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 B Bear
Joined: 5/19/2007
Msg: 146
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That was just ignorant.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 147
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Posted: 4/17/2010 5:28:42 AM
you know, i am 48, and getting close to 40,i have been in 3 long term relationship, all 3 where really good sexually, i do not think there is anything sexual i have not done
my first, and the only one that i married, loved anal sex, personally, i do not, i really do not even think about it, let alone find it a turn on
but we really loved each other, and that means going the extra mile to make that person happy, so i gave her what she wanted,i just pretended it was another part of her body
so if you love him, you should do anything sexual to make him happy,provided, he is doing the same for you, it is a two way street
 merelymortal
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 150
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Posted: 4/18/2010 12:28:01 AM
If you don't want to, then don't.
 johndoe67-1
Joined: 4/13/2010
Msg: 153
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Posted: 4/22/2010 5:25:53 AM

The anus was actually not made for that purpose anyway

Neither was the mouth, but a whole lot of people enjoy using it that way!
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 159
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Posted: 5/4/2010 5:31:58 PM
^^^^^ This woman knows what she's talking about. Listen!
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 2/6/2011 7:23:31 PM

Now, figure out whatever position works for the two of you... but it should be one that allows her control of penetration. Some suggest her on top so she can lower herself... I personally like doggy so I can push back on him at my own pace, but then he can take over later.


The one thing I'll disagree with is woman on top. I haven't tried it yet so I don't know if that's good or not, but I can't imagine being able to fully relax if I have to hold myself up. I've either been on my side or done it doggy style. Either is good for me.

He needs to understand if you need him to stop, he's got to do it *immediately*! Because when he hits those sphincters it can be sharply painful. But if he stops right away - I like to keep my hand on his thigh to signal him - you can relax, breathe. He needs to go s l o w l y. Lots of lube, more than you would imagine. Lots of foreplay, inserting a finger. Working up to it over several sessions could be good before you do the whole thing. I like slow, steady pressure - no pumping! Not until you've gotten all the way in, then start slow. Slow. Lube. Communication.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 163
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Posted: 2/7/2011 1:29:52 AM
This simple. If you don't want to do something, say so to the man and do NOT do it.
If a man wants to do anal, this is very wrong unless you want to do it. My opinion, is anal is VERY WRONG.
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 164
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Posted: 2/7/2011 7:52:30 PM

My opinion, is anal is VERY WRONG.

I've never seen a woman get off so hard...
Anal is awesome when done right. Trouble is most guys have no clue how much it hurts if done aggressively and incorrectly.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 165
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Posted: 2/8/2011 8:59:50 AM

Anal is awesome when done right.


X2!


Trouble is most guys have no clue how much it hurts if done aggressively and incorrectly


The facile answer is, switch roles. First-hand experience teaches like nothing else.

@ Arwen- the penetrator's view in that doggie position is unparalleled, but intimacy, ime, is maximized when the penetratee is on her/his back, legs drawn up, even wrapped around a partner's back. Like Al Pacino, I like to be kissed when I'm gettin' fvcked.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 167
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Posted: 2/8/2011 6:03:37 PM
whatever reasons your partner wants to do anal sex, your partner should remember and respect NO MEANS NO.

One can research it (you have access to internet) and know
what /how/why/ etc. etc.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 2/14/2011 5:56:07 PM

My opinion, is anal is VERY WRONG.


You're entitled to your opinion. Some people think oral sex is wrong. Some people think birth control is wrong.

I think *you* are wrong.

But that's just my opinion.


First-hand experience teaches like nothing else.

Yup. If a guy doesn't get it, then first hand experience should be required so that he does.

Don't do anything you don't want to do, especially this. But really . . .

Perhaps it's like the Mysteries, something reserved for a privileged few.
 CollieKate
Joined: 11/22/2011
Msg: 169
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Posted: 5/30/2012 3:16:16 PM
A gal should not do something just because the guy wants. You need to do something because you really want to try . I am 64 and had 5 kids. Love making should be about the love of the two you have for each other
. Remember you can say would you like this done to you. Some men think it is no big deal. I have had one guy play and did not ask. I felt like I was sitting on a hard egg for a week afterward..
 drect123
Joined: 8/3/2011
Msg: 170
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Posted: 5/30/2012 3:24:50 PM
Sounds Nasty dont do it.../
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 171
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Posted: 5/30/2012 10:36:28 PM
relax baby n do it, as long as hes gentle it will b fine, n u may even lik eit- many do!
 onewayoranuther
Joined: 3/21/2011
Msg: 173
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Posted: 5/31/2012 12:51:01 AM
Why does he want this?

Ask him. Where has he seen it?

Why does he not differ his raptures to the most intimate part of who you are as a woman only?

I feel as if I am correct in stating the OP is a woman and not a man, therefore she was not bi-sexual or homosexual so her man knows he has a perfectly good and well moistened orifice to enjoy. Whereas men who are homosexuals only have their anal canals to enter. Both of course have mouths to enjoy as well.

