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 MFocused
Joined: 5/28/2012
Msg: 160
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?Page 5 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
At 38 it is easier now than ever for me to date. I am much more secure in my skin, have a better understanding of who I am and the difference between my needs/wants and overall experience and traveling has given me a greater perspective on life in general.
 sddude
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 161
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Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/18/2012 7:41:14 PM
It is easier now for me than when i was 20 , way easier, I have rejected knockouts, the girl next door and even ones that are not so attractive but had alot going for them, like the other posters said, I do not take not even a little BS fromany woman now, if they think they are the princess and should be obeyed and conformed to, its like bye, I tell them straight out and i actually get calls from them later, I am so easy going and adapatable to them, I was trained by them in my geeky desperate friend zone days, cook fix their cars even color their hair and do their nails with all the designs (yes so mega gay)but if they do nothing for me now and think they deserve everything or not happy with what or where i take them, tough I invited if they do not like it.... next woman. If they are mean (they call it opinionated) or have no time to care( they call it independent), they are so out.

I now have alot of game and a big pool of women to go out with from a greater age range 18 and up , in my whiny days I was happy if one would talk to me.

They just have to be nice and pleasant and a good friend in a way...makes it easier even more.

Sex is easier but it is not what i look for, in fact I would rather have sex when in a relationship or better yet when married again , it complicates things, especially when I was the best that they had in their life when I only see them as a prospect and nothing serious, they get all nuts then I have to cut them off, in my needy little man day I was happy to just get to touch their hands.
 ehsuds
Joined: 11/6/2011
Msg: 162
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/20/2012 11:28:23 AM

I did have a 31 year old declaring his undying love after 1 meet


Well, that wouldn't be awkward at all. ha.
 spilling_fire
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 163
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 7:32:36 AM
I'll tell you what's much more complicated with dating in my 30s, meeting a man whose sex drive parallels mine. In my 20s, it was easy to meet/date men that had much higher sex drives. Now? It seems like men in their late 30s and early 40s have a seriously decreased sex drive. It's terribly disappointing.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 3/19/2012
Msg: 164
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 7:34:03 AM
Where are you located? That has definitely not been the case up here...
 KatarzynaS
Joined: 1/17/2012
Msg: 165
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 10:10:21 AM
Well I was thinking for a while on that question and I would say def yes. Number one kids most of ppl at 30 have them. Bc they require a lot of time n expected to be arttentained wel that takes those ice weekend day out u question for a date. Some of us have a pet so u also. An leave for a weekend bc there is no one to let poor dog out to use bathroom. Well job u just can't take 3 or 4 day off n take off just bc paying bill car well bills n general child support. Some of us especially guy r also involved in playing on some sports team. That take another night or two. So as I observed n tried it out in last 6 mo every relationship that could be there was dumbed to fail from he go mostly due to time or alone time. It is not harder it is impossible
 KatarzynaS
Joined: 1/17/2012
Msg: 166
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/21/2012 10:33:54 AM
Also just wanted to add that Internet makes even more tougher than back ten yrs ago when I was in my early 20 when I meet a guy somewhere out I got his undivided attention n he would give my his 100% bc there was no other girl distraction line it is with I signing POF or other site like this one. Guy on here have do more choices of someone who is taller slimmer with more education with no kids with high college education funnier cuter or whatever that could be. I found it a few times guy talking with me n then deleting his profile n then changing his fb profile to in relationship it is very very frustrating tireding n close to mirracle to find someone on here
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 167
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/25/2012 8:06:33 PM
I think the answer is no. When a man is in his 30s, there might be less available women in his immediate age group. However many women in their 20s often date older men in their 30s. Also there are some divorced women in their 40s that date younger men in their 30s.
 diva74
Joined: 6/24/2012
Msg: 168
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/28/2012 9:03:56 PM
I am 37 and proud of it ! I am not bitter about my choice in father of my children I regret the choices that I made and how long I stayed but has nothing to do with being bitter lol. But I am only one of many women out there in cyber space who are single after kids so take what I say with a grain of salt haha.
 Postpunker84
Joined: 5/16/2012
Msg: 169
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/29/2012 1:34:19 PM
Hello,
Great topic.
I am in total agreement with you in regards to relating this topic to even my own personal experiences.
I have been on numerous paid & nonpaid websites (if you only seen my list!) since 2004.
I've been to activities in & out of my "comfort zones" doing things & travelling to places I've never would've dreamed I would do.
However, I am chocking my experiences all up to positive endeavors I've accomplished.
I am realizing that if I never meet "the one", at least I can say I've lead a busy, active life.

