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 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 67
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There's a whole lot of stuff I bought over my life .. and now where is it?
If I could do it all over again I would just stick that money in a safe and have it to live on now.
 curviest
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Posted: 6/19/2013 3:54:01 AM
I would have joined the police or the army, something like that, when I was 16, and by 45 or so I'd be retiring at the top of my profession, as a commander, major, etc, on a big fat pension and probably quite fit.

Instead I pretty much wasted my life in a job I did for fun instead of climbing a career ladder. And now I am paying the price.
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 69
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Posted: 6/19/2013 8:19:18 PM
I would have joined the police or the army, something like that, when I was 16, and by 45 or so I'd be retiring at the top of my profession, as a commander, major, etc, on a big fat pension and probably quite fit.


I'm not so sure I'd be putting a lot of stock in that "big fat government pension" being there 10 years from now anymore, given the state of economies these days. Either that, or it'll be just enough to buy a loaf of bread by then with the 'big fat prices' of everything that keep going up while governments lie about inflation (lets just not count fuel, heating oil, and food... nobody uses those - hey look! You can get a new TV cheap!).
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 70
If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 6/19/2013 11:13:46 PM
I am grown up, and I still don't know what I want to be (so decided to multi-task and do a few things)

Though there is a very small part of me that would love to be a travel guide in amazing places... or a cruise director :)

or own a bed and breakfast in the English countryside...

or a storm chaser.
 BlackLady1953
Joined: 5/27/2011
Msg: 71
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Posted: 6/20/2013 9:26:25 AM
I would have ignored the "elders" who gave me bad advice -- advice that I took to heart because I was raised to believe that they knew best ALWAYS...not so. I allowed their "fears and backward thinking" to infiltrate my life -- what they believed African-Americans and women should and should not do.

Too late now, but I would have been an attorney.....and a damn good one at that!
 _islandbird
Joined: 3/23/2007
Msg: 72
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Posted: 6/20/2013 5:28:02 PM
Enjoyed most of the jobs I had....... predominantly Sales/Marketing/Manufacturer's Rep/Stock Broker. Liked the travel and huge diversity of folks I met. Had lots of freedom, made good coin, and enjoyed a pretty nice lifestyle. No regrets, but came to understand that, for the most part, we don't get financially independent working for someone else.

If I had kids, that would be the advice I would pass on. Never rely on an employer for your security. You might fall on your face a couple of times getting your own business going, but in the long run you will be better off.

Also, glad I gained the financial knowledge and discipline of investing ............. but wish I had started practicing what I preached a lot earlier. Hindsight is 20/20 ................ better late than never though.

Always wanted to do something in agriculture.......... small orchard, vineyard, mixed veggie farm, etc. ................... and now, barely three months into retirement I am gearing up to do exactly that.
 April1963
Joined: 6/7/2013
Msg: 73
If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 6/20/2013 9:14:23 PM
If you could do it all again, would you choose another career path?




I would not change anything of what I did,but I would change the way I did them. Because I did everything in a hardest way.
With my experience now, I realize that I could have done the same thing I did, and to obtain the same result without so much effort.

I feel accomplished as a person and as a woman, but I am tired...happy but tired!
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 74
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Posted: 8/31/2013 7:04:20 PM
I never would have gone to college - I should have spent that time back packing through Europe
I would not repeat any of the relationships I have had - I already know how those end - and now that I know how they started - they are easy enough to avoid.
I never would have bought a house - and I certainly would not have to have sold it in the shiattiest economy we have had since the Depression
And I would have refused every instance of advice from Them / They / Experts / Majority / Concensus

Where could I have been now ? phew - it would have been a hell of a ride to start the bucket list at 17 ;)
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 8/31/2013 9:03:30 PM
responding to the question before us: "If you could do it all again, would you choose another career path?"

ultimately, I got to the career that made me happiest, the one for which I was best suited ... but it was a long, tortuous, twisted and winding path to get there ... if I knew then what I know now, I could have eliminated a lot of (for me) dead-end efforts ... I worked in banking administration ... being an office manager ... quietly typing ... lots of clerical and secretarial jobs in the legal field ... even tried my hand at sales jobs ... these jobs were good, I did well ... but there was always something lacking ...