Society is varied on this act. They were not a few decades ago. It was once seen as an offence to the body. For good reason. The sphincter muscle is not made for things to enter it only feces to be expelled from. Yet men, will try anything. I have good knowledge from emergency rooms that as long as there is a hole, some men will insert his penis into it. Not all men. Not men who only love a womans vagina and not play to the homosexual desires of anal sex. Yes, I said it. No, you probably wouldn't F a man but now that women will let you do it to them, you don't have to. You have the best of both worlds.

Now it seems to be acceptable not only by men but women. Every orifice must be filled to achieve sexual satisfaction. Men see it in porn every moment they watch it, just as much as spewing their semen on your face and gagging you to the point of strangulation on their penis. These are the things that turn some men on these days.

Are you ready for the day that...that is all he wants?

It is sad really, especially that women have bought into this act. My nephew who is gay no longer has anal intercourse. He said too many of his friends have to insert tampons in their anal canal because the muscle has gotten so loose that feces leaks out.

He also told me about his friends who have had to repair their sphincter muscle because it ruptured. He is no longer involved in the porn industry but at one time he worked for them. He wasn't on screen more behind the scenes. He said the women had the toughest times. Often they were in anguish but couldn't show it on film. They would shoot a scene for a minute then stop and lube her back up then do it again. Sometimes they would bleed. Filming would stop, they would clean her up and they would start again. On film she looked like she loved it but in reality she hated it. Anal scenes pay very well. Now the big thing is fisting....if he is watching porn he will soon ask for that. Nothing will be good enough. He will get further and further into fuking and demoralizing you and one day making love will just be a memory.

Yes, I know all the women on here who think this is amazing and wonderful and go deeper baby deeper..............This is not a religious matter or a moral one...in the end...(yes pun intended) .....medically, it is wrong and you are hurting your body. Ignore it if you want but be prepared to be very loose somewhere that once held in your bodily functions.

 DarkmoonsLightning
Joined: 5/17/2012
Msg: 174
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Posted: 5/31/2012 3:58:21 AM
you should be talking on the phone to the cousins, sharing family stories and family recipes- while the vibrator is strapped to your foot if he maintains an erection keep him- he's a good dog. ROFLMAO>>)
 five-marie
Joined: 7/31/2011
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Posted: 5/31/2012 4:29:52 AM
Not worth it. I have a friend who engaged in regular anal with her husband who was well endowed. I know on 2 occasions when she wasn't feeling well she messed herself. She blamed it on being sick, I always thought it was too much anal.

Her husband developed a fistula, no idea if he also enjoyed something up his butt. He had to wear sanitary pads for the leakage, had it fixed 2 or 3 times surgically. It was at least a year before he was back to normal.
Years ago I allowed a boyfriend to talk me into trying it. I developed a fissure, a tear, which became infected. I had to have it taken care of surgically after being in agony for a week. Never again!
 DiegoShogo
Joined: 12/7/2011
Msg: 176
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Posted: 5/31/2012 5:14:53 AM
Anal sex women is very good
 bradman8
Joined: 5/29/2012
Msg: 177
Anal Sex...he wants it, but I'm scared to try
Posted: 6/2/2012 11:45:36 AM
First, don't do it if you really don't want to do it. If he pressures you, make it clear it isn't something for you. If he has an issue, he doesn't respect you.

Now it you want to try it the keys are to relax and use plenty of lubrication. Your boyfriend would take it nice, slow and easy if he cared about you. It done properly it can be a wonder experience for both.
 raceface2012
Joined: 2/9/2010
Msg: 178
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Posted: 6/2/2012 1:28:52 PM
just don't do it if you have any morals, its not mean't for things to be stuffed in there period
 NJ_Phil
Joined: 10/1/2011
Msg: 179
Anal Sex...he wants it, but I'm scared to try
Posted: 6/2/2012 5:20:21 PM

Any advice on how to relax and enjoy the moment and not worry with what will happen?


Just get out a brown crayola crayon and dim the lights. He'll never know the difference.
If that doesn't work I recommend, 8 Margaritas and 5 shots of tequila should take the edge off.
 joemetro3
Joined: 1/9/2008
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Posted: 6/13/2012 2:23:32 AM
lots of lube, start with ur finger, have him give it a lick first just to say hi !
 LetsBuildSomething
Joined: 6/8/2012
Msg: 182
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:15:44 PM
many girls like a finger up the butt while getting the cat eaten
or while having regular sex
Have you tried that yet? Good place to start.

and once you're ready, probably the best position is spoon, then he can reach around with one hand and finger you, and use other hand on your breast, pinching nipples. ha ha
 danielhoman26
Joined: 7/13/2010
Msg: 184
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Posted: 2/17/2013 9:22:33 PM
I have done it with a couple girls they have always said lube make it more enjoyable
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