When we're in our 20's sometimes, things are "easier" since we're more open, wilder & free. We tend to take more risks & that's because we're inexperienced....

I wish everyone lots of luck here but, don't get all consummed by these sites & lead a good, healthy, active life.
 rochellecann1979
Joined: 3/9/2012
Msg: 170
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 8/30/2012 1:18:58 AM
i think so i was in a relationship and then married from the age of 21 and 23 i got divorced at left at 29 divorced at 31 i am ready to date again but am finding all they want is a casual thing
 028ellie81
Joined: 7/5/2012
Msg: 171
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Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 8/30/2012 12:40:43 PM
I think in the 30+ agegroup it is harder because most people have settled down already so less choice available also most of your social circle are married with children so it is easy to feel under more pressure to find the right man and settle down as well
 stovo82
Joined: 7/17/2012
Msg: 172
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/5/2012 8:49:09 AM
30 and still single for some it is all over.
If you are attractive and over 30 well you are still in demand.
Ugly and over 30 no chance in hell unless you are rich.
 _sunny_skies_darlin_
Joined: 8/17/2012
Msg: 173
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/5/2012 10:07:52 AM
Some of these posts are inaccurate ,lol, at least from my experience. {Men in their 30's want women 20-25}
Really? I have come across so many men that say women in their 20's are insecure, club hoppers, don't know what they want, not ready for a relationship, jealous, drama queens, etc. When I had my profile up I'd get blown up by guys in their early-mid twenties and not all were just looking to hook-up. I'd say that 75% of my last bf's were 3-5 years younger than I am.

Ask your doctor and do research, women in their 30's are actually just as fertile as women in their 20's. Fertility only dips SLIGHTLY and it's in your late 30's. Men DO have a biological as well btw, as sperm depreciates as men age and the prime time for them is also 20's and 30's. My current bf is 4 years younger than I am and we work well together:-)

Men who are ready to settle down, from my experience, want 30 something women. Why? They're accomplished, secure, confident, know what they want, have high sex drives, drama-free, can still have babies and many of us look really young and have the body of a 20yrld.

Cheers to that =)
 liftnw8z
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 174
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/8/2012 10:56:54 PM
Exponentially harder. Dating a woman in her 30's who is separated or divorced is nearly impossible because of the hurt/trust issues. A guy in his 30's like me who has divorced is seen as damaged goods or the reason for the divorce as the one who cheated or was otherwise at fault. Singles (never married) have it tough to an extent with image issues and the whole "fear of commitment " thing. But not having experienced the other pains of divorce and such helps them in my opinion.
 QueenBeeSweetness
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 175
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/9/2012 12:35:05 AM
I settled down with my boyfriend into a cozy LTR at age 30, so I really dont know what it would be like to be out actively dating in my 30's, but I imagine it would have it's pro's and cons. Pro's being that having been around the block you know exactly what you want, can compromise on, and wont tolerate or settle for, having a pretty full sense of developed identity and self-love and acceptance, which makes a person truly beautiful. The cons, some may be jaded or hurt by past traumas, declining fertility, and for me personally, I feel like I was a lot hotter in my 20's (on a purely superficial level anyways).

