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 salsera36
Joined: 2/22/2008
Msg: 58
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I don't look at the clock. Time just seems to stop when it happens....
 spncrtrspncr
Joined: 10/16/2011
Msg: 61
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/28/2011 10:20:51 PM
Actually I seem to have the opposite problem...which can be a curse. Seems the older I get...the longer things last. Problem being,sometimes I am incapable of reaching orgasm. To most,that may not be a bad thing but partner often thinks its her fault
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 StealthyNinjaKitty
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 62
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/28/2011 10:24:19 PM
In a perfect world, 45 min to an hour of actual intercourse is great...but I want a second round...and a third if possible, with time in between for resting, foreplay, & pillow talk. And then shower sex in the morning, before I limp off to start the rest of my day.

I was lucky to get a commercial break's worth of sex when I was married, and never more than one show a night. I also dated a guy who stayed hard for so long that I was always sore after one session (and he never finished), so my experience runs the gamut from way too short to way too long! And honestly, as long as my partner and I are both satisfied and having a good time, who's watching the clock?
 lifeisgreat101
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 63
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 6:02:33 AM
wish more women were like you
 barefootkitten
Joined: 12/17/2009
Msg: 64
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 6:37:07 AM
For me, there really isn't an answer to this question. Sometimes I just want a quickie and am happy with just a few minutes of intercourse; other times, we want to take it slow and want to spend an hour on intercourse. So what do I say for how long I want it to last because it really depends on my mood (and my endurance).

As others have said, so long as we BOTH get to cum and are happy, what does it really matter? If your goal is for both to be mutually satisfied, what does it matter what the clock says? And, who on earth looks at the clock while having sex anyway? I mean really, can you imagine the conversation? "Honey, you can't cum yet because you still have to f*ck me for 30 more seconds or I'm not going to be fully satisfied." Some people focus on the numbers (how long did it last, how many times did you cum, how big is he, etc...) more than simply enjoying the act for what it was.
 garvey14
Joined: 6/6/2011
Msg: 65
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 7:42:07 AM
Kind of a subjective questions isnt it. Like so many threads we see here it all depends. Depends on the circumstances. Is it a quickie while you where getting ready and you caught a glimpse of something you had to have a taste of? Or was it a planned out night that you wanted to make last? On average? How can there be a average. She gets off hopefully a few times and you be a gentleman and finish right where she wants you to.
If I had to answer that I would say after she has had at least two. With at least one of them causing the sheets to be laundered!
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 66
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Posted: 11/29/2011 8:21:00 AM
Even tho i'm a virgin, all this talk of 30 minutes of straight intercourse seems insane.

I could not imagine being able to hold out that long.

I think people are making it seem longer than it is.

Maybe it's 30 minutes without any foreplay?

I can't go 5 minutes masturbating.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 67
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 9:35:58 AM
Dwayne, no one is the same, but just looking at numbers is intimidating. Kind of like porn, and thinking its actually true
Everyone is different, some last longer than others, some get hard more than others, some are more endurant, yadda yadda...thats the least part about sex. Dont compare yourself, dont compete with anyone, especially nto with yourself. Let the whole thing flow, loose yourself in the moment, and if she spends a good time, chances are you will too.
Personnally, I see it all like a dance. I need a good partner, and to know what she likes, I need to have her lead. Then I take control, set up a slow, steady rythym, alternating between touching and "doing" and the world melts. You still need to keep an eye on nods and signs that she wants to change the move, see if she's comfortable doing it the way your having her move, but in the end, you see on her face if you both can dance. The whole thing can last 5 minutes like it can last an hour (I've heard of three hours in a row, and was told that was practically inhuman, not sure I believe), but if you did it right, both of you will want to get back into the dance waayyy more quickly than you can
 MaybeToday98
Joined: 8/7/2010
Msg: 68
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 10:34:00 AM
2-3 is a good start. If it is the love of ones life then until the first one quits breathing.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 69
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Posted: 11/29/2011 10:43:15 AM

Dwayne, no one is the same, but just looking at numbers is intimidating. Kind of like porn, and thinking its actually true
Everyone is different, some last longer than others, some get hard more than others, some are more endurant, yadda yadda...thats the least part about sex. Dont compare yourself, dont compete with anyone, especially nto with yourself. Let the whole thing flow, loose yourself in the moment, and if she spends a good time, chances are you will too.
Personnally, I see it all like a dance. I need a good partner, and to know what she likes, I need to have her lead. Then I take control, set up a slow, steady rythym, alternating between touching and "doing" and the world melts. You still need to keep an eye on nods and signs that she wants to change the move, see if she's comfortable doing it the way your having her move, but in the end, you see on her face if you both can dance. The whole thing can last 5 minutes like it can last an hour (I've heard of three hours in a row, and was told that was practically inhuman, not sure I believe), but if you did it right, both of you will want to get back into the dance waayyy more quickly than you can


I guess I shouldn't compare, but 30 seems extreme in real non-porn life.

I'd probably die from trying to go at it that long. LOL

If a woman wants 30 , then I am gonna have to learn to be a master of oral, but I really doubt i'd be able to do that.
 venusenvy777
Joined: 11/19/2008
Msg: 70
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 11:36:30 AM
Days ( of course I am just speaking for myself here)
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 71
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Posted: 11/29/2011 11:58:17 AM

Even tho i'm a virgin, all this talk of 30 minutes of straight intercourse seems insane.

I could not imagine being able to hold out that long.

I think people are making it seem longer than it is.

Maybe it's 30 minutes without any foreplay?

I can't go 5 minutes masturbating.


I guess I shouldn't compare, but 30 seems extreme in real non-porn life.

I'd probably die from trying to go at it that long. LOL

If a woman wants 30 , then I am gonna have to learn to be a master of oral, but I really doubt i'd be able to do that.

