:51 AM
He needs to learn how to withdraw when he feels like he's about to cum. Literally! If he is about to cum he should remove his di*k from your pu*sy. After doing this a few times, he'll learn how to stop himself without withdrawing.

If he is urinating, can he stop himself in midstream? If he can, he can learn how to control his orgasm.

I have pitty for the guys who last only a few seconds. They are either very young or will never have any control. Those who last a few minutes, aren't really trying to learn how to control themselves. They're just pushing right through thinking only about their own pleasure. I know this because I was one of those guys when I was younger. I really learned how to control myself when I found a woman I really love. I really wanted to pleasure her, so I forced myself to control myself.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 35
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/5/2010 6:46:24 PM
Well, apperently it's a fact that something like 70 % of men cum in under a minute. So if your man lasts a few minutes he's better than average (lol). Believe me, it's worse if he can't get it up or cum at all. And you will probably either smirk or scowl at this... other inteligent life forms such as dolphins and monkeys have sex several times in a day. The sex only lasts for seconds (lol), but what they don't get out of stamina they make up for with frequency. Maybe humans were meant to do the same.
 eattoplease
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 36
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/6/2010 6:24:51 AM
Ive never been that short with a woman but...have had situations where I wanted to last longer and didnt...in cases like that...after a short stint...she would usually stimulate me again...and then get the ride of her life as it takes way more time to cum the second time.....and it always makes me fell good to satisfy her....good luck!
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 37
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/6/2010 6:56:38 AM
I understand your problem, his problem, its a problem for both of you. Maybe I am being selfish but I don't think the hold back, pinch penis ideas are good at all. No I think this is in his nervous system. Its a psychological trait where the brain gets excited easy and bored easy. I don't know how he feels about it but if it were me I would want the women to be more aggressive in making sure I please her. For some men a dominant **** is required. Get into a wrestling match with him and see if you can restimulate that lost load. Sit on his face, call him names. If it doesn't work, get another man.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 38
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/6/2010 7:36:21 AM
I believe that any man can learn to control his orgasm ..in most cases ... I did ... its a mental thingy so he has got to want to .... but If i could when i was in my teens and twenties anyone can ... but there have been times even now ..with someone new or when its been a while ..where control was difficult
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 39
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/6/2010 10:23:30 AM

I believe that any man can learn to control his orgasm ..in most cases ... I did ... its a mental thingy so he has got to want to .... but If i could when i was in my teens and twenties anyone can ... but there have been times even now ..with someone new or when its been a while ..where control was difficult


This is very true, and one more reason that I say that the older the man gets, the better he gets. Why? Because he learns this control. He slows the fvck down. He takes breaks where he breathes deep. He realizes that there's more to sex than the 30 second bangfest. He practices Kegels. He pays attention to what the woman is feeling, how many times she has orgasm, or whether she orgasms at all.
 Dare to
Joined: 2/11/2009
Msg: 40
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/6/2010 9:30:24 PM

I tried all sorta of things and nothing seem to work, even having sex a few times that day... For the age factor his in his late 30's, so I'm thinking his not that young...
It's not your job to do something about it, it's his and if he's reached his late 30's without fixing the problem he obviously doesn't see it as a problem. You either put up with it or not because it doesn't seem like HE'S about to do anything about it.


It's really affecting or sex life because I'm not really getting anything out of it... I basically cant make any noise or move during sex or else he blames me for making him cum faster...
He seems like a real catch..(sarcasm).. If you do anything other than lay perfectly still for the whole "minute" he blames you for making him cum to soon??? Really.... Sounds you are just there for him to offload into and he doesn't give a damn if you enjoy it or not... PASS...
 GWSmith
Joined: 12/18/2008
Msg: 41
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/6/2010 11:36:44 PM
Teach him how to use his hands and/or tongue. If he isn't selfish than it should all fall together.
 pandusvenator
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 42
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/7/2010 4:25:02 PM

Ok his the problem, if a man only last for about 2 to 3 mins during sex, how can we fix this.. Is it a physical problem??? I'm honestly not kidding it doesnt last more then a few mins... Aswell during sex he tells me to stop moving or it will make his cum faster..


