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 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 492
How many is too many?Page 20 of 23    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23)
Ha ha ha ha ha
You forgot a few...

One nighters- at least 3

Bi sexual experiences- 1

Phone sex (just clean it after wards)- it still counts
 HTex25
Joined: 11/30/2009
Msg: 493
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/14/2009 12:06:08 PM
lol your question is irrelevant because you will likely never get an accurate answer to the #s question if it is really in the "questionable range".
 badmunky
Joined: 9/23/2008
Msg: 494
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Posted: 12/14/2009 12:16:18 PM
No such thing as too many. I want a partner who has had enough experience to develop a decent amount of skill, has a good idea of her likes and dislikes, and has long since gotten over her hangups. I don't care if it took her a five-year career in porn to do it, I'm just sick and tired of girls who, attractive though they may be, are dead fish in the sack and just can't be brought out of it. And when I HAVE been with experienced, uninhibited partners, the results have been excellent for both. So I know I'm doing my part.

On the flip side, there is such a thing as using sex for the wrong reasons, which can be emotionally scarring and make someone a neurotic mess. But there's no minimum number on that one either.

It's the approach, not the number.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 495
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Posted: 12/14/2009 3:39:49 PM

ok msmicki you fail to see the hypocrisy there I guess. So your preference
is you want a man with a decent amount of experience and "learning" as you call
it......ok fine. Now what if my preference was a woman that had very little
experience and "learning"? How would you know any of this stuff unless the
subject of sexual history is discussed before the relationship becomes sexual?
Somehow your preference is ok but mine wouldn't be? The logic is not there


The logic is in the fact that as adults, we can have many forms of conversation regarding sex without discussing the numbers.
I do it all the time! It's really not that hard!

As for your preference......you're welcome to all the "unexperienced" girls you want.
Leaves the mature, experienced men to us women that appreciates them for who they are....and appreciates us for who we are!!
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 496
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/14/2009 4:59:49 PM
Whoo HOO!!! Well said Ms. Micki!!! Thank you!
and Happy Holidays to all!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 500
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Posted: 12/15/2009 4:24:27 AM

I'd rather have a willing learner any day over a woman who thinks she knows it all....
so, I might not 'appreciate' the little bit of experience you do have.... as much as you might think....


Well who wouldn't want a willing learner??!!
A good lover knows how to go through their "experiences" and use what works for their current lover.
Good lord, that's just common sense and not much of an argument here.
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 502
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/15/2009 5:20:56 PM

If all the experience you have is with the guys before me, what help is that to me...? I might not work the same way....


Anyone with experience would, hopefully, know this. One of the first things I do when getting naked with a new partner is ask him to show me how he touches himself. It's my experience that taught me to be that up-front about that sort of thing. My experience has also taught me that things that I might find weird at first can be a lot of fun, and so I should be open-minded about them. My experience allows me to know how I'm likely to react to things emotionally, but also that I won't always react the way I might have expected, and to leave room for that possibility. It also teaches me that if it's not dangerous or harmful, it's probably worth trying at least once.

I'm not sure why you look down so much on experience, m_church, but it can be a blessing to bring to a new sexual relationship.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 507
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Posted: 12/15/2009 6:47:35 PM
Jeez o Pete's .....mchurch.......have you never been laid properly??
You consistently knock down every type of woman out there!!

And for someone that is soooo concerned over a woman's numbers.....
you're post #518 puts your numbers right up there Bud!
"Many of them"
"Quite a few"
"Good Dancers"
"More than a few"
"Some"
"Others"
"A few"
another "A few"
"A lot of"

you speak highly of "less experienced"........yet you are in a relationship w/ an ex escort!!

They way I see it.........the common denominator in all these women......is YOU!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 508
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/15/2009 6:56:16 PM
The official POF consensus is that 83 seems to be too many.
I get that number from the thread titled:
"Slept with 83 people"
 HarDayKnight
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 511
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/16/2009 3:57:02 PM
There are things about all of us that eliminate us from someone's list of datable people. Career paths. Education levels. Politics. Religion. The number of times we've been married. (Criminal background. ) I fail to see how the number of people someone has slept with is any different. I decide what's acceptable to me. Not anyone else. I will not judge someone for making a different choice than me, but I won't be bullied either. Judge me as you wish, I want someone that has been as picky and non-casual about sex as myself.
 Pirate Mollie
Joined: 7/21/2009
Msg: 512
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/16/2009 5:52:31 PM
there a lot of too manys in too many.
i think that that was really fuking profound if you ask me. not to toot my own horn but yeah i am because i really am all that. i really like the my toes look against a dark blanket, my feet are really really pale, and i always keep my toes nice and painted, and what fuk, now i am wondering if if i have too many toes? what if i want to have sex with a guy who is into amputeeism and shit. how fukin wierd is that? but that would be just my luck. reading this fuking forum makes me so insecure, i mean there is all of this shit that i don't know, aND THAT I REALLY WISH I DIDN'T KNOW, and now all i have is some sick **stard laying on the floor wanting me to walk on his back in high heels, and me slipping and crushing his neck, and then i would have to go to jail. i mean seriously, do you think i would look good in ORANGE?????
 krookie
Joined: 10/2/2007
Msg: 513
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/17/2009 6:01:55 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

It would seem that this was one of those "Often (>3 times/week)" nights, huh?
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 514
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Posted: 12/18/2009 8:25:39 AM
about those people that are worried about STDs, THERE WAS AN ENGLISH PORN STAR THAT HAD SEX WITH 2000 MEN, SHE IS HEALTHY,AND I HAVE A CHILDHOOD FRIEND WHO HAD SEX WITH ONE MAN, HER HUSBAND, SHE DIED OF AIDS
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 516
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Posted: 12/18/2009 10:35:15 AM
I was just trying to make a point, my friend since childhood was a sweat girl,loyal honest pretty,the man she married was bi, and very promiscuous, she had no idea......
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 521
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Posted: 12/18/2009 11:09:49 AM
she was a really swear girl growing up, and had no idea at all what her husband was up too
her death was horrible, and tragic,she was the only person i saw die of aids, it was a terrible thing to witness, honestly she was the type of person who did everything by the 'rules', a great kid growing up, good student, good friend, she was an all round nice girl, woman, and a happy mother and a good wife who saved herself for the honeymoon, she had no idea what her husband was doing behind her back
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 526
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/19/2009 7:52:57 PM

When someone is open enough, the numbers don't matter as much

To some, yes, to others no... I think that's the fear of not being open about it...

