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 kcihteteyr
Joined: 9/3/2008
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I'm satisfied enough just with sex, I don't need an orgasm to make me happy. If I wanted I could get myself off in a matter of a minute during sex but I don't get off by sex alone anymore. I'd rather have sex all night than to worry about getting off, its plenty fullfilling. I crave sex more than I do an orgasms.
 GREATEST LOVER
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 8
Women Don't Always Cum
Posted: 7/16/2009 10:02:52 PM
all the women i **** cum, i have no problem with that. i'm the master in the bedroom. i can make women cum on the phone, anywhere actually. i'm that good, i need to write a book...seriously
 manchester81
Joined: 9/21/2008
Msg: 9
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Posted: 7/16/2009 10:08:12 PM

i'm the master in the bedroom. i can make women cum on the phone, anywhere actually. i'm that good, i need to write a book...seriously


It has been a lot easier since they developed the vibrate setting on cell phones.
 bcsofnc57
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 7/16/2009 10:44:59 PM
No I don't agree, not even a little bit. I don't know how other women feel, but yes to me it is extremely important. Sorry but to me yes they have failed if the woman hasn't reached the big "O". Long hours of rubbing caressing, and foreplay and then nothing, sounds like a lot of frustration to me.
 GREATEST LOVER
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 11
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Posted: 7/16/2009 11:15:04 PM
a man has to be the master of foreplay and the indirect sensation. most men focus too much on the clit, you can't do that because if you apply too much pressure on the clit, manipulate it too much it will become desensitized, meaning if you lick the c;it, massage whatever too much where it makes the woman feel too good to soon, it will become numb and desensitized where it will prevent her from cumming.
thats why you need to learn how to apply indirect sensations. meaning you don't want all the nerves rushing to the clit and g-spot areas because that will close down that area because the feeling will become overwhelming for the female. thats when it gets numb. you have to kiss her, kiss the neck, gently massage her around the inner thighs. massage that underneath area gently between butthole and vaginal opening.
massage her feet as well, all while your gently massaging her clit and gently fingering her. also kiss and lick her ears...etc. this will drive her crazy, when you get your lady close to orgasm, thats when you start applying more pressure to the clit area where its the most sensitive. when she finally cums, it will most likely be an uncontrollable orgasm. because you applied the indirect sensation meaning you spreaded the nerves all over her lovely body.
 c_deacon
Joined: 3/13/2005
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Posted: 7/16/2009 11:22:59 PM
OMG.......Say it ain't so.........

You mean that some may not cum each and every time? What will I do?

So, the next time I do not cum, you will understand......right?

Just my opinion..........
 wileygy
Joined: 9/16/2007
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Posted: 7/17/2009 11:05:57 AM
for those who cited hormones as a reason,that's not really true.it's more of a mental thing when a woman can't orgasm.it takes time and effort ...usually by both...to clear that hurdle.
just as some men orgasm quickly so do some women.for some it takes longer.also some women have a series of small ones.if she's not having any at all then thats usually a problem.
 GQSunset
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 7/17/2009 7:12:12 PM
OP yes it's common knowledge, to me anyway. It really depends on the woman and what she really enjoys. There are those who have to cum like thunder is striking them, while others are content with enjoying the moment. And it's all emotional, the O is different than this but to get to that point where she doesn't NEED to cum to be happy she has had to of experienced a WHOPPING " O " from you, otherwise you will never have that sincere emotional connection with them where they don't need to cum to be satisfied by you.Food for thought.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/17/2009 9:14:28 PM
Every once in awhile.....I can deal with......
but I do expect my man to at least give it a good effort!!
If me "not cumming" was to become a habit......we'd definately have an issue.

as for Miss OP thinking she has cornered the market on good "soulful" sex....pffffft!
I've had some awesome sex.....and I still wanted an orgasm!!
 egboy
Joined: 4/2/2008
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Posted: 7/18/2009 11:32:44 AM
^^^^ Well actually if my guy didn't cum I would feel I didnt do my job but........
a woman is different than a man. Doesn't take much for a man to cum at all. For a woman her mind, her emotions, along with the perfect combination of stimuli all have to work perfectly together for her to achieve an "O". Sorry - but it doesn't always happen but it doesn't mean we are not satisfied.
Actuly I don't cum that easy and sometimes not at all but not for lack of trying or lack of intrest. I just can't do it. I come very close then nothing. I enjoy it allmost as much as cumming. I found that most women have little o's a lot then the BIG O sometimes. Some have o's then the O. I love it when that happens.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 7/18/2009 11:53:24 AM
I always hear men talking about "getting their woman off" and how many "O's" he can give her or whatever, but lots of times women don't cum at all... and don't mind.

