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 TooShadows
Joined: 9/26/2008
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The ultimate one for me was back in 2000 when I used telephone chat lines a lot. I struck up a conversation with a lady in Calgary,Alberta(14 hours away) and after a 20 minute conversation she said she could rent a U-Haul the next day and move in with me in less than a week. WHOA!
 TuMuchFun
Joined: 9/29/2008
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Posted: 12/15/2013 10:13:20 AM
Now don't go getting Harmony's head to big now...as for getting too sexual too fast, I never see this as a problem...IMO if someone's leaving they will regardless of the speed...
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 76
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Posted: 12/15/2013 10:36:46 AM
OMG! TMF.....WTF!!!! You are such a meanie! I had a really good comeback but I'll text you with it.....and here I was going to agree with your post....but forget it! :) Oooooh, I found two comebacks....ok will leave one here....what speed are you talking about?? ;)

Sngle Narlington: Thank you. Funny thing, most guys admit they don't even read my profile, just look at the photos and send a message. Go figure. What I thought was interesting, here this guy says all this stuff, did he really think I would respond in a positive way? Really? When I got that message, my first thought was "so creepy" and then my next thought, maybe I should consider more of the "hi there" only messages....hahahahah! It's a balancing act.
 TuMuchFun
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Posted: 12/15/2013 5:36:51 PM
^^^
Harmony, you have a profile? Well I know your speed but I'm talking speed is whatever the two think is a satisfactory time. That could be first meet or 10th meet (I've had both) and both have resulted in either lasting or short relationships, the "speed" had no difference in how long it lasted. For me, speedier ones on a hole have lasted much longer.
 Tastetherainbow76
Joined: 12/2/2012
Msg: 78
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Posted: 12/15/2013 9:24:15 PM
How ackward, lol
 Tastetherainbow76
Joined: 12/2/2012
Msg: 79
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Posted: 12/15/2013 9:27:09 PM
Yes, and whenyou don't or simply cannot respond due to being tied up at work, etc...The next text says...
"ARE YOU OK"? smh
 SngleNarlington
Joined: 6/8/2013
Msg: 80
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Posted: 12/16/2013 9:07:53 AM
This woman started sending me messages on POF and after about 15 messages she started telling me that she could relocate with her job to my State. I live in the middle of the US and she was along the east coast! The messages where pretty basic but after that last one the Block feature was put into use.


What I thought was interesting, here this guy says all this stuff, did he really think I would respond in a positive way? When I got that message, my first thought was "so creepy" and then my next thought, maybe I should consider more of the "hi there" only messages....hahahahah! It's a balancing act


I bet that tactic worked for him before, just not on you! You know the old saying "different strokes for different folks" but can you really blame the man for trying :)
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 81
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Posted: 12/17/2013 2:20:55 PM
L d M 87- I met a guy on POF, we went on 2 dates and he was texting me all the time, pushing me to see him on all his days off (he only worked part time). It was just so overboard, I told him we weren't a match, I didn't want to see him anymore. He proceeded to send me texts for a month (I had long since blocked him on POF), I finally sent a return text and told him if he didn't stop texting me, I would have him charged with harassment, and then men wonder why I don't give out my number for a while anymore. Oh, and get this, he made up another profile and changed him screen name and contacted me AGAIN last week. I didn't even bother to reply, I just blocked him.
There was another that topped the last story. I met him on another dating site. We sent few messages back and forth online. Eventually he asked for a date and we agreed when and where to meet, then he says "can I ask a favor"? to which I said, maybe, it depends on the favor. He says, "I want you to take your profile off this dating site, since we are seeing each other". Of course, I said, No way! We just started chatting, we haven't even been out yet, I'm not taking my profile down yet. Then he says," but why not, I LOVE you?!" WTF?- :o, so then I sent him a message and said there in NO way you LOVE me, you don't even know me and that date we scheduled, it's cancelled and I promptly blocked him.
Fun times in this adventure that is online dating ;)
 brianmontreal79
Joined: 4/26/2011
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Posted: 12/18/2013 8:36:24 AM
This is my first posting after many years of reading POF forums. I probably `moved too fast` on my second date.

While photographing people at a social-political gala event in June of 2012 that I had helped organize, about ten people asked for their photos. In every case, I asked for their email and telephone number. One attractive lady, I followed up with two or three phone calls in July of 2012. (We did not meet on a dating site)

No contact until over a year later Sept. 2013 when I called her on Saturday afternoon for a date that same Saturday evening. She refused because she was going to a dinner party of eight people at her sisters. However, she invited me to the dinner party. This being our first date.

