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 passengers1
Joined: 4/15/2011
Msg: 232
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My sex drive drastically increased in my forties...to the point of nymphomania! Now, I'm well into my fifties, and it's almost non-existent! Kinda like the calm before the storm...talk about extremes! I believe it has to do with my drop in hormones, due to the fact that I'm on the down side of menopause. My partner is great, but I'm not sure how long he'll remain interested in me. All in all, it's just lousy.... I miss my hormones entirely, and it's not just about the sex drive either. How about introducing libido enhancement for woman, like they've had in Europe for some time? To all of you that aren't dried up and have a strong sex drive...yeahhhhhhh....I hope it continues for you. For me....Ahhhhh yup
 desimama
Joined: 5/29/2010
Msg: 233
sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 6/25/2011 11:13:09 AM
As a Men I am always facinated with old ladies, specially around 40 ( i am younger ) and for me i think women are more mature in terms of sex and overall and kind off satisfying around 40
 CheezyChick
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 234
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Posted: 6/25/2011 12:07:15 PM
Haha! ^^^ I might suggest you find a more flattering term if you wanna get any from us 'old ladies' ....yikes!

OT: Yup...gets better as you become more comfortable in your own skin and less concerned about the elasticity of it...oop!
 desimama
Joined: 5/29/2010
Msg: 235
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Posted: 6/25/2011 12:46:09 PM
You got me wrong here :)
They were just my views and I stand by them.

Anyhow Enjoy posting :)
 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 236
sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 6/25/2011 7:28:33 PM

Menapause has sent an already high sex drive into overdrive!!

I sometimes have to stop myself from backing up to men on the street!!


LOL, MsMicki...but I hear you, I really hear you...
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 237
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Posted: 6/25/2011 7:39:01 PM
My ex-wife is a nurse. She subscribes to two of the major nursing industry magazines. I use to, ocassionally, read some of the medical articles and one thing stood out:

During and after menopause 33% of women will loose some or all of their labido. The remaining 66% will retain their labido. Throughout the years these published statistics seemed to to remain the same.
 ne14fun44
Joined: 2/15/2009
Msg: 238
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Posted: 6/25/2011 7:47:51 PM
i am with you, increases with age
 iantr24
Joined: 4/6/2011
Msg: 239
sex drive in women over 40
Posted: 6/25/2011 8:35:37 PM
A womans sex drive usually peaks at 40 or so. Gotta love the older women, more mature and very horny :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 241
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Posted: 6/26/2011 4:37:20 AM
Plausible... but unlikely I think. I had a dream just as my kid turned 18. I dreamed I was preggers again. In my dream, the overriding feeling was one of despair. I thought.. oooooooooooh no!!! I just help 1 fly the coop, now I have another 18 years? Coz even in my dream for some reason abortion was a no-no and adoption was unpalatable. But he!! I didn't want more babies. I posted before in this thread and I honestly think sex drive increases in over 40 women because we have done the birthing thing and now sex can just be for FUN !!
 Sugra66
Joined: 9/23/2008
Msg: 242
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Posted: 6/26/2011 10:44:00 AM
Definately increased and increasing all the time.
 happy200568
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 244
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Posted: 6/26/2011 4:46:09 PM
my sex drive is way high and my partner is way down. I go a month without sex which is killing me. any help?
 happy200568
Joined: 6/16/2011
Msg: 246
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Posted: 6/28/2011 6:03:00 AM
Maybe u can help. Is hard to find someone
 CynthiaSM
Joined: 2/24/2012
Msg: 247
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Posted: 10/5/2013 10:02:07 PM
My sex drive definitely increased after my divorce when I was 44. It stayed high through menopause and a handful of 'relationships' and some 'encounters.' But recently I lost not only the desire to date (or find someone to date), I've lost all desire for sex too. I'm not depressed, or sick, or on meds. My diet is excellent, I get regular exercise, and I've lost enough weight recently that I like my body again. Life is actually pretty good at the moment.