Not uncommon. Tell him to start relaxing. Tension in the body causes this as well as NOT putting his attention on you. He is putting his attention on how he is feeling. He needs to do the exact opposite of that. Tell him not to close his eyes as this can also trigger an orgasm. Read it years ago in a book in a bargain bin. Works for me. Go as long as I want. Anyone can. Just takes some practice.

Oh, another thing, primal positions such as doggie style will also trigger it. He should stay missionary for practice for awhile. If he gets worked up tell him its ok for him to pull out and go down on you to give you another orgasm while he calms down.
Not rocket science
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 43
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/8/2010 6:00:23 AM

Ok his the problem, if a man only last for about 2 to 3 mins during sex, how can we fix this.. Is it a physical problem??? I'm honestly not kidding it doesnt last more then a few mins... Aswell during sex he tells me to stop moving or it will make his cum faster..



I want to address the telling her to stop moving point ...many times I have told a woman to stop moving ... while I regain control ... but what I mean is stop moving temporally.. and even if I am real excited ... after she has paused her movement a few times and I have suppressed my orgasm .. then the game is on ... and I can last for hours and cum at will...but yes sometimes I have to ask for a pause in her movement ...maybe this is not what he means ..but who knows

however if I was the OP and I stopped moving and he didnt settle down and finished anyway ..next time he said stop moving I would pull away grab his penis and pinch the hell out of it ..next time I bet he could gain control
 angelface420
Joined: 8/30/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 7/8/2010 6:30:48 PM
You could wear a Nixon mask (like the one in Point Break) and that make him last longer lol
 BlueEyedGuy1974
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 45
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 7/17/2010 4:47:51 PM
Tell him to look up kiegel (sp?) exercises. Both men and women can do them. Of course they exercise different muscles for men and women. Having different parts

But for women they give her stronger vaginal muscles. This is what would give a woman that tight firm feeling to a guy.

For guys when you are taking a piss. If you stop the stream without using your hands. You've just done the exercise. It strengths the muscles and allows you to have better control. For ejaculating it is like giving yourself the squeeze method without actually using your hands.
 recreator611
Joined: 1/29/2011
Msg: 46
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 2/6/2011 5:50:37 AM
Talk more and get to the bottom of the problem....if hes a quick one then suck him up again for round two.....should last longer.....ive gone some three times bfore and the third she was in heaven....and so was I while watching her.....never saw a more sensual woman while she was riding me...GREAT!
 scubasteve23323
Joined: 2/2/2011
Msg: 47
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 2/10/2011 10:53:43 AM
Before he pops, he can stop and go down on you. It works for me and I can usually work her up until we can come at the same time. I have also heard that anti-depressants have a numbing effect.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 2/13/2011 3:32:04 AM
before he pops reach around and give a good hard flick of the finger on his left or right nut.

scrotum banding and extra tight****rings will work to a lesser degree.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 49
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 2/13/2011 5:45:21 AM

I have also heard that anti-depressants have a numbing effect.


5 Hours of Power, OP. Lol Those little bottles of intensity at the convenience store check-out counter. I tried one last year, on a whim, because the 30-something year old guy in front of me picked up a handful of them. He told me he worked two jobs, and without them, he wouldn't make it through the second.
Yeah, it lasted five hours, plus a little, but shriveled me like a spider on a hot stove. Lol Figuring that a 2-minute man can probably power through the erection blocker in that stuff, I'm pretty sure the O will take for friggin eternity to kick in, and I can almost guarantee that he won't fall asleep on you afterward.
Hey, they give rittalin to hyper kids.
 dare2c4yourself
Joined: 11/9/2010
Msg: 50
What can I do to make a man last longer
Posted: 2/13/2011 6:59:43 PM
In some cases a man just has a real sensitive penis and YES, moving a certain way can accelerate the end LOL.
It should not be like you can't move, sometimes it may be hard to control though, I know, I had someone with a pelvis pretty alive in the heat of the moment, exciting.

There are ways to "train" a man:
The stop and go method, the only way I know how to name it. It consists of engaging in sexual activity, the woman in control preferably, and when the ejaculation almost happens she stops everything until the urge to ejaculate goes, then start again.
Doing it many times in a row. By the way, this increases the intensity of his orgasm.
The other method is to do the Kegel contractions, there are many good sites online about this. This one has 2 advantages: 1. It gives harder erections. 2. a man can delay his ejaculation.
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