Our second date was Monday night for supper at a downtown restaurant. During the date, she mentioned that she was going on holidays the first week of October and had no plans. Since I had one week holiday in October with no plans, I asked that she not make any travel reservations so that we could travel to the same place.

Moving too fast, definitely!! But you never can tell.

Anyhow, we had several others dates that same week and there was discussion about a holiday in Dominican Republic or Las Vegas.

Oddly enough, later on that same week, we both changed our holidays. She added a second week in October so that she was taking the first two weeks, while I had changed my holiday from the second week to the first week of October.
And yes, that on Saturday, one week after our first date, we did make reservations to travel together to Las Vegas for a one week holiday. So you never can tell.
 Tom_MorganWV
Joined: 12/10/2013
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Posted: 12/18/2013 9:20:40 AM

And yes, that on Saturday, one week after our first date, we did make reservations to travel together to Las Vegas for a one week holiday. So you never can tell.


Lordy! Don't leave us hangin'! How'd it turn out?
 brianmontreal79
Joined: 4/26/2011
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Posted: 12/18/2013 10:42:27 AM
For the record, it was a wonderful holiday. We continue to enjoy each others company on an exclusive basis and are planning a very short get away over the upcoming holiday season.
 Tom_MorganWV
Joined: 12/10/2013
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Posted: 12/18/2013 10:48:35 AM

For the record, it was a wonderful holiday. We continue to enjoy each others company on an exclusive basis and are planning a very short get away over the upcoming holiday season.


Excellent!
 LoneScottishBoy
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 12/18/2013 11:05:26 AM
^^^^ Whoa it took me thirty seven seconds to read your profile...and the guy stopped in between?
Incredible!
:)
 SngleNarlington
Joined: 6/8/2013
Msg: 87
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Posted: 12/18/2013 6:08:36 PM
@brianmontreal79

I’ve dated a few woman, where from the start we both felt so comfortable with each other that it was just an obvious match. It’s when you feel so comfortable with the other that you can easily stay up all night sharing your life with them. Good post hope you share more often.


One Saturday (could have been Sunday) I logged onto PoF to check messages then proceeded to clean around my house, laundry, listen to music, ponder the meaning of life and maybe the date the night before, running naked in front of the windows facing my neighborhood street, called my grandmother etc. etc. So about an hour later I logged back onto PoF and had four messages from the same woman. Of course I was excited about the possibilities yet thinking “4 messaged WTF”. 1st message, Hello my name is blah blah, I saw you looked at my profile and thought I would say hello. 2nd message, Hello anyone home? 3Rd message, what do you not think I’m attractive or are you gay or something? 4th message, Fvck you, you creepy mother fvcker, don’t ever contact me again (never contacted her but I did block her after that diatribe). It was the quickest relationship I’ve ever had or maybe she was “nuts”, who can be certain!
Oh I did look at her profile a couple of times because in her profile description she went on and on about how she liked to laugh, joke around, fun time with family etc. etc. and not in one picture, did she smile and I found it humorous.

Got a good laugh out of your post aanarchist lol
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
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Posted: 12/18/2013 8:06:36 PM
^^^^^^Very funny!




I bet that tactic worked for him before, just not on you! You know the old saying "different strokes for different folks" but can you really blame the man for trying :)


Snglenarlington - why you gotta bring sex into the picture???? :P



When I went overseas and had no service on my phone for 3 weeks, coming back I found my phone blown up with texts full of insecurity and negativity even after telling her there would be no contact while I was gone. Wait nvm thats not a story of moving too fast thats a story of a woman being nuts lol.


Aanarchist - that has got to be one of the funniest posts from you.....ever! Nice.... :)
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 89
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Posted: 12/19/2013 2:32:33 AM

Maybe i should adopt a no bullshit approach so a lady knows that if she gets out of line that I'm gone before she finishes her complaint


^^^^Oh good grief.......Could it be that your GF at that time REALLLLLY missed you when you got back from your water well farm family excursion? Was she fully informed with what you were doing, where you were going, etc....? If she was that unreasonable, of course, you did the right thing - let her go. And a "no bullshit approach" might be okay as long as you are not all "high and mighty" about it by adopting this new attitude. Chalk it up that you picked the wrong person. Geez, you are in your early 20's....cut yourself some slack and have fun with any women you get to encounter, date, have a relationship with. Think about it like this.......this particular experience sure does make for a great story!
 SngleNarlington
Joined: 6/8/2013
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Posted: 12/19/2013 10:44:14 AM