Many guys are prisoners of their own egos. Any guy who thinks HE mad a woman cum falls into that category. Obviously a woman is responsible for her own orgasm and all a guy can do is provide her with the opportunity to do so.

.if he can't get me off and "BOB" has to finish the job I might as well just be alone.

If a man can't provide the stimulation you need to get off, either you aren't providing the feedback needed to tell him what you need or he is incapable of following instructions.
 BrickCharm City
Joined: 6/13/2009
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Posted: 7/18/2009 1:48:01 PM

Now I have Wang Chung's, "Everybody Have Fun Tonight" in my head..... except I replaced the "have fun" with "gonna cum".


Well, not everybody it seems.
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
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Posted: 7/18/2009 3:48:49 PM
Another aspect of this would be the guy cums. The girl cums but then announces or you just know that there are "more" and she wants them.

SOME women make the assumption that ALL women are as orgasmic as they are and sound p/off at the statements by some that they aren't. They even make moral judgments as a reason those women don't orgasm that easily. Stupid and insulting but that's all tied up in another thread.

So .... my thoughts on this is that in a loving relationship the guy will do everything he can for as long as he can to make sure that she has enough. We're NOT just talking plowing her cunny until he or she bleeds, OK? There are lots of other ways to make sure she cums, cums again and then cums some more - until she feels drained or completely satiated.

In a sport-fu¬Ęking context you're much more likely to get the Dave Chappelle version. "It's a RACE. I WON. Have a good evening. Bye." Which most would agree is NOT what would even lead to a long loving relationship but sadly that happens all too often even in a good relationship.

Question would be: if you've (the guy) cum and she's cum and cum and cum at what point does one say ENOUGH ?? How many guys are jealous of that? How many would stop before she wanted to?
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 31
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Posted: 7/18/2009 6:01:20 PM

As a matter of fact a real gentleman waits til his woman is pleasured first.....

I wonder why no one ever looks at it as a real lady waits until her man is pleasured first... I guess that would require a woman to take the initiative and take charge.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/18/2009 8:06:51 PM

I wonder why no one ever looks at it as a real lady waits until her man is pleasured first... I guess that would require a woman to take the initiative and take charge.




How about because women can generally keep going long after orgasm while men tend to lose their erection after orgasm with rare exceptions. It's basic physiology.


Exactly kthyg!!!
Besides the fact it seems women had to put up with men "getting theirs first" all thru our younger years!!
......and good lord Ab......in you scenario.....woman are supposed to take the initiative and give their man an orgasm first........then what? get up and cook dinner too why he recuperates from his orgasm?? Most (not all) men in my age range are only good for one orgasm in a night......or at least for a few hours.
Yeah, I know........he can be concentrating on me till he gets hard again ......but I personally don't want oral sex for 2 hours before I get some penetration!

I think EQUAL initiative is what makes for good sex.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 7/19/2009 2:31:10 AM

How about because women can generally keep going long after orgasm while men tend to lose their erection after orgasm with rare exceptions. It's basic physiology.

How about thank you for making my point with that trite comment. Woman are so wrapped up with the idea that a guy is responsible for her orgasm and his own that apparently it never occured to you (and a few others) to put the shoe on the other foot and try being responsible for his and your own.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 7/19/2009 6:09:23 AM

How about thank you for making my point with that trite comment. Woman are so wrapped up with the idea that a guy is responsible for her orgasm and his own that apparently it never occured to you (and a few others) to put the shoe on the other foot and try being responsible for his and your own.