When I think about sex, and realize I have no desire, it gives me pause - like 'hmm that's unusual.' Then I ask myself whether it's bothering me and I answer 'no.' I'm actually glad, in a way. Without desire there isn't anything driving seeking behavior and my time, attention, and energy are going into other areas. I think this loss of desire is temporary.
 jessebunnies
Joined: 2/18/2013
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Posted: 10/7/2013 9:48:56 PM
Not 40 yet but close and I can honestly say my sex drive probably rivals that of a teenage boy. It's scary!
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 249
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Posted: 10/8/2013 10:42:28 AM

Not 40 yet but close and I can honestly say my sex drive probably rivals that of a teenage boy. It's scary!


Not scary to me, I rather enjoy it.

But god help me if a woman's sex drive increases after 40.
 cleverpaws
Joined: 2/17/2013
Msg: 250
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Posted: 10/8/2013 12:35:16 PM
well lady's, I am over 40...wont say how much older... and I have great news!!!! sex drive did increase...which was a big surprize for me, as I have always had a strong one to start with...with me, I am not to sure if it was the relaxation... you know not being so stress out over the little things, or just being more comfortable in my "own skin" at that age....all I do know is it got stronger!!! so go us..... lol
 firefly416
Joined: 1/27/2009
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Posted: 12/9/2013 4:47:22 PM
I don't think sex was particularly good until I was 40. There was a short period of time during menopause when I thought I was losing interest. It turned out I was only losing interest in the man I was with at the time. I'm 64 and would still want to have sex every day if I could find someone to do that with. I do tend to date younger men but even they are not as likely to want it as much as I do. It's tough on here cause I have a normal profile in the normal section, don't mention being a sex maniac. Some days I wish I had to guts to check out the Intimate Encounters section. But most of the nice guys say they won't accept mail from someone who has done that.
 anunu
Joined: 10/21/2009
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Posted: 12/10/2013 4:21:44 PM
I'm 42 and my sex drive is non stop over the top! My poor boyfriend can barely keep up!

He told me he's gonna have to get me a boy toy in a minute!
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 12/10/2013 9:06:55 PM
WHAT????????? Women have a SEX DRIVE????????? :-O
 SteveJ7
Joined: 11/30/2013
Msg: 254
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Posted: 12/11/2013 10:40:01 AM

WHAT????????? Women have a SEX DRIVE?????????


When they want something
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 255
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Posted: 12/12/2013 5:18:47 AM

WHAT????????? Women have a SEX DRIVE?????????


When they want something


Yes.....good sex!!
Bad sex leads to "games" with both genders.
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 12/12/2013 2:24:00 PM
between-my-ears - I used to think they wanted more, but every time I ever asked a woman out she "already has a boyfriend". And it's well into the hundreds of times now. In addition, women tend to act quite cold and distant (to me at least).

Ms. Micki - As for good sex vs. bad sex, I've never been given the chance for ANY sex at all, so how can a woman possibly know whether it would be good or bad?
 DragonBits
Joined: 1/6/2012
Msg: 257
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Posted: 12/12/2013 5:22:25 PM
My experience and what I read agrees.

IMO women reach their sexual peaks at ~27-44 and at 40 their sexual interest is often the strongest.

But stress, child care, family responsibilities can often depress sex drive. So I can see where some women feel more sexually free spirited after 45, but all else being equal, I think the 27-44 time span is the peak.

But IMO, it's all good, one doesn't have to have sex every day, sex once a week can be just as pleasurable. The frequency changes, what doesn't change for many people is the pleasure they get from the sex they have regardless of age.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 12/12/2013 7:01:41 PM

Ms. Micki - As for good sex vs. bad sex, I've never been given the chance for ANY sex at all, so how can a woman possibly know whether it would be good or bad?


Sorry to break it to ya bud.....but a 47 year old virgin pretty much equates to bad sex for a grown woman!!
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Posted: 12/13/2013 2:26:37 PM

MsMicki wrote:

Sorry to break it to ya bud.....but a 47 year old virgin pretty much equates to bad sex for a grown woman!!


You're probably right. No one wants a virgin anymore. And I have my morals, not to mention legality, so I'm not going after teenagers for sex. Guess as I have always suspected, I'll spend the rest of my life alone.
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