Snglenarlington - why you gotta bring sex into the picture???? :P


I didn’t know I was talking about sex! Just what is going on in DH2’s mind? Hmmm… interesting ;)


Geez, you are in your early 20's....cut yourself some slack and have fun with any women you get to encounter, date, have a relationship with


I think that is what aanarchist is trying to do, thus the reason for the boot mark on that girls azz lol Yes…you’ve been hit :P


Maybe i should adopt a no bullshit approach so a lady knows that if she gets out of line that I'm gone before she finishes her complaint


I do this but admittedly bend the rules just a little for a few.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 91
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Posted: 12/19/2013 12:05:43 PM
^^^^^ I always have a lot of things on my mind, I'm not one-dimensional......just saying.... ;)


I kinda like being me it sucks that I have to adapt myself to make up for other people's flaws.


No way was I hit, not even close. All I am saying, is aanarchist doesn't need to change to make up for people's flaws.
He needs to cut himself some slack and enjoy whatever time he spends with a woman of his choosing and if it doesn't work out, maybe it makes for a great story down the road. It's all about the experience as experiences shape who we are. And by the way, I like my shape.... ;P
 Forums2013
Joined: 12/11/2013
Msg: 92
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Posted: 12/21/2013 11:43:14 AM
I had a guy send me a message saying how he's new in the area and that he's highly intelligent and has a great job, he's a great catch, blah, blah. In my mind I'm thinking this guy is a complete narcissist but I'll humor him. In his third message he explains that I'm with him from now on, that I should look for a house for us to live in because apartments are for low class people, that were going to have a good life together like Barrack and Michelle and that I need to give him my number so we can get things started. I thought he was trying to be funny so I asked if he was joking? He replied "No, didn't I tell you I was highly intelligent?" Huh? That doesn't even make sense. I told him that his bad grammar, irrational ideals, brash approach and disregard for the less fortunate is tacky at best and that I wasn't interested. His response, he blocked me lol!
 LeapOfFaith66
Joined: 12/14/2012
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Posted: 12/23/2013 8:55:10 AM
I met a really great lady off here last year and the first date was really good. She had too much to drink on the second date and on the way back to her place, she started discussing whether we were going to have children or not. That was the end of that one...
 NikonGuy007
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Posted: 9/17/2014 10:52:08 PM
When I was about 22 or 23, I met a woman the same age, through the personal ads that they used to have in newspapers.

During our first or second telephone conversation, she says to me, "I like you. Do you want to have a relationship first, and then sex? Or do you want to have sex first, and then a relationship?"

Even as a horny guy of 22, I had no interest.
 Kittyxoxoxo
Joined: 3/5/2013
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Posted: 9/18/2014 7:54:30 AM
Ignore those types of men that do the whole

"let's vacation together/when is you next vacation? let's travel together"
"i'm going to so and so state and staying at a hotel with a bunch of my buddies for the weekend, want to come too?"
"i'm driving over to my parents/my parents are coming over to my afternoon barbeque party, want to come to the bbq?"
"ever thought about marriage?..maybe our marriage?"
"i have twins in my family, do you like twins?" (hinting towards you having twin kids/or just kids with him).

After only meeting you for the first time, or knowing you for like 2 weeks. Those guys play mind games, or are scammers.
 Kittyxoxoxo
Joined: 3/5/2013
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Posted: 9/18/2014 9:42:13 AM
I've had a few guys declare themselves as my boyfriend/deleting my account because i have them now/or talk about being in love/ or getting jealous or protective if past guys, guy friends, or wild lifetyle are mentioned. It's so effing creepy and pathetic. I just give them the "oh please" look. They either laugh about it or get mad that i don't believe them.
They are playing mind games are the crazy controlling abusive types, or just scammers.
They must think because i'm young and pretty, that i have no brains or that i'm just that gullible or desperate to fall for their bs. LOL
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
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Posted: 9/20/2014 8:44:34 PM
I think I know what their intentions are!!!!. I had one attractive guy who seemed to have everything going for him invite himself to dinner and we hadnt even dated, didnt know each other and I imagine wanted "dessert" as well. Whether he was trying it on to see how I would react, I dont know but he was soon gone.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 98
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Posted: 9/20/2014 8:48:51 PM
It may be at your age that you dont bother to play games and are mature and genuine in your approach.
Sex I dont imagine is the be all and end all and you are both wanting companionship and shared interests.
Good luck.
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