Would someone please explain this concept to me?!!!
If we're not going to be trying to give each other orgasms.........why are we having sex??
Yes, I understand it is our responsibility to teach our partner what gets us off......that part I get as "being responsible for my own orgasm".....
It seems like people have grabbed ahold of this little quote and are now using it as an excuse for being a bad lover!
If a man gives me a few minutes of tounge....followed by a few minutes of penetration and I don't orgasm.......then ultimately this saying makes it sound like it's my own fault for not cumming!! I call bull$hit on that!!
Or......a woman can get on top........ride reverse cowgirl and give herself a couple of gspot orgasms......and be done! Is it the man's fault he didn't come in that time?!!

A good lover gets pleasure from giving pleasure......and does take some responsibility
in doing their best to give their partner as many orgasms as possible.

Not sure who you're sleeping with Ab.......but us "grown up girls" are not happy unless our man's toes are curling, his legs are shaking and he cums till he can't cum anymore!!
and if for some reason my man can't "get there" that night.......I'll be waking him up with a morning BJ and ride that will definately finish the job!
 ohio07
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 38
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Posted: 7/19/2009 10:10:32 AM
It's not just women and there are many variables that go into it.

If I'm not connected to the other person in some way, I could be plugging away for an hour and get nothing. While she by this time could of had several O's and cum all over the sheets to where the mattress is rank, let alone the sheets.

In a relationship where you know what your partner is into, you can find their spots and give them multiple O's, even if they don't or cannot cum or "squirt."

But in a one nighter, unless this person is drop dead fantasy from the gods in your view, and the excitement is over the edge; I can see where that lack of familiarity and "communication" ahem, can lead to not gettting off with the individual. Let alone, if one or both of you are drunk and she's out of it, unresponsive, and/or you have "whiskey d!ck

I don't think people realize until later how much the mind rules the body when it comes to getting off. If you are mentally "there" your body will bring you to the climax. But if your not, no amount of sexual activity can get you where you need to go, to cum or even squirt.

In the end, it's the abilty to trust who your with and communicate what gets you there that gets you to the point where you can get off. An anonymus one nighter with a complete stranger, drunk or sober, isn't always your best bet. Sometimes being with somebody you know a bit can give you the freedom to set your mind free to where your body will take you.

But even when I'm all used up after six or seven rounds and I'm reduced to dry O's, it doesn't make them any less. In fact for me, they are even more intense! So just because you may not cum (all the time) or squirt (anytime) , doesn't mean your not having great O's, or great sex!

And how many times is their sufficient time and effort put into foreplay? I never could understand how you can just start plugging into a woman, when she's not even wet or had at least one O to start.

Also if your having a whole lot of sex, after a few days you do need to let your body replenish your reserves. I was running on empty after a nice, weeklong vacation with my GF, but a day or two of R&R, I was rested and reloaded for the next time. (And DAMN, by then I was pretty sore anyway!!!)
 chadcuba
Joined: 6/4/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 7/20/2009 5:07:57 PM
One time this lady i was with had an "O" and she was going so freaking crazy i swear she was having a freaking heart attack or something and it scared the hell out of me. She was literally squirting 10 inches out of herself and screaming as her whole body looked to be numb. She gripped the covers so hard with her hands and her whole body looked like she was just struck by lightening with this look on her face that was unprecedented. It was so crazy that it kinda scared me. This was when i was like 19 and she was like 32 or 33. And yes, i've given millions of "O's" but to this day none were like that lol. After she was done, or when she calmed down a bit(this lasted quite awhile) i asked her if she was ok. She responded by saying that was the best GD Orgasm she's ever had in her life. I thought it was pretty cool but i didn't really want to be in a relationship so after this i knew i had to somehow escape lol. So after i was done i gave her the wrong number LOL.
 lonelyman154
Joined: 12/30/2005
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Posted: 7/21/2009 2:00:42 PM
If I had a woman and she did not get her big "O" I'd feel like I did not do something right.
 SweetSouthernCandy
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 41
Women Don't Always Cum
Posted: 7/21/2009 2:04:05 PM
I gotta have the clit played with
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 7/21/2009 2:15:11 PM
My experience is you can cum if you want to. Or SHE can cum if she wants to. It's not up to the guy to maker her. If the guy is being selfish and finishing in two minutes that is one thing, but a girl should be able to get off just by having the guy do what he does...if he is adequate that is. She knows her posistion and should tell the guy what to do to help her cum if she is having problems. I've been with clueless women who just sit there like bumps on a log and then wonder why they never finish.
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