I've found that most people just are NOT open (even though they say they are)

I think people are not open (or truthful) about it because many other people are hypocritical when it comes to numbers, or are going to think poorly about them.

I mean, if I'm having sex with this person - why should I not be open?

Well, for the same reason you should or shouldnt, if you aren't having sex with them (yet). I think being open carries its risks... they could be ultra-paranoid and any number that doesn't start with a 0 or 1 & being single-digit would freak them out... OR one's number could be considered 'high' by non-prudish people's standards. There are SOME people who will lose interest and end up walking away if they find out they've fooled around with too many people by their standards, even if it's for foolish reasons & that person having a clean bill of health.

Here's a better way to put it, actually. Should someone tell a gal he's been dating and is about to sleep with, a story about how he was hammered in college and porked a BBW and also put in where the sun don't shine? Or about a gal he still works with that he doesn't have a chance with, but still has a lingering harmless crush on and once in a great while wacks himself with thoughts about her in his mind? Or about the time he banged 2 girls at once, despite his number being really low aside from that? You get the idea.... IMO, I think that stuff shouldn't be laid out unless you KNOW none of that would bother them or bring high risk of being hastily judgmental.

Each time you have sex with a new partner, you face possible risks.

So, after the first time having sex with a partner, I should cut her off, so I lower my risks? ;) Kidding, kidding, I know what you're saying!
 CaptainDad
Joined: 7/25/2008
Msg: 527
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/19/2009 8:28:29 PM
I don't know if there really is a ""too many" number, but at my age I've learned that there is a "too Few" number.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 529
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/19/2009 9:58:10 PM

THAT is tragic.I hope her husband died too!


now now closer thats mean !!!..... just not mean enough

I hope he lives forever ...and every time he closes his eyes he sees her in her dying moment ...and is tormented by what he did to her ...what he had and what he lost
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 531
How many is too many?
Posted: 12/19/2009 10:56:09 PM

I do not believe that karma is the b*tch that everyone says it is. Some people who do or did bad things move on to happy fulfilling lives, others have crappy luck. I try not to dwell on that.


well in my life karma has been true to form ... while I have done some pretty bad things ...and had a pretty successful life ...still things have continued to happen to me that brought me back to the time when I did wrong to others ... and in every case I remembered and felt so strongly that I was paying for the things I have done ...actually every time something bad happens .. i feel I know just which deed I am paying for ...to me this is KARMA ...I dont believe karma is something others will recognize that others are paying for ...karma is for the person it is on to feel
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 537
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Posted: 12/20/2009 11:48:49 AM

Also I have to correct people that keep repeating the same nonsensical ideas


Just because you don't agree with someone's opinion......it does not make it wrong!!

Do you honestly think you are going to change anyone's mind here?!

You can spout your opinion for 10 more pages.......it definately won't change our opinion that we find your behavior judgemental.....whether you think it is or isn't.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 542
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:38:35 PM

msmicki I think I asked you a couple questions before too that you dodged just like karat13 did.

Do you agree or disagree that people have different views of sex and not everyone is the same? It's a very simple question to answer.


First......if you asked me a direct question......then I missed it.

Second.......yes people have different views on sex. And a "healthy" discussion about sex is upmost for me. But I don't need to know how many people you've slept with to find out if we have similiar expectations.
No matter what your reasoning is for asking......asking is a red flag to issues I'm not willing to deal with.
I'm not saying I will refuse to answer.....I don't have anything to be ashamed of.....
but I will probably make the decision to stop dating someone that insisted on an answer.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 547
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Posted: 1/2/2010 7:38:34 PM

I see plenty of women say they want a guy with a lot of experience so I don't see where discussing actual numbers and history is that big of a leap.


I've said it before.......I'll say it again.
Number of partners is irrelavant to sexual knowledge.

One could have slept with 100 men or women and not learned a damned thing!!
Or one could have been married to one person for 20 years and be an awesome lover.

So.......once again........the question is meaningless.

I'm curious..........Just because I say it's my business "how many".....
How many are you assuming I have slept with?
 Tarnished_Knight
Joined: 3/5/2009
Msg: 548
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Posted: 1/2/2010 9:19:27 PM
Ms. Micki wrote:
Or one could have been married to one person for 20 years and be an awesome lover.


Ah, Ms. Micki, I'm blushing. But it is a blessing to know that there are some that recognize quantity does not equate to quality. We may not have a meeting of minds on a bunch of other topics (sexual) but upon this one we are in unison.

Have an awesome 2010, and beyond.

TK
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 550
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Posted: 1/3/2010 11:52:24 AM
Show me where I have said my preference is more holy or acceptable....let alone that it "terrifies" me!
You seemed to be far more terrified of a woman that knows what she is doing !

and you avoided my question!
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 553
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Posted: 2/5/2010 12:35:41 AM
For me the more appropriate question is, "How many is too many...right now, and in the future?" I'm very much more concerned with how many people she plans on sleeping with while we are together; than I am about things that happened long before we ever met.
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