My ex's idea of a quickie is 45 min. Or was. Regular sex was routinely 90 min.

Everyone is different. Don't worry about what anyone else is doing, worry about what YOU are doing, and if you are happy with that.

Most people can get themselves off faster during masturbation than they can get off with a partner. That's just a fact. You know what works for you, and how to get there.

Intercourse should last as long as you want it.

Google "edging" and learn how to prolong things before orgasm.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 72
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 11:59:29 AM
Dude, we could talk about it all day, and you could hypothesis all day, but you really only know when you do it on a regular basis. Then 30 will probably not look that long. Hell, an hour, with foreplay and everything, for me is the norm, and no, its not huge by far. But like it was often said, you dont really look at the clock. Its just that when your having fun, time flies ;-)
When you look at the clock, thats when you realise that, oh my, it was that much time? But the satisfaction comes from looking in the other person's eyes and KNOWING that she really liked what happenned. Thats the important part.
 classysmartlatina
Joined: 10/24/2011
Msg: 73
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 2:12:57 PM
Amen seams like we were married to the same guy!!!! lol
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 74
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 2:37:38 PM
I've never kept track of how many minutes intercourse lasted. I'm more of a "in the middle" type woman. Not too long and not too quick. Usually when everything down yonder becomes sore, it's time to hurry up the process.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 76
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 3:48:23 PM
11 minutes they say....


but i have been with partners where times we have gone on for an hour or more....


start to finish...


it helps to bring water...

i had to stop once and down an entire bottle of water once mid stroke...
 SeaCatcher
Joined: 9/11/2011
Msg: 77
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 3:50:18 PM
It isn't so much the length of time of intercourse that interests me, but how we are doing it. I like a lot of variety, lots of different positions. Boring sex needs to be completed quickly, wonderful, exhilerating sex can last all night, as far as I'm concerned.
 nikkisenko
Joined: 9/5/2011
Msg: 78
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/29/2011 4:21:44 PM
As others have said, I don't care how long it lasts as long as we both finish satisfied. That is the whole point. :) Sometimes, you just need it fast. Others, you could touch each other for what seems like forever.

But, the 3-hour sessions? Only one time have I done that. IMO, I was sore and lost enthusiasm for the whole thing about half way through. He never seemed interested in a lengthy session like that again either. We were young and I think trying make sure we were exciting. Lol, since that time, I have learned it really isn't about the length of the experience so much as the quality.
 lownmean
Joined: 2/21/2008
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Posted: 11/29/2011 5:39:33 PM
Very well said even tho i feel if ur into the person and cant get enough of them u dont want to ever stop lol!
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Posted: 11/29/2011 6:28:34 PM
My ex's idea of a quickie is 45 min. Or was. Regular sex was routinely 90 min.

Everyone is different. Don't worry about what anyone else is doing, worry about what YOU are doing, and if you are happy with that.

Most people can get themselves off faster during masturbation than they can get off with a partner. That's just a fact. You know what works for you, and how to get there.

Intercourse should last as long as you want it.

Google "edging" and learn how to prolong things before orgasm.


I actually do hold off before andorgasm quite a bit.

And yea...the harder grip with masterbation would make someone cum quicker than with sex.

And the whole, lasting as long as you want it isn't true.

If that were true, then there would be no complaints of guys cumming quick.
 SWroadrunner
Joined: 4/13/2011
Msg: 83
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Posted: 11/29/2011 6:56:49 PM
(Qualilfied answer, 1 of those nights I'm getting a buzz on) I would check the clock when I was doing him (intercourse on top) to make sure he was getting a good ride. Had to go more then 8 you know he was a Cowboy. LOL
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 11/29/2011 8:10:48 PM

I actually do hold off before andorgasm quite a bit.

And yea...the harder grip with masterbation would make someone cum quicker than with sex.

And the whole, lasting as long as you want it isn't true.

If that were true, then there would be no complaints of guys cumming quick.

Take it from me... if you have a very specific style of masturbating, you are basically guaranteeing any partner of yours won't be able to get you off. Especially if you are a frequent solo player.

You CAN last as long as you want. It takes mind control and acknowledging your limitations, and learning little things to work within them. Again, I'll mention the edging. Get close to the point of orgasm, then slow things down for a bit.

My only complaint about the one guy that had an issue with PE was that A) he never bothered to try to do anything about it, 3.5 yrs and nothing, and B) he never bothered to learn how to please me. So yeah.. I think I have the right to b*tch a little.
 dwayne88
Joined: 6/8/2008
Msg: 85
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Posted: 11/30/2011 11:25:03 AM

Take it from me... if you have a very specific style of masturbating, you are basically guaranteeing any partner of yours won't be able to get you off. Especially if you are a frequent solo player.


I masturbate daily and use the death grip.

It would be hard to stop doing it, and also hard to stop masturbating.

Gotta get off some way.
 musical_turtle
Joined: 3/11/2011
Msg: 86
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Posted: 11/30/2011 11:56:51 AM
I like it to last until I have an orgasm...and that takes longer than 7-13 minutes.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 87
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 11/30/2011 12:11:23 PM
I like it to last until I have an orgasm...and that takes longer than 7-13 minutes.


After looking at your profile....I do NOT believe you, mademoiselle. I think, yes, I think a practical exam maybe required to sort out the truth of that statement.....


Just kidding lol. Back on subject, its different for everyone. Some women take longer, my last gf had squirting orgasms EVERY time (and I'm talking about glasses full, I had to throw out bedsheets...) and she had them in about 4 minutes, all the while yelling like a japaneese manga (which was quite queer really, but that's how she was, and she's now living in japan, go figure lol) Others can take as much as 30 minutes.
So to each his own, as long as we "cum" home together, everything's dandy!
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