25 was my favorite age, so far. That was when it felt like the universe was shining on me and my life was perfect in every aspect. High paying job, madly in love, newlywed, amazing Husband, lovely Daughter, a new baby on the way, looking forward to birth, young and purty, not jaded at all, growing into a full fledged young woman, I MISS that time so bad. My Mother has advised me that my 30's will be my best years. I hope so! I think I will be so buried in the everyday grind of raising a family I will wake up one day in my 40's as an empty nester and be like "WTF where did those 30's go"?.....lol.
 _sunny_skies_darlin_
Joined: 8/17/2012
Msg: 176
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/9/2012 9:15:35 AM
Luckily for me I actually look hotter than I did in my 20's. Same body, but even more toned& hard now, go figure.
People think I'm around 24 yrs all the time. I feel sexier& way more confident than I did in my 20's as well, so it
really depends on the person. =)
 ManV2.0
Joined: 9/1/2012
Msg: 177
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/10/2012 1:26:31 PM
I don' t know, I went from relationship to relationship in my 20's with a few dates here and there. Most people in their 30's have a lot of walls and barriers up, not to mention baggage and list or requirements. I've enjoyed my dating life for the past 3 years.
 UKTom2
Joined: 8/24/2010
Msg: 178
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Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/10/2012 4:04:07 PM

Im sorry if you are single at 39 and never been married Im going to run because you have commitment issues.

I'd like to take issue with this statement.
 _sunny_skies_darlin_
Joined: 8/17/2012
Msg: 179
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/10/2012 6:01:16 PM
I'm early-mid 30's and don't assume that someone who's in their late 30's necessarily has commitment issues as nobody's situation is going to be quite the same. You'd have to know the man/woman first before making any assumptions and it's more than likely that he or she just hasn't met the right person yet. If they're 39 and are not looking for a relationship or wants to play the field, sure run if you want, but if they're seriously trying to find someone, you could be missing out on a great person.

Not everyone is willing to settle, so yes there are single people in their late thirties because of this. Many of them are probably a great catch too as they're likely stable and estabished in many aspects of their life and know what they want.

Don't you realize that guys in their late 30's who HAVE been married could easily have commitment issues?? I mean, they're divorced, right? Personally I'd prefer a man who'd never been married before. I also prefer men in their mid to late thirties as I find that a lot of men in their 20's have commitment issues, lol. My boyfriend is 35 and he was single 1.5 yrs before we met, not due to commitment issues, he's just picky and wasn't willing to settle just for the sake of having a girlfriend.

Cheers =)
 wolfluvr1234
Joined: 8/20/2012
Msg: 180
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/20/2012 3:42:16 AM
Yes it is harder. Dating over 45 is worse yet. I am confused about it and would really like some success.
 audit44
Joined: 7/14/2012
Msg: 181
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/20/2012 1:22:02 PM

Yes it is harder. Dating over 45 is worse yet. I am confused about it and would really like some success.


YES!! Most of the ones I've spoken with are looking for baby daddies or something along those lines. Not as easy as it was 20+ years ago when I could have a date for every night of the week.
 liftnw8z
Joined: 11/9/2008
Msg: 182
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/20/2012 3:33:51 PM
YES!! That's the one key thing about me - I know the kind of person I like, even (as superficial as this sounds) the look. I would rather stay single and enjoy life than just run out and meet anyone that emails me (or otherwise shows interest in real life).
 _sunny_skies_darlin_
Joined: 8/17/2012
Msg: 183
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 9/21/2012 9:36:07 AM
Better for ME!!! Haha. My body hasn't changed (except I'm even more toned) and people think I'm 24 yrs old (I'm early 30's).
All that with the added bonus of knowing what I want, being secure& confident with myself, being better in bed, being established and knowing how to get what I want.
So yeah, MUCH better! =))

BTW: Another reason that I find it easier is that more men in their 30's are ready to settle down (my bf) opposed to men in their 20's.
 cdub75
Joined: 5/27/2007
Msg: 184
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 2/26/2013 10:22:12 PM
Amen -- if one more person says "why are you single" I may throw up. Nothing wrong with me - just made good choices in life...
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