eventually, I fell into the field that made me happiest, that of medical care ... something I could actually believe in ... where it felt like my work meant something at the end of the day ... where patients were better off because of the work my co-workers and I had accomplished during that day ... I wish I'd found that path sooner ...
 14everBlessed2
Joined: 6/21/2012
Msg: 76
If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 9/1/2013 9:39:54 AM
Great question OP!
I should have not let fear of failure and being a people pleaser stop me.
As a child I was very much into drawing and painting and such. As a teen , I wanted to pursue an Art degree , perhaps fashion illustration or fashion design. I was good enough to be offered a partial scholarship to Parsons school of design, however my parents could not afford it nor could I. And even though I had validation that I had some talent, my parents never saw "Art" as a real career. So I went into the military with the intention of going to school on the GI bill after serving. I wanted to be an Illustrator /draftsman but the Navy did not need any at the time and I went into avionics and Flight simulators, not a traditional role for women at the time. I found out that I was pretty good using my logical brain side as well as my creative... And I married and priorities changed, and I put my desire of Art school on hold again. I worked in Flight simulation for over 33 years but the creative muse kept popping up, I went back to school while working full time and got my interior design certificates, took landscape design and some other courses which helped satisfy my creative urges and I have a lovely little garden and town-home I have renovated mostly on my own. I could still be working on flight simulators but when a new contractor took over the sims and offered the techs there 8-12 dollars less an hour, I took the layoff from my old company and collected unemployment while I pondered my next move at age 54. Pulled out an IRA and paid off my home so I was relatively debt-free. Found out I was eligible for a vet program to go back to school and applied and now at age 56 I am a full time college student getting an associates in cosmetology. Might seem like a step down to some people but I am happier than I have been in years and look forward to a new career. The Art school dream...not so important anymore but who knows? I may just turn out to be another Grandma Moses in my twilight years...anything is possible. I don't regret the choices and experiences as they have made me the person I am today.....and I like what I see when I look in the mirror.
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 77
If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 9/1/2013 11:18:32 AM
If I could do it all over again, I would pick a different number on the Lotto.

Who is to say if you did it all over again it might not come out worse?

You learn from experience so use your experience to chose a more satisfying future.
 Indira46
Joined: 8/19/2012
Msg: 78
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Posted: 9/1/2013 11:27:54 AM
I always wanted to be a baseball announcer. Even as a kid, my family would mute the tv and let me be the commentator. I'm always one step ahead of the real ones. Sadly, my 8th grade English teacher told me I could never do it because I'm a girl... I wish I hadn't listened to him.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 1/22/2013
Msg: 79
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Posted: 9/1/2013 1:13:59 PM
You too??? I ALWAYS wanted to be that for my Twins. Thought I was the only female kid in the country striving to be that when she grew up. You could maybe still do it though. Never too late to try.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 80
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Posted: 9/3/2013 5:14:46 AM
If I had a few extra inches, I would have been a porn star.

In all seriousness, I would have gone into the computer/technology field.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
Msg: 81
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Posted: 9/3/2013 6:33:17 AM
Cooldog...You crack me up...

If I had it to do all over again and know what I know now...Yes, I would have made smarter choices...in relationships.
I would have pursued a career in the medical field...which I had started.
And yes....invested in real estate.
Definitely...would have been a tad more selfish.
 Sapphireeyes100
Joined: 5/30/2013
Msg: 82
If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 9/3/2013 8:48:47 PM


Sapphireeyes
Joined: 1/13/2008
Msg: 41

If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:06:45 PM
Every step in life has lead me to where I am now...I wouldnt change a thing otherwise I wouldnt be who I am now.

Some say hind sight is 20/20 but I feel that having the wisdom to know who you are in priceless.


Wow I said that back in 2009 --I still agree with it. I like who I am and if my life had played out differently I might not be able to say that.
 LiliMarleen
Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 83
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Posted: 9/3/2013 8:55:02 PM
^^^^^^^

I completely agree with this.

