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 Sabrosura
Joined: 1/7/2009
Msg: 2
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?Page 2 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
If you like him, and he you. Take it one day at a time, enjoy the company and see what happens.
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
Msg: 5
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Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 11:13:29 AM
If you like him and he likes you, then go for it.
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 7
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 12:15:38 PM

and men get older quicker than women anyways.


WHAT? Where are you getting this nonsence from?

You've totally ruined my sweet 16!
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 9
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Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 1:43:28 PM
Go for it! It would only be a bad thing, and exploitive if it were say me, looking to date a girl 16 years my junior. Then I would be manipulative, probably a pervert, immature, disgusting, should know better, should be ashamed to think such things, and reprehnsible.

But hey, use the double standard to your advantage, and YOU GO GIRL!!!







:facepalm:
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 10
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 2:21:13 PM
Get yourself the boy toy and have some fun!
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 11
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 2:22:17 PM
Yes, you should go.

That was easy, wasn't it?
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 13
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 4:22:53 PM

If you are prepared for the probability that he is probably interested in sex rather than a long term relationship and you're able to handle it if it isn't a LTR, have fun. If you're going to get your heart broken when that happens then.... For him, the length of the relationship will most likely be determined by how great you are in bed, could be one night or a lot or somewhere in between. There are exceptions to every rule, but generally is about how hungry the cougar is


I agree this wingsonmyfeet. I wouldn't go out with someone so much younger.
 *Bulldog*
Joined: 3/31/2007
Msg: 14
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 4:31:13 PM
If you are prepared for the probability that he is probably interested in sex rather than a long term relationship and you're able to handle it if it isn't a LTR, have fun. If you're going to get your heart broken when that happens then.... For him, the length of the relationship will most likely be determined by how great you are in bed, could be one night or a lot or somewhere in between.


Good posting. Biology isn't unbiased. The other way around could and often does work. Here, it's almost certain to be a short term physical relationship.
 winteragain
Joined: 3/26/2009
Msg: 18
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 7:52:20 PM
Don't let the age thing fool you. To put it in perspective, when you were 20, you could have been dating a 4 year old. Isn't that nice? 34 with an 18 year old, that's cool too. if he stirs up butterflies in your tummy and you know it's not butter, go for it.
 tippy 967
Joined: 5/21/2009
Msg: 19
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/10/2009 10:13:40 PM
why not?
just say you are happy and content with being single. You meet, desire and totally click with this young man... or woman.

I know this young hot man and I will not fall in love, get married and have children.
I appreciate him for his kindness, his humor and yes, the great sex that makes ME feel like a teenager again.

His mind is totally blown and I know that he will remember me for the rest of his life, with fondness. We both have our eyes open....and both are aware.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 23
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 7:29:43 AM
Break the damn rules!


Hmm, he's within the standard "half your age plus seven" range for you, so I say go for it :).


Dear goddess, must EVERYTHING be quantified and formulated? Too many people lead their lives by what society and other individuals prescribe for them.

She shouldn't go out with him because he fits a "standard": she should go out with him because she wants to go out with him. If she didn't, she wouldn't be on a forum asking the opinions of strangers.
 *army mom*
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 25
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 10:48:19 AM
Yeah you should. But only if you realize he probably just sees you as an easy target for sex. And the sex might be fun for a while. But he will eventually leave you for someone closer to his age -- especially when he wakes up some morning and realizes he's in bed with a middle-aged woman.

Not trying to be harsh. Just being realistic. Personally, I like a level playing field.
 roseyn
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 26
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:42:33 AM
I don't see why not lol!
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 27
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 12:38:51 PM

Yeah you should. But only if you realize he probably just sees you as an easy target for sex.


No offense to the guys, but certain men (and women) of ANY age will go for someone if they think that person is an easy target for sex. If age exempted people from doing this, I wouldn't receive emails from 74 year old married men telling me that they want to "lick me" all over my body.

Men and women will leave their partners for a plethora of reasons, age is one, but one of many.

Go for the gusto. I would rather have sex for sex's sake with a 22 year old than a 74 year old (if, of course, I was going to have sex for the sake of having sex). (Evil grin.)
 Ottawa_Chicklet
Joined: 8/5/2006
Msg: 28
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Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 12:57:27 PM
I guess everyone is different. Me, there's no way I'd get involved with that great an age gap. In fact, 5-7 younger is my cut off. Besides that fact that either he is most likely looking for a romp or a sugar momma, the culture gap is just too great.
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
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Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 2:57:26 PM

I told him that I was too old for him, what do you think?


You did the right thing, OP. No point in looking ridiculous or desperate. Focus on dudes your own age (give or take a couple of years) and go from there. Don't put yourself out there like Linda Hogan and make an idiot out of yourself.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 30
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:29:00 PM

I just saw another post about should I go out with a girl 16 years younger.

In fact, the description post is almost the exact same one as this.

Funnily enough, the consesus in that thread seems to be that the man should most certainly NOT date a girl 16 years his junior. This thread is the exact opposite, with approvals aplenty!
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 31
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 5:44:24 PM

I just saw another post about should I go out with a girl 16 years younger.

In fact, the description post is almost the exact same one as this.



Funnily enough, the consesus in that thread seems to be that the man should most certainly NOT date a girl 16 years his junior. This thread is the exact opposite, with approvals aplenty!


The guy who started the other thread did it to prove a point. It isn't a serious forum nor is it on the level. That kinda makes his point . . . pointless.
 LuvsLaughs
Joined: 4/14/2009
Msg: 32
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Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 6:23:04 PM
He's just looking for a "cougar" or a replacement mom... what could you have in common besides a temporary sexual relationship? Think about it... hard. He is a man and will say... at that age... whatever it takes to get what he wants... don't let him have your heart... for he won't be giving you his. I assure you.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 33
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/11/2009 6:33:33 PM

what could you have in common besides a temporary sexual relationship?


I often read and hear this argument as to why a woman or a man shouldn't date someone younger. Where is the rule written that old folks and young folks can't have common interests? There are many, many men my age with whom I have NOTHING in common.


don't let him have your heart... for he won't be giving you his. I assure you.


You can assure her of nothing. I had a long-term relationship with a younger man and I assure you, I had his heart and he had mine. The relationship changed, but we are still friends.

There is NO guarantee that any relationship will last.

And as someone pointed out, maybe girls just want to have fun--and maybe women do, too.
 short_momma
Joined: 9/23/2007
Msg: 34
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/12/2009 5:07:52 AM
Why not go for it? Just chat him for a bit and decide if you are comfortable with the age difference. You and he are the only 2 that matter in this question. :) Good luck!

Seems a bit odd that a male posted almost the same question ......................
 karma1160
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 37
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/14/2009 5:00:16 PM
Ahm I am not sure what kind of advice you want here?
This is the way I think I would rather be someones princess than their old lady .
Granted you are far from being an old lady but what you really have to ask yourself is what are you looking for.
Are you looking for an escort to go to events together? than I think it is perfectly fine as long as you have similar intelligence levels
If you are looking for a lover well it is my opinion that life just begins at thirty as far as romance so I might want a more aged wine.
If you are looking for a longterm partner well what happens when he is 46 and you are 62?
Everyone has different preferences so ultimately this is going to be your decision alone.
 mddog
Joined: 6/28/2008
Msg: 42
Should I go out with a guy 16 years younger?
Posted: 8/16/2009 7:21:03 PM
Well if a guy can do it , why not ! what the hell !
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