My whole life brought me here. I would not be where or who I am today without ALL of my life experiences. And it is especially the ones I might be most tempted to regret that are crucial for having gotten me here.

And because I love my life today, how could I regret them?
 BabblingBrookes
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 84
If you could do it all over again...
Posted: 9/4/2013 7:38:04 AM
If I could do it all over again, I would have gone into the medical field. I honestly don't know why I didn't seriously consider it when I was younger. I was a romantic and thought I should teach English in Japan. Family issues occurred and I had to stay here in the States to support my family. I sat down and decided to choose between medicine and technology. I chose technology because I'm an introvert and assumed I wouldn't work well with others. I've learned through the years that I'm actually a very good team player. Eh, you live and learn. I honestly don't have many major regrets.
 Proteaus
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 85
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Posted: 9/4/2013 11:18:53 AM
I would choose same occupation again . In my occupation my retirement was based on years of service not age . That was why I chose it , to hell with working till death . Been retired four and a half years . I am no longer a productive member of the ant nest :)
 Devilsfan58
Joined: 3/19/2009
Msg: 86
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Posted: 9/4/2013 11:27:50 PM
I don't like cookie cutter jobs where it is pretty much the same thing every day.

I would loved to have been a CIA Field Analyst like Aldrich Aames recruiting people that had knowledge and insight into things that would advance the country and reading all of the stories and meeting the people.

I having worked in a field where every day was at times really different, hectic and life and death I really loved it.

When I was younger I wanted to be a Free Lance Gynecologist but... malpractice insurance premiums are too high and I thought I would get tired of it. Pretty much proved myself correct without plunging into that career. I took the DIY course much later in life and successfully passed.

I wouldn't have minded being that airline pilot mentioned in TopGun hauling dog doo doo out of Hong Kong or some other exotic location. A pilot for Fedex might have been interesting too. I would not want to haul passengers for the most part or do anything that deals with having to handle customers. I extend my deepest sympathies to anyone that has to do it.
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 87
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Posted: 9/6/2013 11:17:59 PM
tinkerbellcgy- I would be a writer. Either that or use my experience as a home buyer and flip houses.
 Asclepiuss
Joined: 8/12/2013
Msg: 88
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Posted: 9/7/2013 5:54:05 AM
Wouldn't change one thing!
 sookegal
Joined: 8/29/2013
Msg: 89
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Posted: 9/7/2013 4:52:39 PM
^^^^^
I agree with you.
I don't believe in do overs, once something has been done or spoken, it is what it is.
However, I do believe in adding to your life, which is what I am doing. It's never too late.
I am finishing my degree, and also spending long periods of time in Europe, and the UK.
I found a way to do it for only an airline ticket..,
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 90
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Posted: 9/14/2013 4:45:28 PM
if i could do it over, i'd study horticulture and medieval history. i'd love to travel the world and work on gardens at historic sites.

i run my own little garden business and, for the most part, i get to do what i please as long as it looks good.

so i do a lot of native plants and try to replicate garden designs that would have complimented the properties in their appropriate historic period. it's fun. but i'd love to work at old cathedrals, museum grounds, historic estates and so on.
but i'm pretty happy doing what i'm doing.

i write for a newspaper as well. and i wouldn't be able to do that if i had to travel all over. so it's all good.
 or_current_resident
Joined: 6/3/2013
Msg: 91
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Posted: 9/15/2013 3:39:05 PM

if i could do it over, i'd study horticulture and medieval history. i'd love to travel the world and work on gardens at historic sites.


Good show, as I'll hire you to weed & take care of my landscapes. But you have to leave your horse at home....^^^^^


And as for the question, it's all good on this end. As especially now in being older,as today I dream & tomorrow I do, in doing one more thing on the bucket lists of life simple pleasures. And enjoying it with my life partner & confidant.

The secret is, " to Never get to high or never get too low, as these are the real impostors in life" & things you will never have........
unless your Rockefeller. ^^^^^^^
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